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I want you to this morning turn with

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me to the beginning of the Bible, Genesis

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chapter three, and I guess we're continuing in

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the same mode as last Sunday morning, but

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with a very unique message for our time.

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We had our wedding yesterday, had this wonderful

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wedding service.

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We've got another wedding coming up in just

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a day under five weeks.

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And so again, it's just wonderful that we

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have a message here reminding you concerning what

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the Bible says concerning the marriage, but it's

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for all of us.

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And I believe this message is very much

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for us as a church.

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What applies to the marriage applies to the

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entire body of Christ or the local church.

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And so we're going to read from Genesis

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chapter three.

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It was four weeks ago before school of

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Christ that the Lord, I hadn't been thinking

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about this message.

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I didn't even have time.

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Sometimes I don't have time to plan.

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I give quality time to study prayer and

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the word of God, but sometimes God knows

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you're not going to have time to prepare

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for things.

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And that's always the time where I find

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he comes with power and clarity to me

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and it settles my heart.

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And I'm always, this has happened so many

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times I go, when it comes so clearly,

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so definitely I go, he's given it so

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distinctly because he knows what's going to happen.

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So then I walk into it and go,

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I could not have prepared.

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I wouldn't have had the time.

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I wouldn't have had the ability.

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So he pre-prepares and I'm always grateful

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for that.

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So for four weeks ago, he brought a

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specific message up that I preached in 2018

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in the marriage covenant series.

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This is four weeks ago and a very

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specific message.

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I couldn't even remember all that was in

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it, but he gave me the title and

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to go back and to preach that again.

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So I've sort of fine-tuned it, moved

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a couple of things around, but it's that

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basic message.

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And this is the title, Common Enemies of

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the Marriage Covenant.

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Common Enemies of the Marriage Covenant.

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And this was one of 12 messages I

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preached five years ago.

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And if you remember, when I preached that

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series, we had two weddings in this church.

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We had Suf and Hannah coming up and

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we had Ian and Eve coming up.

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And I preached 12 messages on what the

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marriage covenant is with all the substance of

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what is a husband, what is a wife,

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all of these attributes.

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We went into it in detail, but I'm

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just pulling this one message out that I

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believe will be very timely and fit in

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with last week.

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Last week, we dealt with hindered by Satan.

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This week, I want to deal with common

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enemies of the marriage covenant.

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And where you have enemies, things, you have

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an enemy.

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You have a real enemy.

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Let's read Genesis chapter three, verse one to

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verse eight together.

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Now, the serpent was more subtle than any

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beast of the field, which the Lord God

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had made.

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And he said unto the woman, that is

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the serpent, yea, hath God said.

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That's where the serpent begins.

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Did God really say that?

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A question mark.

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You can recognize the devil.

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He just asks a question.

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Is that true?

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Is it for you?

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Did God really say that?

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Is it really for us?

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This is the word of Satan being spoken

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here.

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He said unto the woman, yea, hath God

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said, ye shall not eat of every tree

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of the garden.

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And the woman said unto the serpent, we

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may eat of the fruit of the trees

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of the garden.

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But of the fruit of the tree, which

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is in the midst of the garden, God

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has said, ye shall not eat of it.

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Neither shall ye touch it, lest ye die.

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And the serpent said unto the woman, ye

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shall not surely die.

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For God does know that in the day

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ye eat thereof, then your eyes shall be

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open and ye shall be as God's, knowing

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good and evil.

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And when the woman saw that the tree

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was good for food and that it was

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pleasant to the eyes and a tree to

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be desired to make one wise, she took

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of the fruit thereof and did eat and

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gave it also unto her husband with her

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and he did eat.

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And the eyes of them both were opened

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and they knew that they were naked.

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And they sewed fig leaves together and made

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themselves aprons.

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And they heard the voice of the Lord

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God walking in the garden in the cool

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of the day.

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And Adam and his wife hid themselves from

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the presence of the Lord God amongst the

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trees of the garden.

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Let's pray together.

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Father, we love you.

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We thank you for such a wonderful day

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yesterday, this wedding.

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We thank you for the marriage that's going

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to come in five weeks time that we're

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going to be a part of.

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We thank you for the marriages in this

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church.

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We thank you for the couples that you

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brought together.

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Lord God, even those in an unsafe state

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that you brought together to raise up, to

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save them, to bring glory to you.

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And Father, we're asking that you give us

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strong marriages, that you give us strong family

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units in this church, that they would embody

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the love of Christ and the forgiveness of

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Christ and the goodness and kindness of Christ.

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And we realize the difficulties in marriages.

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We realize the problems that can arise between

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two individuals that are born of Adam.

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Lord God, and we realize, oh God, the

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wrestling through these issues.

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And we pray this morning, we humbly bow

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ourselves before you, the living God.

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And we ask for your grace and your

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help.

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Lord God, we're not those that are great

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and mighty.

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Lord God, we're simple.

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Lord God, sinners that were saved by your

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grace, oh God, and redeemed back to you.

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And oh God, we have a hunger and

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a desire to walk in the light of

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your word.

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Will you shine a great light on our

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families?

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And Lord God, not only that, but as

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an entire church, every single individual in this

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church, shine a great light upon us that

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what we see, even in unity and marriage,

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we may see in this church, a unified

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church.

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Lord God, we want to be aware of

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the common enemies to disunity, to cause disunity,

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even in this church.

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Will you be gracious unto us this morning?

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Open your word, apply it where it needs

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applied, and come with power that Jesus Christ

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will receive glory and honor.

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In Jesus' mighty name, amen.

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My message, common enemies of the marriage covenant.

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Marriage is a covenant.

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It's not just a promise, not just a

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social agreement.

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It wasn't man-made.

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God created marriage.

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He invented marriage.

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One man, one woman, entering a covenant, having

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no intimacy unless it's inside a covenant.

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No physical intimacy, no emotional intimacy unless it's

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inside a covenant.

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You know why?

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Covenant secures love.

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Love needs secured.

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Do you realize love is vulnerable?

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Love is open to attack.

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Love can change.

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Love can be lost.

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I want to tell you, that's why God

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brings love and relationships in the covenant to

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secure them, to protect them.

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A covenant where God is the third person

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is there to protect love, and so God

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wants to step in.

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He will not honor fornication.

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He will judge fornication.

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Sex outside of marriage, you will experience the

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wrath and the judgment of God.

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The love of God will not turn aside

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from that.

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If you live in sin, you will find

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the consequence.

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God doesn't even need to judge it.

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There are consequences to sin, real consequence.

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You can't disobey God and not walk in

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the consequence of it.

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You will, guaranteed.

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But you know, real love is to be

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secured within this thing called a covenant.

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We're dealing this morning with common enemies of

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the marriage covenant.

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We're going to deal with six common, I

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mean obvious, popular, normal.

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We're not ignorant of any of these six.

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You know them all.

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You've seen them, or you've experienced all six,

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or maybe five of the six in your

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own marriage.

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These are the pressures, the things that come

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against your marriage.

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But if your marriage is to remain strong,

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you will have to get victory over these

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six things.

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But I'm not only, all these six things

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also apply to us as a church.

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We need victory over them.

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Because the same things that apply between a

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man and a woman in their marriage, apply

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to the members of the body of Christ.

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And you're going to see this very clearly.

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We read in Genesis chapter three, the first

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attack upon a marriage.

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It wasn't just attack upon a spiritual walk

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with God.

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It was an attack upon a marriage.

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And if we had time, we'd go into

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it.

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And we certainly don't.

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We'd need an entire series on that.

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How Satan attacked a marriage in Genesis chapter

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three.

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And you know what?

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It was a real devil who hated marriage.

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And I want you to understand this.

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The devil hates marriage and always has.

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From the very first marriage, he set himself

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against the marriage, against the wife, against the

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husband.

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He immediately come in.

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How did he attack it?

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By questioning the Word of God.

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Did God say?

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He's not just attacking God.

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He's not just attacking your obedience to God.

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He is attacking a marriage.

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And you know how he does that?

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He attacks the Word of God.

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If he wants to attack your marriage, he

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attacks the Word of God.

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It doesn't really mean that.

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You don't need to worry about that.

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You don't even need to think about that

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issue.

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You can have that in your heart, but

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it won't affect your marriage.

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That's the voice of Satan.

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Satan is very real.

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And as soon as you've got a marriage

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covenant, the first one, the devil is immediately

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on the scene to divide and conquer.

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How will he conquer you?

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He'll divide you.

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A marriage is a powerful thing.

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Two people united in love, under the grace

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of God, in a covenant, is a very

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powerful thing, a very dangerous thing to Satan's

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kingdom.

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So he hates it.

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He hates covenant.

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He hates love.

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He hates grace.

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He hates humanity.

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He hates all these things.

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So he sets himself against it.

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Don't you realize Satan's wrath is against marriage?

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Satan's wrath is against your marriage.

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Be warned, you that are getting married, that

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marriage is a very beautiful thing, a very

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powerful thing, a very wonderful thing.

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It's a gift from God, not a man's

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invention.

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Why do you think our new world order

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globalist system has unleashed a tidal wave?

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The UN, the EU, the Irish government, all

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of our governments.

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Why do you think they are attacking marriage,

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the marriage covenant?

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Who do you think's behind that?

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You think it's just them?

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You think it's just our generation?

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It's just our society?

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Absolutely not.

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You know what that reveals?

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Satan is releasing a torrential attack against marriage

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and he's going for the children and trying

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to pervert their thinking on marriage.

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One man, one woman in a covenant of

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marriage.

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I mean it's getting perverted.

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Even the world knows that.

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Even the world says, what is going on

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at the minute in our schools?

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In the UN releasing, do you know they

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released a document weeks ago, actually beginning that

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process that there's nothing wrong with an adult

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having intimacy with a child.

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Do you realize what's being released and set

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up and we haven't even seen it?

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You see, step by step by step, we're

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in a vicious, wicked, evil, immoral world.

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It is vicious and the schools, the Irish

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schools are being polluted.

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Who would have ever thought we would see

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come into our schools what we've seen and

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we haven't seen anything yet.

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You need to understand this morning, the devil

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hates marriage and you need to ask why.

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You need to ask why.

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You need to ask, what is it about

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this marriage I'm in, of its potential, of

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what can happen when two people are unified?

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What is it that the devil hates about

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this so much?

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What is so dangerous to his kingdom in

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marriage that he sets himself against it and

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especially in this hour?

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See in Genesis 3, we see this with

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Adam and Eve and we see the devil

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coming against this first marriage.

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When you come over to 2 Corinthians 11,

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verse 3, talking to the local church, listen

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to what Paul says, but I fear, lest

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by any means, as the serpent beguiled Eve

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through his subtlety, you don't see what he's

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doing.

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He comes so cunningly, you don't even recognize

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that the devil's in this.

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But just as that happened, the serpent going

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to Eve, so your minds in the church

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should be corrupted from the simplicity that is

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in Christ.

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What was he talking about?

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Men come and preaching another Christ, another gospel,

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ministering another spirit.

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That's the equivalent of Satan, the serpent coming

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to Eve and her partaking of the fruit.

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You know what that fruit represents?

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Another teaching, another gospel, a foreign teaching that

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is not biblical.

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In other words, did God say?

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Did God say?

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Did he really say that?

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This is what he attacks to attack your

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marriage.

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Be assured of that.

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And so Eve is a picture of how

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Satan approaches the marriage and the local church.

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Let me just go a bit further, Ephesians

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chapter six and verse 11.

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You know it well, don't you?

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Put on the whole armor of God that

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ye may be able to stand against the

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wiles of the devil.

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Listen carefully, the word wiles of the devil,

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wiles, that word wiles, the Greek word is

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methedelia, where we get the word methods.

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You know the word methods, this Greek word

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methedelia, the methedelia of Satan, the methods of

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Satan.

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So what does he say?

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Put on the whole armor of God, your

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helmet, your breastplate, your shield, your sword, put

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on the armor of God.

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Why?

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So that you're going to be able to

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stand against the wiles of the devil.

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If you don't put the armor on, if

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you don't have it on, you can't stand

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against Satan.

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He'll do what he done to Eve.

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He messed with her mind.

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Did God say that?

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Then next of all, he says, God didn't

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say that.

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You can be like God.

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He's keeping something good from you.

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You can go sleep around.

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It's good.

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You won't get punished.

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There's no consequence.

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God loves everyone.

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He won't catch up with you.

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Whose voice is that?

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You think that's your own thoughts?

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Absolutely not.

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The devil's messing with your mind and he's

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very good at this.

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He's done it for 6,000 years.

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He come to Eve.

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He come to King David.

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Just look down there.

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Who do you think prompted that?

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He come to every prominent political leader in

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world history.

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And so it says here, put on the

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armor of God that you may be able

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to stand against the wiles of the devil.

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This word methedelia, it means secret schemes, cleverly

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crafted plans or tricky strategies.

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When you begin to understand this word, it

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means cunningly hatched methods of guile.

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That's what it was when he came to

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Eve in the garden.

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It was a carefully planned, well thought out,

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tailor made just for Eve and Adam.

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Do you realize when he comes against your

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marriage, it's carefully thought out, uniquely fitted for

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you as an individual.

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He knows what you're like.

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He knows your weaknesses.

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So he sits down and he plans.

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You know what this word also means?

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It means a pathway regularly used, well used.

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It means systematic ways.

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It means the devil's predictable.

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It means he doesn't use any new fiery

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arrows that he hasn't before.

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It means I can go to my Bible

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and see what he's using against every single

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marriage in this room this morning and everyone

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who'll watch online.

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I can tell you his methods, his carefully

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thought out plans that are strategic.

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He has an arsenal of them.

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And he says, hmm, I'll use that one

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against brother Jer.

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Huh, I'll use this one against Hannah.

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Huh, I'll use this one against Eve.

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And you know what?

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It's strategic.

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He's not just throwing weapons of assault.

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He's going, I'm going to target you.

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I know you.

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I know what your marriage is like.

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I know what both of you are like.

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And I'm coming to attack your marriage.

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You know why?

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Because he hates your marriage.

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And you know something that Satan attacks and

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something that he's against.

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I begin, I, I'm a thinking person, you

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know, I go, why does he hate this

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so much?

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Why is he attacking it in the way

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he is?

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And so we see here in Ephesians 6,

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put on the whole armor of God that

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you may be able to stand against the

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wiles of the devil.

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These are things he constantly uses.

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The devil's plans and attacks are well thought

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out, chosen carefully, and they're used in their

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timing.

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Isn't he very strategic?

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He knows when not to bother.

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Just you're, you're, you're on high do.

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Oh, you're rejoicing in God.

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Oh, everything's good.

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I'll just stand back.

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I'll just wait.

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And I'll come and kick you when you're

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down.

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The devil is strategic.

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He is sensitive.

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He is secret.

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He is deceptive.

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He would rather blame your wife than be

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identified.

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Oh, it's all her.

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And he stands back and laughs.

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Oh, it's all him.

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And he stands in the shadow going, I

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started it.

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Haven't you seen people in debates or arguments

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or in living rooms?

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And you know that person, that sneaky person

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who has the cunning ability to drop a

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bombshell and sit back and he laughs at

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everyone and argue.

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Have you ever, I, maybe it's only in

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Northern Ireland.

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There's a lot of them up there.

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They pride themselves.

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I've seen Christians.

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They are proud that they can drop a

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comment and leave everyone debating about it.

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You know what?

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That's what the devil does with a married

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couple.

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He just drops something, a situation, an attitude,

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a thought, a word in the ear.

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And then he steps back and laughs at

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you because he is against the marriage covenant.

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And so we have Paul here teaching on

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the armor of God.

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But look at the context for a moment.

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Ephesians 6.11, the armor of God, the

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wiles of the devil, the methodology, the strategies

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of hell.

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Do you know what's before it?

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Do any of you in this room actually

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know what is the context of this spiritual

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warfare?

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Denny is no.

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Do you know what's in the verses just

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before this?

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In context, listen carefully.

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Ephesians 6.10-20 is the most important

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teaching on spiritual warfare, on the armor.

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Okay, have you got that?

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6.10-20.

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Proceeding that teaching in 5.21-33 is

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about marriage.

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It's all about marriage, the responsibilities of a

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husband and a wife towards each other, how

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they function together.

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So he teaches on the relationship between husband

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and wife.

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Then in chapter 6.1-4, it's all

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about children, how to rear your children, your

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attitude as parents towards your children.

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Then he immediately goes into the spiritual warfare

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about this battle.

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Do you realize all of this is just

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before this?

554
00:22:12,980 --> 00:22:14,200
This is why you need to put on

555
00:22:14,200 --> 00:22:16,600
the whole armor of God, because there's wiles,

556
00:22:17,000 --> 00:22:20,540
there's strategies, there's weapons that he'll bring against

557
00:22:20,540 --> 00:22:22,600
your marriage, and you need to know these.

558
00:22:22,700 --> 00:22:24,180
Let me give you six of them here

559
00:22:24,180 --> 00:22:24,580
this morning.

560
00:22:24,720 --> 00:22:26,640
I could give you a hundred, but I'm

561
00:22:26,640 --> 00:22:28,400
only going to give you a six, because

562
00:22:28,400 --> 00:22:30,360
I want you to be aware of the

563
00:22:30,360 --> 00:22:31,200
attacks of the enemy.

564
00:22:31,360 --> 00:22:32,800
Number one, and we dealt with it at

565
00:22:32,800 --> 00:22:35,360
the wedding yesterday, unforgiveness.

566
00:22:36,900 --> 00:22:40,260
Do you think unforgiveness is only out of

567
00:22:40,260 --> 00:22:40,920
your flesh?

568
00:22:41,980 --> 00:22:43,900
Do you think it's only just a personal

569
00:22:43,900 --> 00:22:44,400
issue?

570
00:22:45,320 --> 00:22:47,620
Listen, I believe this is one of the

571
00:22:47,620 --> 00:22:52,360
main attacks Satan uses against a marriage.

572
00:22:53,960 --> 00:22:58,440
It says in 2 Corinthians 2.10, to

573
00:22:58,440 --> 00:23:00,180
whom, and this is Paul speaking to the

574
00:23:00,180 --> 00:23:04,020
church, to whom ye forgive anything, I also

575
00:23:04,020 --> 00:23:05,500
forgive.

576
00:23:06,640 --> 00:23:10,940
For if I forgive anything, to whom I

577
00:23:10,940 --> 00:23:14,560
forgave it, for your sakes I forgave it,

578
00:23:15,060 --> 00:23:17,280
in the person of Christ, or because of

579
00:23:17,280 --> 00:23:17,520
Christ.

580
00:23:17,640 --> 00:23:20,800
I forgive because of him, to help you.

581
00:23:22,160 --> 00:23:24,700
Listen to the next verse, verse 11.

582
00:23:25,540 --> 00:23:31,300
Lest Satan should get any advantage of us.

583
00:23:32,980 --> 00:23:34,520
Do you hear what I've just said?

584
00:23:34,740 --> 00:23:37,080
He spends an entire verse just saying, I

585
00:23:37,080 --> 00:23:38,620
forgive, I will forgive.

586
00:23:38,980 --> 00:23:41,320
I'm forgiving people in the church.

587
00:23:41,800 --> 00:23:42,900
I will forgive.

588
00:23:43,660 --> 00:23:44,160
Why?

589
00:23:44,980 --> 00:23:47,300
Lest Satan should get advantage.

590
00:23:48,240 --> 00:23:51,980
So Paul's aware here, when you get unforgiveness,

591
00:23:52,280 --> 00:23:53,500
the devil moves in.

592
00:23:54,260 --> 00:23:55,880
Be guaranteed of that.

593
00:23:56,800 --> 00:23:58,760
Satan will take advantage.

594
00:23:59,060 --> 00:24:00,580
You know what the word advantage means?

595
00:24:00,800 --> 00:24:04,800
It means to overreach, or to defraud, or

596
00:24:04,800 --> 00:24:06,180
to make a gain of you.

597
00:24:07,020 --> 00:24:09,500
It means to hold onto you and not

598
00:24:09,500 --> 00:24:11,900
release you, or to come walking in your

599
00:24:11,900 --> 00:24:13,540
house when he's got no right to be

600
00:24:13,540 --> 00:24:13,900
there.

601
00:24:15,020 --> 00:24:17,680
So he's saying, if I can find forgiveness

602
00:24:17,680 --> 00:24:21,100
in the church, or in a marriage, you

603
00:24:21,100 --> 00:24:21,480
know what?

604
00:24:21,840 --> 00:24:23,960
The devil will gain advantage.

605
00:24:24,900 --> 00:24:29,280
Where unforgiveness is, the devil comes walking in

606
00:24:29,280 --> 00:24:31,680
places where he's got no right to walk.

607
00:24:32,220 --> 00:24:33,000
You know what he says?

608
00:24:33,180 --> 00:24:34,740
He goes, oh look at that.

609
00:24:35,660 --> 00:24:40,160
She's got unforgiveness towards her husband, or he

610
00:24:40,160 --> 00:24:42,200
has unforgiveness towards her.

611
00:24:42,440 --> 00:24:44,640
And let's face it friends, if you're married,

612
00:24:44,640 --> 00:24:49,060
if you've gone through your marriage, and you've

613
00:24:49,060 --> 00:24:53,460
never had unforgiveness arise, then you're an absolute

614
00:24:53,460 --> 00:24:54,640
perfect saint.

615
00:24:56,040 --> 00:24:57,060
Do you hear me?

616
00:24:57,760 --> 00:25:00,460
The best of marriages, they're going to come

617
00:25:00,460 --> 00:25:02,260
to that day when they've got to forgive

618
00:25:02,260 --> 00:25:05,840
their husband or their wife, or it'll destroy

619
00:25:05,840 --> 00:25:06,580
that marriage.

620
00:25:06,880 --> 00:25:09,540
It will stir up such bitterness in their

621
00:25:09,540 --> 00:25:09,860
heart.

622
00:25:10,420 --> 00:25:12,400
They won't even be able to live with

623
00:25:12,400 --> 00:25:13,200
that person.

624
00:25:14,460 --> 00:25:16,760
Unforgiveness is a terrible thing.

625
00:25:17,020 --> 00:25:19,320
You know what the word forgiveness means?

626
00:25:19,400 --> 00:25:20,220
It means to release.

627
00:25:20,380 --> 00:25:21,280
What is unforgiveness?

628
00:25:21,620 --> 00:25:22,960
I won't release it.

629
00:25:23,260 --> 00:25:24,460
I won't let go of it.

630
00:25:24,640 --> 00:25:25,820
I will not forgive it.

631
00:25:26,060 --> 00:25:27,040
I won't let it go.

632
00:25:27,340 --> 00:25:28,500
I'm going to hold onto it.

633
00:25:28,700 --> 00:25:29,180
And you know what?

634
00:25:29,300 --> 00:25:30,980
It burns within you.

635
00:25:31,580 --> 00:25:33,160
It undermines everything.

636
00:25:34,120 --> 00:25:35,000
So look at this.

637
00:25:35,300 --> 00:25:38,480
It says where there is unforgiveness, Paul is

638
00:25:38,480 --> 00:25:40,260
forgiven because he says, I don't want Satan

639
00:25:40,260 --> 00:25:41,320
to move in on the church.

640
00:25:41,460 --> 00:25:44,240
See, if I don't forgive, you're forgiving.

641
00:25:44,920 --> 00:25:47,240
I want forgiveness in the church and in

642
00:25:47,240 --> 00:25:50,860
marriages because Satan will gain advantage.

643
00:25:51,440 --> 00:25:52,520
Listen to what else he says.

644
00:25:52,840 --> 00:25:55,300
Less Satan should gain advantage of us.

645
00:25:56,640 --> 00:25:57,740
See, Paul said us.

646
00:25:58,980 --> 00:26:00,920
Do you think Paul said, devil can't mess

647
00:26:00,920 --> 00:26:01,300
with me.

648
00:26:01,620 --> 00:26:02,540
He can't get advantage.

649
00:26:02,760 --> 00:26:04,800
I better forgive you where it's right to

650
00:26:04,800 --> 00:26:07,860
forgive because Paul says, I don't want Satan

651
00:26:07,860 --> 00:26:09,340
to gain advantage of us.

652
00:26:11,280 --> 00:26:14,360
For we are not ignorant of his devices.

653
00:26:15,360 --> 00:26:18,120
To be ignorant means you don't consider it.

654
00:26:18,180 --> 00:26:19,200
You don't use your brain.

655
00:26:19,320 --> 00:26:19,860
You're ignorant.

656
00:26:20,040 --> 00:26:20,680
You're stupid.

657
00:26:21,660 --> 00:26:22,400
You're silly.

658
00:26:23,920 --> 00:26:24,720
You don't know.

659
00:26:24,820 --> 00:26:25,820
You don't have facts.

660
00:26:25,820 --> 00:26:27,500
You don't believe us.

661
00:26:28,220 --> 00:26:33,320
You actually do not believe that Satan can

662
00:26:33,320 --> 00:26:34,720
come in with devices.

663
00:26:35,680 --> 00:26:40,000
The word devices there means to exercise his

664
00:26:40,000 --> 00:26:42,360
mind and inventing plans and schemes.

665
00:26:42,580 --> 00:26:43,940
Very similar to the other word.

666
00:26:46,520 --> 00:26:51,240
We are not ignorant of Satan's devices.

667
00:26:51,640 --> 00:26:52,700
You know what you need to know the

668
00:26:52,700 --> 00:26:54,920
plans of Satan's against a marriage.

669
00:26:55,120 --> 00:26:56,800
One of them is unforgiveness.

670
00:26:57,620 --> 00:26:58,820
That's one of his devices.

671
00:26:59,140 --> 00:27:01,380
If I can get unforgiveness in that marriage,

672
00:27:01,540 --> 00:27:02,980
I'll wreck that marriage.

673
00:27:03,240 --> 00:27:04,600
I will disturb it.

674
00:27:04,780 --> 00:27:05,720
I'll steal unity.

675
00:27:06,060 --> 00:27:06,880
I'll steal love.

676
00:27:07,040 --> 00:27:07,960
I'll steal joy.

677
00:27:08,160 --> 00:27:09,080
I'll steal peace.

678
00:27:09,300 --> 00:27:11,320
All I need to do is get unforgiveness

679
00:27:11,320 --> 00:27:11,960
in the heart.

680
00:27:12,340 --> 00:27:13,200
Don't forgive them.

681
00:27:13,360 --> 00:27:14,200
Don't let it go.

682
00:27:15,460 --> 00:27:17,780
See those people, they can't help themselves but

683
00:27:17,780 --> 00:27:18,940
put something on their lips.

684
00:27:19,340 --> 00:27:20,500
The thought comes.

685
00:27:20,920 --> 00:27:21,920
They just spew out.

686
00:27:22,180 --> 00:27:22,800
You did this.

687
00:27:22,900 --> 00:27:23,480
You did this.

688
00:27:23,620 --> 00:27:24,200
You did this.

689
00:27:24,280 --> 00:27:24,960
You did this.

690
00:27:25,740 --> 00:27:26,900
You're asking for trouble.

691
00:27:28,220 --> 00:27:30,180
You're asking for real trouble.

692
00:27:30,680 --> 00:27:31,720
You know what the Bible says?

693
00:27:31,940 --> 00:27:34,180
We ought to forgive as Christ forgave us.

694
00:27:34,280 --> 00:27:35,100
That's the standard.

695
00:27:35,800 --> 00:27:37,460
Do you think you deserve forgiveness?

696
00:27:38,560 --> 00:27:40,820
Oh Lord Jesus, will you forgive me of

697
00:27:40,820 --> 00:27:43,780
all my sins because I do everything so

698
00:27:43,780 --> 00:27:44,220
right?

699
00:27:45,100 --> 00:27:47,660
Lord, will you forgive me because I deserve

700
00:27:47,660 --> 00:27:48,020
it?

701
00:27:48,780 --> 00:27:49,280
You know what?

702
00:27:49,380 --> 00:27:51,020
When you come to ask forgiveness, you go,

703
00:27:51,240 --> 00:27:52,000
I blew it.

704
00:27:52,160 --> 00:27:52,900
I messed up.

705
00:27:53,080 --> 00:27:54,060
I am so sorry.

706
00:27:54,280 --> 00:27:55,660
I acknowledge my guilt.

707
00:27:55,980 --> 00:27:58,180
I wish I hadn't have done that or

708
00:27:58,180 --> 00:27:58,780
said that.

709
00:27:58,940 --> 00:28:00,540
I'm so sorry for hurting you.

710
00:28:00,780 --> 00:28:01,740
Will you forgive me?

711
00:28:02,760 --> 00:28:04,780
Do you know someone who would say, no,

712
00:28:04,880 --> 00:28:05,880
I will not forgive.

713
00:28:06,780 --> 00:28:07,960
That's a terrible thing.

714
00:28:08,180 --> 00:28:08,560
You know what?

715
00:28:08,620 --> 00:28:10,660
You've got a root in your heart that's

716
00:28:10,660 --> 00:28:11,600
going to grow deeper.

717
00:28:11,800 --> 00:28:12,740
That's going to broaden.

718
00:28:13,040 --> 00:28:13,860
That's going to destroy.

719
00:28:14,800 --> 00:28:16,240
I had a man in a meeting once

720
00:28:16,240 --> 00:28:19,800
I preached in revival in Wales and I

721
00:28:19,800 --> 00:28:21,900
preached on the cost of revival and I

722
00:28:21,900 --> 00:28:24,700
mentioned forgiveness and he come up to me.

723
00:28:24,880 --> 00:28:27,100
He stood behind me singing in tongues.

724
00:28:27,960 --> 00:28:31,380
He was a red cheeked older man and

725
00:28:31,380 --> 00:28:33,480
as soon as we finished, he came straight

726
00:28:33,480 --> 00:28:34,480
to me, shook my hand.

727
00:28:34,480 --> 00:28:39,200
He says, my son, I will never forgive

728
00:28:39,200 --> 00:28:39,480
him.

729
00:28:40,460 --> 00:28:40,900
Never.

730
00:28:41,280 --> 00:28:42,960
And I'm born again and I'm going to

731
00:28:42,960 --> 00:28:44,580
heaven and no one's going to tell me

732
00:28:44,580 --> 00:28:45,340
anything else.

733
00:28:46,220 --> 00:28:47,640
I went, there's no hope for this man.

734
00:28:48,460 --> 00:28:51,600
This old prune of a man sitting in

735
00:28:51,600 --> 00:28:52,980
the church, speaking in tongues.

736
00:28:53,680 --> 00:28:55,960
You know what that man, the devil has

737
00:28:55,960 --> 00:28:57,240
destroyed that man.

738
00:28:58,480 --> 00:28:59,480
You need to be careful.

739
00:28:59,620 --> 00:29:00,840
And this is the first thing I want

740
00:29:00,840 --> 00:29:01,940
to tell you.

741
00:29:02,900 --> 00:29:05,440
Unforgiveness, the devil will take advantage.

742
00:29:05,940 --> 00:29:07,240
It's one of his methods.

743
00:29:07,540 --> 00:29:08,240
He wants it.

744
00:29:08,420 --> 00:29:10,340
And in this church, he could wreck this

745
00:29:10,340 --> 00:29:10,640
church.

746
00:29:10,860 --> 00:29:12,680
You think he couldn't wreck the joy, the

747
00:29:12,680 --> 00:29:14,000
peace, the unity we have.

748
00:29:14,420 --> 00:29:16,380
Saints of God, I'm getting worried this morning

749
00:29:16,380 --> 00:29:18,800
in the prayer meeting because I'm going, it's

750
00:29:18,800 --> 00:29:22,020
beautiful what we have and it's shining forth

751
00:29:22,020 --> 00:29:24,500
and people are talking about what we have.

752
00:29:24,820 --> 00:29:27,340
That's very, that just, that gets me worried

753
00:29:27,340 --> 00:29:27,660
now.

754
00:29:28,340 --> 00:29:30,560
We've got to be very careful, Saints of

755
00:29:30,560 --> 00:29:30,700
God.

756
00:29:30,980 --> 00:29:32,200
Don't take that for granted.

757
00:29:32,540 --> 00:29:34,520
We are not ignorant of Satan's devices.

758
00:29:34,900 --> 00:29:36,820
Will you please with me be praying into

759
00:29:36,820 --> 00:29:37,080
this?

760
00:29:37,400 --> 00:29:38,900
Will you please take care?

761
00:29:39,260 --> 00:29:41,560
Will you please not be proud saying, oh,

762
00:29:41,620 --> 00:29:43,040
don't we have lovely fellowship?

763
00:29:43,360 --> 00:29:44,540
Let's walk humbly.

764
00:29:44,900 --> 00:29:46,380
I'm getting nervous.

765
00:29:47,040 --> 00:29:49,080
Not because we're doing something wrong, but because

766
00:29:49,080 --> 00:29:50,500
we're doing what is right.

767
00:29:50,840 --> 00:29:52,760
And the devil, I'm not ignorant of the

768
00:29:52,760 --> 00:29:53,540
devil's devices.

769
00:29:53,540 --> 00:29:54,940
He hates this.

770
00:29:55,920 --> 00:29:57,980
Number two, selfishness.

771
00:29:59,100 --> 00:30:01,940
It says in Philippians chapter two and three,

772
00:30:02,420 --> 00:30:06,240
let nothing be done through strife or vainglory.

773
00:30:06,420 --> 00:30:07,900
That's the word, vainglory.

774
00:30:09,780 --> 00:30:12,140
And notice the opposite of vainglory.

775
00:30:12,800 --> 00:30:17,380
But in lowliness of mind, let each esteem

776
00:30:17,380 --> 00:30:19,360
other better than themselves.

777
00:30:20,500 --> 00:30:23,220
Looking not every man on his own things,

778
00:30:23,660 --> 00:30:26,360
but every man also on the things of

779
00:30:26,360 --> 00:30:26,920
others.

780
00:30:27,960 --> 00:30:30,940
Now this word vainglory really means to be

781
00:30:30,940 --> 00:30:37,740
self-conceited, a self-centered person.

782
00:30:37,900 --> 00:30:39,040
You know what vainglory is?

783
00:30:39,220 --> 00:30:42,460
It's someone who exalts themselves, puffs out their

784
00:30:42,460 --> 00:30:45,600
chest, thinks highly of themselves, and there's no

785
00:30:45,600 --> 00:30:46,800
basis for it.

786
00:30:47,640 --> 00:30:50,520
There's not anything more despicable than a person

787
00:30:50,520 --> 00:30:53,400
who is proud of themselves when they've got

788
00:30:53,400 --> 00:30:54,520
no reason to be.

789
00:30:55,020 --> 00:30:57,260
It's bad enough to have someone who has

790
00:30:57,260 --> 00:30:58,820
good reason to be proud.

791
00:30:59,260 --> 00:31:00,440
That's bad enough.

792
00:31:01,280 --> 00:31:03,960
They get proud, they're gifted, they're able, they've

793
00:31:03,960 --> 00:31:05,380
done a lot, and they get proud.

794
00:31:05,480 --> 00:31:06,180
That's bad.

795
00:31:07,080 --> 00:31:09,880
But you know, with a selfish person, they're

796
00:31:09,880 --> 00:31:12,300
so blind they can't even see their own

797
00:31:12,300 --> 00:31:12,880
defects.

798
00:31:13,400 --> 00:31:15,440
They don't even have a reason to be

799
00:31:15,440 --> 00:31:17,460
proud, and they're proud of themselves.

800
00:31:18,060 --> 00:31:21,020
Oh, it's all about me, me, me.

801
00:31:22,160 --> 00:31:24,660
How do people think of my words and

802
00:31:24,660 --> 00:31:26,980
what I've done and why I've contributed?

803
00:31:27,240 --> 00:31:28,460
And why aren't you mentioning me?

804
00:31:28,660 --> 00:31:29,840
Why aren't you noticing me?

805
00:31:29,940 --> 00:31:31,720
You've got a problem with self.

806
00:31:32,380 --> 00:31:33,200
You really do.

807
00:31:33,920 --> 00:31:37,120
In 1 Corinthians 13, that beautiful chapter on

808
00:31:37,120 --> 00:31:40,580
charity or love in action, that's what charity

809
00:31:40,580 --> 00:31:42,580
is, love acting.

810
00:31:43,620 --> 00:31:45,860
You know, love that doesn't act isn't love.

811
00:31:46,220 --> 00:31:47,000
I love you.

812
00:31:47,760 --> 00:31:49,160
Well, it's going to have actions.

813
00:31:49,520 --> 00:31:50,740
It looks like something.

814
00:31:51,460 --> 00:31:54,600
In 1 Corinthians 13, it explains and defines

815
00:31:54,600 --> 00:31:57,280
what love looks like when it's acting.

816
00:31:57,660 --> 00:31:58,460
This is one of the things.

817
00:31:58,980 --> 00:32:01,260
Seeketh not her own.

818
00:32:03,460 --> 00:32:04,060
Selfishness.

819
00:32:04,760 --> 00:32:06,800
Those who seek their own are selfish.

820
00:32:07,840 --> 00:32:10,420
But where you get a gappy love, real

821
00:32:10,420 --> 00:32:13,300
love, charity, it doesn't seek its own.

822
00:32:14,400 --> 00:32:15,480
That's how you know it.

823
00:32:15,880 --> 00:32:17,900
Let me go just a bit deeper here

824
00:32:17,900 --> 00:32:18,680
for one moment.

825
00:32:18,800 --> 00:32:21,900
In 1 Corinthians 13, this word seeketh not

826
00:32:21,900 --> 00:32:22,640
her own.

827
00:32:23,140 --> 00:32:24,060
How do you know love?

828
00:32:24,260 --> 00:32:25,600
She doesn't seek her own.

829
00:32:25,860 --> 00:32:29,040
The word seek there means to plan, to

830
00:32:29,040 --> 00:32:30,560
plot, to gain worship.

831
00:32:31,380 --> 00:32:32,840
That's what the word means.

832
00:32:33,740 --> 00:32:36,340
So you've got someone there and they're thinking,

833
00:32:36,500 --> 00:32:37,180
they're planning.

834
00:32:37,440 --> 00:32:39,380
I'm going to say that in the conversation

835
00:32:39,380 --> 00:32:41,660
and I'm going to drop this comment and

836
00:32:41,660 --> 00:32:44,340
I'm going to share this or I'm going

837
00:32:44,340 --> 00:32:46,180
to do this with these people.

838
00:32:46,740 --> 00:32:48,020
You pre-plan it.

839
00:32:48,120 --> 00:32:48,720
It's rolling.

840
00:32:49,760 --> 00:32:51,340
Why don't you do this?

841
00:32:51,900 --> 00:32:53,300
Why don't you say this?

842
00:32:54,540 --> 00:32:57,500
And held within this word, seeketh not her

843
00:32:57,500 --> 00:32:57,740
own.

844
00:32:58,000 --> 00:32:59,680
It means so you get worshipped.

845
00:33:01,320 --> 00:33:02,420
Do you hear what I'm saying?

846
00:33:02,700 --> 00:33:04,720
This is a selfish person.

847
00:33:05,580 --> 00:33:07,240
I want to be glorified.

848
00:33:07,620 --> 00:33:08,820
I want to be worshipped.

849
00:33:09,060 --> 00:33:10,320
I want to be praised.

850
00:33:10,320 --> 00:33:12,220
I thought Jesus got that.

851
00:33:13,160 --> 00:33:17,100
Do you realize selfishness is self-worship?

852
00:33:17,480 --> 00:33:19,160
I want you to worship me.

853
00:33:19,320 --> 00:33:21,020
Oh, we'd never say that, would we?

854
00:33:21,620 --> 00:33:23,380
Oh no, I don't want worship.

855
00:33:23,720 --> 00:33:24,980
No, you're looking praise.

856
00:33:25,600 --> 00:33:26,560
Aren't you wonderful?

857
00:33:27,360 --> 00:33:28,380
Aren't you tremendous?

858
00:33:28,580 --> 00:33:30,180
Aren't you better than anyone else?

859
00:33:30,560 --> 00:33:33,200
You're the most spectacular person I've ever met.

860
00:33:33,580 --> 00:33:34,780
Oh, praise God.

861
00:33:35,320 --> 00:33:36,600
Let's build everything.

862
00:33:36,600 --> 00:33:38,100
You're looking worship.

863
00:33:38,960 --> 00:33:40,020
Isn't it so subtle?

864
00:33:40,340 --> 00:33:41,400
Do you know who's behind this?

865
00:33:41,520 --> 00:33:42,080
The devil.

866
00:33:43,060 --> 00:33:45,680
The actual devil is behind it.

867
00:33:46,280 --> 00:33:49,780
It is self-worship to seek its own

868
00:33:49,780 --> 00:33:53,980
interests or profit to get its own way,

869
00:33:54,320 --> 00:33:58,080
my way or the high way, my way

870
00:33:58,080 --> 00:33:59,120
or no way.

871
00:33:59,500 --> 00:34:01,480
If I don't get my way, I'll destroy

872
00:34:01,480 --> 00:34:02,120
the whole thing.

873
00:34:02,200 --> 00:34:02,940
I'll pull it down.

874
00:34:03,160 --> 00:34:04,700
Do you ever see the little kids like

875
00:34:04,700 --> 00:34:05,400
they're there.

876
00:34:05,580 --> 00:34:08,320
If I can't get my way, I'll destroy

877
00:34:08,320 --> 00:34:09,020
the whole thing.

878
00:34:09,219 --> 00:34:10,440
They're my marbles.

879
00:34:11,199 --> 00:34:12,580
I'm just going to take the game.

880
00:34:12,820 --> 00:34:14,120
I'm going to do a runner.

881
00:34:14,260 --> 00:34:15,199
I'm walking out on you.

882
00:34:15,380 --> 00:34:16,320
That's a child.

883
00:34:16,940 --> 00:34:18,040
I've seen that in the church.

884
00:34:19,520 --> 00:34:20,360
God help us.

885
00:34:20,460 --> 00:34:21,600
I've seen that in the church.

886
00:34:22,900 --> 00:34:26,360
You ignore and neglect the needs of others

887
00:34:26,360 --> 00:34:28,780
because you're so absorbed in self.

888
00:34:29,500 --> 00:34:32,620
You're so absorbed in why isn't it being

889
00:34:32,620 --> 00:34:33,360
ministered to me?

890
00:34:33,520 --> 00:34:34,540
What about me?

891
00:34:34,540 --> 00:34:36,300
You don't even think about others.

892
00:34:37,159 --> 00:34:40,560
Selfish people are the most neglectful people.

893
00:34:40,880 --> 00:34:42,840
See, in marriage, you're asking for trouble.

894
00:34:43,600 --> 00:34:45,300
This marriage ought to be about me.

895
00:34:45,460 --> 00:34:45,800
Really?

896
00:34:46,520 --> 00:34:47,739
You really think that?

897
00:34:48,300 --> 00:34:50,600
This marriage, I ought to be the center

898
00:34:50,600 --> 00:34:51,820
star of the home.

899
00:34:52,460 --> 00:34:53,560
You really think that?

900
00:34:56,100 --> 00:34:58,060
How do you stop selfishness?

901
00:34:58,140 --> 00:34:59,300
Well, he gives us the answer.

902
00:34:59,780 --> 00:35:02,100
Let nothing be done through strife and vainglory.

903
00:35:02,360 --> 00:35:03,780
Do you know who's the best friend of

904
00:35:03,780 --> 00:35:04,380
vainglory?

905
00:35:04,380 --> 00:35:06,120
Selfishness, self-worship.

906
00:35:07,040 --> 00:35:08,080
Do you know who is strife?

907
00:35:09,160 --> 00:35:12,420
Where you get someone who's selfish, I want

908
00:35:12,420 --> 00:35:13,240
to be the center.

909
00:35:13,460 --> 00:35:14,500
It's all about me.

910
00:35:14,660 --> 00:35:16,280
You get strife all the time.

911
00:35:18,020 --> 00:35:19,120
It's the best friend.

912
00:35:19,340 --> 00:35:20,760
But look at how you come to this.

913
00:35:20,980 --> 00:35:25,360
But in loneliness of mind, loneliness, that's humility.

914
00:35:26,400 --> 00:35:27,420
Do you know what that tells me?

915
00:35:27,640 --> 00:35:29,460
Pride brings selfishness.

916
00:35:32,260 --> 00:35:34,800
Humility brings a consciousness of others.

917
00:35:35,000 --> 00:35:37,060
If you're humble, you're aware of your wife.

918
00:35:37,960 --> 00:35:41,720
If you're lonely at mind, if you have

919
00:35:41,720 --> 00:35:44,140
a right perspective of yourself before God, you

920
00:35:44,140 --> 00:35:44,460
know what?

921
00:35:44,600 --> 00:35:45,860
You care about your husband.

922
00:35:46,200 --> 00:35:48,380
You care about your wife more than yourself.

923
00:35:49,200 --> 00:35:49,880
You ought to stop.

924
00:35:50,240 --> 00:35:51,520
Oh, but I've done so much.

925
00:35:51,640 --> 00:35:52,840
Why doesn't he?

926
00:35:54,100 --> 00:35:56,420
Be very careful of the devil coming in

927
00:35:56,420 --> 00:35:56,800
on things.

928
00:35:57,080 --> 00:35:57,400
You know what?

929
00:35:57,420 --> 00:35:58,020
He's just waiting.

930
00:35:58,020 --> 00:36:00,980
If I can get you selfish, I will

931
00:36:00,980 --> 00:36:03,320
move in and I'll wreck the whole thing.

932
00:36:03,920 --> 00:36:07,380
How many marriages have been wrecked through selfishness?

933
00:36:08,480 --> 00:36:10,920
You know how it manifests in thoughts, in

934
00:36:10,920 --> 00:36:12,960
feelings, in actions, in words.

935
00:36:13,500 --> 00:36:14,620
It's immaturity.

936
00:36:14,980 --> 00:36:17,000
It's rebellion against God.

937
00:36:17,440 --> 00:36:19,980
No wonder your marriage can't work because you're

938
00:36:19,980 --> 00:36:21,920
a bell against God's word.

939
00:36:22,660 --> 00:36:25,420
Selfishness is sin like unforgiveness.

940
00:36:26,060 --> 00:36:29,520
If you're selfish, you're not worshipping God.

941
00:36:29,700 --> 00:36:32,380
You're taking something only God should have.

942
00:36:32,820 --> 00:36:34,260
It's not you that's meant to be the

943
00:36:34,260 --> 00:36:34,500
center.

944
00:36:34,740 --> 00:36:36,140
Christ ought to be the center of that

945
00:36:36,140 --> 00:36:36,520
marriage.

946
00:36:37,060 --> 00:36:38,600
Shouldn't be the husband, shouldn't be the wife,

947
00:36:38,700 --> 00:36:39,560
shouldn't be the children.

948
00:36:40,500 --> 00:36:43,740
Children should not dominate the home, dictate the

949
00:36:43,740 --> 00:36:45,760
food, dictate the times.

950
00:36:46,420 --> 00:36:48,720
Husband, wife, you've lost the battle if those

951
00:36:48,720 --> 00:36:50,000
children rule the house.

952
00:36:51,060 --> 00:36:52,540
They ought not to be in charge.

953
00:36:53,100 --> 00:36:54,580
There ought to be an order.

954
00:36:54,900 --> 00:36:55,340
And you know what?

955
00:36:55,440 --> 00:36:57,680
The sin of Satan that got him cast

956
00:36:57,680 --> 00:36:58,840
out of heaven, pride.

957
00:36:59,180 --> 00:37:00,480
I will exalt myself.

958
00:37:00,840 --> 00:37:02,460
I will be like the most high.

959
00:37:02,700 --> 00:37:03,960
I will be worshipped.

960
00:37:04,160 --> 00:37:05,360
It's all about me.

961
00:37:05,600 --> 00:37:06,700
After all, look at me.

962
00:37:06,980 --> 00:37:09,440
I'm created as a musical instrument.

963
00:37:09,760 --> 00:37:11,800
I lead the worship of heaven.

964
00:37:12,400 --> 00:37:13,860
I am beautiful.

965
00:37:14,260 --> 00:37:15,220
Who made you beautiful?

966
00:37:15,560 --> 00:37:16,600
Who gave your gifts?

967
00:37:16,780 --> 00:37:17,840
Who designed you?

968
00:37:18,040 --> 00:37:19,100
Who created you?

969
00:37:19,620 --> 00:37:21,640
Do you think you can take any glory

970
00:37:21,640 --> 00:37:23,260
from anything that you have?

971
00:37:23,500 --> 00:37:24,560
You're a gifted person.

972
00:37:24,700 --> 00:37:25,460
God help you.

973
00:37:25,860 --> 00:37:27,360
You better not realize it.

974
00:37:29,100 --> 00:37:30,140
Oh, I can preach.

975
00:37:30,380 --> 00:37:31,140
God help you.

976
00:37:31,220 --> 00:37:33,020
If you ever realize that, you're finished.

977
00:37:34,540 --> 00:37:35,980
Oh, but I can do music.

978
00:37:36,240 --> 00:37:36,560
Really?

979
00:37:36,720 --> 00:37:37,180
Can you?

980
00:37:39,420 --> 00:37:40,240
God help you.

981
00:37:41,440 --> 00:37:43,440
Humility is the cure of this loneliness.

982
00:37:43,940 --> 00:37:46,180
Show me a humble couple and they are

983
00:37:46,180 --> 00:37:47,300
not selfish.

984
00:37:48,200 --> 00:37:49,560
Show me a selfish couple.

985
00:37:49,900 --> 00:37:50,980
They're both proud.

986
00:37:52,640 --> 00:37:54,180
It doesn't put itself first.

987
00:37:54,560 --> 00:37:56,020
Does not think of itself first.

988
00:37:56,180 --> 00:37:58,400
Third of all, neglect of obligations.

989
00:37:59,120 --> 00:38:03,280
Unforgiveness, selfishness, neglect of obligations.

990
00:38:04,740 --> 00:38:07,200
In other words, by neglect of obligations, I

991
00:38:07,200 --> 00:38:09,580
mean rejecting biblical order.

992
00:38:10,480 --> 00:38:12,500
The Bible says things, but you don't care

993
00:38:12,500 --> 00:38:14,160
and you think your marriage can function.

994
00:38:14,480 --> 00:38:16,500
Do you think you can reject what the

995
00:38:16,500 --> 00:38:17,180
Bible says?

996
00:38:17,380 --> 00:38:19,360
Oh, I know the Bible says, but you

997
00:38:19,360 --> 00:38:21,140
don't understand my marriage.

998
00:38:22,080 --> 00:38:23,100
You don't have an excuse.

999
00:38:23,380 --> 00:38:25,260
If you don't live according to the order,

1000
00:38:25,680 --> 00:38:27,840
the obligations of the Bible or what it

1001
00:38:27,840 --> 00:38:29,380
says a husband is to be on a

1002
00:38:29,380 --> 00:38:31,780
wife is to be, you know what you

1003
00:38:31,780 --> 00:38:33,440
are rejecting God's order.

1004
00:38:33,820 --> 00:38:34,940
Satan moves in on that.

1005
00:38:35,060 --> 00:38:35,960
There's confusion.

1006
00:38:36,480 --> 00:38:37,800
It's unbiblical.

1007
00:38:38,180 --> 00:38:40,260
It's not according to the word of God.

1008
00:38:41,100 --> 00:38:43,720
You know what contemporary men look like?

1009
00:38:44,000 --> 00:38:45,440
Ladies, you listen carefully.

1010
00:38:46,320 --> 00:38:50,320
This is a modern man, 21st century man,

1011
00:38:50,320 --> 00:38:52,440
a modern Irish man.

1012
00:38:52,620 --> 00:38:53,760
Do you want to know what he looks

1013
00:38:53,760 --> 00:38:54,080
like?

1014
00:38:54,360 --> 00:38:55,300
Listen carefully.

1015
00:38:55,760 --> 00:38:57,460
This is what they look like.

1016
00:38:58,620 --> 00:38:59,400
They're abusive.

1017
00:39:00,220 --> 00:39:01,940
They're neglectful.

1018
00:39:02,660 --> 00:39:04,260
They're adulterous.

1019
00:39:04,800 --> 00:39:07,220
If not embodied, then at least heart and

1020
00:39:07,220 --> 00:39:17,140
mind dominated by adultery, unfaithful drunkards, liars, authoritarians,

1021
00:39:17,140 --> 00:39:24,100
or wimps, weak, a follower instead of a

1022
00:39:24,100 --> 00:39:27,080
leader, a yes man and I could keep

1023
00:39:27,080 --> 00:39:27,380
going.

1024
00:39:27,580 --> 00:39:30,600
That's the modern Irish man or American.

1025
00:39:31,160 --> 00:39:33,440
Isn't it amazing that applies to every country?

1026
00:39:34,440 --> 00:39:36,780
The modern man outside the word of God.

1027
00:39:37,040 --> 00:39:39,240
What does the Bible say about a man?

1028
00:39:39,560 --> 00:39:41,700
It talks about headship.

1029
00:39:42,760 --> 00:39:43,700
He's the leader.

1030
00:39:45,220 --> 00:39:47,060
That's not a modern doctrine.

1031
00:39:47,300 --> 00:39:48,940
That comes from the heart of God.

1032
00:39:50,000 --> 00:39:52,460
Man and husband and wife are not equally

1033
00:39:52,460 --> 00:39:52,920
the head.

1034
00:39:53,040 --> 00:39:54,020
There's only one head.

1035
00:39:54,480 --> 00:39:56,440
If I stood here with two heads, I'm

1036
00:39:56,440 --> 00:39:59,260
going to get glaring looks this morning.

1037
00:40:00,380 --> 00:40:01,760
You're just going to stare.

1038
00:40:01,880 --> 00:40:03,280
You won't even hear my message.

1039
00:40:03,580 --> 00:40:05,740
You'll say, you're a monstrosity.

1040
00:40:07,100 --> 00:40:08,620
You're strange.

1041
00:40:09,700 --> 00:40:11,280
You know, if I see a two headed

1042
00:40:11,280 --> 00:40:14,000
man, a two headed dog, a two headed

1043
00:40:14,000 --> 00:40:16,900
anything, I'm going to crash my car driving

1044
00:40:16,900 --> 00:40:17,520
down the road.

1045
00:40:17,760 --> 00:40:19,060
That is not normal.

1046
00:40:19,300 --> 00:40:20,460
That is abnormal.

1047
00:40:20,740 --> 00:40:21,340
It's strange.

1048
00:40:21,660 --> 00:40:23,080
Something is terribly wrong.

1049
00:40:23,360 --> 00:40:23,700
No, no.

1050
00:40:23,840 --> 00:40:25,440
We're in the 21st century.

1051
00:40:25,740 --> 00:40:26,900
We're both the head.

1052
00:40:27,160 --> 00:40:28,100
We both lead.

1053
00:40:28,280 --> 00:40:29,340
We both decide.

1054
00:40:30,700 --> 00:40:32,160
Nothing about biblical order.

1055
00:40:32,420 --> 00:40:33,640
You've listened to the Satan.

1056
00:40:34,080 --> 00:40:36,240
Satan has told you that.

1057
00:40:36,440 --> 00:40:37,920
Oh no, I'm a free thinker.

1058
00:40:38,140 --> 00:40:38,600
Really?

1059
00:40:39,560 --> 00:40:42,420
So all your teenage friends think the same

1060
00:40:42,420 --> 00:40:42,580
way.

1061
00:40:42,760 --> 00:40:43,780
Where did they get it from?

1062
00:40:44,900 --> 00:40:47,740
Oh, we're nonconformist.

1063
00:40:47,920 --> 00:40:49,080
We don't listen to anyone.

1064
00:40:49,520 --> 00:40:52,460
You listen to the globalist latest propaganda.

1065
00:40:52,620 --> 00:40:53,700
That's what you listen to.

1066
00:40:54,640 --> 00:40:56,080
Oh, I don't even know if I'm a

1067
00:40:56,080 --> 00:40:58,000
man or a woman, but I'm a free

1068
00:40:58,000 --> 00:40:58,600
thinker.

1069
00:40:58,820 --> 00:41:00,360
I'm just initiating this.

1070
00:41:00,640 --> 00:41:03,580
So nobody all through the generations ever thought

1071
00:41:03,580 --> 00:41:06,320
this, but you're free from the influences.

1072
00:41:06,600 --> 00:41:07,620
You're a rebel.

1073
00:41:07,620 --> 00:41:09,860
You, you make up your own mind.

1074
00:41:10,000 --> 00:41:10,640
No, you don't.

1075
00:41:10,860 --> 00:41:12,720
The devil has brainwashed you.

1076
00:41:14,080 --> 00:41:15,300
And the devil's very good at it.

1077
00:41:15,320 --> 00:41:16,500
It's done for 6,000 years.

1078
00:41:16,680 --> 00:41:19,360
He got Eve, the first woman, got Adam

1079
00:41:19,360 --> 00:41:22,240
who knew he was being deceived.

1080
00:41:22,760 --> 00:41:24,860
New deception was at work and willingly.

1081
00:41:25,180 --> 00:41:25,900
Here, give me that fruit.

1082
00:41:26,000 --> 00:41:27,820
I'll eat it because I want to be

1083
00:41:27,820 --> 00:41:29,300
identified with the woman.

1084
00:41:30,760 --> 00:41:32,580
Oh boy, headship.

1085
00:41:33,200 --> 00:41:35,720
It says in 1 Timothy chapter 5 and

1086
00:41:35,720 --> 00:41:37,700
8, but if any provide not for his

1087
00:41:37,700 --> 00:41:39,080
own, it's all about a husband.

1088
00:41:40,220 --> 00:41:42,400
And especially for those of his own hearts,

1089
00:41:42,840 --> 00:41:45,580
he had denied the faith and is worse

1090
00:41:45,580 --> 00:41:46,440
than an infidel.

1091
00:41:47,440 --> 00:41:49,080
You know, the man's to be the provider,

1092
00:41:49,260 --> 00:41:53,040
to care, to carry the responsibility, to carry

1093
00:41:53,040 --> 00:41:53,720
the burdens.

1094
00:41:54,100 --> 00:41:55,000
That's not easy.

1095
00:41:55,060 --> 00:41:56,340
That's a heavy burden.

1096
00:41:57,060 --> 00:41:59,540
That wife shouldn't be worried about the finance.

1097
00:42:00,020 --> 00:42:01,500
Where are we going to get our meals

1098
00:42:01,500 --> 00:42:01,800
from?

1099
00:42:02,380 --> 00:42:04,720
That husband, if anyone's going to worry, let

1100
00:42:04,720 --> 00:42:06,740
it be that husband that carries the burden

1101
00:42:06,740 --> 00:42:07,440
of these things.

1102
00:42:07,780 --> 00:42:10,240
And so the Bible shows us that headship

1103
00:42:10,240 --> 00:42:11,540
is not an easy task.

1104
00:42:11,820 --> 00:42:13,340
It's one of responsibility.

1105
00:42:13,940 --> 00:42:15,620
It's one of carrying the weights and the

1106
00:42:15,620 --> 00:42:18,860
burdens, having to make hard decisions, having to

1107
00:42:18,860 --> 00:42:20,060
find out what's right.

1108
00:42:20,580 --> 00:42:22,300
It's not easy at all.

1109
00:42:22,620 --> 00:42:25,540
It says in Ephesians chapter 5, 22, wives

1110
00:42:25,540 --> 00:42:30,040
submit yourselves onto your own husbands as unto

1111
00:42:30,040 --> 00:42:30,640
the Lord.

1112
00:42:33,390 --> 00:42:36,050
So in other words, as unto the Lord,

1113
00:42:36,510 --> 00:42:37,670
that's your example.

1114
00:42:38,330 --> 00:42:40,550
Oh, I don't believe submit means submit.

1115
00:42:40,710 --> 00:42:41,670
It doesn't mean that.

1116
00:42:42,150 --> 00:42:42,450
Okay.

1117
00:42:42,450 --> 00:42:44,110
Then you don't submit to Christ.

1118
00:42:45,850 --> 00:42:47,190
So you may get, oh, submit.

1119
00:42:47,490 --> 00:42:48,710
I don't need to do that.

1120
00:42:48,810 --> 00:42:51,910
Our submission just means we both agree.

1121
00:42:52,670 --> 00:42:52,970
Okay.

1122
00:42:53,110 --> 00:42:55,050
So Christ has to agree with you.

1123
00:42:55,050 --> 00:42:56,190
That's what it means.

1124
00:42:56,350 --> 00:42:58,930
Be very careful how you interpret the Bible.

1125
00:42:59,430 --> 00:43:01,390
The devil will interpret it for you.

1126
00:43:01,750 --> 00:43:04,130
For the husband is the head of the

1127
00:43:04,130 --> 00:43:04,570
wife.

1128
00:43:05,050 --> 00:43:06,570
There's only one head in the home.

1129
00:43:07,410 --> 00:43:09,970
Even as Christ is the head of the

1130
00:43:09,970 --> 00:43:10,390
church.

1131
00:43:11,910 --> 00:43:13,410
It's not in discussion.

1132
00:43:13,770 --> 00:43:16,530
You have to go outside the Bible, outside

1133
00:43:16,530 --> 00:43:18,570
of Christ, outside of Christianity.

1134
00:43:18,570 --> 00:43:21,750
If you reject headship and you know, I

1135
00:43:21,750 --> 00:43:22,530
don't mean abuse.

1136
00:43:23,270 --> 00:43:24,290
I hate abuse.

1137
00:43:24,910 --> 00:43:26,410
Men that belittle women.

1138
00:43:26,810 --> 00:43:27,510
I hate that.

1139
00:43:28,170 --> 00:43:29,030
I detest that.

1140
00:43:29,230 --> 00:43:30,830
If I ever see a man abuse a

1141
00:43:30,830 --> 00:43:34,110
woman, tear her down, tear down his wife,

1142
00:43:34,490 --> 00:43:36,370
pick that up, do this.

1143
00:43:37,070 --> 00:43:37,570
You know what?

1144
00:43:37,770 --> 00:43:38,950
That's despicable.

1145
00:43:41,030 --> 00:43:41,630
Despicable.

1146
00:43:42,390 --> 00:43:44,170
You've got no courage, no honor.

1147
00:43:47,180 --> 00:43:49,180
I'm telling you that this is real.

1148
00:43:49,180 --> 00:43:52,140
And it's the savior of the body.

1149
00:43:52,700 --> 00:43:54,100
What about the contemporary woman?

1150
00:43:54,240 --> 00:43:55,280
What does she look like?

1151
00:43:56,720 --> 00:44:01,860
She's a gossip, a slander, a leader.

1152
00:44:02,980 --> 00:44:11,440
She's butch, immoral, independent, and so much more.

1153
00:44:12,540 --> 00:44:13,880
She's intemperate.

1154
00:44:14,000 --> 00:44:15,220
She can't control herself.

1155
00:44:15,600 --> 00:44:18,740
She is a crafty manipulator.

1156
00:44:19,060 --> 00:44:23,060
She's an expert at manipulation with her words,

1157
00:44:23,160 --> 00:44:24,520
her emotions, her threats.

1158
00:44:25,760 --> 00:44:28,380
You know, manipulation is a very low, despicable

1159
00:44:28,380 --> 00:44:30,140
thing to manipulate someone.

1160
00:44:31,160 --> 00:44:31,980
I don't like it.

1161
00:44:32,660 --> 00:44:35,160
And this happens in society, in school, in

1162
00:44:35,160 --> 00:44:37,920
the workplace, in politics, in the house, and

1163
00:44:37,920 --> 00:44:38,720
in the church.

1164
00:44:39,320 --> 00:44:40,460
That's the modern woman.

1165
00:44:40,780 --> 00:44:42,420
Do you like the modern man and woman?

1166
00:44:43,620 --> 00:44:46,100
Because that is the result of the devil.

1167
00:44:46,320 --> 00:44:47,940
The devil has done a job.

1168
00:44:47,940 --> 00:44:48,660
You know what?

1169
00:44:48,800 --> 00:44:50,700
The devil hates the marriage covenant.

1170
00:44:50,900 --> 00:44:52,880
So what he does is redefine a man

1171
00:44:52,880 --> 00:44:55,320
and woman, redefine their roles, and then say,

1172
00:44:55,500 --> 00:44:57,460
okay, have your nice Christian marriage.

1173
00:44:57,980 --> 00:44:59,400
Have your nice wedding.

1174
00:45:00,060 --> 00:45:00,780
But you know what?

1175
00:45:00,860 --> 00:45:02,540
We're taking out biblical order.

1176
00:45:02,880 --> 00:45:04,100
Now try to have a marriage.

1177
00:45:04,320 --> 00:45:05,260
You're both equal.

1178
00:45:06,300 --> 00:45:07,500
You're both leads.

1179
00:45:08,420 --> 00:45:10,640
You both strive for supremacy.

1180
00:45:11,500 --> 00:45:13,220
You both should be worshipped.

1181
00:45:13,220 --> 00:45:15,120
I'm not going to forgive you.

1182
00:45:15,280 --> 00:45:17,220
Go on, have your nice marriage.

1183
00:45:17,980 --> 00:45:20,000
It's not built on Christ or the word

1184
00:45:20,000 --> 00:45:20,480
of God.

1185
00:45:20,940 --> 00:45:23,360
You're going to have utter, utter conflict.

1186
00:45:24,120 --> 00:45:25,380
The man is called the head.

1187
00:45:25,600 --> 00:45:27,000
You ought to carry the burdens.

1188
00:45:27,260 --> 00:45:28,520
You know what I always said about Candace?

1189
00:45:28,800 --> 00:45:31,600
God help the man, whoever broke into our

1190
00:45:31,600 --> 00:45:33,200
house and was going to harm Candace.

1191
00:45:33,540 --> 00:45:34,180
God help him.

1192
00:45:34,380 --> 00:45:36,400
I would never tell you what I would

1193
00:45:36,400 --> 00:45:37,240
do to that man.

1194
00:45:39,760 --> 00:45:41,760
You see, if someone comes and hits me,

1195
00:45:41,860 --> 00:45:43,160
I'll turn the other cheek.

1196
00:45:43,360 --> 00:45:46,620
If we're out preaching, I've got two cheeks.

1197
00:45:48,200 --> 00:45:52,380
You touch her, you will see a monster

1198
00:45:52,380 --> 00:45:53,600
that you never imagined.

1199
00:45:54,420 --> 00:45:54,740
You know what?

1200
00:45:54,780 --> 00:45:56,680
A man that wouldn't defend his wife, someone

1201
00:45:56,680 --> 00:45:57,440
breaks in that.

1202
00:45:57,800 --> 00:45:59,720
At times I thought, I thought, God help

1203
00:45:59,720 --> 00:45:59,840
me.

1204
00:45:59,920 --> 00:46:02,820
I hope this never, ever happens because if

1205
00:46:02,820 --> 00:46:05,140
I have to protect her, nobody's going to

1206
00:46:05,140 --> 00:46:05,600
touch her.

1207
00:46:06,360 --> 00:46:07,380
I'll die for her.

1208
00:46:07,460 --> 00:46:08,200
I love her.

1209
00:46:09,020 --> 00:46:09,420
And you know what?

1210
00:46:09,440 --> 00:46:11,160
A man that wouldn't do that, there's something

1211
00:46:11,160 --> 00:46:11,780
wrong with you.

1212
00:46:12,520 --> 00:46:13,920
See the man that would run upstairs and

1213
00:46:13,920 --> 00:46:15,060
say, you go answer the door.

1214
00:46:15,220 --> 00:46:16,340
There's something wrong with you.

1215
00:46:16,620 --> 00:46:17,460
I mean, really.

1216
00:46:17,940 --> 00:46:19,140
But it's dark outside.

1217
00:46:20,160 --> 00:46:20,960
I'm scared.

1218
00:46:21,940 --> 00:46:23,080
You coward.

1219
00:46:24,460 --> 00:46:24,800
You know?

1220
00:46:25,780 --> 00:46:28,000
It's not a basis of divorce, wife, so

1221
00:46:28,000 --> 00:46:28,740
I want to tell you.

1222
00:46:29,480 --> 00:46:31,420
I hope I haven't stood on any toes

1223
00:46:31,420 --> 00:46:31,960
on that one.

1224
00:46:32,180 --> 00:46:34,160
But listen, the wife, what is the wife

1225
00:46:34,160 --> 00:46:34,640
called?

1226
00:46:34,640 --> 00:46:35,700
What is the wife called?

1227
00:46:35,880 --> 00:46:36,740
A helpmate.

1228
00:46:37,160 --> 00:46:38,140
I'm not a helpmate.

1229
00:46:38,380 --> 00:46:39,180
I'm prominent.

1230
00:46:39,420 --> 00:46:40,440
I need to be something.

1231
00:46:40,600 --> 00:46:41,680
I need to be worth something.

1232
00:46:42,080 --> 00:46:43,620
So check out helpmate.

1233
00:46:44,100 --> 00:46:46,460
The Bible says in Genesis 2, 2, 18,

1234
00:46:46,700 --> 00:46:49,320
it calls the wife, it called Eve, a

1235
00:46:49,320 --> 00:46:50,040
helpmate.

1236
00:46:50,460 --> 00:46:51,300
Listen to what it says.

1237
00:46:51,600 --> 00:46:53,740
And the Lord God said, it is not

1238
00:46:53,740 --> 00:46:55,920
good that man should be alone.

1239
00:46:56,520 --> 00:46:59,160
I will make him a helpmate for him.

1240
00:47:00,120 --> 00:47:01,680
What does helpmate mean?

1241
00:47:03,320 --> 00:47:03,800
Help.

1242
00:47:04,040 --> 00:47:05,840
It's two words, helpmate.

1243
00:47:06,600 --> 00:47:07,920
Let's look at this for a second.

1244
00:47:09,540 --> 00:47:09,960
You know what?

1245
00:47:10,000 --> 00:47:11,340
I'm going to make this two messages.

1246
00:47:11,900 --> 00:47:14,480
It's just important that we hear this.

1247
00:47:15,180 --> 00:47:15,660
Helpmate.

1248
00:47:17,200 --> 00:47:18,900
To be a help, listen to what it

1249
00:47:18,900 --> 00:47:19,220
means.

1250
00:47:20,180 --> 00:47:22,380
To be an aid, to assist.

1251
00:47:22,500 --> 00:47:23,880
This is God's calling, a woman.

1252
00:47:24,980 --> 00:47:26,080
There is a head.

1253
00:47:27,600 --> 00:47:30,100
Husbands, let me just say, not I'm slowing

1254
00:47:30,100 --> 00:47:32,000
down, but I can just go back into

1255
00:47:32,000 --> 00:47:32,280
this.

1256
00:47:32,660 --> 00:47:33,940
Husbands, let me say this.

1257
00:47:34,280 --> 00:47:35,500
See to be the head of the home.

1258
00:47:35,840 --> 00:47:38,700
How does Ephesians 5 depict and show the

1259
00:47:38,700 --> 00:47:39,080
husband?

1260
00:47:40,260 --> 00:47:42,620
You're to love the wife as Christ loved

1261
00:47:42,620 --> 00:47:43,220
the church.

1262
00:47:43,540 --> 00:47:45,040
Do you know what headship looks like?

1263
00:47:45,380 --> 00:47:48,180
I am to love, sacrificial love.

1264
00:47:49,180 --> 00:47:51,640
Like Christ had on the cross, he died

1265
00:47:51,640 --> 00:47:53,320
for the bride, for you and I.

1266
00:47:53,840 --> 00:47:55,700
You want to know what headship being a

1267
00:47:55,700 --> 00:47:56,580
leader looks like?

1268
00:47:56,920 --> 00:47:59,940
I am going to bear the punishment.

1269
00:48:00,480 --> 00:48:02,000
I'm going to stand in the gap for

1270
00:48:02,000 --> 00:48:02,120
you.

1271
00:48:02,340 --> 00:48:03,260
I will suffer.

1272
00:48:03,480 --> 00:48:04,680
I will lay down my life.

1273
00:48:04,920 --> 00:48:05,700
This is love.

1274
00:48:06,480 --> 00:48:08,100
You want to know what love looks like?

1275
00:48:08,220 --> 00:48:09,500
It is sacrificial.

1276
00:48:09,920 --> 00:48:12,420
I'll give my all, my ultimate, my everything

1277
00:48:12,420 --> 00:48:13,060
for you.

1278
00:48:13,340 --> 00:48:14,280
That is real love.

1279
00:48:14,500 --> 00:48:15,000
And you know what?

1280
00:48:15,220 --> 00:48:16,980
I tell you, if you find a woman

1281
00:48:16,980 --> 00:48:20,380
and you really love her with agape love,

1282
00:48:20,480 --> 00:48:23,180
with Calvary love, I promise you she will

1283
00:48:23,180 --> 00:48:24,620
desire to submit to you.

1284
00:48:24,960 --> 00:48:27,280
Never ask your wife to submit to you.

1285
00:48:27,620 --> 00:48:29,880
Never try to tell her, I'm the head,

1286
00:48:30,060 --> 00:48:31,280
you ought to submit to me.

1287
00:48:31,580 --> 00:48:32,920
You've lost the battle already.

1288
00:48:33,680 --> 00:48:35,320
See, when you get to that point, you've

1289
00:48:35,320 --> 00:48:36,100
lost it.

1290
00:48:37,040 --> 00:48:40,240
Husbands, you ought to so love your wife

1291
00:48:40,240 --> 00:48:43,560
that she actually goes, she'll be so embarrassed

1292
00:48:43,560 --> 00:48:45,820
not to submit, says, I'm going to follow

1293
00:48:45,820 --> 00:48:46,420
this man.

1294
00:48:46,760 --> 00:48:48,420
I desire to follow this man.

1295
00:48:49,380 --> 00:48:51,540
I want to follow this man because I

1296
00:48:51,540 --> 00:48:53,660
see embodied in him a headship.

1297
00:48:54,200 --> 00:48:56,940
I'll gladly give him the head position, the

1298
00:48:56,940 --> 00:48:57,400
authority.

1299
00:48:57,580 --> 00:48:58,020
You know why?

1300
00:48:58,200 --> 00:49:01,760
Because he sacrifices, he lays down his life.

1301
00:49:01,960 --> 00:49:03,020
He understands me.

1302
00:49:03,260 --> 00:49:04,200
He knows me.

1303
00:49:04,500 --> 00:49:05,460
He serves me.

1304
00:49:06,560 --> 00:49:08,120
You're going to find a wife who wants

1305
00:49:08,120 --> 00:49:08,460
to help.

1306
00:49:08,680 --> 00:49:12,760
The word help in means to aid, to

1307
00:49:12,760 --> 00:49:15,620
assist, to protect.

1308
00:49:15,940 --> 00:49:18,160
This is God's word to a wife, all

1309
00:49:18,160 --> 00:49:21,860
you wives, to protect your husband, to help

1310
00:49:21,860 --> 00:49:27,740
him, succor him, support him, give him encouragement,

1311
00:49:28,500 --> 00:49:31,280
to lend your strength to him or to

1312
00:49:31,280 --> 00:49:34,180
help him fulfill the purpose of God.

1313
00:49:34,980 --> 00:49:37,860
It actually is a military term and it

1314
00:49:37,860 --> 00:49:39,840
refers to military assistance.

1315
00:49:40,260 --> 00:49:41,360
He's on the front line.

1316
00:49:41,620 --> 00:49:42,480
He's in the battle.

1317
00:49:42,820 --> 00:49:45,540
So you bring all of your power, all

1318
00:49:45,540 --> 00:49:47,040
of your force in behind them.

1319
00:49:47,280 --> 00:49:49,240
It is reinforcements in the battle.

1320
00:49:49,480 --> 00:49:51,060
I'm going to help them in this warfare.

1321
00:49:51,420 --> 00:49:52,980
You know who's fighting against your marriage?

1322
00:49:53,180 --> 00:49:54,500
The devil is against us.

1323
00:49:55,240 --> 00:49:56,880
The devil hates your marriage.

1324
00:49:57,340 --> 00:49:59,840
The devil hates every marriage, even the marriage

1325
00:49:59,840 --> 00:50:00,420
of sinners.

1326
00:50:01,420 --> 00:50:04,540
He hates the covenant of this church bound

1327
00:50:04,540 --> 00:50:05,660
together in Christ.

1328
00:50:06,000 --> 00:50:07,360
He utterly hates it.

1329
00:50:07,760 --> 00:50:09,840
You know, you wives, you're to embody what

1330
00:50:09,840 --> 00:50:10,800
the church is to be.

1331
00:50:11,020 --> 00:50:13,460
Husbands, you're to embody what Christ is to

1332
00:50:13,460 --> 00:50:14,280
be to the church.

1333
00:50:14,940 --> 00:50:19,300
Can you imagine him being a tyrant, demanding,

1334
00:50:19,300 --> 00:50:20,160
obliging us?

1335
00:50:20,480 --> 00:50:21,360
Can you imagine that?

1336
00:50:21,520 --> 00:50:23,760
And no love, no forgiveness, no grace, no

1337
00:50:23,760 --> 00:50:24,160
mercy.

1338
00:50:24,640 --> 00:50:26,740
Could you imagine a God like that?

1339
00:50:27,680 --> 00:50:29,920
And you ladies, you're to embody what a

1340
00:50:29,920 --> 00:50:30,820
wife is to be.

1341
00:50:31,220 --> 00:50:33,540
You're actually to typify in your own walk.

1342
00:50:33,960 --> 00:50:36,320
We ought to see the character of what

1343
00:50:36,320 --> 00:50:37,220
this church ought to be.

1344
00:50:37,440 --> 00:50:39,040
I ought to look at the wives in

1345
00:50:39,040 --> 00:50:41,220
this room and say, that's what I want

1346
00:50:41,220 --> 00:50:42,120
in the body of Christ.

1347
00:50:42,300 --> 00:50:43,680
That's what I want in the church.

1348
00:50:43,920 --> 00:50:46,600
That meekness, that kindness, that submission, it ought

1349
00:50:46,600 --> 00:50:47,600
to convict me.

1350
00:50:48,220 --> 00:50:50,480
You know, every time, I never once asked

1351
00:50:50,480 --> 00:50:51,360
Candace to submit.

1352
00:50:51,800 --> 00:50:52,520
Never once.

1353
00:50:52,520 --> 00:50:53,380
I couldn't have.

1354
00:50:54,220 --> 00:50:55,600
I never told her how to dress.

1355
00:50:56,040 --> 00:50:57,880
I never told her how to conduct herself.

1356
00:50:58,120 --> 00:50:59,460
Never told her how to speak.

1357
00:50:59,900 --> 00:51:01,560
But I did know, I want to be

1358
00:51:01,560 --> 00:51:02,300
Christ to her.

1359
00:51:02,600 --> 00:51:03,840
I want to live in such a way.

1360
00:51:04,040 --> 00:51:05,380
See in the storm, I want to be

1361
00:51:05,380 --> 00:51:08,260
an anchor to her, as the Bible says.

1362
00:51:08,740 --> 00:51:09,840
I want to help her.

1363
00:51:10,340 --> 00:51:12,900
But these wives, they're coming in in a

1364
00:51:12,900 --> 00:51:13,820
military battle.

1365
00:51:14,880 --> 00:51:17,320
You come to help your husband in the

1366
00:51:17,320 --> 00:51:21,560
trial, in trouble, or to perform God's will.

1367
00:51:22,120 --> 00:51:22,960
Help meet.

1368
00:51:23,060 --> 00:51:24,080
What does meet mean?

1369
00:51:24,760 --> 00:51:27,820
Meet means to be similar, to be fit,

1370
00:51:27,960 --> 00:51:28,780
to be suitable.

1371
00:51:29,580 --> 00:51:30,920
Do you know that's why a husband and

1372
00:51:30,920 --> 00:51:32,900
wife, they'll have different strengths.

1373
00:51:33,740 --> 00:51:35,720
Candace was far more intelligent than me.

1374
00:51:35,780 --> 00:51:37,080
I stole a lot from her.

1375
00:51:37,420 --> 00:51:38,380
Hmm, that's good.

1376
00:51:38,900 --> 00:51:40,620
I need a, I really need to bring

1377
00:51:40,620 --> 00:51:41,580
that to the table.

1378
00:51:42,060 --> 00:51:44,320
Her wisdom, I drew on it tremendously.

1379
00:51:44,880 --> 00:51:47,340
The husband's to make the decision, the final

1380
00:51:47,340 --> 00:51:48,700
decision, the direction.

1381
00:51:50,020 --> 00:51:51,720
But you know what, half the time, she

1382
00:51:51,720 --> 00:51:53,360
had the wisdom to know what to do.

1383
00:51:53,480 --> 00:51:55,520
And I went, hmm, you're absolutely right.

1384
00:51:55,620 --> 00:51:56,560
I wasn't thinking that.

1385
00:51:57,080 --> 00:51:59,360
That's why even now, the guys in this

1386
00:51:59,360 --> 00:52:00,060
church, they know.

1387
00:52:00,660 --> 00:52:02,860
Sue and Paul, all through the years, I'd

1388
00:52:02,860 --> 00:52:03,540
have a decision.

1389
00:52:03,720 --> 00:52:04,600
They're young believers.

1390
00:52:04,900 --> 00:52:05,880
This is a new church.

1391
00:52:06,260 --> 00:52:07,280
I'd say, what do you think?

1392
00:52:08,300 --> 00:52:10,800
These guys would say later, we thought you're

1393
00:52:10,800 --> 00:52:13,720
humoring us to ask us, what do you

1394
00:52:13,720 --> 00:52:14,080
think?

1395
00:52:14,880 --> 00:52:16,760
I mean, you're the one that's preached all

1396
00:52:16,760 --> 00:52:17,280
these years.

1397
00:52:17,560 --> 00:52:19,180
You understand how the church functions.

1398
00:52:19,420 --> 00:52:20,560
And you're saying, what do you think?

1399
00:52:21,100 --> 00:52:22,500
It doesn't seem real, does it?

1400
00:52:23,060 --> 00:52:24,360
You know what, from this heart, it was

1401
00:52:24,360 --> 00:52:24,660
real.

1402
00:52:24,920 --> 00:52:25,480
I care.

1403
00:52:25,900 --> 00:52:26,440
I want to know.

1404
00:52:26,520 --> 00:52:27,700
I want to understand.

1405
00:52:28,280 --> 00:52:29,520
I want to know you as a church.

1406
00:52:29,860 --> 00:52:31,800
If you ever thought, I care about that.

1407
00:52:32,120 --> 00:52:33,080
I'll make the decision.

1408
00:52:33,460 --> 00:52:33,940
I'll check.

1409
00:52:34,180 --> 00:52:34,820
Is it biblical?

1410
00:52:35,500 --> 00:52:36,320
Is it right?

1411
00:52:37,440 --> 00:52:39,600
You could have some wisdom that I don't.

1412
00:52:39,600 --> 00:52:41,040
I want to know it.

1413
00:52:41,100 --> 00:52:42,140
That's a church.

1414
00:52:43,000 --> 00:52:44,600
You know, with my wife, I go, I

1415
00:52:44,600 --> 00:52:45,140
want to know.

1416
00:52:45,340 --> 00:52:46,780
Maybe she sees something I don't.

1417
00:52:47,420 --> 00:52:51,920
Maybe she sees something in someone, a danger.

1418
00:52:52,540 --> 00:52:54,640
A few times in ministry, she was in

1419
00:52:54,640 --> 00:52:54,840
prayer.

1420
00:52:54,940 --> 00:52:55,540
She would come to me.

1421
00:52:55,620 --> 00:52:56,500
We're driving in the car.

1422
00:52:56,740 --> 00:52:59,720
Keith, I believe an attack is just about

1423
00:52:59,720 --> 00:53:00,220
to come.

1424
00:53:01,040 --> 00:53:02,320
And this is going to happen.

1425
00:53:03,200 --> 00:53:05,360
And there's going to come an attack against

1426
00:53:05,360 --> 00:53:07,080
you preaching the word, not in this church,

1427
00:53:07,600 --> 00:53:07,700
elsewhere.

1428
00:53:08,880 --> 00:53:10,460
And I'd be in the car saying, no,

1429
00:53:10,580 --> 00:53:10,980
no, no.

1430
00:53:11,160 --> 00:53:13,220
She says, look, I'm telling you, something's going

1431
00:53:13,220 --> 00:53:14,080
to come from these folk.

1432
00:53:14,120 --> 00:53:17,180
And I go, no, no, I can't see

1433
00:53:17,180 --> 00:53:17,560
that.

1434
00:53:17,960 --> 00:53:19,460
And I mean, after all, I'm preaching the

1435
00:53:19,460 --> 00:53:19,840
word.

1436
00:53:20,380 --> 00:53:23,960
And then that week, days later, this attack

1437
00:53:23,960 --> 00:53:25,320
comes from certain folk.

1438
00:53:25,520 --> 00:53:26,780
I mean, despicable.

1439
00:53:27,740 --> 00:53:28,980
I go, she had wisdom.

1440
00:53:29,120 --> 00:53:29,680
She's praying.

1441
00:53:29,820 --> 00:53:30,400
She's caring.

1442
00:53:31,200 --> 00:53:32,860
I want to know that wisdom.

1443
00:53:33,580 --> 00:53:35,240
You see, the husband and wife are to

1444
00:53:35,240 --> 00:53:37,700
be two halves of the same coin.

1445
00:53:38,420 --> 00:53:42,940
They are different, distinct, with different abilities and

1446
00:53:42,940 --> 00:53:44,860
giftings and personalities.

1447
00:53:45,780 --> 00:53:46,480
But do you know what?

1448
00:53:46,560 --> 00:53:48,040
There's to be a suitability.

1449
00:53:48,900 --> 00:53:50,180
Do you know what a helpmate is?

1450
00:53:50,360 --> 00:53:52,180
You are suitable to your husband.

1451
00:53:52,480 --> 00:53:53,700
You don't need to be like him.

1452
00:53:53,940 --> 00:53:56,000
Oh, she's got to be a duplicate of

1453
00:53:56,000 --> 00:53:56,180
me.

1454
00:53:56,400 --> 00:53:56,920
No way.

1455
00:53:57,060 --> 00:53:58,300
I'd hate to have a duplicate.

1456
00:53:59,380 --> 00:53:59,840
You know what?

1457
00:53:59,900 --> 00:54:02,160
I want someone who has attributes I do

1458
00:54:02,160 --> 00:54:02,700
not have.

1459
00:54:03,040 --> 00:54:05,380
A personality I may not have.

1460
00:54:06,540 --> 00:54:09,360
Corresponding to, having the same nature.

1461
00:54:10,440 --> 00:54:12,340
Husband and wife, you're to be equal.

1462
00:54:12,660 --> 00:54:14,160
You are equal in grace.

1463
00:54:14,780 --> 00:54:16,860
You are equal as persons.

1464
00:54:17,520 --> 00:54:19,240
One of you isn't more important than the

1465
00:54:19,240 --> 00:54:19,400
other.

1466
00:54:19,600 --> 00:54:21,020
You're not, don't be deceived.

1467
00:54:21,640 --> 00:54:24,340
But before God, you are equal, but your

1468
00:54:24,340 --> 00:54:25,240
roles are different.

1469
00:54:25,600 --> 00:54:26,720
A man, a woman's different.

1470
00:54:26,920 --> 00:54:28,900
I tell some young couples get married.

1471
00:54:28,960 --> 00:54:29,840
I say, guess what?

1472
00:54:29,860 --> 00:54:31,200
A man and a woman are not the

1473
00:54:31,200 --> 00:54:31,540
same.

1474
00:54:32,160 --> 00:54:33,620
Oh, and they laugh at that.

1475
00:54:33,680 --> 00:54:35,020
And I go, no, you don't understand.

1476
00:54:35,340 --> 00:54:39,840
I mean, guys, women are different than us.

1477
00:54:40,500 --> 00:54:41,840
I really mean that.

1478
00:54:42,420 --> 00:54:44,040
I mean, they think they function.

1479
00:54:44,580 --> 00:54:46,160
God has actually made them different.

1480
00:54:47,040 --> 00:54:49,220
Do you know biologically you're made different?

1481
00:54:49,420 --> 00:54:50,960
And not the way you think.

1482
00:54:51,420 --> 00:54:51,840
Biologically.

1483
00:54:52,140 --> 00:54:54,080
Do you know your blood, how it functions

1484
00:54:54,080 --> 00:54:54,680
in the body?

1485
00:54:54,740 --> 00:54:57,080
Men and women, their blood functions differently.

1486
00:54:57,920 --> 00:54:58,600
Do you know that?

1487
00:54:59,140 --> 00:55:01,540
Do you know women are more resilient from

1488
00:55:01,540 --> 00:55:04,520
bugs in the children than men are?

1489
00:55:04,740 --> 00:55:05,360
Do you know that?

1490
00:55:05,780 --> 00:55:07,620
Do you know God has designed that if

1491
00:55:07,620 --> 00:55:11,200
a man has a heavy injury, he's more

1492
00:55:11,200 --> 00:55:12,220
prone to clot.

1493
00:55:12,460 --> 00:55:14,580
In other words, a man is designed to

1494
00:55:14,580 --> 00:55:16,820
take a heavy injury that a woman isn't.

1495
00:55:17,360 --> 00:55:18,400
Why do you think that is?

1496
00:55:18,620 --> 00:55:20,160
Why do you think biologically?

1497
00:55:20,600 --> 00:55:22,940
Why do you think chemically we're made different?

1498
00:55:23,520 --> 00:55:25,760
Why do you think mentally we're made different?

1499
00:55:26,260 --> 00:55:27,400
They're not the same.

1500
00:55:28,060 --> 00:55:29,560
You know all this mess at the minute

1501
00:55:29,560 --> 00:55:31,080
where they're doing operations.

1502
00:55:31,380 --> 00:55:34,180
They're giving drugs to little children who are

1503
00:55:34,180 --> 00:55:37,220
still at school to change their biological makeup.

1504
00:55:37,540 --> 00:55:39,160
They're operating on the body.

1505
00:55:39,760 --> 00:55:41,160
They're distorting the body.

1506
00:55:41,300 --> 00:55:42,820
And you can't make a man a woman

1507
00:55:42,820 --> 00:55:44,100
or a woman a man.

1508
00:55:44,660 --> 00:55:46,720
There's all the videos out now of people

1509
00:55:46,720 --> 00:55:48,300
saying they operated on me.

1510
00:55:48,480 --> 00:55:49,740
They gave me drugs for years.

1511
00:55:49,960 --> 00:55:51,160
And now I regret it.

1512
00:55:51,300 --> 00:55:52,940
They ought to be taken to court.

1513
00:55:53,440 --> 00:55:54,400
This is criminal.

1514
00:55:55,620 --> 00:55:56,760
This is destructive.

1515
00:55:58,040 --> 00:55:59,720
God makes a man as a man, a

1516
00:55:59,720 --> 00:56:00,400
woman as a woman.

1517
00:56:00,720 --> 00:56:01,740
Can't you be tempted?

1518
00:56:01,920 --> 00:56:03,160
Of course you can.

1519
00:56:04,320 --> 00:56:05,580
Of course you can.

1520
00:56:07,630 --> 00:56:11,650
But do you know what God designed is

1521
00:56:11,650 --> 00:56:13,530
that man is the head in the home.

1522
00:56:13,910 --> 00:56:15,830
And Satan hates headship.

1523
00:56:16,290 --> 00:56:16,890
He hates it.

1524
00:56:16,890 --> 00:56:18,030
You know what else he hates?

1525
00:56:18,230 --> 00:56:19,590
He hates the help mate.

1526
00:56:20,170 --> 00:56:22,170
He hates for a woman to say I

1527
00:56:22,170 --> 00:56:24,470
am a help mate because that sounds so

1528
00:56:24,470 --> 00:56:25,670
subjugated.

1529
00:56:26,270 --> 00:56:27,270
Oh no it's not.

1530
00:56:27,770 --> 00:56:30,370
I can't tell you how much I respected

1531
00:56:30,370 --> 00:56:31,270
Candice.

1532
00:56:31,590 --> 00:56:32,910
I admired her.

1533
00:56:33,550 --> 00:56:36,150
I can't tell you how much I loved

1534
00:56:36,150 --> 00:56:36,450
her.

1535
00:56:36,950 --> 00:56:38,490
Admiration comes with time.

1536
00:56:39,170 --> 00:56:40,350
Respect comes with time.

1537
00:56:40,350 --> 00:56:42,050
Love is there at the beginning.

1538
00:56:42,890 --> 00:56:44,170
Love is not earned.

1539
00:56:45,570 --> 00:56:46,730
Trust is earned.

1540
00:56:47,390 --> 00:56:48,270
Love isn't.

1541
00:56:49,190 --> 00:56:50,470
And you know what a help mate is

1542
00:56:50,470 --> 00:56:51,690
someone brought alongside.

1543
00:56:52,610 --> 00:56:55,230
A face to face relationship.

1544
00:56:55,930 --> 00:56:57,950
A fitting companion and partner.

1545
00:56:58,710 --> 00:57:01,250
The woman is provided for a man's good.

1546
00:57:01,450 --> 00:57:02,870
Not good for a man to be alone.

1547
00:57:03,930 --> 00:57:06,350
Just go look at a single man's place

1548
00:57:06,350 --> 00:57:06,950
where he's living.

1549
00:57:07,450 --> 00:57:09,450
Guys, single guys, I'm not saying that of

1550
00:57:09,450 --> 00:57:09,970
all of you.

1551
00:57:10,670 --> 00:57:13,010
Elijah and Isaac are staying with me.

1552
00:57:13,510 --> 00:57:15,230
They're the exceptions to the rule.

1553
00:57:15,350 --> 00:57:17,470
Every other man apart from these two guys.

1554
00:57:18,170 --> 00:57:18,490
Okay.

1555
00:57:18,710 --> 00:57:20,330
They'll be tidy in the room when we

1556
00:57:20,330 --> 00:57:21,050
go home now.

1557
00:57:22,470 --> 00:57:24,350
Do you know what you have with all

1558
00:57:24,350 --> 00:57:26,410
of this is the work of God.

1559
00:57:26,530 --> 00:57:27,550
I'm going to stop here.

1560
00:57:27,890 --> 00:57:29,190
Saints of God we're going to carry on

1561
00:57:29,190 --> 00:57:32,230
with this of enemies of the marriage covenant.

1562
00:57:32,570 --> 00:57:34,110
But I want to see you to say

1563
00:57:34,110 --> 00:57:35,110
unforgiveness.

1564
00:57:35,590 --> 00:57:36,910
Satan moves in on this.

1565
00:57:37,190 --> 00:57:38,250
He'll gain advantage.

1566
00:57:39,090 --> 00:57:39,650
Selfishness.

1567
00:57:39,870 --> 00:57:41,470
The devil will move in on it.

1568
00:57:41,850 --> 00:57:45,130
Neglect of your obligations of biblical order.

1569
00:57:45,570 --> 00:57:46,910
Satan moves in on this.

1570
00:57:47,430 --> 00:57:49,270
We could preach an entire sermon on those

1571
00:57:49,270 --> 00:57:49,790
three things.

1572
00:57:50,030 --> 00:57:51,190
They're absolutely vital.

1573
00:57:51,470 --> 00:57:53,010
But what I want you to understand and

1574
00:57:53,010 --> 00:57:55,850
these are the things Satan uses as weapons.

1575
00:57:56,230 --> 00:57:57,010
His methods.

1576
00:57:57,270 --> 00:57:58,030
His strategies.

1577
00:57:58,270 --> 00:58:00,030
His plans to destroy.

1578
00:58:00,270 --> 00:58:01,810
To undermine the marriage covenant.

1579
00:58:02,190 --> 00:58:03,610
He hates your marriage.

1580
00:58:03,990 --> 00:58:04,550
See this morning.

1581
00:58:04,730 --> 00:58:05,390
He hates it.

1582
00:58:05,670 --> 00:58:06,630
See Ethan and Shona.

1583
00:58:07,230 --> 00:58:09,030
I'm standing looking at them yesterday.

1584
00:58:09,210 --> 00:58:09,890
Joined together.

1585
00:58:10,090 --> 00:58:10,910
Loving each other.

1586
00:58:11,350 --> 00:58:12,610
The words that are said.

1587
00:58:12,750 --> 00:58:13,770
It's going to be tested.

1588
00:58:14,610 --> 00:58:17,310
Hell is going to throw things at that

1589
00:58:17,310 --> 00:58:17,830
marriage.

1590
00:58:18,390 --> 00:58:18,950
You know why?

1591
00:58:19,090 --> 00:58:20,350
To have those testimonies.

1592
00:58:20,350 --> 00:58:21,090
Those desires.

1593
00:58:21,270 --> 00:58:21,730
Those prayers.

1594
00:58:22,130 --> 00:58:23,830
It's a very dangerous marriage.

1595
00:58:24,230 --> 00:58:26,730
It's another marriage being added to this church.

1596
00:58:27,090 --> 00:58:28,950
Two people are going to sit here and

1597
00:58:28,950 --> 00:58:29,790
they can be unified.

1598
00:58:30,050 --> 00:58:31,290
He'll strengthen this church.

1599
00:58:31,650 --> 00:58:32,150
Love.

1600
00:58:32,590 --> 00:58:33,010
Grace.

1601
00:58:33,410 --> 00:58:33,830
Mercy.

1602
00:58:34,170 --> 00:58:34,590
Forgiveness.

1603
00:58:35,130 --> 00:58:35,770
Kindness.

1604
00:58:36,710 --> 00:58:37,270
But church.

1605
00:58:38,110 --> 00:58:39,210
Us as a church.

1606
00:58:40,350 --> 00:58:43,110
That within this covenant we've been brought into

1607
00:58:43,110 --> 00:58:43,690
together.

1608
00:58:44,250 --> 00:58:45,210
Blood washed.

1609
00:58:45,630 --> 00:58:46,130
Forgiven.

1610
00:58:46,750 --> 00:58:48,250
Shown grace in Christ.

1611
00:58:49,110 --> 00:58:50,170
Do you know you as a church.

1612
00:58:50,370 --> 00:58:52,110
Individual members of this body.

1613
00:58:52,690 --> 00:58:54,530
You get to show what you were given.

1614
00:58:55,890 --> 00:58:58,230
Here in this church you can forgive one

1615
00:58:58,230 --> 00:58:58,570
another.

1616
00:58:59,110 --> 00:59:00,130
And love one another.

1617
00:59:00,510 --> 00:59:01,850
And be kind to one another.

1618
00:59:02,230 --> 00:59:03,430
And serve one another.

1619
00:59:03,670 --> 00:59:05,350
You need an environment to do that.

1620
00:59:05,470 --> 00:59:06,830
And this church gives you that.

1621
00:59:07,170 --> 00:59:08,550
And do you know what hell thinks about

1622
00:59:08,550 --> 00:59:08,830
that?

1623
00:59:09,150 --> 00:59:11,030
I hate the unity of this church.

1624
00:59:11,410 --> 00:59:12,370
I hate the love.

1625
00:59:12,550 --> 00:59:13,030
You know why?

1626
00:59:13,090 --> 00:59:13,830
It's sincere.

1627
00:59:14,050 --> 00:59:15,550
It's not hypocritical here.

1628
00:59:15,870 --> 00:59:17,290
I hope you understand this.

1629
00:59:17,550 --> 00:59:18,570
Our love in this church.

1630
00:59:18,750 --> 00:59:19,890
It is sincere.

1631
00:59:20,090 --> 00:59:20,950
It is real.

1632
00:59:21,130 --> 00:59:21,950
It's not perfect.

1633
00:59:22,150 --> 00:59:23,010
But it is honest.

1634
00:59:23,130 --> 00:59:23,930
It is open.

1635
00:59:24,110 --> 00:59:25,010
It is genuine.

1636
00:59:25,390 --> 00:59:27,070
And that's a danger to hell.

1637
00:59:27,510 --> 00:59:28,010
You know why?

1638
00:59:28,130 --> 00:59:28,890
We as a church.

1639
00:59:29,010 --> 00:59:30,690
While we have that love.

1640
00:59:30,950 --> 00:59:32,330
And we forgive each other.

1641
00:59:32,510 --> 00:59:33,850
And we care about each other.

1642
00:59:33,850 --> 00:59:35,670
You are a dangerous church.

1643
00:59:35,830 --> 00:59:37,350
There's nothing to do with numbers.

1644
00:59:37,690 --> 00:59:38,610
Or bank accounts.

1645
00:59:39,030 --> 00:59:39,870
Or reputation.

1646
00:59:40,410 --> 00:59:41,730
Nothing to do with that.

1647
00:59:42,070 --> 00:59:43,990
That love is dangerous.

1648
00:59:44,450 --> 00:59:46,010
And the devil say I'll attack it.

1649
00:59:46,530 --> 00:59:47,490
I'll attack that.

1650
00:59:47,750 --> 00:59:48,450
Because you know what?

1651
00:59:48,590 --> 00:59:50,530
When you're unified as a church.

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00:59:50,770 --> 00:59:54,920
If one can put a thousand to flight.

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00:59:55,520 --> 00:59:58,320
And two can put ten thousand to flight.

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00:59:58,500 --> 00:59:59,680
What can a whole church.

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01:00:00,280 --> 01:00:01,380
Unified in love.

1656
01:00:01,880 --> 01:00:04,320
Having received grace and love and forgiveness and

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01:00:04,320 --> 01:00:05,220
mercy and kindness.

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01:00:05,520 --> 01:00:07,060
Who say I want to give this on.

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01:00:07,340 --> 01:00:09,040
I didn't deserve this from God.

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01:00:09,300 --> 01:00:09,680
And you know what?

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01:00:09,700 --> 01:00:10,900
I want to give this to my brothers

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01:00:10,900 --> 01:00:11,520
and sisters.

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01:00:11,820 --> 01:00:12,460
And we want that.

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01:00:12,700 --> 01:00:14,400
That when the broken hearted come in here.

1665
01:00:14,520 --> 01:00:17,400
They go I feel the love of Christ.

1666
01:00:18,260 --> 01:00:20,720
I see the love of Christ.

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01:00:23,300 --> 01:00:24,360
In a church meeting here.

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01:00:24,440 --> 01:00:25,480
A sinner once visited.

1669
01:00:26,600 --> 01:00:28,420
And they said you're lovely people.

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01:00:28,980 --> 01:00:31,100
I had such a warm greeting this morning.

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01:00:32,460 --> 01:00:33,340
Do you know what I said to them?

1672
01:00:34,320 --> 01:00:36,260
I said do not judge by that.

1673
01:00:37,020 --> 01:00:38,320
You could be deceived.

1674
01:00:39,240 --> 01:00:39,880
By us smiling.

1675
01:00:40,060 --> 01:00:41,720
Oh welcome this morning.

1676
01:00:42,140 --> 01:00:43,260
So good to see you.

1677
01:00:43,800 --> 01:00:44,780
It's good to do that.

1678
01:00:46,100 --> 01:00:47,440
But that's not the test.

1679
01:00:48,100 --> 01:00:49,100
I said do you know what you do?

1680
01:00:49,240 --> 01:00:51,180
Just sit down quietly in this church.

1681
01:00:51,920 --> 01:00:54,260
And watch us function as a church.

1682
01:00:55,320 --> 01:00:56,920
It's not us greeting you with a smile

1683
01:00:56,920 --> 01:00:57,420
at the door.

1684
01:00:57,840 --> 01:00:59,180
Isn't that a nice church?

1685
01:01:00,520 --> 01:01:00,840
Oh no.

1686
01:01:01,000 --> 01:01:01,660
Stick around.

1687
01:01:02,580 --> 01:01:05,580
And begin to watch how we interact together.

1688
01:01:06,500 --> 01:01:07,660
What did Jesus say?

1689
01:01:08,120 --> 01:01:09,660
You will know them.

1690
01:01:10,540 --> 01:01:12,240
You will know my disciples.

1691
01:01:12,920 --> 01:01:13,340
How?

1692
01:01:13,960 --> 01:01:16,500
By their love one to another.

1693
01:01:18,020 --> 01:01:18,900
So hold on.

1694
01:01:19,160 --> 01:01:19,780
You're a visitor.

1695
01:01:20,760 --> 01:01:21,560
Just stay put.

1696
01:01:22,200 --> 01:01:23,920
Stay in your seat and watch carefully.

1697
01:01:24,820 --> 01:01:26,920
Because it has to manifest after a bit.

1698
01:01:27,360 --> 01:01:28,660
You can't keep this up.

1699
01:01:28,960 --> 01:01:30,940
Not with you bunch anyway with your background.

1700
01:01:31,200 --> 01:01:31,680
Impossible.

1701
01:01:32,600 --> 01:01:34,380
There's going to be lots arise.

1702
01:01:34,760 --> 01:01:35,820
Just stick around.

1703
01:01:36,520 --> 01:01:38,480
And if you see real love that's not

1704
01:01:38,480 --> 01:01:38,820
us.

1705
01:01:39,640 --> 01:01:41,460
You're going to know we're real disciples.

1706
01:01:41,640 --> 01:01:42,260
Real Christians.

1707
01:01:42,480 --> 01:01:44,300
Because this love comes from God.

1708
01:01:44,660 --> 01:01:45,520
And it's sincere.

1709
01:01:45,780 --> 01:01:46,300
And it's deep.

1710
01:01:46,540 --> 01:01:47,360
And it's beyond us.

1711
01:01:47,480 --> 01:01:48,200
And it's real.

1712
01:01:48,960 --> 01:01:50,360
And hell will not break it.

1713
01:01:51,240 --> 01:01:52,440
Let's pray together.

1714
01:01:52,660 --> 01:01:53,580
Will you stand with me?

1715
01:01:54,660 --> 01:01:56,660
Lord God we do thank you this morning

1716
01:01:56,660 --> 01:01:58,200
for your love and your grace and your

1717
01:01:58,200 --> 01:01:58,600
mercy.

1718
01:01:59,260 --> 01:02:00,880
Lord God for your hand upon us.

1719
01:02:00,960 --> 01:02:03,040
Just given us this wonderful weekend.

1720
01:02:03,620 --> 01:02:05,660
Lord God with with all that has been

1721
01:02:05,660 --> 01:02:07,780
going on and happening with these marriages.

1722
01:02:08,000 --> 01:02:08,720
We love you.

1723
01:02:09,160 --> 01:02:10,960
Lord God we pray for a move of

1724
01:02:10,960 --> 01:02:12,020
God in this church.

1725
01:02:12,120 --> 01:02:14,500
Oh God we pray for every marriage.

1726
01:02:14,500 --> 01:02:16,040
Every new marriage.

1727
01:02:16,160 --> 01:02:18,900
Oh God we pray for those older marriages.

1728
01:02:19,120 --> 01:02:21,160
Lord God we know the trials.

1729
01:02:21,340 --> 01:02:22,220
We know the battles.

1730
01:02:22,380 --> 01:02:24,880
Oh God the unforgiveness that can come to

1731
01:02:24,880 --> 01:02:25,160
heart.

1732
01:02:25,480 --> 01:02:27,440
The words that can be spoken that are

1733
01:02:27,440 --> 01:02:28,260
very hurting.

1734
01:02:28,640 --> 01:02:30,980
That even are bitter or can create bitterness.

1735
01:02:31,560 --> 01:02:33,180
Lord God we're not ignorant of all of

1736
01:02:33,180 --> 01:02:33,720
these things.

1737
01:02:34,020 --> 01:02:36,180
And we're not ignorant of Satan's strategies.

1738
01:02:36,580 --> 01:02:38,600
He'll move in on unforgiveness.

1739
01:02:38,600 --> 01:02:42,440
He'll move in Lord God when we're selfish

1740
01:02:42,440 --> 01:02:43,740
and self-centered.

1741
01:02:44,220 --> 01:02:46,780
He'll move in when we're not fulfilling the

1742
01:02:46,780 --> 01:02:49,240
order of God and walking in the light

1743
01:02:49,240 --> 01:02:49,920
of scripture.

1744
01:02:50,940 --> 01:02:53,160
Serving in the right place in the body

1745
01:02:53,160 --> 01:02:53,700
of Christ.

1746
01:02:54,100 --> 01:02:56,000
And so Lord God we ask you for

1747
01:02:56,000 --> 01:02:57,360
your mercy this morning.

1748
01:02:57,780 --> 01:02:59,760
Will you minister and even as a church

1749
01:02:59,760 --> 01:03:02,020
strengthen us as a church.

1750
01:03:02,320 --> 01:03:05,440
My God strengthen us against the attacks of

1751
01:03:05,440 --> 01:03:05,740
hell.

1752
01:03:05,740 --> 01:03:08,400
Lord God we realize that we do have

1753
01:03:08,400 --> 01:03:09,400
something special.

1754
01:03:09,640 --> 01:03:10,800
But it's not us.

1755
01:03:10,920 --> 01:03:11,720
It's your love.

1756
01:03:11,860 --> 01:03:12,920
It's your grace.

1757
01:03:13,060 --> 01:03:14,020
It's your kindness.

1758
01:03:14,520 --> 01:03:15,520
It's your mercy.

1759
01:03:16,000 --> 01:03:18,020
Lord God it's your divine nature in the

1760
01:03:18,020 --> 01:03:18,240
midst.

1761
01:03:18,540 --> 01:03:20,760
And we're asking that you set a guard

1762
01:03:20,760 --> 01:03:21,500
around us.

1763
01:03:21,680 --> 01:03:24,160
Because we know how vulnerable we are.

1764
01:03:24,460 --> 01:03:25,740
We don't want to be proud.

1765
01:03:25,880 --> 01:03:26,980
We don't want to be arrogant.

1766
01:03:27,420 --> 01:03:29,780
We don't want to be high looking or

1767
01:03:29,780 --> 01:03:31,700
think it's by our own grace.

1768
01:03:32,020 --> 01:03:34,540
But Lord God we acknowledge it's all of

1769
01:03:34,540 --> 01:03:35,420
you this morning.

1770
01:03:35,720 --> 01:03:37,460
In Jesus mighty name.