1 00:00:00,460 --> 00:00:01,360 Good morning. 2 00:00:06,510 --> 00:00:08,810 Seemed like I was just here, doesn't it? 3 00:00:09,030 --> 00:00:12,930 Just close together. 4 00:00:14,470 --> 00:00:16,390 It's always great to be with you, and 5 00:00:16,390 --> 00:00:17,450 I thank you for coming. 6 00:00:17,610 --> 00:00:21,810 I know it's voluntary, and I'm always surprised 7 00:00:21,810 --> 00:00:24,550 when people listen as I speak, and I 8 00:00:24,550 --> 00:00:27,810 thank you for your courtesy in doing that. 9 00:00:28,990 --> 00:00:31,090 This will be one of those messages you 10 00:00:31,090 --> 00:00:32,010 won't ever forget. 11 00:00:33,330 --> 00:00:35,950 It's on a subject I never heard addressed 12 00:00:35,950 --> 00:00:39,730 while I was a student here, because in 13 00:00:39,730 --> 00:00:42,050 those days you didn't talk about these things. 14 00:00:42,690 --> 00:00:43,330 Isn't that interesting? 15 00:00:44,390 --> 00:00:46,530 It's not that they didn't go on, it's 16 00:00:46,530 --> 00:00:52,150 that no one felt it was, I guess, 17 00:00:52,270 --> 00:00:55,870 dignified or appropriate to address these things, and 18 00:00:55,870 --> 00:00:59,130 so I didn't hear one message on it. 19 00:00:59,130 --> 00:01:02,670 There were occasions I would hear a war 20 00:01:02,670 --> 00:01:08,630 story or two, but I never heard the 21 00:01:08,630 --> 00:01:11,490 subject really develop from the scriptures. 22 00:01:13,310 --> 00:01:15,330 And so I want to do that today 23 00:01:15,330 --> 00:01:18,470 because it is an area that will ruin 24 00:01:18,470 --> 00:01:23,950 your time at seminary, which is my overarching 25 00:01:23,950 --> 00:01:26,330 theme of my time with you. 26 00:01:27,330 --> 00:01:32,330 A strange subject to have as a theme, 27 00:01:32,570 --> 00:01:35,390 but that also was never addressed. 28 00:01:35,670 --> 00:01:39,010 When I graduated, I don't believe I once 29 00:01:39,010 --> 00:01:43,290 heard anyone talk about a failing in ministry 30 00:01:43,290 --> 00:01:48,650 or suffering real defeat, disappointment. 31 00:01:49,850 --> 00:01:53,870 When I first brought a talk on this 32 00:01:53,870 --> 00:01:58,270 subject, this theme, I talked about worry, some 33 00:01:58,270 --> 00:02:00,790 of you may remember, and how it can 34 00:02:00,790 --> 00:02:06,450 steal our joy and our peace if it 35 00:02:06,450 --> 00:02:08,630 comes in and haunts us. 36 00:02:08,770 --> 00:02:14,050 So I warned all of us about worry 37 00:02:14,050 --> 00:02:16,170 and the impact it can have on us. 38 00:02:17,020 --> 00:02:20,490 And then the next time we were together, 39 00:02:20,810 --> 00:02:24,950 I talked about attitude, and how a bad 40 00:02:24,950 --> 00:02:31,110 attitude can not only ruin relationships, including those 41 00:02:31,110 --> 00:02:34,190 at home, as well as those in the 42 00:02:34,190 --> 00:02:39,010 classroom and even in our future ministry, regardless 43 00:02:39,010 --> 00:02:41,450 of where God may take us. 44 00:02:42,410 --> 00:02:44,990 It's really hard to get beyond an attitude 45 00:02:44,990 --> 00:02:49,670 with individuals if they're determined not to change 46 00:02:49,670 --> 00:02:50,550 in that area. 47 00:02:50,690 --> 00:02:52,490 So I've warned us about that. 48 00:02:53,230 --> 00:02:56,210 Last time I talked about a sinister sin, 49 00:02:56,670 --> 00:03:01,350 which is a cynicism itself, which can easily 50 00:03:01,350 --> 00:03:10,190 grow in a place where there are academic 51 00:03:10,190 --> 00:03:15,110 achievements and the desire to do our very 52 00:03:15,110 --> 00:03:18,910 best, and in the process, we can turn 53 00:03:18,910 --> 00:03:26,130 sour on the sensitive subjects of the spirit. 54 00:03:27,050 --> 00:03:30,150 And so we talk about the value of 55 00:03:30,150 --> 00:03:31,330 guarding against that. 56 00:03:32,230 --> 00:03:34,230 Today I want to talk about the secret 57 00:03:34,230 --> 00:03:38,330 sins of our lives that have to do 58 00:03:38,330 --> 00:03:42,210 with the realm of lust and sex. 59 00:03:43,250 --> 00:03:45,150 I want to hit it head on. 60 00:03:45,310 --> 00:03:47,430 I want to go directly into it. 61 00:03:47,630 --> 00:03:50,490 I don't want to dance around it. 62 00:03:50,670 --> 00:03:52,890 I want to talk straight with all of 63 00:03:52,890 --> 00:03:53,110 you. 64 00:03:53,110 --> 00:03:56,290 And I have in mind both men and 65 00:03:56,290 --> 00:03:59,830 women, though it seems to be a greater 66 00:03:59,830 --> 00:04:02,690 battle among those of us who are men. 67 00:04:03,930 --> 00:04:06,830 And as I think back over the number 68 00:04:06,830 --> 00:04:10,870 of times I've had the sad experience of 69 00:04:10,870 --> 00:04:17,010 being a part of a gathering where an 70 00:04:17,010 --> 00:04:22,050 individual needed to be confronted, and it led 71 00:04:22,050 --> 00:04:27,650 to the downfall of that individual's ministry. 72 00:04:27,770 --> 00:04:29,030 They've always been men. 73 00:04:29,690 --> 00:04:33,650 But I believe women, just as men, can 74 00:04:33,650 --> 00:04:38,350 be guilty of lust and can be a 75 00:04:38,350 --> 00:04:43,050 part of affairs that occur in our lives. 76 00:04:43,050 --> 00:04:46,230 We had a seasoned pastor speak to us 77 00:04:46,230 --> 00:04:47,670 in a gathering. 78 00:04:48,070 --> 00:04:50,590 We had brought our pastors together in a 79 00:04:50,590 --> 00:04:53,130 former church, and we had asked him to 80 00:04:53,130 --> 00:04:56,670 speak on whatever he thought would be helpful 81 00:04:56,670 --> 00:04:57,630 for us to hear. 82 00:04:58,510 --> 00:05:00,870 And he began by making a statement I'll 83 00:05:00,870 --> 00:05:01,630 never forget. 84 00:05:03,330 --> 00:05:05,870 He said there are four areas, all of 85 00:05:05,870 --> 00:05:09,390 them start with the letter S, that become 86 00:05:09,390 --> 00:05:12,870 most often the downfall of people in ministry. 87 00:05:14,290 --> 00:05:17,130 The first would be silver, which has to 88 00:05:17,130 --> 00:05:19,090 do with a whole area of money and 89 00:05:19,090 --> 00:05:22,810 greed, how that can turn our heads in 90 00:05:22,810 --> 00:05:23,630 the wrong direction. 91 00:05:24,730 --> 00:05:29,290 The next is self, where life can revolve 92 00:05:29,290 --> 00:05:30,230 around us. 93 00:05:30,230 --> 00:05:32,990 In ministry, you're often given a place of 94 00:05:32,990 --> 00:05:39,510 authority, and you are respected unless you have 95 00:05:39,510 --> 00:05:41,970 conducted yourself in a way that has led 96 00:05:41,970 --> 00:05:43,250 people to disrespect. 97 00:05:44,070 --> 00:05:46,290 But most often, they respect you, and in 98 00:05:46,290 --> 00:05:48,750 the respect, you can let that go to 99 00:05:48,750 --> 00:05:50,870 your head, and before long, it's all about 100 00:05:50,870 --> 00:05:51,250 you. 101 00:05:51,970 --> 00:05:54,590 Self can be a real battle. 102 00:05:55,830 --> 00:05:57,210 Sloth was the third. 103 00:05:58,310 --> 00:06:01,210 In ministry, you are trusted with privacy. 104 00:06:01,990 --> 00:06:06,270 You are given the privilege of pretty much 105 00:06:06,270 --> 00:06:07,770 shaping your own hours. 106 00:06:08,530 --> 00:06:10,210 I don't know of any minister that punches 107 00:06:10,210 --> 00:06:12,650 a clock when you come to work, and 108 00:06:12,650 --> 00:06:14,830 then you leave, and people check on your 109 00:06:14,830 --> 00:06:15,370 time. 110 00:06:17,090 --> 00:06:21,630 And so it can easily become a battle 111 00:06:21,630 --> 00:06:22,550 with sloth. 112 00:06:25,190 --> 00:06:29,450 Whatever may be your interest, aside from the 113 00:06:29,450 --> 00:06:32,730 work of ministry, can become consuming. 114 00:06:33,390 --> 00:06:34,570 It can be a hobby. 115 00:06:34,770 --> 00:06:35,850 It can be a sport. 116 00:06:36,270 --> 00:06:40,610 It can be just plain laziness. 117 00:06:41,650 --> 00:06:44,010 And then, of course, the fourth would be 118 00:06:44,010 --> 00:06:44,450 sex. 119 00:06:45,210 --> 00:06:47,790 And then he went into that subject further 120 00:06:47,790 --> 00:06:52,670 and reminded us of the importance of purity. 121 00:06:57,580 --> 00:07:00,420 As I talk about this today, I don't 122 00:07:00,420 --> 00:07:02,520 want you to think I'm talking to someone 123 00:07:02,520 --> 00:07:03,200 else. 124 00:07:05,420 --> 00:07:07,640 Even though it may not be for you 125 00:07:07,640 --> 00:07:11,780 a real battle, I'd be surprised among the 126 00:07:11,780 --> 00:07:13,640 men if it is not one of your 127 00:07:13,640 --> 00:07:14,560 major battles. 128 00:07:15,040 --> 00:07:15,780 It's everywhere. 129 00:07:15,780 --> 00:07:19,100 And it shows up everywhere. 130 00:07:20,720 --> 00:07:23,040 Back when I was riding Harleys with my 131 00:07:23,040 --> 00:07:24,940 younger son, he and I wanted to go 132 00:07:24,940 --> 00:07:29,320 to Tioga, which is a little town north 133 00:07:29,320 --> 00:07:29,720 of here. 134 00:07:29,800 --> 00:07:31,820 They've got great barbecue, and it's a nice 135 00:07:31,820 --> 00:07:32,420 ride. 136 00:07:32,940 --> 00:07:35,520 Back roads are always the best roads on 137 00:07:35,520 --> 00:07:36,280 a bike. 138 00:07:36,540 --> 00:07:38,400 And I said to him, let's go to 139 00:07:38,400 --> 00:07:41,900 Tioga and enjoy some of that great barbecue. 140 00:07:41,980 --> 00:07:43,520 The place has burned down since then. 141 00:07:43,520 --> 00:07:47,980 But anyway, back then it was a great 142 00:07:47,980 --> 00:07:48,400 spot. 143 00:07:48,500 --> 00:07:49,860 And he said, great, I've never heard of 144 00:07:49,860 --> 00:07:50,020 it. 145 00:07:50,440 --> 00:07:51,780 I don't know how to get there. 146 00:07:51,860 --> 00:07:54,940 So I pulled up Google Maps, and when 147 00:07:54,940 --> 00:07:57,080 I pulled up Tioga, there was a huge 148 00:07:57,080 --> 00:07:59,980 statement, sex, that appeared. 149 00:08:00,780 --> 00:08:03,440 Now, I've been to Tioga now, and it 150 00:08:03,440 --> 00:08:04,960 has nothing to do with sex, I can 151 00:08:04,960 --> 00:08:05,500 assure you. 152 00:08:05,520 --> 00:08:08,020 It's just a little dumpy town to the 153 00:08:08,020 --> 00:08:09,480 north that's got great barbecue. 154 00:08:09,480 --> 00:08:13,300 But somebody knew that enough people were interested 155 00:08:13,300 --> 00:08:16,520 in that town and perhaps that place to 156 00:08:16,520 --> 00:08:20,420 place that into the computer in such a 157 00:08:20,420 --> 00:08:22,200 way that when you pull that up, that 158 00:08:22,200 --> 00:08:22,600 appeared. 159 00:08:24,140 --> 00:08:25,320 It's an example. 160 00:08:25,940 --> 00:08:28,820 And the Internet, of course, is filled with 161 00:08:28,820 --> 00:08:28,980 it. 162 00:08:30,080 --> 00:08:32,640 It's a downfall for some of you sitting 163 00:08:32,640 --> 00:08:34,320 here today, I would imagine. 164 00:08:34,320 --> 00:08:41,740 I'd be surprised if there were not more 165 00:08:41,740 --> 00:08:44,180 than a few of you that struggle with 166 00:08:44,180 --> 00:08:47,740 sex on the Internet, whether it's a chat 167 00:08:47,740 --> 00:08:52,100 room or some site you have secretly found 168 00:08:52,100 --> 00:08:53,860 and you turn to. 169 00:08:54,680 --> 00:08:56,420 Years ago, you had to go to a 170 00:08:56,420 --> 00:08:59,440 dirty movie or you had to sneak a 171 00:08:59,440 --> 00:09:02,460 peek at a magazine stand to look at 172 00:09:02,460 --> 00:09:02,640 it. 173 00:09:02,640 --> 00:09:04,700 Now you can see it in the privacy 174 00:09:04,700 --> 00:09:05,740 of your own home. 175 00:09:06,420 --> 00:09:08,960 Lock your door, pull your blinds, and you're 176 00:09:08,960 --> 00:09:10,020 all alone with it. 177 00:09:11,240 --> 00:09:15,420 And I need to tell you I've never 178 00:09:15,420 --> 00:09:16,380 been more serious. 179 00:09:17,840 --> 00:09:19,040 It'll ruin you. 180 00:09:20,400 --> 00:09:21,300 It'll win. 181 00:09:23,830 --> 00:09:24,770 It'll conquer you. 182 00:09:25,710 --> 00:09:29,670 If you don't determine, I suggest, in your 183 00:09:29,670 --> 00:09:32,930 years at this school, to come to terms 184 00:09:32,930 --> 00:09:37,130 with it and to deal with it severely 185 00:09:37,130 --> 00:09:40,550 in your life, it'll conquer you. 186 00:09:42,550 --> 00:09:43,350 It'll take over. 187 00:09:45,640 --> 00:09:48,180 You may not publicly fall, but you will 188 00:09:48,180 --> 00:09:51,060 lose the mental battle. 189 00:09:52,120 --> 00:09:53,020 It'll drain you. 190 00:09:55,280 --> 00:09:58,360 And as a result, it will cut in 191 00:09:58,360 --> 00:10:01,820 on your stride as a man or woman 192 00:10:01,820 --> 00:10:02,420 of God. 193 00:10:06,840 --> 00:10:10,280 David's fall, according to the record in 2 194 00:10:10,280 --> 00:10:12,660 Samuel 11, where I want us to go, 195 00:10:13,500 --> 00:10:17,700 did not begin on his roof when he 196 00:10:17,700 --> 00:10:22,080 took a walk and he saw Bathsheba bathing. 197 00:10:24,220 --> 00:10:26,560 David's problem began earlier. 198 00:10:27,900 --> 00:10:31,700 David obviously is a man of enormous, enormous 199 00:10:31,700 --> 00:10:32,480 passion. 200 00:10:33,340 --> 00:10:36,240 No one could write like David can write, 201 00:10:36,660 --> 00:10:40,040 and that kind of passion works its way 202 00:10:40,040 --> 00:10:41,780 out in a number of different ways. 203 00:10:42,960 --> 00:10:46,700 And often the very gifted have the greatest 204 00:10:46,700 --> 00:10:49,180 battles in this area, and most of you 205 00:10:49,180 --> 00:10:50,680 are very gifted people. 206 00:10:52,340 --> 00:10:56,380 And you who have great imaginations will battle 207 00:10:56,380 --> 00:10:57,880 in this area as well. 208 00:11:01,220 --> 00:11:07,220 David was really something else. 209 00:11:07,960 --> 00:11:12,000 Of all the biblical characters, I believe I 210 00:11:12,000 --> 00:11:15,000 would most love to have had time with 211 00:11:15,000 --> 00:11:15,340 David. 212 00:11:16,480 --> 00:11:21,600 I admire him for his accomplishments and for 213 00:11:21,600 --> 00:11:26,460 his tenderness, his love for God, his heart 214 00:11:26,460 --> 00:11:28,040 that just beat after God. 215 00:11:28,040 --> 00:11:34,480 I, of course, have consumed his songs, his 216 00:11:34,480 --> 00:11:39,660 psalms, and they are music to my soul. 217 00:11:41,820 --> 00:11:44,520 Anyone can write like that, and often with 218 00:11:44,520 --> 00:11:47,960 the honesty with which he wrote has my 219 00:11:47,960 --> 00:11:48,520 respect. 220 00:11:51,760 --> 00:11:53,520 David was a faithful man. 221 00:11:53,900 --> 00:11:55,780 He kept his father's sheep. 222 00:11:56,540 --> 00:12:01,480 And even after killing the giant, he doesn't 223 00:12:01,480 --> 00:12:04,940 run down to Macy's and try on crowns, 224 00:12:05,480 --> 00:12:09,580 thinking the kingdom is mine, certainly after Samuel 225 00:12:09,580 --> 00:12:11,380 anointed him. 226 00:12:11,480 --> 00:12:13,160 He went right back to the sheep. 227 00:12:14,060 --> 00:12:14,740 I love that. 228 00:12:16,260 --> 00:12:18,300 David was not important to David. 229 00:12:20,620 --> 00:12:23,640 Even though he became the greatest of Israel's 230 00:12:23,640 --> 00:12:28,540 kings, the flag flew over the nation with 231 00:12:28,540 --> 00:12:32,560 greater pride than ever before when David became 232 00:12:32,560 --> 00:12:32,940 king. 233 00:12:34,020 --> 00:12:36,860 One man writes rather cleverly, there was not 234 00:12:36,860 --> 00:12:39,820 only a chicken in every pot, but under 235 00:12:39,820 --> 00:12:42,600 David's rule, there were grapes on every vine. 236 00:12:43,140 --> 00:12:46,000 The prosperity was magnificent. 237 00:12:46,860 --> 00:12:51,100 The enemy feared Israel under David's rule, man 238 00:12:51,100 --> 00:12:51,820 of war. 239 00:12:52,840 --> 00:12:53,680 Courageous. 240 00:12:57,360 --> 00:13:00,120 Also loved many women. 241 00:13:01,780 --> 00:13:04,240 And against the teachings of the law, he 242 00:13:04,240 --> 00:13:08,460 took to his harem, if I count correctly, 243 00:13:08,720 --> 00:13:10,920 at least 17 wives. 244 00:13:11,620 --> 00:13:15,200 And along with that, many concubines. 245 00:13:19,300 --> 00:13:24,520 I'm confident his libido was intense. 246 00:13:26,080 --> 00:13:30,240 And though that's true, many women did not 247 00:13:30,240 --> 00:13:32,680 satisfy the man. 248 00:13:33,420 --> 00:13:35,240 The old feeling is that if you have 249 00:13:35,240 --> 00:13:37,400 enough women, you will be satisfied. 250 00:13:38,180 --> 00:13:39,580 There aren't enough women. 251 00:13:40,540 --> 00:13:45,620 Because with sex, there is always the thought 252 00:13:45,620 --> 00:13:48,020 of the unknown. 253 00:13:49,480 --> 00:13:54,560 And there is pleasure in the act of 254 00:13:54,560 --> 00:13:57,440 intercourse, regardless of who it is with. 255 00:13:58,380 --> 00:14:01,180 Especially if your conscience is such that you 256 00:14:01,180 --> 00:14:04,020 can tolerate it outside of your marriage. 257 00:14:04,660 --> 00:14:05,640 Many people can. 258 00:14:05,640 --> 00:14:09,320 I was at a hotel with Cynthia, staying 259 00:14:09,320 --> 00:14:10,440 there for a conference. 260 00:14:10,560 --> 00:14:13,460 And interesting, there's a little sign, a little 261 00:14:13,460 --> 00:14:16,860 small, very well-written, beautiful calligraphy. 262 00:14:17,420 --> 00:14:19,260 Have your next affair with us. 263 00:14:19,640 --> 00:14:20,960 Right there on the table. 264 00:14:23,880 --> 00:14:25,080 It's everywhere. 265 00:14:27,720 --> 00:14:34,590 And David knew better, of course. 266 00:14:36,430 --> 00:14:37,450 We'll talk about that. 267 00:14:37,450 --> 00:14:40,950 But I want to build into it carefully, 268 00:14:41,350 --> 00:14:43,530 lest you think he just suddenly fell. 269 00:14:44,610 --> 00:14:48,150 No tree suddenly rots and collapses. 270 00:14:48,730 --> 00:14:50,990 No church suddenly splits. 271 00:14:51,770 --> 00:14:54,990 No marriage suddenly fractures. 272 00:14:55,810 --> 00:14:58,250 No life suddenly falls. 273 00:14:58,890 --> 00:14:59,650 It's a process. 274 00:15:00,910 --> 00:15:02,370 You're in the process. 275 00:15:03,590 --> 00:15:05,490 I'm in the process. 276 00:15:06,930 --> 00:15:09,350 It's always going on. 277 00:15:09,930 --> 00:15:15,050 And the enemy is so patient and brilliant. 278 00:15:17,540 --> 00:15:21,840 He'll take years and just drop a little 279 00:15:21,840 --> 00:15:24,620 here and there to keep you interested. 280 00:15:26,820 --> 00:15:27,800 Keep you curious. 281 00:15:34,030 --> 00:15:37,090 David served Saul, as all of you know 282 00:15:37,090 --> 00:15:38,470 from your study of the scriptures. 283 00:15:39,510 --> 00:15:44,970 And loved Saul's son like a brother. 284 00:15:46,230 --> 00:15:48,910 And he and Jonathan were just tight. 285 00:15:50,250 --> 00:15:53,190 And then at that battle on Mount Gilboa, 286 00:15:53,330 --> 00:15:54,950 they died. 287 00:15:55,930 --> 00:15:58,770 And David grieved the loss. 288 00:16:00,270 --> 00:16:02,990 Though Saul had haunted him and haunted him 289 00:16:02,990 --> 00:16:07,330 for years, David held him in respect. 290 00:16:07,330 --> 00:16:09,150 Another thing I admire. 291 00:16:11,170 --> 00:16:13,170 And so when he comes, if you have 292 00:16:13,170 --> 00:16:18,750 your Bible, 2 Samuel 1, you find David 293 00:16:18,750 --> 00:16:20,230 now in grief. 294 00:16:20,490 --> 00:16:24,170 And as he was wont to do, he 295 00:16:24,170 --> 00:16:25,030 wrote a song. 296 00:16:25,730 --> 00:16:29,030 And it appears beautifully here in our Bibles. 297 00:16:29,710 --> 00:16:32,430 And the theme of the song. 298 00:16:38,730 --> 00:16:42,370 How the mighty are fallen in a day 299 00:16:42,370 --> 00:16:43,010 of battle. 300 00:16:43,930 --> 00:16:45,330 How the mighty are fallen. 301 00:16:45,790 --> 00:16:48,150 How the mighty are fallen, says it three 302 00:16:48,150 --> 00:16:50,190 times in this one song. 303 00:16:51,010 --> 00:16:52,810 You see it in verse 19. 304 00:16:53,850 --> 00:16:55,730 You see it in verse 25. 305 00:16:56,030 --> 00:16:57,550 You see it in verse 27. 306 00:16:57,550 --> 00:17:00,310 How the mighty are fallen. 307 00:17:01,010 --> 00:17:04,010 And his heart breaks for the fact that 308 00:17:04,010 --> 00:17:06,589 he'll never again speak to Jonathan on earth. 309 00:17:06,710 --> 00:17:11,230 He'll never again know the joy of seeing 310 00:17:11,230 --> 00:17:17,390 tall, handsome Saul, his king. 311 00:17:18,210 --> 00:17:19,050 Never again. 312 00:17:21,170 --> 00:17:23,250 As best I can figure, David is about 313 00:17:23,250 --> 00:17:24,569 30 at this time. 314 00:17:26,069 --> 00:17:28,230 And the mighty have fallen. 315 00:17:28,230 --> 00:17:30,070 And he writes about it. 316 00:17:34,910 --> 00:17:36,930 He has no idea what in the next 317 00:17:36,930 --> 00:17:39,230 20 years would happen. 318 00:17:40,230 --> 00:17:43,330 But the success of David's life is like 319 00:17:43,330 --> 00:17:46,210 a rooftop on the rise. 320 00:17:47,090 --> 00:17:49,190 Never once a defeat in battle. 321 00:17:49,590 --> 00:17:50,290 Think of that. 322 00:17:52,050 --> 00:17:56,230 Never once did Israel lose a battle under 323 00:17:56,230 --> 00:17:56,950 David's rule. 324 00:17:59,410 --> 00:18:02,630 He expanded the borders from 6,000 to 325 00:18:02,630 --> 00:18:05,470 60,000 square miles. 326 00:18:08,600 --> 00:18:10,500 And as I mentioned, the prosperity and the 327 00:18:10,500 --> 00:18:13,620 pride of the country, the patriotism, must have 328 00:18:13,620 --> 00:18:14,600 been magnificent. 329 00:18:14,780 --> 00:18:18,760 He built a beautiful home, his own palace, 330 00:18:19,620 --> 00:18:21,740 for him and his many wives. 331 00:18:24,370 --> 00:18:26,170 And he kept adding to his harem. 332 00:18:26,990 --> 00:18:31,210 And it kept weakening his soul. 333 00:18:33,740 --> 00:18:36,120 Life went on, but who was going to 334 00:18:36,120 --> 00:18:38,280 confront David the fact that he had broken 335 00:18:38,280 --> 00:18:39,740 with what Moses had written? 336 00:18:40,400 --> 00:18:42,740 Who confronts a king like this? 337 00:18:43,260 --> 00:18:45,920 Which is part of the issue you will 338 00:18:45,920 --> 00:18:47,260 face as a leader. 339 00:18:48,580 --> 00:18:51,620 Especially if God blesses your life with success, 340 00:18:51,700 --> 00:18:53,320 as we measure success. 341 00:18:53,760 --> 00:18:56,700 And your ministry grows and your church becomes 342 00:18:56,700 --> 00:18:57,160 larger. 343 00:18:57,460 --> 00:19:00,380 Or your outreach and influence becomes greater. 344 00:19:00,380 --> 00:19:04,080 And your teaching skills get even better. 345 00:19:04,340 --> 00:19:06,300 And your popularity grows. 346 00:19:06,620 --> 00:19:11,160 And you're a word on others' lips. 347 00:19:11,360 --> 00:19:14,900 And you're a household name in the country 348 00:19:14,900 --> 00:19:15,780 where you serve. 349 00:19:16,660 --> 00:19:18,540 Right now you sit here as a student 350 00:19:18,540 --> 00:19:19,660 and you think, that's not good. 351 00:19:20,000 --> 00:19:22,000 You have no idea what's going to be 352 00:19:22,000 --> 00:19:22,580 your future. 353 00:19:22,980 --> 00:19:24,180 You have no idea. 354 00:19:25,660 --> 00:19:30,800 That's why the decisions you make now and 355 00:19:30,800 --> 00:19:33,780 the habits you form now must be carefully 356 00:19:33,780 --> 00:19:34,680 managed. 357 00:19:36,080 --> 00:19:39,400 Because you will carry them out in the 358 00:19:39,400 --> 00:19:43,100 days ahead like you can't believe. 359 00:19:45,510 --> 00:19:47,550 And if you have a wandering eye now, 360 00:19:47,650 --> 00:19:50,390 it will only intensify as you get older. 361 00:19:51,350 --> 00:19:53,630 And you never outgrow it. 362 00:19:53,630 --> 00:19:55,690 You never get too old for it. 363 00:19:56,510 --> 00:19:59,170 I remember sitting in a Navigator conference when 364 00:19:59,170 --> 00:20:02,890 I was at Glen Eyrie. 365 00:20:03,470 --> 00:20:05,930 And Lorne Sanney, the president at the time, 366 00:20:06,010 --> 00:20:09,890 now gone, Lorne was interviewing an 86, 87 367 00:20:09,890 --> 00:20:10,870 -year-old missionary. 368 00:20:12,170 --> 00:20:14,330 And he said to him, tell me, brother 369 00:20:14,330 --> 00:20:17,050 so-and-so, when was it you gained 370 00:20:17,050 --> 00:20:19,190 victory over lust? 371 00:20:19,970 --> 00:20:22,670 And the old guy said, well, Lorne, it 372 00:20:22,670 --> 00:20:23,950 hadn't happened yet. 373 00:20:25,410 --> 00:20:29,270 86, 87-year-old guy still fighting lust. 374 00:20:30,450 --> 00:20:31,690 Of course. 375 00:20:34,320 --> 00:20:38,840 It's a drive that is, if it's not 376 00:20:38,840 --> 00:20:44,180 guarded, if it's not monitored, is uncontrollable. 377 00:20:46,350 --> 00:20:49,610 And in the most unbelievable times of your 378 00:20:49,610 --> 00:20:51,050 life, you can fall. 379 00:20:53,700 --> 00:20:57,700 I've had men minister in conferences where we 380 00:20:57,700 --> 00:21:01,580 were as a church, and while ministering behind 381 00:21:01,580 --> 00:21:05,060 the scenes, they are carrying on an affair 382 00:21:05,060 --> 00:21:07,220 with another woman, not their wife. 383 00:21:07,980 --> 00:21:10,120 One of them even chose as his subject 384 00:21:10,120 --> 00:21:12,760 for the conference, moral purity. 385 00:21:14,540 --> 00:21:18,060 While he is having an affair that later 386 00:21:18,060 --> 00:21:18,720 came out. 387 00:21:19,700 --> 00:21:21,380 And pretty much finished him. 388 00:21:22,500 --> 00:21:25,460 Do not tell me that cannot happen. 389 00:21:26,900 --> 00:21:28,260 It's unbelievable. 390 00:21:30,300 --> 00:21:33,180 And his messages were spot on. 391 00:21:33,960 --> 00:21:37,880 I remember taking notes and talking with Cynthia 392 00:21:37,880 --> 00:21:39,600 about it after he would bring it, and 393 00:21:39,600 --> 00:21:41,560 I would say, did you get that? 394 00:21:41,640 --> 00:21:42,280 Listen to that. 395 00:21:42,620 --> 00:21:44,900 And I went, great insight. 396 00:21:49,260 --> 00:21:50,760 How the mighty are fallen. 397 00:21:51,180 --> 00:21:52,440 Don't forget those words. 398 00:21:53,020 --> 00:21:53,780 David did. 399 00:21:55,990 --> 00:21:59,090 So when you move from chapter one, all 400 00:21:59,090 --> 00:22:01,490 the way to chapter 11, you're moving through 401 00:22:01,490 --> 00:22:07,110 one, one victory after another, after another, after 402 00:22:07,110 --> 00:22:07,590 another. 403 00:22:09,960 --> 00:22:13,740 And by the way, right in the back 404 00:22:13,740 --> 00:22:15,880 of margin of your mind. 405 00:22:16,060 --> 00:22:18,640 First Corinthians 10 verse 12. 406 00:22:19,040 --> 00:22:21,660 Let him who thinks he stands, take heed, 407 00:22:21,960 --> 00:22:22,880 lest he fall. 408 00:22:23,620 --> 00:22:27,020 Let her who thinks she stands, take heed, 409 00:22:27,400 --> 00:22:28,600 lest she fall. 410 00:22:31,210 --> 00:22:37,260 Every one of you can fall just like 411 00:22:37,260 --> 00:22:38,580 this man of God fell. 412 00:22:40,120 --> 00:22:42,900 And today it seems the farthest thing from 413 00:22:42,900 --> 00:22:43,500 your mind. 414 00:22:44,940 --> 00:22:47,240 I'm glad it does, but that's an unrealistic 415 00:22:47,240 --> 00:22:47,880 thought. 416 00:22:52,970 --> 00:22:54,750 Now, so much for my introduction. 417 00:22:55,910 --> 00:22:58,550 I wanted to get into it carefully and 418 00:22:58,550 --> 00:23:01,950 slowly, and I hope I've done that. 419 00:23:04,130 --> 00:23:05,710 We're not in a hurry, are we? 420 00:23:06,130 --> 00:23:07,990 They gave me a little extra time. 421 00:23:08,070 --> 00:23:09,850 I appreciate that, Patrick. 422 00:23:10,910 --> 00:23:11,170 Okay. 423 00:23:15,100 --> 00:23:17,360 Second Samuel 5, 13, I find. 424 00:23:17,760 --> 00:23:21,460 Meanwhile, David took more concubines and wives from 425 00:23:21,460 --> 00:23:24,220 Jerusalem after he came from Hebron. 426 00:23:24,220 --> 00:23:26,080 He took more wives. 427 00:23:27,220 --> 00:23:28,720 And if that wasn't enough, he took more 428 00:23:28,720 --> 00:23:29,480 concubines. 429 00:23:33,060 --> 00:23:34,720 Polygamy weakened him. 430 00:23:38,810 --> 00:23:40,950 His opinion poll was at an all-time 431 00:23:40,950 --> 00:23:41,310 high. 432 00:23:44,160 --> 00:23:45,960 Popularity rate was off the chart. 433 00:23:51,080 --> 00:23:53,600 Maximum, maximum power and prosperity. 434 00:23:55,780 --> 00:23:57,780 Luxurious lifestyle was his. 435 00:23:58,700 --> 00:24:00,240 The respect of his army. 436 00:24:01,180 --> 00:24:08,330 Joab, that cruel, tough-to-the-bone soldier, 437 00:24:08,870 --> 00:24:11,150 was right there with him. 438 00:24:12,230 --> 00:24:13,770 David was his kind of guy. 439 00:24:18,250 --> 00:24:21,350 The palace and all of its conveniences he 440 00:24:21,350 --> 00:24:23,230 had made. 441 00:24:29,250 --> 00:24:34,350 And then that eventful evening arrived. 442 00:24:38,070 --> 00:24:42,230 It happened in the spring at the time 443 00:24:42,230 --> 00:24:44,830 when kings go out to battle. 444 00:24:45,530 --> 00:24:48,530 Second Samuel 11, 1a. 445 00:24:49,830 --> 00:24:53,650 He's a king, but he doesn't go out 446 00:24:53,650 --> 00:24:54,410 to battle. 447 00:24:56,660 --> 00:24:57,240 Why? 448 00:24:58,500 --> 00:24:59,600 We're not told. 449 00:25:00,160 --> 00:25:02,700 Probably thought Joab could handle this one. 450 00:25:04,060 --> 00:25:05,360 Who are the Amalekites? 451 00:25:07,020 --> 00:25:09,360 I mean, we could... 452 00:25:10,100 --> 00:25:11,880 Half my army could whip them. 453 00:25:12,900 --> 00:25:14,140 They can take care of that. 454 00:25:14,600 --> 00:25:15,660 He should have been out there. 455 00:25:16,400 --> 00:25:18,420 By the way, lust doesn't grow when you're 456 00:25:18,420 --> 00:25:20,300 busily engaged in your work. 457 00:25:20,380 --> 00:25:21,800 Another one that works is running. 458 00:25:23,120 --> 00:25:24,500 Flee youthful lust. 459 00:25:24,760 --> 00:25:25,660 That works. 460 00:25:25,760 --> 00:25:28,980 You cannot lust and run at the same 461 00:25:28,980 --> 00:25:29,400 time. 462 00:25:30,960 --> 00:25:33,100 I remember being on Okinawa, and they brought 463 00:25:33,100 --> 00:25:37,120 in 5,000 prostitutes to service the Marines 464 00:25:37,120 --> 00:25:38,360 as if they were animals. 465 00:25:38,900 --> 00:25:39,780 Well, many were. 466 00:25:40,620 --> 00:25:44,040 And I said to my mentor, how do 467 00:25:44,040 --> 00:25:48,340 I conquer the issue of temptation? 468 00:25:48,360 --> 00:25:50,100 Because when I get off the jitney, and 469 00:25:50,100 --> 00:25:51,600 I've got to get up to your place 470 00:25:51,600 --> 00:25:53,800 for our Bible study, I've got to walk 471 00:25:53,800 --> 00:25:58,000 by all these whorehouses where these beautiful women 472 00:25:58,000 --> 00:26:01,340 are out there waving and whistling and calling 473 00:26:01,340 --> 00:26:01,780 in. 474 00:26:02,320 --> 00:26:03,600 And he said, run. 475 00:26:06,600 --> 00:26:07,540 You know what? 476 00:26:08,260 --> 00:26:09,800 I started doing that. 477 00:26:11,080 --> 00:26:11,760 And you know what? 478 00:26:14,120 --> 00:26:15,900 I didn't lust for any of them. 479 00:26:16,980 --> 00:26:18,640 My thought was, get out of the way. 480 00:26:18,840 --> 00:26:22,420 I'm trying to get up to Newkirk's place. 481 00:26:24,920 --> 00:26:26,860 But he lounges around. 482 00:26:29,280 --> 00:26:32,460 That's what you're going to do in some 483 00:26:32,460 --> 00:26:34,280 part of the next several weeks. 484 00:26:34,520 --> 00:26:35,380 Christmas comes. 485 00:26:36,000 --> 00:26:37,580 You have a little more time on your 486 00:26:37,580 --> 00:26:37,860 hands. 487 00:26:37,960 --> 00:26:38,700 I know, I know. 488 00:26:39,680 --> 00:26:41,160 You've got a lot of work to do. 489 00:26:41,520 --> 00:26:43,780 But you're going to hang out a little. 490 00:26:44,700 --> 00:26:48,900 And that's when I get nervous for you. 491 00:26:49,900 --> 00:26:51,780 Those bad things happen when you hang out. 492 00:26:53,660 --> 00:26:56,280 And when you don't keep yourself occupied. 493 00:26:58,820 --> 00:27:00,340 I know what I'm talking about. 494 00:27:01,360 --> 00:27:02,860 Thankfully, I've never fallen. 495 00:27:03,860 --> 00:27:05,120 But there have been close calls. 496 00:27:07,370 --> 00:27:09,550 I was in Canada at a conference that 497 00:27:09,550 --> 00:27:10,650 lasted over the weekend. 498 00:27:12,070 --> 00:27:15,450 And I really was looking forward to watching 499 00:27:15,450 --> 00:27:17,610 a little football on TV. 500 00:27:17,970 --> 00:27:19,970 But they have hockey up there. 501 00:27:22,410 --> 00:27:24,270 And I know, I know. 502 00:27:24,330 --> 00:27:26,190 If you're Canadians, don't write me. 503 00:27:26,350 --> 00:27:27,210 I know. 504 00:27:28,630 --> 00:27:29,750 It's great. 505 00:27:29,750 --> 00:27:31,710 It's a goon sport, okay? 506 00:27:31,990 --> 00:27:34,550 I mean, these guys knock their teeth out. 507 00:27:34,630 --> 00:27:35,710 And the more blood, the better. 508 00:27:36,150 --> 00:27:38,350 Somebody said they watched a hockey game that 509 00:27:38,350 --> 00:27:40,330 was boring until a fight broke out. 510 00:27:40,410 --> 00:27:41,510 And then all of a sudden it got 511 00:27:41,510 --> 00:27:41,930 good. 512 00:27:44,270 --> 00:27:46,770 So I was looking for a football magazine. 513 00:27:46,910 --> 00:27:47,710 There wasn't one. 514 00:27:47,790 --> 00:27:49,670 And I decided I'll go back to the 515 00:27:49,670 --> 00:27:51,830 room, get ready for the talk tomorrow. 516 00:27:51,910 --> 00:27:52,530 It was a Saturday. 517 00:27:52,750 --> 00:27:55,590 And I punched the elevator button. 518 00:27:55,690 --> 00:27:57,450 And two ladies got on with me. 519 00:27:58,610 --> 00:28:00,450 The door closed behind us. 520 00:28:00,770 --> 00:28:04,130 And I pushed floor six, as I recall. 521 00:28:04,290 --> 00:28:06,010 And I looked at them. 522 00:28:06,090 --> 00:28:06,950 They didn't push a button. 523 00:28:06,990 --> 00:28:07,830 And I said, floor. 524 00:28:07,910 --> 00:28:09,450 And they said six would be nice. 525 00:28:12,360 --> 00:28:14,500 Well, I felt a little like Tom Cruise 526 00:28:14,500 --> 00:28:15,340 all of a sudden. 527 00:28:16,320 --> 00:28:17,980 Or maybe Robert Redford. 528 00:28:17,980 --> 00:28:19,340 I'm a little closer to that age. 529 00:28:20,260 --> 00:28:23,020 And then I'm honest. 530 00:28:23,400 --> 00:28:24,680 The shade drew. 531 00:28:26,000 --> 00:28:29,660 And my mother's voice revisited me as I 532 00:28:29,660 --> 00:28:30,020 read. 533 00:28:30,880 --> 00:28:31,980 Be not deceived. 534 00:28:32,320 --> 00:28:35,240 God is not mocked for whatever a man 535 00:28:35,240 --> 00:28:38,200 sows that he will also reap. 536 00:28:40,650 --> 00:28:42,350 No one knew me where I was. 537 00:28:42,790 --> 00:28:44,850 I was thousands of miles from home. 538 00:28:46,920 --> 00:28:49,240 Could have invited the women in. 539 00:28:51,180 --> 00:28:53,580 And then when I finished, I was kind 540 00:28:53,580 --> 00:28:57,080 of staring, reading the verse in my mind. 541 00:28:57,080 --> 00:28:58,240 And they're looking at me like. 542 00:28:59,260 --> 00:29:01,020 So when the shade went up, I said, 543 00:29:01,080 --> 00:29:01,620 no thanks. 544 00:29:01,700 --> 00:29:03,160 I've got more than I can keep up 545 00:29:03,160 --> 00:29:03,900 with at home. 546 00:29:04,200 --> 00:29:06,440 And I stepped out and the door closed. 547 00:29:06,840 --> 00:29:07,900 And they stayed on. 548 00:29:09,120 --> 00:29:12,400 And I leaned up against those marble walls. 549 00:29:12,920 --> 00:29:15,560 And I thank God for the memorized scripture. 550 00:29:16,360 --> 00:29:17,860 That saved me from a fall. 551 00:29:20,750 --> 00:29:22,310 You would have never known it, but I 552 00:29:22,310 --> 00:29:23,430 would have lived with it. 553 00:29:23,530 --> 00:29:25,250 And I could have never talked on this. 554 00:29:26,590 --> 00:29:28,390 Or if I did, I'd have to fake 555 00:29:28,390 --> 00:29:28,790 it. 556 00:29:32,020 --> 00:29:36,160 And so, David is lounging around the house. 557 00:29:40,320 --> 00:29:42,440 And he sent Joab and his servants with 558 00:29:42,440 --> 00:29:43,380 him and all Israel. 559 00:29:43,480 --> 00:29:45,500 And they destroyed the sons of Ammon and 560 00:29:45,500 --> 00:29:46,640 besieged Rabbah. 561 00:29:47,280 --> 00:29:48,680 David stayed at Jerusalem. 562 00:29:54,760 --> 00:29:55,760 He's alone. 563 00:29:58,020 --> 00:30:00,000 He has time on his hands. 564 00:30:02,180 --> 00:30:03,440 And evening came. 565 00:30:04,700 --> 00:30:07,480 By the way, I did a little homework 566 00:30:07,480 --> 00:30:08,260 on evenings. 567 00:30:09,940 --> 00:30:11,880 Listen to David's words. 568 00:30:14,970 --> 00:30:15,910 Psalm 55. 569 00:30:16,350 --> 00:30:19,230 Evening, morning, and noon, I will pray and 570 00:30:19,230 --> 00:30:19,930 cry aloud. 571 00:30:20,430 --> 00:30:22,050 And he will hear my voice. 572 00:30:23,150 --> 00:30:25,910 He will redeem my soul in peace from 573 00:30:25,910 --> 00:30:27,910 the battle which is against me. 574 00:30:29,070 --> 00:30:31,230 Psalm 55, 17 and 18. 575 00:30:31,590 --> 00:30:32,390 He wrote that. 576 00:30:33,750 --> 00:30:35,610 But he didn't do that this evening. 577 00:30:37,090 --> 00:30:38,330 Here's another one. 578 00:30:39,730 --> 00:30:41,650 Psalm 141, 2 through 4. 579 00:30:42,270 --> 00:30:44,690 May my prayer be counted as incense before 580 00:30:44,690 --> 00:30:44,930 you. 581 00:30:45,030 --> 00:30:46,770 The lifting up of my hands as the 582 00:30:46,770 --> 00:30:47,550 evening offering. 583 00:30:48,170 --> 00:30:50,170 Set a guard, O Lord, over my mouth. 584 00:30:50,270 --> 00:30:52,470 Do not incline my heart to any evil 585 00:30:52,470 --> 00:30:52,830 thing. 586 00:30:55,080 --> 00:30:57,360 Or as one paraphrase puts it, the message. 587 00:30:57,960 --> 00:31:00,080 Do not let me so much as dream 588 00:31:00,080 --> 00:31:01,840 of evil or thoughtlessly fall. 589 00:31:02,840 --> 00:31:03,720 Isn't that good? 590 00:31:05,100 --> 00:31:06,420 He forgot that this evening. 591 00:31:10,400 --> 00:31:13,040 Or maybe he wrote that after this evening. 592 00:31:20,590 --> 00:31:23,090 Here is our respected leader. 593 00:31:26,850 --> 00:31:28,270 The king like no other king. 594 00:31:29,750 --> 00:31:34,490 With an incredible record of faithfulness. 595 00:31:35,290 --> 00:31:38,050 And refusal to retaliate against Saul. 596 00:31:39,810 --> 00:31:41,870 And courage in battle. 597 00:31:41,870 --> 00:31:43,190 Took on the giant. 598 00:31:46,470 --> 00:31:48,950 And now became king. 599 00:31:50,610 --> 00:31:53,110 Best I can figure, he's about 50. 600 00:31:54,050 --> 00:31:55,450 Maybe 55. 601 00:31:55,950 --> 00:31:58,750 I have an older son who's 55. 602 00:32:02,110 --> 00:32:03,750 And our kids go all the way down 603 00:32:03,750 --> 00:32:04,550 to 46. 604 00:32:07,090 --> 00:32:09,390 And he's Kurt's age. 605 00:32:09,950 --> 00:32:10,750 Probably. 606 00:32:14,260 --> 00:32:16,180 I looked at Kurt the other day when 607 00:32:16,180 --> 00:32:16,860 we were together. 608 00:32:17,080 --> 00:32:18,800 And I thought about this. 609 00:32:20,540 --> 00:32:22,980 I'm so grateful that Kurt's been faithful to 610 00:32:22,980 --> 00:32:24,160 Debbie all these years. 611 00:32:25,860 --> 00:32:27,120 They have three kids. 612 00:32:27,220 --> 00:32:28,380 Oldest is 36. 613 00:32:30,220 --> 00:32:33,560 And they've got those grandkids now have kids. 614 00:32:34,300 --> 00:32:37,060 I mean, it looks like recess let out 615 00:32:37,060 --> 00:32:38,580 when we get all our family together. 616 00:32:38,860 --> 00:32:40,720 We've got four kids and we've got ten 617 00:32:40,720 --> 00:32:41,320 grandkids. 618 00:32:41,320 --> 00:32:44,520 And we've got six great grandkids. 619 00:32:44,880 --> 00:32:46,560 And they range in age all over. 620 00:32:52,100 --> 00:32:54,120 So when I travel, I carry a picture 621 00:32:54,120 --> 00:32:55,000 of my family. 622 00:32:55,800 --> 00:32:57,700 And I put it on the table where 623 00:32:57,700 --> 00:32:58,240 I eat. 624 00:32:59,000 --> 00:33:00,660 And if Cynthia can't go with me, I 625 00:33:00,660 --> 00:33:01,920 usually take someone else. 626 00:33:01,960 --> 00:33:04,480 And if no one else can, the picture 627 00:33:04,480 --> 00:33:05,000 is there. 628 00:33:06,120 --> 00:33:07,540 I even went on a cruise. 629 00:33:08,080 --> 00:33:09,920 Cynthia was not able getting over her back 630 00:33:09,920 --> 00:33:11,320 surgery, spine surgery. 631 00:33:11,460 --> 00:33:13,700 So I took a picture of her. 632 00:33:14,620 --> 00:33:15,940 And showed everybody. 633 00:33:17,740 --> 00:33:21,960 This is who I'm with at this cruise. 634 00:33:22,440 --> 00:33:26,080 And you sleep with a picture, boy. 635 00:33:26,200 --> 00:33:26,920 It's ugly. 636 00:33:27,040 --> 00:33:27,460 I'll tell you. 637 00:33:27,620 --> 00:33:29,880 The corner of that thing digs into you. 638 00:33:30,360 --> 00:33:31,180 But there she was. 639 00:33:31,220 --> 00:33:32,420 I saw her every morning. 640 00:33:33,180 --> 00:33:35,060 And I looked at her at every meal. 641 00:33:37,330 --> 00:33:39,150 You don't lust easily when you've got your 642 00:33:39,150 --> 00:33:40,470 wife looking you right in the eye. 643 00:33:40,590 --> 00:33:41,530 Or your kids. 644 00:33:41,870 --> 00:33:42,890 Or your grandkids. 645 00:33:44,270 --> 00:33:45,090 Loving you. 646 00:33:45,750 --> 00:33:46,670 Believing in you. 647 00:33:47,550 --> 00:33:48,670 Counting on you. 648 00:33:52,850 --> 00:33:53,510 Like Noah. 649 00:33:54,550 --> 00:33:56,070 Noah's 22 today. 650 00:33:57,030 --> 00:33:59,130 Second day of boot camp in the Marine 651 00:33:59,130 --> 00:33:59,470 Corps. 652 00:34:00,910 --> 00:34:01,410 Yeah. 653 00:34:02,170 --> 00:34:02,770 22. 654 00:34:03,690 --> 00:34:05,990 He put in for MARSOC, which is the 655 00:34:05,990 --> 00:34:08,469 Navy's answer to the SEALs. 656 00:34:08,550 --> 00:34:10,570 That's what the Marines are in MARSOC. 657 00:34:11,409 --> 00:34:12,830 Noah wants to do the toughest thing. 658 00:34:12,830 --> 00:34:14,610 I remember when he was growing up, when 659 00:34:14,610 --> 00:34:16,070 he wrote this little thing I'm going to 660 00:34:16,070 --> 00:34:16,469 show you. 661 00:34:17,330 --> 00:34:18,989 And all the grandkids called me Bubba. 662 00:34:19,530 --> 00:34:23,230 All the great grandkids called me Great Bubba. 663 00:34:23,949 --> 00:34:26,449 So, Bubba and Great Bubba. 664 00:34:27,070 --> 00:34:30,610 So Noah is about, I think, six, seven 665 00:34:30,610 --> 00:34:31,409 when he wrote this. 666 00:34:31,510 --> 00:34:32,310 When he drew this. 667 00:34:33,489 --> 00:34:36,250 And Noah put a little heart there. 668 00:34:36,370 --> 00:34:37,750 If you probably can't see it. 669 00:34:37,790 --> 00:34:40,230 But it says, I heart Bubba. 670 00:34:42,130 --> 00:34:43,969 He loves Bubba. 671 00:34:44,030 --> 00:34:45,790 Remember when Noah was about 12, he sat 672 00:34:45,790 --> 00:34:46,969 in front of me at my desk. 673 00:34:47,630 --> 00:34:49,610 I have a little small statue of the 674 00:34:49,610 --> 00:34:51,469 Marines that were lifting the flag on Iwo 675 00:34:51,469 --> 00:34:51,790 Jima. 676 00:34:52,429 --> 00:34:53,550 And he said, I want to be a 677 00:34:53,550 --> 00:34:53,850 Marine. 678 00:34:54,170 --> 00:34:54,949 I said, Do you? 679 00:34:55,090 --> 00:34:55,670 He said, Yeah. 680 00:34:55,969 --> 00:34:56,870 I said, Why? 681 00:34:57,110 --> 00:34:58,610 He said, Well, I want to be a 682 00:34:58,610 --> 00:34:58,950 sniper. 683 00:34:59,110 --> 00:34:59,890 I want to kill people. 684 00:35:00,310 --> 00:35:01,350 I said, No. 685 00:35:01,590 --> 00:35:01,690 No. 686 00:35:01,710 --> 00:35:02,070 No. 687 00:35:02,230 --> 00:35:02,430 No. 688 00:35:02,910 --> 00:35:03,070 No. 689 00:35:04,930 --> 00:35:05,890 Sit down, Noah. 690 00:35:06,050 --> 00:35:06,550 Sit down. 691 00:35:07,430 --> 00:35:08,850 So Noah sat down. 692 00:35:09,070 --> 00:35:10,910 And he said, Well, that's what you were. 693 00:35:10,990 --> 00:35:11,730 And that's what you did. 694 00:35:11,810 --> 00:35:11,970 No. 695 00:35:12,070 --> 00:35:12,210 No. 696 00:35:12,230 --> 00:35:12,490 No. 697 00:35:12,510 --> 00:35:12,690 No. 698 00:35:12,750 --> 00:35:14,110 I said, I was in the Corps, but 699 00:35:14,110 --> 00:35:14,830 I didn't kill people. 700 00:35:15,770 --> 00:35:18,490 Wanted to, but I didn't kill people. 701 00:35:19,110 --> 00:35:21,790 And he left. 702 00:35:21,890 --> 00:35:23,430 I found that on my desk this morning 703 00:35:23,430 --> 00:35:25,310 here at the seminary. 704 00:35:26,390 --> 00:35:28,110 I got a grandson that loves me. 705 00:35:30,250 --> 00:35:31,550 And I hope he does. 706 00:35:31,610 --> 00:35:32,530 He's now in boot camp. 707 00:35:32,790 --> 00:35:36,810 So I pray for Noah. 708 00:35:36,810 --> 00:35:38,990 He's going through it right now. 709 00:35:39,710 --> 00:35:41,230 What am I saying? 710 00:35:41,590 --> 00:35:45,830 I am saying David forgot all of that. 711 00:35:47,330 --> 00:35:48,810 Every bit of it. 712 00:35:49,670 --> 00:35:50,750 Every child. 713 00:35:51,950 --> 00:35:52,890 Every wife. 714 00:35:55,540 --> 00:35:56,740 Worse is God. 715 00:35:58,140 --> 00:36:01,300 Listen to what Dietrich Bonhoeffer wrote about temptation. 716 00:36:02,600 --> 00:36:06,420 In our members, there is a slumbering inclination 717 00:36:06,420 --> 00:36:10,500 toward desire, which is both sudden and fierce. 718 00:36:12,950 --> 00:36:17,610 With irresistible power, desire seizes mastery over the 719 00:36:17,610 --> 00:36:18,950 flesh all at once. 720 00:36:19,730 --> 00:36:23,150 A secret smoldering fire is kindled. 721 00:36:24,150 --> 00:36:27,550 The flesh burns and is in flames. 722 00:36:27,550 --> 00:36:30,350 It makes no difference whether it is sexual 723 00:36:30,350 --> 00:36:33,350 desire or ambition or vanity or desire for 724 00:36:33,350 --> 00:36:36,110 revenge or love or fame or power or 725 00:36:36,110 --> 00:36:37,210 greed for money. 726 00:36:37,650 --> 00:36:41,870 Joy in God is extinguished from us. 727 00:36:43,290 --> 00:36:45,770 As we seek all our joy in the 728 00:36:45,770 --> 00:36:47,130 creature at this moment. 729 00:36:47,570 --> 00:36:48,710 This is so insightful. 730 00:36:49,370 --> 00:36:52,610 At this moment, God is quite unreal to 731 00:36:52,610 --> 00:36:53,050 us. 732 00:36:53,050 --> 00:36:56,950 And only desire for the creature is real. 733 00:36:57,910 --> 00:37:00,010 Satan does not here fill us with hatred 734 00:37:00,010 --> 00:37:00,950 of God. 735 00:37:01,750 --> 00:37:05,430 But with forgetfulness of God. 736 00:37:06,090 --> 00:37:07,810 Isn't that great? 737 00:37:10,330 --> 00:37:11,850 David didn't hate God. 738 00:37:12,910 --> 00:37:14,070 He just forgot him. 739 00:37:16,840 --> 00:37:21,540 The lust thus aroused envelops the mind and 740 00:37:21,540 --> 00:37:23,700 will in deepest darkness. 741 00:37:23,700 --> 00:37:28,760 The powers of clear discrimination and decision are 742 00:37:28,760 --> 00:37:29,740 taken from us. 743 00:37:30,300 --> 00:37:33,080 It is here that everything within me rises 744 00:37:33,080 --> 00:37:35,420 up against the word of God. 745 00:37:36,380 --> 00:37:38,100 That is profound. 746 00:37:40,690 --> 00:37:42,630 That is the height of lust. 747 00:37:43,850 --> 00:37:51,190 That makes even a monarch like David stare 748 00:37:51,190 --> 00:37:54,590 at a woman taking a shower in her 749 00:37:54,590 --> 00:37:55,090 backyard. 750 00:38:01,150 --> 00:38:03,610 When evening came, David arose from his bed 751 00:38:03,610 --> 00:38:05,230 and walked around on the roof of the 752 00:38:05,230 --> 00:38:05,970 king's house. 753 00:38:06,910 --> 00:38:10,690 And from the roof, he saw a woman. 754 00:38:10,690 --> 00:38:14,850 You know the first recorded words from the 755 00:38:14,850 --> 00:38:15,910 mouth of Samson? 756 00:38:17,070 --> 00:38:18,670 I saw a woman. 757 00:38:20,610 --> 00:38:22,790 I call Samson a he-man with a 758 00:38:22,790 --> 00:38:23,590 she-weakness. 759 00:38:26,130 --> 00:38:30,030 At this moment, that's David. 760 00:38:33,140 --> 00:38:34,580 He doesn't think about battles won. 761 00:38:34,700 --> 00:38:36,320 He doesn't think about the faithfulness of his 762 00:38:36,320 --> 00:38:36,620 God. 763 00:38:36,620 --> 00:38:39,160 He doesn't think about the trust of his 764 00:38:39,160 --> 00:38:40,460 children, his Noah. 765 00:38:42,420 --> 00:38:44,200 He's thinking about one thing. 766 00:38:45,040 --> 00:38:47,460 Every man in this room knows exactly what 767 00:38:47,460 --> 00:38:47,960 he's thinking. 768 00:38:48,880 --> 00:38:50,540 He doesn't have to undress her. 769 00:38:50,640 --> 00:38:51,400 She's all ready. 770 00:38:52,580 --> 00:38:53,400 In fact, look. 771 00:38:54,280 --> 00:38:56,140 He saw a woman bathing, and the woman 772 00:38:56,140 --> 00:38:58,440 was very beautiful in appearance. 773 00:38:58,680 --> 00:39:01,060 Trust me when the scripture says very beautiful. 774 00:39:01,440 --> 00:39:02,960 She is gorgeous. 775 00:39:05,360 --> 00:39:06,740 And he stares. 776 00:39:14,510 --> 00:39:15,830 And he wants her. 777 00:39:17,110 --> 00:39:23,210 He's got all these women, all these concubines. 778 00:39:24,090 --> 00:39:25,990 He wants her. 779 00:39:28,030 --> 00:39:31,330 Because he's never had her. 780 00:39:35,840 --> 00:39:38,840 So David went and inquired about the woman. 781 00:39:38,940 --> 00:39:40,240 By the way, she was his neighbor, and 782 00:39:40,240 --> 00:39:42,000 he had never met her. 783 00:39:43,440 --> 00:39:44,900 Busy about the king's business? 784 00:39:45,000 --> 00:39:46,060 I can understand that. 785 00:39:47,660 --> 00:39:50,300 And one who he talked to said to 786 00:39:50,300 --> 00:39:52,660 him, listen to this answer. 787 00:39:53,360 --> 00:39:58,040 Is this not Bathsheba, the daughter of Eliam, 788 00:39:58,240 --> 00:40:02,700 the wife of Uriah the Hittite? 789 00:40:02,920 --> 00:40:03,720 That's unusual. 790 00:40:04,820 --> 00:40:07,440 When genealogies are given in the scriptures, usually 791 00:40:07,440 --> 00:40:09,900 it's the father name, then the grandfather sometime, 792 00:40:10,040 --> 00:40:10,880 the great-grandfather. 793 00:40:10,880 --> 00:40:15,320 Rarely is the mate mentioned. 794 00:40:17,300 --> 00:40:21,840 That servant also is looking. 795 00:40:23,060 --> 00:40:26,520 And he knows David, what's in his mind. 796 00:40:27,440 --> 00:40:30,120 Every man knows other men in this way. 797 00:40:33,470 --> 00:40:35,750 And he says, she's married, David. 798 00:40:38,290 --> 00:40:39,530 She's a married woman. 799 00:40:40,270 --> 00:40:42,250 And not just married, she's married to one 800 00:40:42,250 --> 00:40:43,230 of your mighty men. 801 00:40:45,350 --> 00:40:46,530 Uriah the Hittite. 802 00:40:47,890 --> 00:40:51,270 Someday, Dr. Bailey, you need to have Reg 803 00:40:51,270 --> 00:40:51,630 Grant. 804 00:40:52,590 --> 00:40:53,230 Is Reg here? 805 00:40:53,870 --> 00:40:56,550 Reg was on one of our cruises, and 806 00:40:56,550 --> 00:40:58,350 he does Uriah. 807 00:41:02,180 --> 00:41:04,460 It's a knockout presentation. 808 00:41:05,720 --> 00:41:08,240 Because he does it all from the perspective 809 00:41:08,240 --> 00:41:09,460 of Uriah. 810 00:41:11,080 --> 00:41:12,580 Who trusts his king. 811 00:41:13,900 --> 00:41:16,700 Who can't bear the thought of even touching 812 00:41:16,700 --> 00:41:18,540 his wife while his men are in battle. 813 00:41:19,740 --> 00:41:22,220 Who doesn't cooperate with the king, even when 814 00:41:22,220 --> 00:41:23,300 the king gets him drunk. 815 00:41:26,480 --> 00:41:28,660 And then finally he gets his death warrant 816 00:41:28,660 --> 00:41:30,540 handed to him. 817 00:41:31,800 --> 00:41:34,100 Folded up, put in a pouch, and as 818 00:41:34,100 --> 00:41:36,020 Reg puts this, he pats the pouch. 819 00:41:36,020 --> 00:41:37,500 He says, I've had the message from the 820 00:41:37,500 --> 00:41:40,100 king to go to my commander Joab, and 821 00:41:40,100 --> 00:41:41,280 I will take that message. 822 00:41:43,100 --> 00:41:44,760 And you want to go, no, no, no. 823 00:41:45,540 --> 00:41:45,980 No. 824 00:41:47,180 --> 00:41:47,620 Don't. 825 00:41:51,120 --> 00:41:53,340 It's so real, I just want you to 826 00:41:53,340 --> 00:41:54,640 have Reg do that sometime. 827 00:41:54,800 --> 00:41:57,640 Line him up to do Uriah. 828 00:41:58,620 --> 00:42:00,240 Oh, I sound like a hot shot here. 829 00:42:00,320 --> 00:42:01,620 Please, if you don't mind. 830 00:42:03,520 --> 00:42:05,340 Anyways, it's really worth it. 831 00:42:05,340 --> 00:42:05,920 Okay. 832 00:42:07,640 --> 00:42:09,160 David sent an inquirer. 833 00:42:09,240 --> 00:42:11,140 They said she's Uriah's wife. 834 00:42:11,860 --> 00:42:12,980 And David sent messengers. 835 00:42:13,140 --> 00:42:14,480 That didn't stop him. 836 00:42:15,720 --> 00:42:18,760 To know that she's somebody else's wife, it 837 00:42:18,760 --> 00:42:20,340 doesn't stop you when you're full of lust. 838 00:42:21,180 --> 00:42:22,160 Nothing stops you. 839 00:42:25,260 --> 00:42:27,900 I'm telling you, man, I can only speak 840 00:42:27,900 --> 00:42:28,260 to you. 841 00:42:28,420 --> 00:42:30,120 I don't know how it works with a 842 00:42:30,120 --> 00:42:31,240 woman, but I'll tell you. 843 00:42:31,540 --> 00:42:32,900 You go blind. 844 00:42:35,850 --> 00:42:37,410 He didn't even know her name. 845 00:42:37,410 --> 00:42:38,790 He was already lusting. 846 00:42:41,270 --> 00:42:43,910 And he sent messengers, and he took her, 847 00:42:43,970 --> 00:42:45,410 and when she came in, he lay with 848 00:42:45,410 --> 00:42:45,650 her. 849 00:42:46,050 --> 00:42:48,810 When she had purified herself from her uncleanness, 850 00:42:48,930 --> 00:42:50,630 she returned to her house. 851 00:42:53,070 --> 00:42:54,230 Probably left that night. 852 00:43:01,320 --> 00:43:01,920 Not quite. 853 00:43:04,250 --> 00:43:07,710 Stolen waters are sweet, and I'm sure on 854 00:43:07,710 --> 00:43:14,940 that bed, it was ecstasy for just a 855 00:43:14,940 --> 00:43:15,580 few moments. 856 00:43:17,160 --> 00:43:17,980 Worth that? 857 00:43:18,240 --> 00:43:18,900 Worth all of that? 858 00:43:20,400 --> 00:43:21,440 Never. 859 00:43:24,480 --> 00:43:26,340 F.B. Meyer writes, This is the bitterest 860 00:43:26,340 --> 00:43:28,140 of all, to know that suffering need not 861 00:43:28,140 --> 00:43:28,600 have been. 862 00:43:32,440 --> 00:43:35,740 That it has resulted from indiscretion and inconsistency 863 00:43:35,740 --> 00:43:36,360 and neglect. 864 00:43:38,930 --> 00:43:40,850 That it is the harvest of one's own 865 00:43:40,850 --> 00:43:41,250 sowing. 866 00:43:43,820 --> 00:43:46,000 That the vulture which feeds on the vitals 867 00:43:46,000 --> 00:43:48,120 is a nestling of one's own rearing. 868 00:43:49,220 --> 00:43:49,880 Ah, me. 869 00:43:51,000 --> 00:43:52,020 This is pain. 870 00:43:54,550 --> 00:43:55,170 You hear that? 871 00:44:02,280 --> 00:44:03,480 How the mighty have fallen. 872 00:44:04,760 --> 00:44:07,400 Twenty years time, he forgot his own line. 873 00:44:11,160 --> 00:44:13,220 Because sex is that power. 874 00:44:19,410 --> 00:44:21,070 She returned to her own house. 875 00:44:27,740 --> 00:44:29,760 I could take time here to speak to 876 00:44:29,760 --> 00:44:30,320 you women. 877 00:44:31,420 --> 00:44:33,240 And probably should say a few words. 878 00:44:34,780 --> 00:44:36,560 Be really careful, ladies. 879 00:44:37,820 --> 00:44:39,660 We are very vulnerable men. 880 00:44:42,500 --> 00:44:44,120 Dress yourself very carefully. 881 00:44:47,790 --> 00:44:49,490 Conduct yourself without flirting. 882 00:44:53,220 --> 00:44:53,980 Don't go there. 883 00:44:55,200 --> 00:44:56,740 Save it all for your husband. 884 00:45:01,870 --> 00:45:03,470 And that's all I need to say. 885 00:45:06,090 --> 00:45:08,150 You are lovely ladies and you have a 886 00:45:08,150 --> 00:45:09,130 future that's beautiful. 887 00:45:11,870 --> 00:45:14,830 And I can't help but mention Bathsheba was 888 00:45:14,830 --> 00:45:15,470 not raped. 889 00:45:17,930 --> 00:45:18,510 She came. 890 00:45:21,860 --> 00:45:23,900 I know people obeyed the king. 891 00:45:24,940 --> 00:45:26,820 She didn't have to say yes to this. 892 00:45:27,920 --> 00:45:29,080 There is no fight. 893 00:45:32,300 --> 00:45:33,040 She was lonely. 894 00:45:35,420 --> 00:45:36,660 And she missed her husband. 895 00:45:36,660 --> 00:45:40,200 And David was available. 896 00:45:46,130 --> 00:45:47,770 That's kind of the way it works. 897 00:45:49,920 --> 00:45:52,500 Because both forget about God. 898 00:45:58,930 --> 00:46:01,130 And the woman conceived and sent and told 899 00:46:01,130 --> 00:46:03,110 David and said, I am. 900 00:46:13,480 --> 00:46:22,660 Now, I'm not through until I mention four 901 00:46:22,660 --> 00:46:26,400 things that I want you to remember. 902 00:46:27,660 --> 00:46:29,380 No one ever said this to me when 903 00:46:29,380 --> 00:46:30,640 I was a seminary student. 904 00:46:32,460 --> 00:46:35,200 Thankfully, by God's grace and the love of 905 00:46:35,200 --> 00:46:37,700 a magnificent wife and good training by great 906 00:46:37,700 --> 00:46:41,180 parents, the grace of God that preserved me 907 00:46:41,180 --> 00:46:42,940 all the way through my hitch in the 908 00:46:42,940 --> 00:46:45,180 Marine Corps, all the way through these years 909 00:46:45,180 --> 00:46:50,080 in ministry, by the grace of God, Noah 910 00:46:50,080 --> 00:46:55,050 won't have to say, I no longer respect 911 00:46:55,050 --> 00:46:59,480 Bubba, by the grace of God. 912 00:47:06,790 --> 00:47:08,970 To keep from thinking we're safe, let me 913 00:47:08,970 --> 00:47:09,910 give you two comments. 914 00:47:10,290 --> 00:47:13,610 First, acknowledge your weakness. 915 00:47:16,010 --> 00:47:17,490 Acknowledge your weakness. 916 00:47:21,120 --> 00:47:23,380 And second, guard your leisure. 917 00:47:27,940 --> 00:47:30,080 You will be trusted with privacy. 918 00:47:32,200 --> 00:47:33,900 Be careful about that. 919 00:47:36,060 --> 00:47:37,460 Acknowledge your weakness. 920 00:47:40,480 --> 00:47:41,520 Guard your leisure. 921 00:47:46,220 --> 00:47:49,520 And now to keep from falling, two final 922 00:47:49,520 --> 00:47:50,020 things. 923 00:47:50,260 --> 00:47:51,680 Number one, remain accountable. 924 00:47:55,720 --> 00:48:00,560 I carry accountability questions that we ask in 925 00:48:00,560 --> 00:48:04,920 our accountability group periodically to the other men 926 00:48:04,920 --> 00:48:05,400 in the group. 927 00:48:08,440 --> 00:48:10,700 Have you been with a woman anywhere this 928 00:48:10,700 --> 00:48:14,160 past week that might be seen as compromising? 929 00:48:15,360 --> 00:48:16,700 Answer that question. 930 00:48:20,360 --> 00:48:24,120 Have you exposed yourself to any sexually explicit 931 00:48:24,120 --> 00:48:24,720 material? 932 00:48:25,600 --> 00:48:26,720 Answer that question. 933 00:48:29,440 --> 00:48:30,380 Surf the net? 934 00:48:36,000 --> 00:48:37,440 Secretly developing this? 935 00:48:39,840 --> 00:48:41,560 You hide from explicit material? 936 00:48:41,620 --> 00:48:42,700 I don't know how many men have told 937 00:48:42,700 --> 00:48:45,420 me they started in pornography because of the 938 00:48:45,420 --> 00:48:49,360 stack of pornography magazines that their dad had. 939 00:48:51,480 --> 00:48:53,200 And that started them on the journey. 940 00:48:56,270 --> 00:48:58,130 Have you spent adequate time in your own 941 00:48:58,130 --> 00:49:00,050 personal study of the scriptures and prayer? 942 00:49:00,050 --> 00:49:05,380 Have you given priority time to your family? 943 00:49:07,460 --> 00:49:09,160 The last question is the killer. 944 00:49:10,120 --> 00:49:11,860 Have you just lied to me? 945 00:49:18,830 --> 00:49:19,870 Call being accountable. 946 00:49:20,990 --> 00:49:22,190 You accountable to anybody? 947 00:49:25,760 --> 00:49:28,400 Willingly, deliberately, consistently? 948 00:49:31,940 --> 00:49:32,960 Remain accountable. 949 00:49:34,240 --> 00:49:36,820 And finally, rehearse the consequences. 950 00:49:39,040 --> 00:49:41,220 Sitting in this room, we're all safe. 951 00:49:42,340 --> 00:49:44,500 Sitting in this room, the lights are on. 952 00:49:45,500 --> 00:49:47,160 Sitting in this room are people who know 953 00:49:47,160 --> 00:49:47,500 us. 954 00:49:49,240 --> 00:49:52,260 Sitting in this room, we are, for one 955 00:49:52,260 --> 00:49:54,280 of the few places in life, in the 956 00:49:54,280 --> 00:49:54,780 majority. 957 00:49:56,520 --> 00:49:57,680 We love Jesus. 958 00:49:59,400 --> 00:50:00,620 He is our master. 959 00:50:00,780 --> 00:50:01,600 He's our redeemer. 960 00:50:02,680 --> 00:50:03,760 He's our Lord. 961 00:50:05,460 --> 00:50:07,880 Your battle doesn't come in this room. 962 00:50:11,750 --> 00:50:13,490 It comes in the darkness of your own 963 00:50:13,490 --> 00:50:16,410 mind and the privacy of your own life. 964 00:50:21,000 --> 00:50:22,400 I'll look over all these other things. 965 00:50:22,480 --> 00:50:23,460 I want to read you something. 966 00:50:27,080 --> 00:50:28,820 Consequences of a moral tumble. 967 00:50:29,800 --> 00:50:30,900 Randy Alcorn. 968 00:50:32,900 --> 00:50:36,620 Whenever I feel particularly vulnerable to sexual temptation, 969 00:50:38,860 --> 00:50:41,120 I find it helpful to review what effects 970 00:50:41,120 --> 00:50:44,180 my action could have. 971 00:50:46,290 --> 00:50:47,010 And he listed. 972 00:50:48,250 --> 00:50:49,570 Listen to this list. 973 00:50:51,790 --> 00:50:56,550 Grieving the Lord who redeemed me, dragging his 974 00:50:56,550 --> 00:51:01,220 sacred name into the mud, following in the 975 00:51:01,220 --> 00:51:04,140 footsteps of these people whose immorality forfeited their 976 00:51:04,140 --> 00:51:07,440 ministries and caused me to shudder, list their 977 00:51:07,440 --> 00:51:07,980 names. 978 00:51:11,950 --> 00:51:15,370 Inflicting untold hurt on Nancy, my best friend 979 00:51:15,370 --> 00:51:17,110 and loyal wife. 980 00:51:20,020 --> 00:51:22,040 Losing Nancy's respect and trust. 981 00:51:24,440 --> 00:51:27,060 Hurting my beloved daughters, Carina and Angie. 982 00:51:28,780 --> 00:51:30,600 And when I read that, I read my 983 00:51:30,600 --> 00:51:31,520 children's names. 984 00:51:32,580 --> 00:51:35,840 Kurt and Carissa, Colleen and Chuck. 985 00:51:37,320 --> 00:51:38,980 Who believe in me. 986 00:51:40,420 --> 00:51:42,040 Who trust me. 987 00:51:48,520 --> 00:51:51,980 Destroying my example and credibility with my children 988 00:51:51,980 --> 00:51:55,320 and nullifying both present and future efforts to 989 00:51:55,320 --> 00:51:56,820 teach them to obey God. 990 00:51:59,010 --> 00:52:01,010 Why listen to a man who betrayed mom 991 00:52:01,010 --> 00:52:01,530 and us? 992 00:52:04,480 --> 00:52:07,100 If my blindness should continue or my wife 993 00:52:07,100 --> 00:52:09,660 be unable to forget, perhaps losing my wife 994 00:52:09,660 --> 00:52:10,640 and my children forever. 995 00:52:13,540 --> 00:52:14,760 Consequences continue. 996 00:52:15,660 --> 00:52:16,940 Losing self-respect. 997 00:52:17,860 --> 00:52:20,220 Creating a form of guilt awfully hard to 998 00:52:20,220 --> 00:52:20,560 shake. 999 00:52:20,560 --> 00:52:23,280 Even though God would forgive me, would I 1000 00:52:23,280 --> 00:52:24,420 ever forgive myself? 1001 00:52:26,880 --> 00:52:30,080 Forming memories and flashbacks that could haunt me 1002 00:52:30,080 --> 00:52:33,380 and future intimacy with my wife. 1003 00:52:38,530 --> 00:52:41,550 Wasting years of ministry training and experience for 1004 00:52:41,550 --> 00:52:43,590 a long time, maybe permanently. 1005 00:52:46,260 --> 00:52:49,120 Forfeiting the effective years of witnessing to my 1006 00:52:49,120 --> 00:52:55,240 father and reinforcing his distrust for ministers because 1007 00:52:55,240 --> 00:52:56,100 of my fall. 1008 00:52:59,040 --> 00:53:01,680 Undermining the faithful example and hard work of 1009 00:53:01,680 --> 00:53:03,160 other Christians in our community. 1010 00:53:04,280 --> 00:53:07,120 Bringing great pleasure to Satan, the enemy of 1011 00:53:07,120 --> 00:53:08,880 God and all that is good. 1012 00:53:10,600 --> 00:53:14,120 Keeping judgment and endless difficulty on the person 1013 00:53:14,120 --> 00:53:16,520 with whom I committed adultery. 1014 00:53:19,240 --> 00:53:23,100 Possibly bearing the physical consequences of such diseases 1015 00:53:23,100 --> 00:53:27,540 as gonorrhea, syphilis, chlamydia, herpes and AIDS. 1016 00:53:28,060 --> 00:53:30,580 Perhaps infecting Nancy for the rest of her 1017 00:53:30,580 --> 00:53:31,020 life. 1018 00:53:38,590 --> 00:53:39,050 That's enough. 1019 00:53:42,290 --> 00:53:44,010 This has been the autopsy of a moral 1020 00:53:44,010 --> 00:53:44,430 fall. 1021 00:53:51,330 --> 00:53:52,970 God tells us the truth. 1022 00:53:53,890 --> 00:53:55,190 Don't you ever forget it. 1023 00:53:56,090 --> 00:53:57,470 Don't ever forget it. 1024 00:53:59,790 --> 00:54:01,930 Don't ever forget this message. 1025 00:54:09,750 --> 00:54:12,610 And may he keep you pure and faithful. 1026 00:54:12,610 --> 00:54:15,030 Whether married or single. 1027 00:54:18,050 --> 00:54:19,250 Younger or older. 1028 00:54:21,130 --> 00:54:23,850 Involved in ministry or some phase of ministry 1029 00:54:23,850 --> 00:54:25,970 or some secular role. 1030 00:54:26,530 --> 00:54:28,170 Whatever may keep you faithful. 1031 00:54:32,950 --> 00:54:35,810 May your grandson always be able to leave 1032 00:54:35,810 --> 00:54:36,910 you a note like this. 1033 00:54:50,280 --> 00:54:53,100 Our father, we confess to you that we 1034 00:54:53,100 --> 00:54:54,600 are mere human beings. 1035 00:54:54,900 --> 00:54:57,000 We are mere women and men. 1036 00:54:57,000 --> 00:54:59,120 We are not super people. 1037 00:55:01,330 --> 00:55:03,510 The same nature that beat in the heart 1038 00:55:03,510 --> 00:55:05,190 of David beats in ours. 1039 00:55:08,020 --> 00:55:09,380 And there it is every day to meet 1040 00:55:09,380 --> 00:55:09,580 us. 1041 00:55:09,660 --> 00:55:15,060 Every morning with fresh lurid temptations. 1042 00:55:17,050 --> 00:55:18,710 An enemy ready to pounce. 1043 00:55:19,350 --> 00:55:24,690 Patiently waiting for the moment when that man 1044 00:55:24,690 --> 00:55:26,130 or that woman comes along. 1045 00:55:27,070 --> 00:55:30,510 And no one else will know at that 1046 00:55:30,510 --> 00:55:30,850 time. 1047 00:55:34,340 --> 00:55:36,380 Hold us close to yourself. 1048 00:55:37,120 --> 00:55:42,300 Dear father, may we never ever forget these 1049 00:55:42,300 --> 00:55:42,760 words. 1050 00:55:43,820 --> 00:55:45,820 How the mighty are fallen. 1051 00:55:52,480 --> 00:55:55,760 In the name of Christ, our master, our 1052 00:55:55,760 --> 00:55:56,160 redeemer.