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Thank you for the lovely songs that we

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sang, the hymns of our faith, and the

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very lovely way you sing it.

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Thank you for not singing like the world,

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for singing the old hymns of our faith.

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I do thank you from my heart for

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the joy it is to sit in such

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an atmosphere.

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Thank you also for the very precious word

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our brother said with us this morning.

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Thank you for sharing there, and with your

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family, singing too those lovely, lovely hymns.

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And it is so sweet to trust in

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Jesus.

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Thank you for sharing those precious passages, brother.

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I can't see you in my old age,

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so I'm looking at everyone and saying, thank

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you, brother.

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Where are you, brother?

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Where did you go?

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I hope he hasn't left.

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There you are, in the back.

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Okay, thank you, brother, for sharing those lovely

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passages.

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2 Corinthians 12, verse 7.

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Oh my, what words pour out of there.

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Titus 2, 11, staggering words of grace, what

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grace really calls us to.

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We do bless God, brother, for you sharing

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those things to us this morning, in the

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light of Asa and his downfall.

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Well, we do bless you for waiting on

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God and bringing that which God gave you,

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from your heart and your soul to us,

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brother.

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And may God anoint you and use you

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as you share and fuse to the things

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of God, that God burns in your heart,

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the scriptures God burns in your heart.

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Bless you.

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Now it's my joy to be in your

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country, and especially, very especially to be here.

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I didn't know there was two churches.

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It used to be one, and I'm getting

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used to it.

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But I'm glad to be in the new

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church.

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I think you call yourself the new church?

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Well, the new group.

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Let me think, and the little bits I've

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picked up here and there, most of you,

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the Hutterites.

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I'm getting that word right.

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So you all like to be together.

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Who isn't a Hutterite here?

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Could you put your hand up?

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So you're not all Hutterites.

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Wonderful.

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I'm getting all confused as to who.

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But I believe you're going to have a

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lovely new building, and I'm looking forward, if

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God spares me, to coming and seeing what

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God gives you in a convention center, and

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a place to be able to practically work

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all the things, the remnant and the tape

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ministry.

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Bless the Lord for what God has in

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your heart, and may he honor you.

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The first time I ever came here, I

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thought to myself, these people need a big

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conference.

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I'm glad God's given it to you, because

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you're aiming in it right now.

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Who has, who is belonging to this church

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alone?

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Could you put up your hands?

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I'd like just to see something.

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And who has been coming along to the

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meetings?

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The other side.

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And the rest of you?

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Naughty.

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That's what I say to my children, you

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know, when I really scold them.

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Naughty.

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But, um, now you've come tonight.

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Otherwise, next time I'm here, I'll say naughty

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again, you see.

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That's a thrashing.

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You pray for me, and you please come

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tonight.

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I'll be very grateful.

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And do pray for me as I go

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around your country.

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I've come to love America very deeply, and

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I don't know why God took the basest,

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and the weakest, and the most unworthy of

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priestess from the other side of the world.

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But I think what caliber of men are

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over there in my country, and across Africa,

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how God could take this weak man, and

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give me the privilege of coming to other

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countries, and to your country like this.

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I marvel at God's grace, and mercy.

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world, and the weak things of the world,

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to despise.

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There's no flesher glory in his presence.

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Isn't that lovely?

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God takes up the weakest of us, brother,

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because he knows he won't glory.

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Because if we do, he hasn't here, his

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presence won't be felt.

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So he has to bypass the strong.

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Now, our wonderful Lord, thank thee for this

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lovely day.

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Thank thee that we, as thy people, can

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be together, and sing the hymns of our

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faith to our God.

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And thank thee for fellowship, that is so

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sweet.

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And thank thee, God, for the holy word,

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that we have come to love, for thou

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dost speak to us through it.

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And is there anything so sweet to us

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as thy voice, Lord, when we know it's

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not just words written, it's God speaking to

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me.

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God speaking to me, words so clear, as

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though he was sitting opposite me in a

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chair, looking at me in the eyes, and

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speaking.

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And we have no doubt how thy word

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is like that to us, Lord, sometimes from

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the pulpit, sometimes in our quiet times.

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But there it is, Lord, the word of

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God to our hearts, to quicken us, to

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show us the way, to caution us, to

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encourage us, to comfort us, to heal us.

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So long as this book is open, Lord,

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we will not be offended in thee, blessed

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is the man whose delight is in the

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law of the Lord, and nothing shall offend

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him.

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O God, when our one delight, our great

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delight, is thy law, thy word, nothing shall

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offend us.

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How we love thee.

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How we bless thee for giving us the

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Bible, to be a lamp unto our feet,

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to light unto our path.

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How we bless thee for giving us the

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Bible, for we've learned man shall not and

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cannot live by bread alone, but by every

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word that proceeds out of the mouth of

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God.

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How we bless thee for this word.

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How we bless thee, God, and are able

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to come to thee with the things God

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has held out to us, that our faith

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has been served.

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Remember the word, Lord, unto thy servant upon

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which thou hast caused me to hope.

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Thank thee for every promise in the book

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that thou has given me, God, to keep

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me from faltering, to keep me from taking

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my eyes of God, to keep me from

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losing hope, to fill me with hope where

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there is no hope.

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The staggering work of God in the heart

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through the Bible, we do bless thee for

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it.

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Keep this open before all of us through

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our lives, Lord.

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Now in mercy wash me in the blood,

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fill me with the Holy Spirit, keep us

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under the blood.

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Open our eyes and our hearts in grace

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and mercy on us, and speak to every

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heart in the most profound and precious way.

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We ask these things in the name that

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we love and that we live for, in

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the name we would gladly die for.

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We ask these things in the name of

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Jesus the Christ.

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Amen.

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A good number of years ago I was

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led by God, I believe in my heart,

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in my understanding, to preach a message on

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marriage.

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And I took scriptures and illustrations of the

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things that have happened in the dealings with

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people in the early years of my ministry,

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and I put together as I trusted God

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for guidance, a message concerning how a Christian

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marriage should be, and what God requires of

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us in our home and in our marriage.

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I had no idea how many multitudes and

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multitudes of people across this world, how many

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would seek God through that message.

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Had I known as I put it together,

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I would have even been more careful and

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more diligent.

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I have been thrilled and blessed and encouraged

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to see how that tape of that message

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spread across my land, into homes and homes

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and homes, and how people would walk up

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in the streets, in the malls, how people

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would write letters and phone and say, sir,

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my marriage with hell on earth.

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Terrible words, isn't it?

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Until I heard that message, I was as

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good as living separate, though we lived on

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the same roof.

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We were as good as divorced.

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For years there was no love.

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I had no love, no respect, no ability

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to forgive, bitterness.

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And by the end of that message, God

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worked in my heart love for my wife

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that I've never known before, a healing in

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one moment of grace and divine work by

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the blood of Christ.

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And I love my wife now, and I

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love my husband now, sir, and our marriage

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is healed.

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Oh, how many homes have contacted me and

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said these precious words again and again, and

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that has so encouraged me.

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And then that message I preached once here

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in America, and it spread, and I do

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bless God for the fruit here in your

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land through that one message.

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But then the Americans did something strange, you

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know, they heard I'd be here in February

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in New York this year, and so people

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up in Ohio phoned me and said, we

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have a meeting annually in a big restaurant

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called the Amis Inn.

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I don't know if you've seen it, it's

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a big, big, big restaurant in some form

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of hotel, I think.

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And this dear lady said, we have once

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a year a couples evening where people come

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and we speak about marriage, we get the

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priest to preach about marriage.

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Now she said, we've all heard your first

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message on marriage, we'd like you to preach

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something different.

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So she didn't leave me with much time,

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because I was just adding this little meeting

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now onto this program in New York.

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So I tried to, but there was no

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time.

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When I got into the airplane to come

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across the world, I took papers and instead

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of sleeping most of the way and praying,

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I just prepared a message, this trip right

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across the world in the airplane.

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And this is the message I preached that

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night, in that couples evening, where many, many,

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many, many people from all over Ohio and

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other states came, and this massive big complex

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to seek God, about this topic called marriage,

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the Christian home, the Christian marriage.

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There's a verse in the Bible that I

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would like us to consider before we take

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any further step into this subject of marriage.

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they just read it from the pulpit of

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every church in the world, it would have

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staggering consequences in this day and age.

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I doubt that many churches would be willing

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to read this verse, because they would lose

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most of their congregations in one moment, just

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reading it, let alone preaching on it.

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Hebrews 13 verse 4 says these words, marriage

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is honorable.

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Oh, I love that.

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God says that.

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Young people, they might be living together out

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there outside of marriage in their multitude, but

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don't forget, God says marriage is honorable in

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all.

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I love that he added those words, in

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all, in God's eyes.

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When you're married, there's something about a sanctity,

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about all.

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Marriage is honorable in all.

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And the bed, the bed, the bed, undefiled.

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Now the irreligious, the godless, laugh, they joke,

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they snigger, they sneer when you talk about

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the bed.

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It's just something evil, something filthy, something indecent,

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but to God and God's people and to

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the God's Holy One, there's no smile on

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the face, there's no sniggering, there's no seer,

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there's something holy when God talks of that.

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It's sacred.

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There's nothing, nothing, nothing of shame, for there's

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nothing indecent or sinful, there's nothing impure.

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God says marriage is honorable in all, and

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the bed, undefiled, God says.

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In marriage, it's undefiled, it's sacred.

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You could say that word comes close to

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meaning in God's eyes, isn't that precious?

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Undefiled, marriage is honorable in all, and the

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bed, undefiled, but, but, whoremonger and

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a doubterer, God will judge.

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God will judge.

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God will judge.

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God will judge.

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Don't doubt it now.

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Somehow, the great tragedy of this generation that

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you and I live in is that the

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church marriages crumble from the pulpit down across

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all evangelical churches.

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The staggering thing is that the salt of

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the earth is no longer the salt of

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the earth.

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The light of the world no longer can

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show the world the way God wanted, for

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they crumble and marriages everywhere, everywhere, in their

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masses.

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Christian homes are breaking down in these last

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moments of this earth's tragedy, as defilement and

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moral decadence, and giving over in marriage is

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just the order of the day, presented through

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the media as the way of life, as

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the norm, to be unfaithful, as heroic.

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There's nothing defiled, it's regarded as the norm.

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And so the fruit of what you sow,

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America, through Hollywood, you're now reaping.

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You sow moral decadence, you reap morally decadent

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people.

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You pay for what you sow, Hollywood.

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You pay for what you allow, Hollywood, to

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sow, America.

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Suddenly the fruit is there, isn't it?

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Unfaithfulness, defiling, looseness, moral decadence, and the despising

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of marriage, because that's what you put over.

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But the church, the church, where is our

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stand?

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When our marriages start crumbling, I think it's

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time for us as the people of God

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to get back to the Word of God

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and see what have we done wrong?

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What have we done wrong?

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Because if it doesn't work in the home,

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it doesn't work anywhere, brother.

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There's one stepping stone in this book I'd

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like to take.

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It's a chapter you all know, you need

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not look it up.

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I'm sure every woman here knows Word Perfect,

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and every man knows Word Perfect, the words

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of Peter that he says concerning marriage.

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In 1 Peter 3, likewise, ye wives, be

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in subjection.

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You want to know what to do?

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Get back to God's Word, then open your

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heart, even though you don't like the Word,

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world.

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Likewise, ye wives, God says, be in subjection,

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be in subjection, be in subjection to your

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own husbands, that if any obey not the

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Word, they also may without the Word be

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won by the conversation of the wives, by

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the life of the wives, while they behold

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your chaste conversation coupled with fierce.

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Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection unto your

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own husbands.

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When you see the word likewise, you must

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always say, like what?

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That word just doesn't start in a sentence,

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it's normally because of something before.

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Likewise, like what?

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Like who?

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Must I be in subjection, like what?

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What, what example does God give that he's

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saying, like this, I want you to subject

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yourself to your husband, in this particular passage,

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unsaved, a husband that's not righteous, a husband

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that's not good, a husband that treats you

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wrong in its context.

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Don't leave him, win him, God says.

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But this is the way now, be in

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subjection.

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Likewise, like who?

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Let's look at the pre, the words that

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precede this chapter, let's look at the words

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of chapter two, and you find the word

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subjection again and again and again and again,

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and you find that he's pointing you to

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Jesus, like Jesus.

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Oh, I love that.

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I thank God we can point women to

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Jesus.

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If you are not pointed to Christ as

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a standard, you're probably being pointed to heresy.

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He's our standard.

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Beloved, holiness is Christ.

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If you present any other standard as what

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holiness means, you're heretical.

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Oh, the highest standard outwardly is precious, but

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if you're not Christ-like, that high standard

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is ugly, it's judgmental, separationist.

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Law is legalism.

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You can have the highest standard attainable, but

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unless Christ is the standard, your standard isn't

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scriptural.

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The standard of this New Testament is Christ's.

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Take that away and you have heresy.

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Put other standards and leave that out and

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you have something ugly, and people won't want

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God, beginning with your children.

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The fruit of the Spirit is Christ.

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The standard of the scriptures is Christ.

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Holiness is Christ.

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If it isn't, it's heresy.

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If anyone points you to anything but Christ,

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you're in trouble.

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Run!

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He points us to Jesus.

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Oh, your standard is beautiful, you people.

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Don't think I stand here looking at the

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modesty of your dress, condemning you.

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It's precious, but let me tell you, I

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have been with people so modestly dressed, your

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heart wants to crumble, but watch them react

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in one minute.

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Watch them speak words of scathingness in one

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minute.

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You want to run!

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It's so ugly.

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It must be Christ, or it's not worth

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anything preaching about, or giving, or following.

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He points us to Jesus.

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Likewise, likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to

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your own husbands, that if any obey not

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the word, they may also without the word

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be won by the conversation, by the life

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of the wife, while they behold your taste,

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conversation coupled with fear.

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What about Jesus?

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He's an example of what I must be

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when God says, likewise, ye wives, be in

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subjection.

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What like Jesus?

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Let's look at Jesus then.

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Let's look at the words, chapter 2, verse

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19.

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For this is thankworthy, this is thankworthy, if

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a man for conscience toward God endure grief,

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suffering wrongfully.

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For what glory is it when you be

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buffeted for your faults, ye shall take it

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patiently.

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But if when you do well and suffer

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for it, ye take it patiently, this is

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acceptable with God.

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For even here unto where ye call, because

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Christ also suffered for us, leaving us an

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example that ye should follow his steps, who

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did no sin, neither was guile found in

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his mouth, who when he was reviled, reviled

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not again.

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When he suffered, he threatened not, but committed

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himself to him that judges righteously.

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Now in the light of this whole chapter,

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we come to these words, likewise, like Jesus,

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who left us an example that ye should

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follow his steps, who did no sin, when

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you don't do any sin, neither was guile

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found in your mouth, when you don't say

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anything wrong and people revile you, you don't

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revile back.

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When you suffer, you don't threaten, you just

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commit yourself to him that judges righteously.

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Likewise, ye wives, like Jesus, be in subjection

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to those who are not righteous toward you,

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to those who treat you wrongly, to things

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you don't deserve, so that you can win

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him.

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It's precious that God turns to the wife

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you know and says, I want you to

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be the one in subjection.

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That doesn't belittle you, that honors you.

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God can't turn to a man.

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He made you in a way that he

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can honor you because you can do it.

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You can do something to heal the home.

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I often wonder why it seems most women

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come to God across the world before men,

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because somehow God can reach the hardened man

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to a woman's life, because you have a

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grace men don't have.

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You can be in subjection.

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You have something so great in you that

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God has given you an ability that a

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man can't have, and so God has to

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bypass the strong, proud man.

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Don't think it's a belittling aspect that God

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holds you.

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You are honored that God turns to you

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where there's problems in the home, and he

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says, I want you to be the one.

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He starts with the woman.

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By honoring you, you have the ability, you

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have a greatness to be like Christ when

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there's troubles in the home.

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Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your

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own husbands, that if any obey not the

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word.

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They also may without the word be won

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by the conversation of the wives.

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You're not going to win him when he

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gets under a great preacher, but you will

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win him if you obey me, God says.

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Without the word you can win him.

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You can win him while they behold your

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chaste conversation coupled with fear, whose adorning, let

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it not be that outward adorning of plating

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the hair and of wearing of gold, or

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of putting on of apparel, but let it

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be the hidden man of the heart in

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that which is not corruptible, even the ornament

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of a meek and quiet spirit, which is

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in the sight of God of great price.

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For after this manner in the old time,

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the holy woman also who trusted in God

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adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own

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husbands, even as Sarah, even as Sarah obeyed

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Abraham, calling him Lord, whose daughters ye are,

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as long as ye do well and not

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afraid with any amazement.

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Likewise ye husbands, oh my, so it's not

540
00:27:28,160 --> 00:27:29,640
only the wives that have to be like

541
00:27:29,640 --> 00:27:30,080
Jesus.

542
00:27:32,150 --> 00:27:33,830
All right now you can sit back and

543
00:27:33,830 --> 00:27:34,810
it's the husband's turn.

544
00:27:38,380 --> 00:27:41,200
Likewise ye husbands, you mean I've got to

545
00:27:41,200 --> 00:27:45,440
be like Jesus when my wife isn't perfect,

546
00:27:46,780 --> 00:27:52,230
when she fails, that I'm not allowed to

547
00:27:52,230 --> 00:27:54,510
become bitter against my wife, but to love

548
00:27:54,510 --> 00:27:56,670
and be not bitter no matter how weak

549
00:27:56,670 --> 00:27:59,590
she is in her weakness, at those times

550
00:27:59,590 --> 00:28:02,710
she fails under the strain and pressure of

551
00:28:02,710 --> 00:28:04,670
life that I mainly put upon her anyway.

552
00:28:06,170 --> 00:28:09,350
Likewise ye husbands, oh remember like who?

553
00:28:10,110 --> 00:28:15,990
Likewise ye husbands, ye husbands, dwell with them

554
00:28:17,030 --> 00:28:18,570
according to knowledge.

555
00:28:19,690 --> 00:28:21,350
You know with that word dwell with us,

556
00:28:21,510 --> 00:28:25,490
actually it means remain faithful to them, not

557
00:28:25,490 --> 00:28:28,470
just live under the same roof, separated, remain

558
00:28:28,470 --> 00:28:30,770
faithful, don't leave them now, they're the weaker

559
00:28:30,770 --> 00:28:33,590
vessel, they might not be perfect, but dwell

560
00:28:33,590 --> 00:28:34,030
with them.

561
00:28:34,170 --> 00:28:38,830
Likewise ye husbands, forgive like Christ, sometimes learn

562
00:28:38,830 --> 00:28:41,430
to keep Christ like Christ, when it's best

563
00:28:41,430 --> 00:28:42,050
to keep Christ.

564
00:28:42,310 --> 00:28:45,450
Likewise ye husbands, dwell with them according to

565
00:28:45,450 --> 00:28:45,810
knowledge.

566
00:28:46,190 --> 00:28:46,970
What does that mean?

567
00:28:48,570 --> 00:28:51,470
Well literally it means this, using your common

568
00:28:51,470 --> 00:28:57,500
sense, keep the home, the testimony of the

569
00:28:57,500 --> 00:29:01,120
home, by using your common sense that God's

570
00:29:01,120 --> 00:29:06,280
given you and in its context, dwell with

571
00:29:06,280 --> 00:29:09,820
them according to knowledge, remain faithful to them,

572
00:29:10,140 --> 00:29:12,400
don't leave them no matter how they fail,

573
00:29:12,460 --> 00:29:15,060
no matter how many times you're tempted to

574
00:29:15,060 --> 00:29:22,180
be bitter, don't, dwell with them according to

575
00:29:22,180 --> 00:29:25,320
knowledge, using your common sense, quickened by the

576
00:29:25,320 --> 00:29:27,520
Holy Ghost, you have the Holy Spirit in

577
00:29:27,520 --> 00:29:29,740
you, he will quicken your conscience, you're a

578
00:29:29,740 --> 00:29:34,420
hundred miles stark of the unsaved man, to

579
00:29:34,420 --> 00:29:36,440
know how to react, because the Holy Spirit

580
00:29:36,440 --> 00:29:40,360
will quicken your common sense, dwell with them

581
00:29:40,360 --> 00:29:50,260
ye husbands, according to knowledge, giving honor unto

582
00:29:50,260 --> 00:29:50,820
the wife.

583
00:29:51,220 --> 00:29:53,300
Oh I love that, do you?

584
00:29:54,400 --> 00:29:59,020
You say you obey God sir, your children

585
00:29:59,020 --> 00:30:01,500
honestly know you do, do you honor your

586
00:30:01,500 --> 00:30:02,080
wife?

587
00:30:02,240 --> 00:30:02,520
How?

588
00:30:08,160 --> 00:30:12,810
Do you respect her opinion?

589
00:30:18,130 --> 00:30:20,050
Do you stand when she walks in the

590
00:30:20,050 --> 00:30:21,290
room when guests are there?

591
00:30:22,110 --> 00:30:23,870
Do you open the car door?

592
00:30:25,270 --> 00:30:26,930
Do you show her any...

593
00:30:26,930 --> 00:30:30,450
how if these things don't mean anything?

594
00:30:30,590 --> 00:30:31,470
How do you honor?

595
00:30:32,180 --> 00:30:33,110
How do you...

596
00:30:33,110 --> 00:30:35,110
oh you say you don't break the laws

597
00:30:35,110 --> 00:30:36,610
of God, you don't break the word of

598
00:30:36,610 --> 00:30:37,890
God, you keep it with all your heart,

599
00:30:38,310 --> 00:30:40,850
tell God right now how your children will

600
00:30:40,850 --> 00:30:44,790
remember you obeyed God, you gave honor, you

601
00:30:44,790 --> 00:30:50,990
giving honor, giving honor, giving honor, giving honor,

602
00:30:51,130 --> 00:30:53,910
not just a moment, right through the day,

603
00:30:54,050 --> 00:31:00,370
right through life, it's not one moment, and

604
00:31:00,370 --> 00:31:05,570
then bury her insane, it's everything the way

605
00:31:05,570 --> 00:31:11,770
you speak to her, do you honor this

606
00:31:13,340 --> 00:31:20,010
that God gave you, as God wanted you

607
00:31:20,010 --> 00:31:20,230
to?

608
00:31:21,350 --> 00:31:24,910
Likewise ye husbands, dwell with them according to

609
00:31:24,910 --> 00:31:29,410
knowledge, giving honor unto the wife, as unto

610
00:31:29,410 --> 00:31:33,190
the weaker vessels, and as being heirs together

611
00:31:33,190 --> 00:31:35,570
of the grace of life, that your prayers

612
00:31:35,570 --> 00:31:38,670
be not hindered, that your prayers be not

613
00:31:38,670 --> 00:31:41,950
hindered, that your prayers be not hindered.

614
00:31:45,010 --> 00:31:54,810
Now that little phrase is staggering, I

615
00:31:54,810 --> 00:31:57,230
wonder if the prayers of the American church

616
00:31:57,230 --> 00:32:00,930
for America right now are not helping America

617
00:32:00,930 --> 00:32:02,890
just simply because of the state of the

618
00:32:02,890 --> 00:32:06,910
homes, of the marriages of those in the

619
00:32:06,910 --> 00:32:12,070
church, that your prayers be not hindered, that

620
00:32:12,070 --> 00:32:15,710
little statement in its context, it basically means,

621
00:32:15,770 --> 00:32:18,170
it basically means if you live right before

622
00:32:18,170 --> 00:32:20,570
God in your marriage, as God wants you

623
00:32:20,570 --> 00:32:26,950
to, he'll answer your prayer, if you live

624
00:32:26,950 --> 00:32:30,330
right before God generally in life, he will

625
00:32:30,330 --> 00:32:33,130
answer your prayers, listen to this, 1 John

626
00:32:33,130 --> 00:32:37,350
3 verse 20, For if our heart condemn

627
00:32:37,350 --> 00:32:43,250
us, God is greater than our heart, and

628
00:32:43,250 --> 00:32:44,550
knoweth all things.

629
00:32:44,690 --> 00:32:48,810
Beloved, if our heart condemn us not, then

630
00:32:48,810 --> 00:32:54,850
have we confidence toward God, and whatsoever we

631
00:32:54,850 --> 00:32:59,490
ask, we receive of him, because we keep

632
00:32:59,490 --> 00:33:03,090
his commandments, and do those things that are

633
00:33:03,090 --> 00:33:04,330
pleasing in his sight.

634
00:33:05,850 --> 00:33:08,610
Oh, that your prayers be not hindered, that

635
00:33:08,610 --> 00:33:12,250
little term basically means, if you live right

636
00:33:12,250 --> 00:33:18,270
before God in life, in your marriage, especially

637
00:33:18,270 --> 00:33:22,210
in this context, God will answer your prayers,

638
00:33:23,390 --> 00:33:26,930
whatsoever we ask, we receive of him, because

639
00:33:26,930 --> 00:33:30,970
we keep his commandments, and do those things

640
00:33:30,970 --> 00:33:32,210
that are pleasing in his sight.

641
00:33:32,570 --> 00:33:36,410
There's always a condition to prayers being answered,

642
00:33:41,440 --> 00:33:43,860
but that little phrase, that your prayers be

643
00:33:43,860 --> 00:33:46,960
not hindered, in its context and in the

644
00:33:46,960 --> 00:33:48,740
light of all other scriptures about what God

645
00:33:48,740 --> 00:33:51,420
is speaking about here, it means so much

646
00:33:51,420 --> 00:33:52,480
more than that.

647
00:33:52,820 --> 00:33:59,010
You see, a husband and a wife spend

648
00:33:59,010 --> 00:34:05,470
more time praying together in their lifetime for

649
00:34:05,470 --> 00:34:09,530
their children than anything else.

650
00:34:09,650 --> 00:34:10,750
I want to repeat that.

651
00:34:10,870 --> 00:34:15,050
A husband and wife spend more time in

652
00:34:17,960 --> 00:34:25,040
their lifetime praying together for their children than

653
00:34:25,040 --> 00:34:26,420
anything else.

654
00:34:26,780 --> 00:34:28,580
I want you to listen to these words,

655
00:34:30,580 --> 00:34:32,260
and I want you to listen carefully.

656
00:34:34,199 --> 00:34:40,139
Oh, how our prayers will be hindered when

657
00:34:40,139 --> 00:34:42,460
one day we are forced to pray for

658
00:34:42,460 --> 00:34:45,980
our children to be right with God, if

659
00:34:45,980 --> 00:34:48,940
we were not holy in our marriage.

660
00:34:49,420 --> 00:34:50,600
I want to repeat that.

661
00:34:51,420 --> 00:34:54,300
Oh, how our prayers will be hindered when

662
00:34:54,300 --> 00:34:56,900
we are forced to pray for our children

663
00:34:56,900 --> 00:34:59,920
to be right with God, if we were

664
00:34:59,920 --> 00:35:01,800
not holy in our marriage.

665
00:35:02,080 --> 00:35:05,360
When we pray for our children, how much

666
00:35:05,360 --> 00:35:09,020
of it is for God to undo the

667
00:35:09,020 --> 00:35:13,240
damage we've done through our influences upon their

668
00:35:13,240 --> 00:35:13,600
lives.

669
00:35:13,640 --> 00:35:14,640
I want to repeat that.

670
00:35:15,160 --> 00:35:17,800
When we pray for our children, how much

671
00:35:17,800 --> 00:35:20,920
of it is for God to undo the

672
00:35:20,920 --> 00:35:24,260
damage we've done through our influences upon their

673
00:35:24,260 --> 00:35:27,580
lives from our own failures and our sins

674
00:35:27,580 --> 00:35:30,480
in our marriage that they have witnessed.

675
00:35:33,530 --> 00:35:36,010
How can you expect God to answer your

676
00:35:36,010 --> 00:35:38,150
prayers for your children to be holy and

677
00:35:38,150 --> 00:35:41,670
Christ-like in their marriage, if you didn't

678
00:35:41,670 --> 00:35:45,930
show them it's possible through the example of

679
00:35:45,930 --> 00:35:50,980
your life, especially in your marriage.

680
00:35:52,080 --> 00:35:54,980
You see, if Christianity doesn't work in the

681
00:35:54,980 --> 00:35:58,900
home, can it work anywhere in truth, your

682
00:35:58,900 --> 00:36:00,760
children will reason like that.

683
00:36:01,900 --> 00:36:03,980
Let your prayers be not hindered.

684
00:36:05,180 --> 00:36:07,440
Oh, how our prayers will be hindered when

685
00:36:07,440 --> 00:36:09,340
we're forced to pray for our children to

686
00:36:09,340 --> 00:36:11,000
get right with God, if we were not

687
00:36:11,000 --> 00:36:12,200
holy in our marriage.

688
00:36:12,820 --> 00:36:14,560
It will be the reason that our prayers

689
00:36:14,560 --> 00:36:15,320
will be hindered.

690
00:36:23,740 --> 00:36:25,840
I was preaching a while back in my

691
00:36:25,840 --> 00:36:32,630
country, and a very dignified, deeply religious lady

692
00:36:32,630 --> 00:36:35,010
wanted to see me desperately as the meetings

693
00:36:35,010 --> 00:36:37,070
were going on, and people were seeking God.

694
00:36:37,890 --> 00:36:40,010
And so they arranged for me to see

695
00:36:40,010 --> 00:36:40,570
this lady.

696
00:36:40,870 --> 00:36:42,610
I would never sit alone with a woman.

697
00:36:45,430 --> 00:36:47,470
The minister of the church that had invited

698
00:36:47,470 --> 00:36:50,430
me said to me, oh well, now you

699
00:36:50,430 --> 00:36:52,830
sit in the lounge with her, and my

700
00:36:52,830 --> 00:36:55,550
wife and I, we'll sit in the dining

701
00:36:55,550 --> 00:36:57,910
room next to the lounge so that we're

702
00:36:57,910 --> 00:36:58,650
right in the home.

703
00:36:58,810 --> 00:37:01,670
She wants to speak private things, but you

704
00:37:01,670 --> 00:37:03,290
will be there, but we'll be right beside

705
00:37:03,290 --> 00:37:04,170
you in this house.

706
00:37:06,810 --> 00:37:08,030
So this lady sat.

707
00:37:08,410 --> 00:37:09,250
She wanted time.

708
00:37:09,390 --> 00:37:10,830
She wanted to be out of sight of

709
00:37:10,830 --> 00:37:12,090
others as she spoke to me.

710
00:37:14,280 --> 00:37:18,940
And there she sat, a very dignified, gracious

711
00:37:18,940 --> 00:37:23,300
-looking lady, tears in her eyes.

712
00:37:26,610 --> 00:37:31,010
She said, sir, our home is broken right

713
00:37:31,010 --> 00:37:35,970
now because my son-in-law wants to

714
00:37:35,970 --> 00:37:37,310
divorce our daughter.

715
00:37:38,450 --> 00:37:41,350
My son-in-law wants to divorce my

716
00:37:41,350 --> 00:37:41,810
daughter.

717
00:37:42,890 --> 00:37:44,810
It is so broken, our home.

718
00:37:50,370 --> 00:37:52,990
I said to her, is he saved?

719
00:37:55,670 --> 00:37:57,950
She looked at me and she said, he

720
00:37:57,950 --> 00:37:59,370
said he was saved.

721
00:38:00,950 --> 00:38:05,620
And we trusted him, but he hasn't treated

722
00:38:05,620 --> 00:38:06,880
my daughter rightly.

723
00:38:07,020 --> 00:38:08,860
He hasn't been right to my daughter.

724
00:38:09,440 --> 00:38:10,860
He's treated her wrongly.

725
00:38:11,640 --> 00:38:12,980
Now he doesn't want her.

726
00:38:14,040 --> 00:38:15,700
Now he wants to divorce her.

727
00:38:16,840 --> 00:38:18,100
What are we going to do?

728
00:38:20,900 --> 00:38:23,320
I looked at this broken lady and her

729
00:38:23,320 --> 00:38:26,680
fear and the hurting going on in her

730
00:38:26,680 --> 00:38:28,440
heart as a Christian mother.

731
00:38:30,720 --> 00:38:32,320
And after a while I said, lady, can

732
00:38:32,320 --> 00:38:33,540
I ask you a question?

733
00:38:34,400 --> 00:38:35,520
She said, yes.

734
00:38:37,770 --> 00:38:41,210
I said, is it possible, forgive me for

735
00:38:41,210 --> 00:38:45,790
saying this, is it possible that there's two

736
00:38:45,790 --> 00:38:50,930
sides to the story, that it isn't only

737
00:38:50,930 --> 00:38:54,850
his fault that this marriage has crumbled, that

738
00:38:54,850 --> 00:38:56,890
your daughter's to blame also?

739
00:39:00,610 --> 00:39:05,130
Is it possible, lady, that your daughter had

740
00:39:05,130 --> 00:39:07,170
something to do with the breakdown of this

741
00:39:07,170 --> 00:39:07,470
marriage?

742
00:39:07,570 --> 00:39:10,610
Is it possible, lady, that your daughter gave

743
00:39:10,610 --> 00:39:14,670
him reason to stop loving her, to not

744
00:39:14,670 --> 00:39:15,550
want her anymore?

745
00:39:16,230 --> 00:39:17,370
Is it possible?

746
00:39:20,560 --> 00:39:24,240
This lady's mouth fell open in shock and

747
00:39:24,240 --> 00:39:25,120
her eyes went wide.

748
00:39:26,200 --> 00:39:30,180
She sat back and after about a minute

749
00:39:30,180 --> 00:39:32,180
she just bowed and began to sob.

750
00:39:33,500 --> 00:39:36,120
After a while she composed herself.

751
00:39:38,860 --> 00:39:40,620
She said to me, oh sir, God sent

752
00:39:40,620 --> 00:39:41,160
me here.

753
00:39:42,440 --> 00:39:44,500
I have not wanted to admit this to

754
00:39:44,500 --> 00:39:44,980
myself.

755
00:39:45,760 --> 00:39:47,800
I've been fighting it out of my mind.

756
00:39:49,700 --> 00:39:50,620
But it's true.

757
00:39:53,760 --> 00:39:55,020
It's her fault.

758
00:39:56,800 --> 00:39:57,940
And she sobbed again.

759
00:39:59,320 --> 00:40:02,640
But then she said these words, but there's

760
00:40:02,640 --> 00:40:04,700
something even more terrible than that, sir.

761
00:40:07,250 --> 00:40:08,670
It's because of me.

762
00:40:11,760 --> 00:40:16,220
You see, she treats her husband exactly like

763
00:40:16,220 --> 00:40:17,300
I treated mine.

764
00:40:19,950 --> 00:40:21,810
When I look at the way she speaks,

765
00:40:21,910 --> 00:40:23,170
when I look at the way she treats

766
00:40:23,170 --> 00:40:25,110
her life, my heart sinks.

767
00:40:25,230 --> 00:40:27,910
I can't challenge her because that's how I

768
00:40:27,910 --> 00:40:28,650
treated mine.

769
00:40:28,850 --> 00:40:30,890
I did not give her the example.

770
00:40:31,590 --> 00:40:33,610
I did not live out an example to

771
00:40:33,610 --> 00:40:37,430
my children in my home of what a

772
00:40:37,430 --> 00:40:37,790
husband.

773
00:40:48,490 --> 00:40:53,470
I only realize now how unhappy my husband

774
00:40:53,470 --> 00:40:55,210
must have been through the years.

775
00:40:56,790 --> 00:41:02,220
But I marvel, now I marvel at his

776
00:41:02,220 --> 00:41:02,660
grace.

777
00:41:05,440 --> 00:41:06,480
He didn't leave me.

778
00:41:08,040 --> 00:41:09,440
He endured me.

779
00:41:14,110 --> 00:41:15,310
He endured me.

780
00:41:18,550 --> 00:41:20,450
Let your prayers be not hindered.

781
00:41:22,190 --> 00:41:26,750
It's a terrible statement, sir, lady.

782
00:41:28,250 --> 00:41:29,970
It's a fearful statement.

783
00:41:30,830 --> 00:41:35,140
If you're not going to live it, wait

784
00:41:35,140 --> 00:41:37,520
for the fruit of it, of not living

785
00:41:37,520 --> 00:41:42,420
it, when you have to start praying, because

786
00:41:42,420 --> 00:41:43,760
of the fruit of what you were in

787
00:41:43,760 --> 00:41:44,120
that home.

788
00:41:50,120 --> 00:41:51,540
I was once in a town when I

789
00:41:51,540 --> 00:41:53,540
was a young preacher about 30 years ago,

790
00:41:56,010 --> 00:41:57,310
and I stayed in the home of a

791
00:41:57,310 --> 00:41:58,690
very godly woman.

792
00:41:59,450 --> 00:42:04,790
She had little children, but something about this

793
00:42:04,790 --> 00:42:05,890
woman shook my heart.

794
00:42:06,490 --> 00:42:09,590
She was incapable of being unkind.

795
00:42:09,750 --> 00:42:13,890
She was incapable of saying an unkind word

796
00:42:13,890 --> 00:42:16,350
about anyone, no matter how guilty a person

797
00:42:16,350 --> 00:42:16,670
was.

798
00:42:16,770 --> 00:42:18,990
She just waited to try and defend.

799
00:42:19,970 --> 00:42:22,770
Otherwise she kept quite agonizing if something ugly

800
00:42:22,770 --> 00:42:24,050
was being said about anybody.

801
00:42:24,090 --> 00:42:25,770
Even if it was true, she went through

802
00:42:25,770 --> 00:42:28,770
torment that something was being said, but she

803
00:42:28,770 --> 00:42:31,570
just seemed to live and wait for the

804
00:42:31,570 --> 00:42:35,530
moment she could protect, or somehow defend, or

805
00:42:35,530 --> 00:42:36,570
say something kind.

806
00:42:36,670 --> 00:42:39,410
But it's like incapable of saying anything unkind

807
00:42:39,410 --> 00:42:41,870
about even people who deserved unkind words said

808
00:42:41,870 --> 00:42:42,330
about them.

809
00:42:42,850 --> 00:42:44,650
And I saw the Christ-like youth of

810
00:42:44,650 --> 00:42:47,230
this woman, and it staggered my heart, as

811
00:42:47,230 --> 00:42:50,730
other Christians fail without hesitating, condemning people.

812
00:42:52,370 --> 00:42:54,950
Well years went by before I went back

813
00:42:54,950 --> 00:42:55,670
to that town.

814
00:42:55,770 --> 00:42:57,410
It shook me when they invited me, and

815
00:42:57,410 --> 00:43:00,750
people arranged meetings there, and I got back

816
00:43:00,750 --> 00:43:01,470
in that home.

817
00:43:01,710 --> 00:43:03,350
Now those little girls had grown up.

818
00:43:03,450 --> 00:43:06,150
They were women with married, they were married

819
00:43:06,150 --> 00:43:07,890
with children of their own that were grown

820
00:43:07,890 --> 00:43:08,190
up.

821
00:43:09,250 --> 00:43:10,910
That's how many years went by.

822
00:43:14,660 --> 00:43:16,520
Here were the daughters now, and I was

823
00:43:16,520 --> 00:43:17,460
in the home of the daughter.

824
00:43:17,560 --> 00:43:20,700
They brought their godly old mother, now aged,

825
00:43:21,300 --> 00:43:22,880
down to have a meal on a Sunday

826
00:43:22,880 --> 00:43:25,200
in the home, in the farmhouse.

827
00:43:26,060 --> 00:43:27,880
I preached that morning, I was going to

828
00:43:27,880 --> 00:43:29,360
preach the night, but there they brought her

829
00:43:29,360 --> 00:43:30,760
to see me after all these years and

830
00:43:30,760 --> 00:43:31,260
her frailty.

831
00:43:31,660 --> 00:43:33,120
And you know, after all those years, that

832
00:43:33,120 --> 00:43:35,420
woman was so Christ-like, so much more

833
00:43:35,420 --> 00:43:41,550
Christ-like, that she was like a God's

834
00:43:41,550 --> 00:43:42,570
presence in that home.

835
00:43:43,590 --> 00:43:45,670
You weigh your words in such a person's

836
00:43:45,670 --> 00:43:46,050
company.

837
00:43:49,880 --> 00:43:51,460
When she left, I looked at the daughter

838
00:43:51,460 --> 00:43:52,640
and I said, oh your mother was a

839
00:43:52,640 --> 00:43:54,960
blessing to me when I was a young

840
00:43:54,960 --> 00:43:56,980
priester, but she's just equally now.

841
00:43:57,160 --> 00:43:58,800
I'm just so blessed all over again that

842
00:43:58,800 --> 00:44:00,520
the woman can be so Christ-like as

843
00:44:00,520 --> 00:44:02,900
this woman, that it seems incapable of any

844
00:44:02,900 --> 00:44:05,580
unkindness, no matter how unkind the world is.

845
00:44:05,900 --> 00:44:10,380
She's just kindness, incapable of anything of anger

846
00:44:10,380 --> 00:44:14,180
or malice or judgment.

847
00:44:15,080 --> 00:44:16,800
And this lady looked at me and said,

848
00:44:16,840 --> 00:44:19,200
Keith, you don't know the half about my

849
00:44:19,200 --> 00:44:19,540
mother.

850
00:44:22,300 --> 00:44:24,740
My father was a monster, Keith.

851
00:44:25,840 --> 00:44:27,640
He wasn't just a bad man, he was

852
00:44:27,640 --> 00:44:29,920
a monster in our home.

853
00:44:32,570 --> 00:44:34,130
He was so bad that one day when

854
00:44:34,130 --> 00:44:36,330
my father walked out the door, my sister

855
00:44:36,330 --> 00:44:38,250
and I grabbed my mother and we screamed,

856
00:44:38,370 --> 00:44:40,970
let's run before he comes back.

857
00:44:41,090 --> 00:44:42,610
God doesn't want this of you, mommy.

858
00:44:42,830 --> 00:44:44,810
God doesn't expect this of you, mommy.

859
00:44:45,610 --> 00:44:46,990
Let's get away from him.

860
00:44:49,460 --> 00:44:51,200
And our mother looked at us in shock

861
00:44:51,200 --> 00:44:57,430
and said, no, no, I'm not leaving your

862
00:44:57,430 --> 00:44:57,890
father.

863
00:44:59,310 --> 00:45:03,170
When I said to death, I meant it.

864
00:45:05,740 --> 00:45:07,140
Listen to me, my girls.

865
00:45:08,200 --> 00:45:11,900
If your father was a psychopath, if your

866
00:45:11,900 --> 00:45:13,960
lives was in danger, I would run now

867
00:45:13,960 --> 00:45:14,280
with you.

868
00:45:14,380 --> 00:45:14,980
I would run.

869
00:45:15,120 --> 00:45:16,580
I would know God wouldn't want me to

870
00:45:16,580 --> 00:45:18,260
stay with a man who could murder you

871
00:45:18,260 --> 00:45:18,880
or kill you.

872
00:45:18,880 --> 00:45:21,040
But your father's not a psychopath.

873
00:45:21,260 --> 00:45:24,500
He's just unsaved, very unsaved.

874
00:45:26,220 --> 00:45:28,280
But when I married him, I wasn't saved.

875
00:45:28,360 --> 00:45:30,320
I've come to Christ, but getting saved doesn't

876
00:45:30,320 --> 00:45:32,500
mean I leave him because he's not good.

877
00:45:34,300 --> 00:45:35,800
I have to win him, girls.

878
00:45:37,160 --> 00:45:38,560
I have to win him and I'm going

879
00:45:38,560 --> 00:45:38,900
to.

880
00:45:40,020 --> 00:45:41,080
I'm not leaving him.

881
00:45:41,120 --> 00:45:42,580
Don't you ever tell me to do that

882
00:45:42,580 --> 00:45:42,820
again.

883
00:45:43,140 --> 00:45:44,100
I have to win him.

884
00:45:44,180 --> 00:45:45,040
I'm going to.

885
00:45:46,120 --> 00:45:47,700
But listen to me, girls.

886
00:45:50,140 --> 00:45:51,740
I will never have to give account to

887
00:45:51,740 --> 00:45:54,420
God for anything your father does to me.

888
00:45:57,110 --> 00:45:59,310
Your father will have to give account to

889
00:45:59,310 --> 00:46:00,130
God one day.

890
00:46:00,510 --> 00:46:02,330
I will never have to give account to

891
00:46:02,330 --> 00:46:04,190
God for anything he's done or said.

892
00:46:05,290 --> 00:46:08,270
But I will have to give account to

893
00:46:08,270 --> 00:46:10,530
God for how I react to your father.

894
00:46:11,310 --> 00:46:13,770
No matter how wrong your father is, I

895
00:46:13,770 --> 00:46:15,850
will have to give account to God for

896
00:46:15,850 --> 00:46:19,350
every word I utter it, for every reaction

897
00:46:19,350 --> 00:46:21,610
I react, no matter how unreasonable he is.

898
00:46:22,370 --> 00:46:23,690
And I don't want to have to give

899
00:46:23,690 --> 00:46:25,790
account to God for anything I've said or

900
00:46:25,790 --> 00:46:26,490
done, nothing.

901
00:46:32,780 --> 00:46:38,310
Then she said these words, Keith, my father

902
00:46:38,310 --> 00:46:39,670
did come to Jesus.

903
00:46:41,290 --> 00:46:44,710
He got gloriously saved as he agonized in

904
00:46:44,710 --> 00:46:46,370
the end over the life of my mother.

905
00:46:47,370 --> 00:46:49,970
She brought him to Christ, that eternal life,

906
00:46:50,890 --> 00:46:52,110
because she wouldn't leave him.

907
00:46:52,110 --> 00:46:52,870
She won him.

908
00:46:53,710 --> 00:46:56,150
But we never saw my mother fail God

909
00:46:56,150 --> 00:46:56,930
once, Keith.

910
00:47:00,020 --> 00:47:02,280
We've spoken about it again and again, my

911
00:47:02,280 --> 00:47:02,960
sister and I.

912
00:47:03,060 --> 00:47:06,640
We never saw our mother once fail God.

913
00:47:07,200 --> 00:47:09,680
She was Christ-like, no matter what our

914
00:47:09,680 --> 00:47:10,800
father did to her.

915
00:47:12,880 --> 00:47:17,180
And now we're married, and we have husbands,

916
00:47:17,340 --> 00:47:20,000
and they're saved, but they're not perfect.

917
00:47:20,200 --> 00:47:21,120
They're not angels.

918
00:47:23,480 --> 00:47:27,200
And when our husbands fail, we're so careful,

919
00:47:27,520 --> 00:47:29,180
Keith, how we react to their failures.

920
00:47:29,320 --> 00:47:29,920
Do you know why?

921
00:47:31,100 --> 00:47:33,660
Because our mother left us an example that

922
00:47:33,660 --> 00:47:36,660
no matter how horrible things are, God gives

923
00:47:36,660 --> 00:47:38,200
you grace if you want it to be

924
00:47:38,200 --> 00:47:40,880
utterly Christ-like, no matter what your husband's

925
00:47:40,880 --> 00:47:41,640
failures are.

926
00:47:42,260 --> 00:47:45,600
If you want to be victorious, you haven't

927
00:47:45,600 --> 00:47:47,160
got him to blame for failure.

928
00:47:48,220 --> 00:47:50,980
The grace is there, and before we react

929
00:47:50,980 --> 00:47:53,260
to our husband's failures, and they fail, though

930
00:47:53,260 --> 00:47:56,240
they're saved, we always remember our mother's life,

931
00:47:56,480 --> 00:47:59,120
the example that she gave to us to

932
00:47:59,120 --> 00:48:01,920
prove to us, you can be Christ-like

933
00:48:01,920 --> 00:48:05,480
if you want to, no matter how much

934
00:48:05,480 --> 00:48:06,140
they fail.

935
00:48:07,060 --> 00:48:09,480
We're so careful before we react to our

936
00:48:09,480 --> 00:48:12,220
husband's failures, because of our mother's example and

937
00:48:12,220 --> 00:48:14,340
life that sold us, you can be victorious.

938
00:48:20,580 --> 00:48:25,000
Is that good to you, ladies, that your

939
00:48:25,000 --> 00:48:27,860
daughters one day will be following your example,

940
00:48:28,920 --> 00:48:32,280
what you were in the home, the way

941
00:48:32,280 --> 00:48:36,870
you reacted when your husband failed, that you

942
00:48:36,870 --> 00:48:39,450
showed her how to be, and that it's

943
00:48:39,450 --> 00:48:42,910
possible by God's grace, that her conscience won't

944
00:48:42,910 --> 00:48:44,890
let her destroy the marriage, but win him,

945
00:48:45,630 --> 00:48:48,330
because you showed him, you showed her.

946
00:48:49,870 --> 00:48:51,750
Is that acceptable to you, mothers?

947
00:48:51,870 --> 00:48:54,110
Is that acceptable to you, fathers, that your

948
00:48:55,870 --> 00:48:59,330
boys are going to treat their wives like

949
00:48:59,330 --> 00:49:00,230
you treated yours?

950
00:49:03,610 --> 00:49:06,170
You showed the way, didn't you, what a

951
00:49:06,170 --> 00:49:07,110
godly man is.

952
00:49:08,210 --> 00:49:10,050
So as happy as your wife is to

953
00:49:10,050 --> 00:49:12,390
you, so happy will be your children's wife,

954
00:49:13,070 --> 00:49:16,090
if that's what's going to happen, if the

955
00:49:16,090 --> 00:49:19,810
example was what they're going to follow, and

956
00:49:19,810 --> 00:49:22,010
say, well, that's Christianity, that's as far as

957
00:49:22,010 --> 00:49:24,510
you can go in victory, that's as much

958
00:49:24,510 --> 00:49:27,130
as God requires of me, what I saw

959
00:49:27,130 --> 00:49:27,570
in Daddy.

960
00:49:33,700 --> 00:49:35,540
You know, when I wanted to court Jenny,

961
00:49:36,500 --> 00:49:39,280
I can't tell you what happened to my

962
00:49:39,280 --> 00:49:41,060
heart when I saw my wife, you know.

963
00:49:42,400 --> 00:49:44,560
I was ruined forever.

964
00:49:45,640 --> 00:49:49,460
It was the end of my, I don't

965
00:49:49,460 --> 00:49:52,700
know, I just, when I saw Jenny, I

966
00:49:52,700 --> 00:49:54,520
never knew there was such a beautiful thing

967
00:49:54,520 --> 00:49:55,460
on earth, you know.

968
00:49:55,640 --> 00:49:57,840
It hadn't occurred to me there was such

969
00:49:57,840 --> 00:49:58,860
beauty.

970
00:50:00,200 --> 00:50:01,780
I was just smitten.

971
00:50:05,280 --> 00:50:10,720
But then now, I wanted to court Jenny,

972
00:50:14,540 --> 00:50:17,540
and my father-in-law, they call him

973
00:50:17,540 --> 00:50:21,680
Um Yanni Laru, he's an Afrikaner in our

974
00:50:21,680 --> 00:50:28,090
country, he's a buur, that means farmer, but

975
00:50:28,090 --> 00:50:32,050
he's also a preacher, he's more known across

976
00:50:32,050 --> 00:50:33,710
our land as a preacher than a farmer.

977
00:50:33,910 --> 00:50:36,630
I mean, the people who've been through theological

978
00:50:36,630 --> 00:50:39,390
seminaries with degrees behind their name, as many

979
00:50:39,390 --> 00:50:41,830
as they flock everywhere to hear Um Yanni

980
00:50:41,830 --> 00:50:43,970
Laru, the farmer, when he preaches in the

981
00:50:43,970 --> 00:50:47,630
large, great conventions of South Africa, everyone flocks

982
00:50:47,630 --> 00:50:48,510
to hear this farmer.

983
00:50:49,050 --> 00:50:51,230
He's never been through theological seminar, he sits

984
00:50:51,230 --> 00:50:51,950
on his tractor.

985
00:50:53,670 --> 00:50:54,890
You think he's working in the farm?

986
00:50:54,950 --> 00:50:57,650
No, he's working out a message to priests.

987
00:50:58,690 --> 00:51:01,050
And oh, the school of God on the

988
00:51:01,050 --> 00:51:04,110
farm, oh, that's where it works or doesn't

989
00:51:04,110 --> 00:51:04,710
work, you know.

990
00:51:04,950 --> 00:51:05,850
Farming's not easy.

991
00:51:07,370 --> 00:51:09,090
Oh, how he's loved in our country, and

992
00:51:09,090 --> 00:51:11,930
how many multitudes and multitudes of thousands of

993
00:51:11,930 --> 00:51:13,750
people walk with God through his life and

994
00:51:13,750 --> 00:51:15,450
ministry, from people in the Pupa down.

995
00:51:16,050 --> 00:51:18,090
They love this down-to-earth preaching of

996
00:51:18,090 --> 00:51:19,270
a man who knows how to live it,

997
00:51:19,590 --> 00:51:20,550
not just has theology.

998
00:51:22,070 --> 00:51:23,930
Well, he's a priest, not just a farmer.

999
00:51:24,070 --> 00:51:25,990
Now, when I wanted to court Jenny, when

1000
00:51:25,990 --> 00:51:28,410
he saw me looking at his daughter, you

1001
00:51:28,410 --> 00:51:31,530
know, and he saw me, oh my, he

1002
00:51:31,530 --> 00:51:32,690
started preaching at me.

1003
00:51:34,170 --> 00:51:36,110
I just noticed that, shoo, this is a

1004
00:51:36,110 --> 00:51:37,810
sermon, and this man's worked it out for

1005
00:51:37,810 --> 00:51:38,090
me.

1006
00:51:39,130 --> 00:51:40,350
He started preaching.

1007
00:51:40,450 --> 00:51:42,130
The moment he saw me looking at Jenny,

1008
00:51:42,130 --> 00:51:43,130
he started preaching.

1009
00:51:43,250 --> 00:51:44,890
He's still preaching to this day, you know.

1010
00:51:45,630 --> 00:51:47,150
When I see my father-in-law come,

1011
00:51:47,230 --> 00:51:48,910
I just look at him and I say,

1012
00:51:49,030 --> 00:51:49,390
preach.

1013
00:51:51,290 --> 00:51:53,610
He's determined that my marriage isn't going to

1014
00:51:53,610 --> 00:51:54,010
go wrong.

1015
00:51:54,130 --> 00:51:56,330
He's determined that it's his daughter, his darling,

1016
00:51:56,410 --> 00:51:58,330
yes, Jenny is his darling, you know, that

1017
00:51:58,330 --> 00:51:59,290
nothing's going to go wrong.

1018
00:51:59,390 --> 00:52:02,250
Yes, so he's got sermons written for me

1019
00:52:02,250 --> 00:52:05,010
about Abraham and Sarah and Isaac, Rebecca.

1020
00:52:05,010 --> 00:52:06,910
I just thought, you know, this is strange.

1021
00:52:07,030 --> 00:52:07,690
This is for me.

1022
00:52:07,910 --> 00:52:09,530
He's got these whole sermons.

1023
00:52:10,370 --> 00:52:11,750
He just didn't make an appeal.

1024
00:52:13,730 --> 00:52:16,110
Otherwise, I would have been smitten every time.

1025
00:52:16,250 --> 00:52:17,770
Oh, he just made sure nothing would go

1026
00:52:17,770 --> 00:52:17,990
wrong.

1027
00:52:18,010 --> 00:52:19,430
But he saw me looking at Jenny, he

1028
00:52:19,430 --> 00:52:20,170
started to preach.

1029
00:52:21,670 --> 00:52:23,650
Nonetheless, the day came that I wanted to

1030
00:52:23,650 --> 00:52:25,430
ask him if I could court Jenny.

1031
00:52:25,570 --> 00:52:26,930
So I went and I sat there, you

1032
00:52:26,930 --> 00:52:29,290
know, and I looked at this godly man.

1033
00:52:29,530 --> 00:52:31,650
I mean, he's tall and he's big and

1034
00:52:31,650 --> 00:52:34,230
he's a man's man.

1035
00:52:34,230 --> 00:52:37,530
Everybody respects him, you know, the strength, the

1036
00:52:37,530 --> 00:52:39,490
solidness, the Christ-likeness, the wisdom.

1037
00:52:39,650 --> 00:52:41,190
Yes, but you don't play the fool with

1038
00:52:41,190 --> 00:52:41,330
him.

1039
00:52:41,370 --> 00:52:41,910
He's a man.

1040
00:52:43,770 --> 00:52:45,810
And I asked him if I could court

1041
00:52:45,810 --> 00:52:46,170
Jenny.

1042
00:52:47,110 --> 00:52:48,790
And a smile went off his face.

1043
00:52:48,930 --> 00:52:50,230
Oh, and I began to tremble.

1044
00:52:51,510 --> 00:52:53,130
And he sat back and looked at me,

1045
00:52:53,210 --> 00:53:01,510
you know, and he said, Keith, I want

1046
00:53:01,510 --> 00:53:02,930
you to do me a favor, boy.

1047
00:53:05,780 --> 00:53:07,660
I want you to look at my wife.

1048
00:53:09,200 --> 00:53:11,980
I want you to take a careful, careful

1049
00:53:11,980 --> 00:53:13,080
look at Jenny's mommy.

1050
00:53:14,140 --> 00:53:15,500
Keith, I want you to look at the

1051
00:53:15,500 --> 00:53:18,640
way she speaks, the way she speaks to

1052
00:53:18,640 --> 00:53:21,060
me and the children, the way she is

1053
00:53:21,060 --> 00:53:21,680
in the home.

1054
00:53:22,660 --> 00:53:24,320
I want you to look at everything about

1055
00:53:24,320 --> 00:53:25,200
her, her priorities.

1056
00:53:25,620 --> 00:53:27,060
I want you to take a sober look

1057
00:53:27,060 --> 00:53:31,940
at my wife, Keith, because what you see

1058
00:53:31,940 --> 00:53:33,780
in Jenny's mommy is what you will see

1059
00:53:33,780 --> 00:53:35,300
in Jenny 20 years from now.

1060
00:53:37,980 --> 00:53:39,740
I guarantee you that, my boy.

1061
00:53:40,680 --> 00:53:43,520
Is that what you want, Keith, in life?

1062
00:53:44,900 --> 00:53:46,580
Is that what you want, Keith?

1063
00:53:47,840 --> 00:53:48,320
Think.

1064
00:53:48,480 --> 00:53:49,320
Don't you answer me.

1065
00:53:49,480 --> 00:53:51,420
Think before you answer.

1066
00:53:54,270 --> 00:53:58,700
So I thought, and after a while I

1067
00:53:58,700 --> 00:54:02,080
said, well, I think your wife is wonderful.

1068
00:54:02,780 --> 00:54:04,160
I think she's lovely.

1069
00:54:04,760 --> 00:54:07,200
And you look very happily married to her.

1070
00:54:09,370 --> 00:54:10,350
So he laughed.

1071
00:54:10,650 --> 00:54:12,370
He sat back and he laughed.

1072
00:54:13,670 --> 00:54:15,530
And he gave me permission to call Jenny.

1073
00:54:17,530 --> 00:54:23,190
Well, 20 years later, over 20 years now,

1074
00:54:24,950 --> 00:54:26,030
was he right?

1075
00:54:30,390 --> 00:54:30,930
Oh yes.

1076
00:54:31,250 --> 00:54:34,790
So right that there's days I am stunned

1077
00:54:34,790 --> 00:54:37,270
to silence as I look at my wife

1078
00:54:37,270 --> 00:54:40,430
and see her mother in her reactions, in

1079
00:54:40,430 --> 00:54:41,630
the way she speaks to me.

1080
00:54:42,290 --> 00:54:46,670
So much so that I'm staggered.

1081
00:54:46,970 --> 00:54:47,890
He was right.

1082
00:54:48,990 --> 00:54:49,910
He was right.

1083
00:54:55,730 --> 00:54:57,650
The way she speaks to the children, her

1084
00:54:57,650 --> 00:55:01,050
values, her priorities, her reactions to things.

1085
00:55:01,410 --> 00:55:03,430
It's like just knowing what's coming because I've

1086
00:55:03,430 --> 00:55:05,830
seen her mother react in those circumstances over

1087
00:55:05,830 --> 00:55:06,210
the years.

1088
00:55:08,010 --> 00:55:10,830
I do not say that if a woman

1089
00:55:10,830 --> 00:55:12,590
is deranged and evil.

1090
00:55:13,470 --> 00:55:15,010
I do not say that if a woman

1091
00:55:15,010 --> 00:55:18,710
is deranged and evil at her children, her

1092
00:55:18,710 --> 00:55:20,170
daughters have to be like her.

1093
00:55:20,250 --> 00:55:20,470
No.

1094
00:55:21,950 --> 00:55:23,770
But I will say this from my heart.

1095
00:55:23,890 --> 00:55:26,190
99% of the daughters you're looking at

1096
00:55:26,190 --> 00:55:32,460
now, unless they have a vital encounter with

1097
00:55:32,460 --> 00:55:36,160
God that is so real that it will

1098
00:55:36,160 --> 00:55:38,840
change their whole character and refine their whole

1099
00:55:38,840 --> 00:55:41,960
personality, unless they have such an encounter with

1100
00:55:41,960 --> 00:55:45,080
God Himself that so refines and purifies their

1101
00:55:45,080 --> 00:55:48,340
whole character and personality, 99% of the

1102
00:55:48,340 --> 00:55:50,740
children sitting here in 20 years time will

1103
00:55:50,740 --> 00:55:56,090
be their mother, of what they see in

1104
00:55:56,090 --> 00:55:56,450
their mother.

1105
00:55:57,690 --> 00:55:59,110
I guarantee you.

1106
00:56:04,310 --> 00:56:07,490
Can I ask all you mothers here today,

1107
00:56:07,730 --> 00:56:09,130
are you happy about that?

1108
00:56:09,990 --> 00:56:11,970
If that is true, are you happy that

1109
00:56:11,970 --> 00:56:13,730
your daughter will be like you in her

1110
00:56:13,730 --> 00:56:14,090
marriage?

1111
00:56:17,380 --> 00:56:19,320
Are you happy that your daughter will take

1112
00:56:19,320 --> 00:56:22,360
you as an example subconsciously for the rest

1113
00:56:22,360 --> 00:56:22,880
of her life?

1114
00:56:27,110 --> 00:56:29,970
Listen to these words, Proverbs 30 verse 21.

1115
00:56:32,730 --> 00:56:36,230
Four things the earth cannot bear.

1116
00:56:38,520 --> 00:56:41,720
Four things the earth cannot bear.

1117
00:56:42,480 --> 00:56:44,820
One of them, God says in verse 23,

1118
00:56:45,120 --> 00:56:50,700
is an odious woman when she is married.

1119
00:56:51,340 --> 00:56:52,720
Not before she's married.

1120
00:56:56,220 --> 00:56:57,640
What does odious woman mean?

1121
00:56:58,200 --> 00:56:59,360
Listen to what it means.

1122
00:56:59,500 --> 00:57:08,980
Aggressive, unsubmissive, difficult, argumentative, strong-willed,

1123
00:57:10,560 --> 00:57:11,120
ungodly.

1124
00:57:15,300 --> 00:57:19,740
John Wesley was a little man like this,

1125
00:57:19,840 --> 00:57:22,920
you know, about so high, let's see, yeah,

1126
00:57:23,740 --> 00:57:25,020
that's short for a man.

1127
00:57:27,460 --> 00:57:29,340
Thank goodness I'm not so short.

1128
00:57:31,580 --> 00:57:33,240
But he turned the world upside down.

1129
00:57:33,360 --> 00:57:35,160
He brought England back to God when a

1130
00:57:35,160 --> 00:57:39,900
bloodbath was flowing from the poor, just wiping

1131
00:57:39,900 --> 00:57:45,480
out the guillotined, the upper crusty writs.

1132
00:57:46,620 --> 00:57:48,860
The blood was about to start flowing in

1133
00:57:48,860 --> 00:57:50,300
England, and one man stopped it.

1134
00:57:50,580 --> 00:57:51,720
God raised up Wesley.

1135
00:57:51,920 --> 00:57:53,760
Through Whitefield, yes, but Wesley was the one.

1136
00:57:55,480 --> 00:57:59,100
And England found healing where the writs started

1137
00:57:59,100 --> 00:58:01,380
loving the poor and caring as never before,

1138
00:58:01,540 --> 00:58:03,320
and goodness and things being set up to.

1139
00:58:04,120 --> 00:58:06,380
And the poor forgave the writs because God

1140
00:58:06,380 --> 00:58:07,300
forgives through them.

1141
00:58:08,220 --> 00:58:10,520
And God made a great nation through Wesley,

1142
00:58:10,620 --> 00:58:11,920
through the mighty moving of God.

1143
00:58:12,040 --> 00:58:15,440
But Wesley, in the beginning, was so persecuted

1144
00:58:15,440 --> 00:58:16,300
it was unbelievable.

1145
00:58:16,760 --> 00:58:18,320
But they say nothing discouraged him.

1146
00:58:18,880 --> 00:58:20,500
Nothing could get that man down.

1147
00:58:21,680 --> 00:58:23,060
I wish I could say that about me.

1148
00:58:24,580 --> 00:58:26,880
They say that Wesley would go into a

1149
00:58:26,880 --> 00:58:28,700
town, they'd come out a few hundred men

1150
00:58:28,700 --> 00:58:31,120
with stones, you know, throwing them at him.

1151
00:58:31,340 --> 00:58:33,120
I believe one occasion there was just a

1152
00:58:33,120 --> 00:58:34,300
pile of rocks all over him.

1153
00:58:34,320 --> 00:58:35,180
They left him for dead.

1154
00:58:36,520 --> 00:58:37,240
You know what he did?

1155
00:58:37,960 --> 00:58:40,120
Nothing could stop Wesley, you know, blood all

1156
00:58:40,120 --> 00:58:40,560
over him.

1157
00:58:40,640 --> 00:58:43,600
He got out, messed up, and he marched

1158
00:58:43,600 --> 00:58:46,780
into the town in the state with blood.

1159
00:58:47,480 --> 00:58:49,660
And he led every single one of those

1160
00:58:49,660 --> 00:58:50,300
men to God.

1161
00:58:51,120 --> 00:58:52,300
That's courage, brother.

1162
00:58:53,380 --> 00:58:54,540
Nothing could make him give up.

1163
00:58:54,700 --> 00:58:55,580
You know what they did once?

1164
00:58:55,680 --> 00:58:57,380
They ran out, they took him, they threw

1165
00:58:57,380 --> 00:58:59,280
him to the end of a cliff, the

1166
00:58:59,280 --> 00:59:00,440
terrible cliff outside.

1167
00:59:00,580 --> 00:59:02,880
They threw him flying through the air.

1168
00:59:03,100 --> 00:59:05,760
Wesley just, can you believe they do that

1169
00:59:05,760 --> 00:59:06,340
to a preacher?

1170
00:59:07,200 --> 00:59:09,420
They looked down, he's dead.

1171
00:59:09,740 --> 00:59:10,380
They walked away.

1172
00:59:12,080 --> 00:59:13,300
You know what Wesley did?

1173
00:59:13,480 --> 00:59:15,060
He wasn't dead, thank God.

1174
00:59:15,760 --> 00:59:17,780
He got up in a terrible state, but

1175
00:59:17,780 --> 00:59:20,260
he climbed up, he walked into the town,

1176
00:59:20,480 --> 00:59:22,480
oh, in a terrible state, but with joy

1177
00:59:22,480 --> 00:59:23,180
in his face.

1178
00:59:24,000 --> 00:59:26,420
And he brought the whole town to Christ.

1179
00:59:26,800 --> 00:59:29,140
Nothing stopped, and he was this incorrigible.

1180
00:59:30,180 --> 00:59:31,240
Bless the Lord for that.

1181
00:59:31,400 --> 00:59:32,760
You know what the King of England said?

1182
00:59:33,720 --> 00:59:35,400
The King of England said, this has to

1183
00:59:35,400 --> 00:59:35,840
stop.

1184
00:59:36,100 --> 00:59:38,480
By law of the King, no more persecution

1185
00:59:38,480 --> 00:59:40,080
on Wesley or his followers.

1186
00:59:40,940 --> 00:59:42,740
This land's history is being changed.

1187
00:59:42,840 --> 00:59:44,540
Look at the bloodbath over there in Europe,

1188
00:59:44,720 --> 00:59:45,760
on the other side of the Channel.

1189
00:59:47,380 --> 00:59:48,860
It's this man that stops it.

1190
00:59:48,920 --> 00:59:50,260
We have to stop, by order of the

1191
00:59:50,260 --> 00:59:51,100
King, no more.

1192
00:59:51,640 --> 00:59:53,140
And so persecution had to stop.

1193
00:59:53,180 --> 00:59:54,940
When the King said stop, it meant stop.

1194
00:59:56,830 --> 01:00:00,210
But thank God he had this ability to

1195
01:00:00,210 --> 01:00:02,350
get up, no matter what terrible things happened

1196
01:00:02,350 --> 01:00:02,610
to him.

1197
01:00:02,810 --> 01:00:05,030
But you know they say, one thing discouraged

1198
01:00:05,030 --> 01:00:05,470
Wesley.

1199
01:00:05,550 --> 01:00:08,630
Only one thing that men can remember of

1200
01:00:08,630 --> 01:00:11,070
his lifetime, since he got mightily saved by

1201
01:00:11,070 --> 01:00:12,030
God and sanctified.

1202
01:00:14,350 --> 01:00:16,750
One thing drove him to despair, and it

1203
01:00:16,750 --> 01:00:17,450
was his wife.

1204
01:00:22,870 --> 01:00:24,350
No one judged Wesley, you know.

1205
01:00:25,170 --> 01:00:27,710
Even the unsaved, no one dared ever bring

1206
01:00:27,710 --> 01:00:28,450
it up publicly.

1207
01:00:28,850 --> 01:00:30,950
No one judged him, though everyone knew.

1208
01:00:32,210 --> 01:00:34,710
Because it wasn't his choice for a wife.

1209
01:00:34,810 --> 01:00:37,070
The choice he had was buried by his

1210
01:00:37,070 --> 01:00:37,730
brother, Charles.

1211
01:00:37,850 --> 01:00:38,970
Charles made a mistake.

1212
01:00:39,550 --> 01:00:41,170
And those days when the father died, the

1213
01:00:41,170 --> 01:00:42,970
elder brother had a terrible reverence shown to

1214
01:00:42,970 --> 01:00:44,470
them, and respect you submitted yourself.

1215
01:00:45,550 --> 01:00:47,310
And he had this awe of Charles, and

1216
01:00:47,310 --> 01:00:49,810
Charles forced this whole situation of another woman.

1217
01:00:50,150 --> 01:00:51,630
And it was the wrong choice.

1218
01:00:51,990 --> 01:00:55,210
The devil stepped in there, and John Wesley

1219
01:00:55,210 --> 01:00:59,030
had married an odious woman that the world,

1220
01:00:59,130 --> 01:01:00,570
the earth, cannot bear.

1221
01:01:03,290 --> 01:01:04,950
She was like a tyrant.

1222
01:01:05,170 --> 01:01:07,530
She was so shameful what she did publicly

1223
01:01:07,530 --> 01:01:07,870
to him.

1224
01:01:08,010 --> 01:01:10,070
Everybody just hung their heads, even the unsaved,

1225
01:01:10,750 --> 01:01:11,130
praying.

1226
01:01:12,630 --> 01:01:15,790
That such a woman lives, though he was

1227
01:01:15,790 --> 01:01:16,450
so godly.

1228
01:01:18,490 --> 01:01:21,810
Oh, can I ask you all something?

1229
01:01:23,010 --> 01:01:25,370
Are you like Sarah in her marriage?

1230
01:01:25,510 --> 01:01:27,290
She was the one God always uses the

1231
01:01:27,290 --> 01:01:29,510
example of what a godly woman should be

1232
01:01:29,510 --> 01:01:31,550
toward her husband for some reason.

1233
01:01:31,650 --> 01:01:32,390
Are you a Sarah?

1234
01:01:32,830 --> 01:01:34,650
Or are you like that woman that God

1235
01:01:34,650 --> 01:01:38,770
says the earth cannot bear when she is

1236
01:01:38,770 --> 01:01:39,390
married?

1237
01:01:44,350 --> 01:01:46,170
David's wife despised him, you know.

1238
01:01:47,410 --> 01:01:49,410
That's terrible to think of the grief that

1239
01:01:49,410 --> 01:01:50,190
must have been to God.

1240
01:01:50,250 --> 01:01:52,870
You know why David's wife despised him?

1241
01:01:53,330 --> 01:01:54,490
Because of their father.

1242
01:01:56,170 --> 01:01:58,190
Not everybody has got to bear a cross

1243
01:01:58,190 --> 01:01:58,790
like David.

1244
01:01:58,970 --> 01:02:00,670
Not everybody has a father in law like

1245
01:02:00,670 --> 01:02:01,410
David had.

1246
01:02:02,370 --> 01:02:03,930
I mean Saul lived to kill him.

1247
01:02:06,260 --> 01:02:08,180
He just lived to kill him, to destroy

1248
01:02:08,180 --> 01:02:08,460
him.

1249
01:02:09,260 --> 01:02:15,840
Can I just ask in passing, how is

1250
01:02:15,840 --> 01:02:18,260
it with your David, mothers and fathers here?

1251
01:02:18,280 --> 01:02:19,600
How is it with your son-in-law?

1252
01:02:21,120 --> 01:02:22,920
Maybe you don't take a javelin to kill

1253
01:02:22,920 --> 01:02:25,340
him openly, but tell me, are you the

1254
01:02:25,340 --> 01:02:28,360
reason your daughter despises her husband?

1255
01:02:28,480 --> 01:02:30,440
Are you the reason because you despise him?

1256
01:02:32,760 --> 01:02:35,640
Because of the failures, not being perfect, even

1257
01:02:35,640 --> 01:02:35,980
to you.

1258
01:02:36,260 --> 01:02:38,180
Tell me, are you the reason the marriage

1259
01:02:38,180 --> 01:02:40,160
lies in ruins, that your daughter despises?

1260
01:02:40,300 --> 01:02:41,840
Do you know the influence after marriage?

1261
01:02:42,160 --> 01:02:43,680
I can take you to marriages here in

1262
01:02:43,680 --> 01:02:44,080
America.

1263
01:02:45,160 --> 01:02:48,720
Because the in-laws influence.

1264
01:02:49,100 --> 01:02:50,480
Woman left her husband.

1265
01:02:51,240 --> 01:02:52,700
So the husband wanted to go through with

1266
01:02:52,700 --> 01:02:53,040
God.

1267
01:02:53,220 --> 01:02:55,140
She despised her husband because of her father

1268
01:02:55,140 --> 01:02:55,480
and mother.

1269
01:02:55,740 --> 01:02:57,200
Do you know what influence you are by

1270
01:02:57,200 --> 01:02:58,700
your reactions, your little words?

1271
01:02:58,960 --> 01:03:00,060
Are you undermining?

1272
01:03:00,320 --> 01:03:02,380
Are you living to undermine, to destroy his

1273
01:03:02,380 --> 01:03:04,480
ability of ever making a happy marriage?

1274
01:03:04,580 --> 01:03:05,900
He hasn't got a chance with you being

1275
01:03:05,900 --> 01:03:06,440
the in-laws.

1276
01:03:06,780 --> 01:03:08,580
Just in passing, how is it with your

1277
01:03:08,580 --> 01:03:08,980
David?

1278
01:03:09,700 --> 01:03:16,090
Saul, your daughter has to despise him because

1279
01:03:16,090 --> 01:03:16,590
you do.

1280
01:03:23,480 --> 01:03:25,760
Who is to blame for failure in marriage?

1281
01:03:26,100 --> 01:03:27,060
That's quite a question.

1282
01:03:27,780 --> 01:03:29,240
Who would you blame, lady?

1283
01:03:30,860 --> 01:03:32,600
Who would you blame, sir?

1284
01:03:33,400 --> 01:03:35,820
Who is to blame for failure in marriage?

1285
01:03:37,180 --> 01:03:39,320
Who is to blame for failure in marriage?

1286
01:03:39,540 --> 01:03:39,980
Adam.

1287
01:03:40,160 --> 01:03:42,420
Adam blamed Eve, you know, for his sin.

1288
01:03:42,600 --> 01:03:43,420
Isn't that terrible?

1289
01:03:45,020 --> 01:03:48,540
Adam, the first marriage, blamed Eve for his

1290
01:03:48,540 --> 01:03:48,800
sin.

1291
01:03:50,500 --> 01:03:52,720
Tragically, it seems most husbands from that day

1292
01:03:52,720 --> 01:03:55,740
to this believe that the sole purpose they

1293
01:03:55,740 --> 01:03:57,420
were given a wife was to have someone

1294
01:03:57,420 --> 01:03:59,260
to blame for their failures in Christianity.

1295
01:04:00,680 --> 01:04:02,140
I'd like to repeat that.

1296
01:04:02,600 --> 01:04:02,900
Adam.

1297
01:04:04,020 --> 01:04:06,880
Adam blamed Eve for his sin.

1298
01:04:07,620 --> 01:04:09,480
And tragically, it seems to me that most

1299
01:04:09,480 --> 01:04:11,680
husbands believe that the only reason, the sole

1300
01:04:11,680 --> 01:04:13,320
purpose they were ever given a wife is

1301
01:04:13,320 --> 01:04:15,280
to have someone to blame for all their

1302
01:04:15,280 --> 01:04:16,460
failures in Christianity.

1303
01:04:28,530 --> 01:04:30,170
Why does love leave a marriage?

1304
01:04:31,710 --> 01:04:39,070
Who is to blame when love leaves in

1305
01:04:39,070 --> 01:04:40,490
parts from a man and woman?

1306
01:04:40,990 --> 01:04:43,370
Who is to blame for failures in the

1307
01:04:43,370 --> 01:04:43,670
marriage?

1308
01:04:44,930 --> 01:04:46,930
I was once preaching in a convention.

1309
01:04:47,930 --> 01:04:51,370
After I'd preached, there was, I think, lunch

1310
01:04:51,370 --> 01:04:53,310
was being served, but I was standing there

1311
01:04:53,310 --> 01:04:55,630
and there was fellowship going on, and in

1312
01:04:55,630 --> 01:04:57,510
the meeting was a young man and lady

1313
01:04:57,510 --> 01:05:00,590
who I'd known for years, who had served

1314
01:05:00,590 --> 01:05:01,450
God faithfully.

1315
01:05:01,610 --> 01:05:03,350
They were known to stand for God in

1316
01:05:03,350 --> 01:05:04,550
their town, in their community.

1317
01:05:05,230 --> 01:05:06,510
They were faithful in the church.

1318
01:05:07,470 --> 01:05:09,250
And as I stood there speaking to these,

1319
01:05:09,450 --> 01:05:13,830
this man and woman, having not seen them

1320
01:05:13,830 --> 01:05:16,150
for a while and fellowshipping, suddenly while I

1321
01:05:16,150 --> 01:05:20,450
was speaking after the service, a little girl

1322
01:05:20,450 --> 01:05:20,850
runs.

1323
01:05:22,110 --> 01:05:22,830
Mommy, daddy.

1324
01:05:24,490 --> 01:05:26,050
So I said, is this your daughter?

1325
01:05:26,270 --> 01:05:26,990
And they said, yes.

1326
01:05:27,250 --> 01:05:28,230
Oh, she was beautiful.

1327
01:05:29,170 --> 01:05:30,550
Long hair, beautiful.

1328
01:05:34,840 --> 01:05:36,600
So her mother said, this is the priest,

1329
01:05:36,740 --> 01:05:36,840
sir.

1330
01:05:37,100 --> 01:05:38,440
This is the man that stood up in

1331
01:05:38,440 --> 01:05:39,500
the front that you were looking at.

1332
01:05:39,520 --> 01:05:41,040
He was the one telling us how to

1333
01:05:41,040 --> 01:05:42,720
live with God, what God wants us to

1334
01:05:42,720 --> 01:05:44,940
do, what God, how God wants us to

1335
01:05:44,940 --> 01:05:45,080
live.

1336
01:05:45,160 --> 01:05:46,880
He was the one sharing from the Word

1337
01:05:46,880 --> 01:05:48,180
of God when you were sitting in the

1338
01:05:48,180 --> 01:05:48,780
meeting just now.

1339
01:05:48,840 --> 01:05:49,640
This is the priest, sir.

1340
01:05:52,250 --> 01:05:53,550
And this little girl looked up at me

1341
01:05:53,550 --> 01:05:54,850
for a while, and we all looked at

1342
01:05:54,850 --> 01:05:56,650
her smiling, and suddenly a tear came down

1343
01:05:56,650 --> 01:05:57,090
her face.

1344
01:05:57,110 --> 01:06:03,560
And she said, priest, sir, my mommy and

1345
01:06:03,560 --> 01:06:04,660
daddy are very unhappy.

1346
01:06:06,800 --> 01:06:10,020
They fight all the time, priest, sir.

1347
01:06:14,000 --> 01:06:18,380
My mommy cries herself every night to sleep.

1348
01:06:21,400 --> 01:06:24,220
Every day she cries, and she cries all

1349
01:06:24,220 --> 01:06:25,420
the time, she cries.

1350
01:06:26,740 --> 01:06:28,980
They fight all the time, priest, sir.

1351
01:06:31,060 --> 01:06:32,780
Tell them that this is not what God

1352
01:06:32,780 --> 01:06:33,120
wants.

1353
01:06:33,360 --> 01:06:35,060
Tell them God wants them to be happy.

1354
01:06:36,540 --> 01:06:38,240
Tell them this is not what God wants.

1355
01:06:38,480 --> 01:06:39,160
Help them.

1356
01:06:44,740 --> 01:06:46,860
My heart just sunk as I looked at

1357
01:06:46,860 --> 01:06:49,040
this beautiful little girl with tears coming to

1358
01:06:49,040 --> 01:06:50,200
her eyes, pleading with me.

1359
01:06:50,880 --> 01:06:52,600
I didn't look at the father and mother

1360
01:06:52,600 --> 01:06:52,820
then.

1361
01:06:52,840 --> 01:06:53,520
I dared not.

1362
01:06:54,280 --> 01:06:56,560
You see, I knew then I was in

1363
01:06:56,560 --> 01:06:58,100
a trial.

1364
01:06:59,800 --> 01:07:02,200
When you suddenly found out about somebody else's

1365
01:07:02,200 --> 01:07:04,580
failures, brother, sister, be careful what you say.

1366
01:07:04,660 --> 01:07:05,720
You're in testing ground.

1367
01:07:07,000 --> 01:07:08,900
You're the one putting the exam right then,

1368
01:07:08,940 --> 01:07:09,420
not them.

1369
01:07:09,760 --> 01:07:10,820
You're more than them.

1370
01:07:11,700 --> 01:07:13,820
I could have turned and rebuked them and

1371
01:07:13,820 --> 01:07:16,820
shamed them, but let me tell you what

1372
01:07:16,820 --> 01:07:18,060
I've learned about Christianity.

1373
01:07:18,500 --> 01:07:20,920
What you do and say when others fail

1374
01:07:20,920 --> 01:07:22,720
and you find out about their failures will

1375
01:07:22,720 --> 01:07:23,520
come upon you.

1376
01:07:25,020 --> 01:07:26,980
Be careful how you react when you're suddenly

1377
01:07:26,980 --> 01:07:28,440
conscious of other people's failures.

1378
01:07:28,620 --> 01:07:30,260
It'll come back at you if you ever

1379
01:07:30,260 --> 01:07:31,560
fail with a vengeance.

1380
01:07:31,980 --> 01:07:33,400
I guarantee you.

1381
01:07:33,580 --> 01:07:34,160
Be careful.

1382
01:07:34,260 --> 01:07:35,380
I wasn't testing ground.

1383
01:07:35,540 --> 01:07:36,000
I knew that.

1384
01:07:36,680 --> 01:07:39,620
I didn't look at them and devour them

1385
01:07:39,620 --> 01:07:41,680
to their failures from the lips of their

1386
01:07:41,680 --> 01:07:45,060
child, but I did say this.

1387
01:07:45,920 --> 01:07:51,280
I said, little girl, you are very beautiful,

1388
01:07:52,680 --> 01:07:54,540
and I know your mother and father must

1389
01:07:54,540 --> 01:07:58,460
love you very dearly, and I know God

1390
01:07:58,460 --> 01:08:02,460
must love you very dearly, and I know

1391
01:08:02,460 --> 01:08:05,280
that God loves your father and mother very,

1392
01:08:05,460 --> 01:08:08,200
very much, and I know they love God.

1393
01:08:08,360 --> 01:08:15,260
I know that, and I know that they

1394
01:08:15,260 --> 01:08:18,580
are going to seek God to heal the

1395
01:08:18,580 --> 01:08:19,819
problems in your home.

1396
01:08:20,600 --> 01:08:22,359
They're going to seek God with all their

1397
01:08:22,359 --> 01:08:27,160
hearts to heal their unhappiness so that they

1398
01:08:27,160 --> 01:08:34,140
can be happy again for you, for you,

1399
01:08:37,080 --> 01:08:39,060
and I turned and I walked away.

1400
01:08:41,760 --> 01:08:43,819
I never looked at the mother and father's

1401
01:08:43,819 --> 01:08:44,020
face.

1402
01:08:44,080 --> 01:08:45,319
I didn't want to see what was in

1403
01:08:45,319 --> 01:08:45,960
their eyes.

1404
01:08:47,319 --> 01:08:49,040
I didn't want to see the shame.

1405
01:08:57,590 --> 01:08:58,410
Who is to blame?

1406
01:09:02,000 --> 01:09:04,300
Who is to blame when love goes out

1407
01:09:04,300 --> 01:09:07,279
of a marriage, when the sweetness turns sour,

1408
01:09:07,859 --> 01:09:13,680
the tenderness becomes bitterness, love turns to hate?

1409
01:09:15,260 --> 01:09:16,500
Who is to blame?

1410
01:09:18,450 --> 01:09:20,510
It's quite a staggering question, isn't it?

1411
01:09:24,870 --> 01:09:27,170
When I was a boy, my father and

1412
01:09:27,170 --> 01:09:30,229
mother were very unsaved, very, very, very much

1413
01:09:30,229 --> 01:09:30,870
in the world.

1414
01:09:31,010 --> 01:09:34,229
Oh, the dancing, and just, when I was

1415
01:09:34,229 --> 01:09:37,950
a boy, there was an unsaved, godless father

1416
01:09:37,950 --> 01:09:42,590
and mother, good father and mother, but all

1417
01:09:42,590 --> 01:09:43,750
the world was in their hearts.

1418
01:09:43,890 --> 01:09:44,930
They didn't only go to the dance.

1419
01:09:45,050 --> 01:09:46,470
Daddy had dances in our home.

1420
01:09:47,130 --> 01:09:47,770
He had money.

1421
01:09:48,830 --> 01:09:50,149
We had socializing.

1422
01:09:50,290 --> 01:09:51,830
We had dances in our homes.

1423
01:09:52,450 --> 01:09:54,930
We as children even had a whole hall

1424
01:09:54,930 --> 01:09:56,190
downstairs for dancing.

1425
01:09:56,770 --> 01:09:58,010
It was just the world.

1426
01:09:59,470 --> 01:10:00,490
That's how I grew up.

1427
01:10:03,440 --> 01:10:05,740
Daddy and mommy met another lady and man,

1428
01:10:06,240 --> 01:10:09,140
another married couple, and they befriended them when

1429
01:10:09,140 --> 01:10:09,960
I was a little boy.

1430
01:10:10,920 --> 01:10:12,980
And these people loved dancing also.

1431
01:10:13,260 --> 01:10:14,380
Daddy loved to dance, you know.

1432
01:10:15,060 --> 01:10:16,800
They loved to dance, so they were always

1433
01:10:16,800 --> 01:10:18,520
going to the dances together, always in our

1434
01:10:18,520 --> 01:10:18,920
home.

1435
01:10:20,100 --> 01:10:22,320
We had a speedboat on the bay, and

1436
01:10:22,320 --> 01:10:23,440
we skied, you know.

1437
01:10:24,520 --> 01:10:26,660
One big vanity of life.

1438
01:10:31,430 --> 01:10:33,910
So this couple came into our home, and

1439
01:10:33,910 --> 01:10:35,970
for years they were the closest friends mommy

1440
01:10:35,970 --> 01:10:36,570
and daddy had.

1441
01:10:36,870 --> 01:10:38,510
But when they came into our lives, I

1442
01:10:38,510 --> 01:10:41,390
remember they were very different from anyone else

1443
01:10:41,390 --> 01:10:41,990
we had known.

1444
01:10:42,330 --> 01:10:42,810
You know why?

1445
01:10:43,170 --> 01:10:45,750
The way they spoke to each other, this

1446
01:10:45,750 --> 01:10:46,850
unsaved man and woman.

1447
01:10:47,330 --> 01:10:49,370
They used to call each other by names

1448
01:10:49,370 --> 01:10:50,890
that, you know, you can say a nice

1449
01:10:50,890 --> 01:10:52,870
little pet name, but they had names.

1450
01:10:53,370 --> 01:10:54,990
Oh, Zuzop, you know.

1451
01:10:56,250 --> 01:10:56,690
Zuzop.

1452
01:10:57,930 --> 01:10:59,250
Yes, honey pie.

1453
01:11:00,810 --> 01:11:01,250
Sunshine.

1454
01:11:02,410 --> 01:11:03,470
Yes, rainbow.

1455
01:11:05,030 --> 01:11:06,210
What else did they say?

1456
01:11:06,230 --> 01:11:07,470
Oh, it was terrible, you know.

1457
01:11:07,490 --> 01:11:09,010
I mean, you just don't have this normally

1458
01:11:09,010 --> 01:11:09,910
amongst unsaved.

1459
01:11:10,010 --> 01:11:13,090
One little word where nobody's listening, but all

1460
01:11:13,090 --> 01:11:15,390
the time, every conversation, Zuzop.

1461
01:11:16,710 --> 01:11:17,230
Rainbow.

1462
01:11:18,130 --> 01:11:19,650
Oh, my.

1463
01:11:20,270 --> 01:11:21,290
It really shook us.

1464
01:11:21,390 --> 01:11:22,870
We got home that night, and I'll never

1465
01:11:22,870 --> 01:11:26,230
forget daddy turning to mommy and saying, Zuzop.

1466
01:11:28,030 --> 01:11:30,410
And my mommy looked and said, don't you

1467
01:11:30,410 --> 01:11:31,170
start.

1468
01:11:31,810 --> 01:11:33,150
She'd had enough by then.

1469
01:11:34,770 --> 01:11:36,250
But the years went by.

1470
01:11:36,510 --> 01:11:37,570
Oh, they were friends.

1471
01:11:37,750 --> 01:11:38,230
They enjoyed.

1472
01:11:38,350 --> 01:11:39,770
The laughter was there, you know, even when

1473
01:11:39,770 --> 01:11:41,610
the heart is sorrowful to the unsaved.

1474
01:11:43,860 --> 01:11:45,520
But then one day daddy came home, and

1475
01:11:45,520 --> 01:11:46,820
he didn't know I was listening, and he

1476
01:11:46,820 --> 01:11:48,660
spoke about them, and he said, mommy.

1477
01:11:50,340 --> 01:11:52,900
He says, something's going wrong.

1478
01:11:53,200 --> 01:11:53,980
I'm worried.

1479
01:11:55,140 --> 01:11:56,600
I'm worried about their marriage.

1480
01:11:57,020 --> 01:11:58,700
Things are really going, I've seen it coming,

1481
01:11:58,780 --> 01:12:00,380
but now I've really seen that things are

1482
01:12:00,380 --> 01:12:01,360
bad, mommy.

1483
01:12:03,780 --> 01:12:05,800
The strange thing is they're still using the

1484
01:12:05,800 --> 01:12:09,060
same words, but the tone has changed.

1485
01:12:10,220 --> 01:12:12,420
He said, it's no longer Zuzop, you know,

1486
01:12:12,520 --> 01:12:13,400
Zuzop.

1487
01:12:16,210 --> 01:12:18,550
Sunshine, you know, honeypot.

1488
01:12:20,790 --> 01:12:23,450
Oh, words are meaningless if the tone changes.

1489
01:12:24,890 --> 01:12:27,210
How cellar words are, you know, just the

1490
01:12:27,210 --> 01:12:27,570
tone.

1491
01:12:29,090 --> 01:12:31,330
I want to ask every single person sitting

1492
01:12:31,330 --> 01:12:34,450
here today, has the tone changed in the

1493
01:12:34,450 --> 01:12:35,810
way you speak to your husband?

1494
01:12:39,720 --> 01:12:41,340
The way you speak to your wife?

1495
01:12:41,960 --> 01:12:43,720
Has the tenderness gone, sir?

1496
01:12:44,500 --> 01:12:45,720
Answer God, every one of you.

1497
01:12:46,600 --> 01:12:48,120
Every one of you, answer God.

1498
01:12:48,160 --> 01:12:49,180
Has the tenderness gone?

1499
01:12:50,760 --> 01:12:52,620
I was in a German home once when

1500
01:12:52,620 --> 01:12:53,600
I was a young priest there.

1501
01:12:54,440 --> 01:12:55,460
Germans are very different.

1502
01:12:55,700 --> 01:12:57,340
I'm sure there are German backgrounds.

1503
01:12:57,520 --> 01:12:58,380
Yes, I better be careful.

1504
01:12:58,820 --> 01:13:00,540
But let me tell you, Germans are very,

1505
01:13:00,640 --> 01:13:01,260
very different.

1506
01:13:01,720 --> 01:13:03,420
Get them saved, it's wonderful.

1507
01:13:04,160 --> 01:13:05,540
They turn the world upside down.

1508
01:13:05,600 --> 01:13:06,700
They're like a Jew when you get a

1509
01:13:06,700 --> 01:13:07,260
Jew saved.

1510
01:13:07,260 --> 01:13:08,400
It's just too precious.

1511
01:13:08,720 --> 01:13:10,320
But a German is a strange thing, you

1512
01:13:10,320 --> 01:13:10,560
know.

1513
01:13:10,860 --> 01:13:12,160
Forgive me, you Germans.

1514
01:13:14,100 --> 01:13:16,380
Oh my, the man must be the man,

1515
01:13:16,460 --> 01:13:16,680
you know.

1516
01:13:18,340 --> 01:13:20,700
Well, I was in this German home of

1517
01:13:20,700 --> 01:13:22,020
this old German man.

1518
01:13:22,640 --> 01:13:24,660
And he knew our work and our workers

1519
01:13:24,660 --> 01:13:25,980
and our missionaries through the years.

1520
01:13:26,060 --> 01:13:28,140
And he said, oh, before you were born,

1521
01:13:28,240 --> 01:13:29,740
we had your workers from the mission in

1522
01:13:29,740 --> 01:13:30,340
our home.

1523
01:13:30,940 --> 01:13:32,420
And I was young and we'd take them

1524
01:13:32,420 --> 01:13:32,600
out.

1525
01:13:32,740 --> 01:13:33,700
And we won souls.

1526
01:13:33,840 --> 01:13:35,020
And he told of all the things.

1527
01:13:35,160 --> 01:13:36,740
And he named the names of the different

1528
01:13:36,740 --> 01:13:38,360
people through the years that were now old,

1529
01:13:38,420 --> 01:13:39,800
many of them dead, from my mission, the

1530
01:13:39,800 --> 01:13:42,220
mission I now work in, in Africa.

1531
01:13:44,060 --> 01:13:46,120
And after a long time of telling me

1532
01:13:46,120 --> 01:13:47,820
all the things and the people he knew,

1533
01:13:47,960 --> 01:13:49,540
that I knew as names, or knew as

1534
01:13:49,540 --> 01:13:51,340
old people in my mission, who taught me,

1535
01:13:51,760 --> 01:13:53,040
that he had known when they were young,

1536
01:13:53,080 --> 01:13:55,080
before they were married, in his home over

1537
01:13:55,080 --> 01:13:55,460
the years.

1538
01:13:55,500 --> 01:13:56,260
And what God did.

1539
01:13:56,420 --> 01:13:57,360
He was going on and on.

1540
01:13:57,360 --> 01:13:58,620
And then his dear little wife, you know,

1541
01:13:58,660 --> 01:13:59,340
I'll never forget her.

1542
01:14:00,000 --> 01:14:01,500
She sat there at the table listening for

1543
01:14:01,500 --> 01:14:03,240
a long time, and then she dared to

1544
01:14:03,240 --> 01:14:03,620
speak.

1545
01:14:05,400 --> 01:14:09,280
She said something, you know, just nothing harmful,

1546
01:14:09,400 --> 01:14:11,180
just about what he was speaking about, just

1547
01:14:11,180 --> 01:14:11,720
added a little.

1548
01:14:12,480 --> 01:14:13,820
But I'll never forget the way he looked

1549
01:14:13,820 --> 01:14:14,200
at her.

1550
01:14:14,200 --> 01:14:16,200
He was just shocked that she opened her

1551
01:14:16,200 --> 01:14:16,900
mouth, you know.

1552
01:14:18,460 --> 01:14:19,000
Marta!

1553
01:14:21,700 --> 01:14:22,240
Marta!

1554
01:14:22,480 --> 01:14:22,880
No!

1555
01:14:24,120 --> 01:14:25,600
No, Marta!

1556
01:14:26,260 --> 01:14:27,420
Not like that, you know.

1557
01:14:28,420 --> 01:14:31,300
So I said, oh my, she didn't do

1558
01:14:31,300 --> 01:14:31,900
anything wrong.

1559
01:14:32,460 --> 01:14:33,240
She just spoke.

1560
01:14:35,260 --> 01:14:37,280
So he went on and on again, you

1561
01:14:37,280 --> 01:14:39,060
know, just dominating the conversation.

1562
01:14:39,580 --> 01:14:41,900
Then she spoke again in my heart.

1563
01:14:41,900 --> 01:14:43,720
And still, oh, you spoke.

1564
01:14:45,440 --> 01:14:47,020
This time it wasn't so gracious.

1565
01:14:47,160 --> 01:14:49,260
He stood, you know, but his eyes, and

1566
01:14:49,260 --> 01:14:50,700
he was, Marta!

1567
01:14:52,360 --> 01:14:52,840
Marta!

1568
01:14:53,680 --> 01:14:55,120
He was really, you know, have you ever

1569
01:14:55,120 --> 01:14:56,100
seen a man like that?

1570
01:14:56,180 --> 01:14:58,440
Your wife can't speak, and you're threatened.

1571
01:15:02,140 --> 01:15:03,700
By the time she opened her mouth a

1572
01:15:03,700 --> 01:15:05,980
third time, I wish I wasn't in that

1573
01:15:05,980 --> 01:15:06,340
home.

1574
01:15:07,960 --> 01:15:09,300
It was terrifying.

1575
01:15:09,580 --> 01:15:11,340
I was living in fear of her opening

1576
01:15:11,340 --> 01:15:11,860
her mouth.

1577
01:15:13,850 --> 01:15:15,370
He couldn't tolerate it.

1578
01:15:16,330 --> 01:15:19,090
But you know, there must have been a

1579
01:15:19,090 --> 01:15:23,890
time that that woman once spoke tenderly, that

1580
01:15:23,890 --> 01:15:25,970
man once spoke tenderly to that woman.

1581
01:15:26,750 --> 01:15:28,850
There must have been a time he respected

1582
01:15:28,850 --> 01:15:29,110
her.

1583
01:15:29,390 --> 01:15:31,690
He would never have come near the man

1584
01:15:31,690 --> 01:15:33,850
had he not once spoken with tenderness.

1585
01:15:40,960 --> 01:15:42,500
Paul said these words.

1586
01:15:42,880 --> 01:15:44,040
Now, they're staggering words.

1587
01:15:44,140 --> 01:15:45,980
I suffer not a woman to speak in

1588
01:15:45,980 --> 01:15:46,460
the church.

1589
01:15:48,620 --> 01:15:51,260
It's a shame for a woman to speak

1590
01:15:51,260 --> 01:15:51,660
in a church.

1591
01:15:51,720 --> 01:15:54,480
Let a woman be silent in the church.

1592
01:15:54,560 --> 01:15:56,760
Now, those words, you need a whole sermon

1593
01:15:56,760 --> 01:15:59,780
in the light of other scriptures to understand

1594
01:15:59,780 --> 01:16:00,500
what God is saying.

1595
01:16:00,540 --> 01:16:02,160
I'm not going to preach that now, but

1596
01:16:02,160 --> 01:16:04,800
I've got a fear that many men interpret

1597
01:16:04,800 --> 01:16:08,160
Paul's statements about a woman keeping silent in

1598
01:16:08,160 --> 01:16:10,020
the church, and it's a shame for a

1599
01:16:10,020 --> 01:16:10,820
woman to speak in the church.

1600
01:16:10,960 --> 01:16:12,820
I've got an idea that many men interpreted

1601
01:16:12,820 --> 01:16:16,420
that it's a shame for a woman to

1602
01:16:16,420 --> 01:16:17,700
open her mouth at home.

1603
01:16:19,600 --> 01:16:21,380
It's a shame for a woman to speak,

1604
01:16:21,500 --> 01:16:22,060
full stop.

1605
01:16:24,520 --> 01:16:26,220
I suffer not a woman to speak.

1606
01:16:28,300 --> 01:16:30,020
I've got an idea many men interpret it

1607
01:16:30,020 --> 01:16:30,540
like that.

1608
01:16:31,180 --> 01:16:33,500
They're so threatened when their wife starts speaking,

1609
01:16:33,640 --> 01:16:35,360
you know, they're dominating the whole room.

1610
01:16:35,840 --> 01:16:37,980
Suddenly she dares to say something, and you're

1611
01:16:37,980 --> 01:16:39,860
so threatened you can't let her have everybody,

1612
01:16:39,980 --> 01:16:42,440
so you start some conversation with somebody else.

1613
01:16:42,540 --> 01:16:44,220
The moment your wife decides to say something,

1614
01:16:44,460 --> 01:16:45,700
so long as she doesn't do what you

1615
01:16:45,700 --> 01:16:47,780
do and have everybody, you're threatened by her

1616
01:16:47,780 --> 01:16:48,620
opening her mouth.

1617
01:16:55,080 --> 01:16:57,880
Does your wife have any chance of survival

1618
01:16:58,420 --> 01:17:00,380
as a person with you as her husband?

1619
01:17:01,980 --> 01:17:03,940
Do you allow her the right to be

1620
01:17:03,940 --> 01:17:06,940
any one of significance, husband?

1621
01:17:08,740 --> 01:17:12,400
Do you honor her, or do you defy

1622
01:17:12,400 --> 01:17:15,380
God and grieve God and break your children's

1623
01:17:15,380 --> 01:17:17,700
hope of even eternal life sometimes?

1624
01:17:20,200 --> 01:17:22,960
You're so unchristlike toward her.

1625
01:17:24,540 --> 01:17:31,660
Though you say you're saved, I once was

1626
01:17:31,660 --> 01:17:33,460
with a very famous preacher, I won't give

1627
01:17:33,460 --> 01:17:35,540
you his name, I've stood with many very

1628
01:17:35,540 --> 01:17:37,720
famous preachers, and I've been privileged in that

1629
01:17:37,720 --> 01:17:38,000
way.

1630
01:17:39,380 --> 01:17:44,230
Many whose books you have, and one stood

1631
01:17:44,230 --> 01:17:46,090
with me years ago when I was to

1632
01:17:46,090 --> 01:17:48,530
be married to Jenny, and he said, so

1633
01:17:48,530 --> 01:17:50,270
you're going to marry this girl.

1634
01:17:51,230 --> 01:17:55,310
I said, yes, and this very famous preacher

1635
01:17:55,310 --> 01:17:58,050
looked at me, would you let me give

1636
01:17:58,050 --> 01:18:01,070
you some advice, Keith, about marriage?

1637
01:18:02,390 --> 01:18:03,270
I said, yes, sir.

1638
01:18:06,420 --> 01:18:09,780
Don't allow yourself to say unkind words, Keith.

1639
01:18:12,400 --> 01:18:13,700
You don't have to, boy.

1640
01:18:16,150 --> 01:18:20,190
It's the beginning of the end of love

1641
01:18:20,190 --> 01:18:24,590
if you allow unkind words into your marriage.

1642
01:18:25,310 --> 01:18:28,450
Keep your mouth closed and go from the

1643
01:18:28,450 --> 01:18:30,070
room, go for a walk around the whole

1644
01:18:30,070 --> 01:18:33,330
block if need be, but talk to God

1645
01:18:33,330 --> 01:18:36,330
when there's tension, when there's stress, when there's

1646
01:18:36,330 --> 01:18:39,290
the temptation to be unkind through anything she

1647
01:18:39,290 --> 01:18:41,270
does wrong that's unreasonable in your eyes.

1648
01:18:42,590 --> 01:18:45,470
Don't allow yourself to say unkind words, Keith.

1649
01:18:45,570 --> 01:18:46,730
It's the beginning of the end.

1650
01:18:47,570 --> 01:18:49,610
You know, as that famous preacher stood and

1651
01:18:49,610 --> 01:18:51,790
said those words to me, tears started rolling

1652
01:18:51,790 --> 01:18:53,230
down his face, and he put his head

1653
01:18:53,230 --> 01:18:57,740
down, and he began to sob, and I

1654
01:18:57,740 --> 01:19:01,680
looked trembling at this man, and I wondered,

1655
01:19:02,580 --> 01:19:05,500
I wondered about his marriage.

1656
01:19:12,230 --> 01:19:14,170
I have an Uncle Roy, he's dead now,

1657
01:19:14,230 --> 01:19:16,950
we've named our middle boy Roy after Uncle

1658
01:19:16,950 --> 01:19:17,190
Roy.

1659
01:19:17,310 --> 01:19:18,470
He was a godly man.

1660
01:19:18,930 --> 01:19:20,450
When I was married to Jenny at first,

1661
01:19:20,550 --> 01:19:21,670
I was full of jokes, you know.

1662
01:19:24,080 --> 01:19:25,400
God had to take the joke out of

1663
01:19:25,400 --> 01:19:25,500
me.

1664
01:19:25,600 --> 01:19:26,480
God knew how to do that.

1665
01:19:26,560 --> 01:19:28,520
He just wiped me down into the dust

1666
01:19:28,520 --> 01:19:29,100
so much.

1667
01:19:29,100 --> 01:19:30,580
He knows how to take the joke out

1668
01:19:30,580 --> 01:19:31,000
of a man.

1669
01:19:31,560 --> 01:19:34,040
Oh, brother, joking is not joy.

1670
01:19:34,760 --> 01:19:36,460
I hear preachers all over your country.

1671
01:19:36,580 --> 01:19:38,020
I hear preachers all over the world today.

1672
01:19:38,640 --> 01:19:39,980
They seem to think to stand in the

1673
01:19:39,980 --> 01:19:41,620
pulpit is the right place to joke, to

1674
01:19:41,620 --> 01:19:42,460
say we got joy.

1675
01:19:42,460 --> 01:19:44,440
Brother, joking is not joy.

1676
01:19:44,620 --> 01:19:47,600
Stories that are humorous, that are real, that's

1677
01:19:47,600 --> 01:19:49,760
not joking, but jokes for the sakes of

1678
01:19:49,760 --> 01:19:50,200
jokes.

1679
01:19:50,700 --> 01:19:51,560
That's not joy.

1680
01:19:51,620 --> 01:19:52,380
You haven't got joy.

1681
01:19:52,520 --> 01:19:54,380
Joy is the result of a relationship with

1682
01:19:54,380 --> 01:19:56,900
Jesus, brother or sister, not jokes.

1683
01:19:57,840 --> 01:19:59,320
God had to take the joke out of

1684
01:19:59,320 --> 01:20:00,660
me, but I used to joke as a

1685
01:20:00,660 --> 01:20:03,060
boy, just joke upon joke.

1686
01:20:03,120 --> 01:20:04,460
Even when I first said, I used to

1687
01:20:04,460 --> 01:20:05,820
joke, you know, like the dumb thing.

1688
01:20:07,600 --> 01:20:09,240
I must have been such a grief to

1689
01:20:09,240 --> 01:20:10,680
God, and I joked one day in front

1690
01:20:10,680 --> 01:20:12,100
of Uncle Roy when I joked in the

1691
01:20:12,100 --> 01:20:16,060
house towards Jenny, and he stood up and

1692
01:20:16,060 --> 01:20:18,140
tears came down his eyes, my godly Uncle

1693
01:20:18,140 --> 01:20:19,340
Roy, and he said, stop.

1694
01:20:23,440 --> 01:20:26,420
Don't you speak to Jenny like that again

1695
01:20:26,420 --> 01:20:27,220
in your life.

1696
01:20:30,460 --> 01:20:32,300
I stood up and tears came down my

1697
01:20:32,300 --> 01:20:32,620
eyes.

1698
01:20:32,680 --> 01:20:33,360
I was so shaken.

1699
01:20:33,480 --> 01:20:35,040
I said, but Uncle Roy, I'm joking.

1700
01:20:36,520 --> 01:20:37,580
Jenny knows that.

1701
01:20:37,800 --> 01:20:39,620
Everyone in this room knows it, Uncle Roy.

1702
01:20:39,680 --> 01:20:40,160
I'm joking.

1703
01:20:40,300 --> 01:20:41,520
I wouldn't mean it.

1704
01:20:41,960 --> 01:20:42,980
This is a joke.

1705
01:20:44,200 --> 01:20:47,660
He said, Keith, don't you joke with your

1706
01:20:47,660 --> 01:20:49,020
wife like that.

1707
01:20:53,800 --> 01:20:56,560
You and Jenny have something very special, my

1708
01:20:56,560 --> 01:21:01,360
boy, and I will not let you destroy

1709
01:21:01,360 --> 01:21:01,660
it.

1710
01:21:06,950 --> 01:21:09,370
Don't even in a joke speak with disrespect

1711
01:21:09,370 --> 01:21:09,950
like that.

1712
01:21:14,090 --> 01:21:17,010
I said, Uncle Roy, I accept it from

1713
01:21:17,010 --> 01:21:23,600
God, and I never did that again.

1714
01:21:32,070 --> 01:21:34,910
I led some people to Christ, who later

1715
01:21:34,910 --> 01:21:36,650
on went out and gave up their work

1716
01:21:36,650 --> 01:21:38,150
and went to work full time with a

1717
01:21:38,150 --> 01:21:42,430
very great preacher, a very, very famous preacher,

1718
01:21:45,680 --> 01:21:47,740
and one day the years went by, they

1719
01:21:47,740 --> 01:21:50,660
came, we went for tea and fell asleep,

1720
01:21:50,800 --> 01:21:52,980
and I said, how are things going?

1721
01:21:53,540 --> 01:21:55,300
It must be a great joy and privilege

1722
01:21:55,300 --> 01:21:57,140
to work with such a man that has

1723
01:21:57,140 --> 01:21:58,360
been so used by God.

1724
01:22:01,080 --> 01:22:02,160
There was dead silence.

1725
01:22:02,980 --> 01:22:06,020
The wife looked down and tears filled his

1726
01:22:06,020 --> 01:22:06,300
eyes.

1727
01:22:06,340 --> 01:22:09,740
He said, oh Keith, I've never said this,

1728
01:22:10,740 --> 01:22:12,480
but I'm going to say it to you.

1729
01:22:13,640 --> 01:22:15,580
It is not a privilege to work with

1730
01:22:15,580 --> 01:22:16,400
this great preacher.

1731
01:22:18,850 --> 01:22:19,710
Do you know why, Keith?

1732
01:22:21,920 --> 01:22:25,740
No one that works under him and for

1733
01:22:25,740 --> 01:22:28,860
his movement wants to listen to him preach

1734
01:22:28,860 --> 01:22:29,220
again.

1735
01:22:32,040 --> 01:22:33,980
No one wants to hear his preaching or

1736
01:22:33,980 --> 01:22:35,780
let God bless their hearts through his preaching.

1737
01:22:35,860 --> 01:22:36,660
Do you know why, Keith?

1738
01:22:37,640 --> 01:22:45,920
The way he speaks to his wife, the

1739
01:22:45,920 --> 01:22:48,300
way he speaks to his wife, you cannot

1740
01:22:48,300 --> 01:22:51,220
accept anything he says from the pulpit.

1741
01:22:52,840 --> 01:22:54,700
It becomes obnoxious.

1742
01:23:01,280 --> 01:23:02,500
Let me tell you something.

1743
01:23:05,400 --> 01:23:08,420
I wonder how many preachers would be forbidden

1744
01:23:08,420 --> 01:23:10,420
to ever get back in the pulpit again

1745
01:23:10,420 --> 01:23:14,060
once in their life, if one conversation of

1746
01:23:14,060 --> 01:23:15,960
the whole was made public in the pulpit,

1747
01:23:16,200 --> 01:23:17,120
just once.

1748
01:23:18,400 --> 01:23:21,560
I wonder how many preachers would be forbidden

1749
01:23:21,560 --> 01:23:24,940
to hold the word of God to man

1750
01:23:24,940 --> 01:23:28,160
again in their life, if one conversation ever

1751
01:23:28,160 --> 01:23:31,220
was made public of what happened in the

1752
01:23:31,220 --> 01:23:33,920
home, sometimes minutes before they preached.

1753
01:23:37,320 --> 01:23:39,380
I can tell you how holy a man

1754
01:23:39,380 --> 01:23:41,140
is by the way he speaks to his

1755
01:23:41,140 --> 01:23:42,600
wife, brethren.

1756
01:23:45,340 --> 01:23:47,720
I can tell you how holy a man

1757
01:23:47,720 --> 01:23:51,000
is by the way he speaks to his

1758
01:23:51,000 --> 01:23:53,820
wife, and let me shock you, so can

1759
01:23:53,820 --> 01:23:54,440
your children.