No one that works under him and for
his movement wants to listen to him preach
again.
No one wants to hear his preaching or
let God bless their hearts through his preaching.
Do you know why, Keith?
The way he speaks to his wife.
The way he speaks to his wife, you
cannot accept anything he says from the pulpit.
It becomes obnoxious.
Let me tell you something.
I wonder how many preachers would be forbidden
to ever get back in the pulpit again
once in their life.
If one conversation of the whole was made
public in the pulpit, just once.
I wonder how many preachers would be forbidden
to hold the word of God to man
again in their life if one conversation ever
was made public of what happened in the
home.
Sometimes minutes before they preach.
I can tell you how holy a man
is by the way he speaks to his
wife, brethren.
I can tell you how holy a man
is by the way he speaks to his
wife.
And let me shock you.
So can your children.
Brethren, what was
it about Sarah that made Abraham love her
when she was old?
You've got to think about that.
You ladies, do you honestly think it was
her beauty?
I mean she must have had an extraordinary
beauty when you think of the old king.
She wasn't young when he wanted her, you
know.
And Abraham had to fail there.
Same as Isaac, saying, Hey, you're my sister.
That king wants you.
I mean she wasn't young.
Do you know how old that woman was?
She must have been extraordinarily beautiful.
And you might say, no wonder Abraham loved
her like that.
She's the example of how to keep love
intact in a home.
Let me tell you what made Abraham love
her.
According to what I see in the Scriptures,
there was something more beautiful.
In its context, whenever Sarah is spoken about
there's an ornament of a meek and quiet
spirit which is in the sight of God
of great price.
There's something about the submissiveness of Sarah that
called him Lord.
That God said, I want you to be.
Do you know why?
Not to live a lot of laws, but
that your husband will love you to your
old age with such a love that only
God can put there.
If a woman is like Sarah.
If a woman is like this, the example
of what God gives to women for a
godly home.
I love old Abraham, loving old Sarah, you
know.
When is love supposed to get out the
door in marriage when you're godly?
I mean real love.
I was here in America two years ago
or so.
I was preaching all over.
And in one of the towns they put
me into a home.
On top of the town, on the hill,
a very beautiful home, thatched roof, very rich
people.
Think they were Baptists?
Not that all Baptists are risks, okay.
But they were old.
When I looked at how frail the slots,
you know, they're old.
But they're hanging on to their home in
their beautiful lawns and the forests around, and
overlooking the town.
They loved God.
They served God.
They were loved.
They had souls.
They had all these children coming up and
they would have these Sunday school preaching to
the children, singing.
And they had all these children from across
the town coming up.
Not to a church, but just the children.
They loved children.
I had a preach one day.
I just loved that old couple, but they
were so old.
They should have been in their old age
home, I think.
I'm not sure.
Some frail care, but there they were.
I mean, they weren't strong.
But you know what I noticed about this
man and woman, as old as they was
with, I think, thirty grandchildren.
Was it great-grandchildren?
I don't know, but you can't believe the
tribe in the photograph.
Oh my, they had children.
They had grandchildren, great-grandchildren.
And here they are still together in this
beautiful big mansion.
And I was put into the upstairs of
this beautiful big mansion.
But I noticed, I noticed the tenderness in
this man's eyes when he looked at his
wife, you know.
You don't always see that.
And the tenderness in her eyes and the
little sparkle.
Oh, there's still a sparkle.
She's old.
You know, he looked at her and there
was something just of a sparkle.
And she got a little bit coy all
the time, you know.
And most homes I go to today, when
I speak to this priest from the other
side of the world, this lot had a
hard time taking their eyes off each other,
you know.
And every now and again looking at me.
There was love.
And I just realized this man is so
in love with his wife.
And look how old he is.
Look at, all his children are grown up.
They all have children.
And there's now great-grandchildren.
He still loves his wife, excited.
He really loves her.
But you know what I did?
Every night I was supposed to come downstairs.
At such a time we'd get in the
car and we'd drive down to the town
to the church.
The old man driving the car.
And there was a time I had to
come downstairs.
And it was big upstairs.
It had lounges and chandeliers and everything upstairs
you could need.
But I decided I'm ten minutes early.
I may as well go down early once,
you know.
They're only expecting me down there at such
a time now.
I had ten minutes earlier.
And I shouldn't have done it.
I came downstairs.
You know, a little bit early.
I'll make myself a cup of tea downstairs
now while I'm waiting for them.
But I came down and whoop!
What happened?
I walked into something in that house that
was going on.
They didn't know this young fellow was going
to come downstairs so early.
They were kissing.
Brothers, they weren't just kissing.
They were kissing!
I mean, I never saw young people in
my life kiss like this.
Old man was kissing his wife.
You know, you might think this is sacral
and speaking like this, but it isn't.
He was.
You know, I got such a fright when
I stood there.
I gulped and I gasped at what I
see.
And I said, oh!
They didn't know.
So I said, how am I going to
get out of this?
You know, and I said, what do you
do?
Go back up the steps, maybe squeak.
Oh, it was terrible, that squeak.
And suddenly I looked at them and they
were caught, you know.
And I went, whoo!
And she pulled and she giggled and whoo!
She runs away and he, oh!
And she runs away.
Now I got in the car.
We're going to go to Prince now, you
know.
There's dead silence in the car.
She's driving.
I couldn't speak and now she's, ah!
And he's sort of like, ah!
Looking at her.
We get to the church.
I said to the minister before the service
I had to pray with him I said,
do you know what happened?
Just how old they are.
And he laughed and he laughed and he
laughed.
Oh, he couldn't stop laughing, that man, that
priest, what happened to me in the home
they put me in.
But you know that night, I began to
pray.
And I found myself saying from my soul
to God, oh God, let me love my
wife like that when I'm old.
Let Jenny know that I'm excited to be
with her.
By the way, I look at her eyes
when other people are there.
Let love stay vital and exciting, God.
In my life, it isn't holiness, brother, and
sanctification, and maturity, and Christianity to keep them
at a distance and not to show them
you're excited with what they are, that you
love them, you're excited by them.
And forgive me for saying, not the other
way around, you ladies might say, well, it
was Sarah's physical beauty.
No, I'll tell you something, I fell in
love with Jenny for her physical beauty.
I'll be honest, I never knew there was
such a purity in beauty as when I
saw my wife's face, unspoiled by sin, so
pure, and yet there was a beauty.
And without knowing her nature and reactions altogether,
I fell in love with what I saw,
that beauty.
And later, she hasn't got that youthful perfectness
that the world will always look for before
you get married, you know.
But I love Jenny more now than I
loved her when I first saw her.
And do you know what I love now
more about her?
I love her submissiveness.
I love her inability to judge me when
I fail, her inability to remind me of
my failure, her amazing forgiveness as I fail.
And I failed.
I wish I could stand here and say
I never failed under the stress when all
hell came against me.
I love her for the ability to let
me be the priest of the whole, though
she knew Christ for years longer than I
knew Christ, though she's been through the Bible
much more than I've been.
I love her for her ability to allow
me and want me to be the priest.
I love her for her willingness to be,
to let me go and preach to the
world and her calling is to raise up
the children and make me a home to
walk back in that I feel here is
home.
I love Jenny because of her inside Christ
-likeness, her beauty through her spiritual walk with
God and the obedience, not by obeying anymore,
just by instinct through her spiritual walk, by
reaction, because she's so godly.
I love my wife because I don't know
anyone more godly, alive on earth today than
my wife.
Can your husband say that of you?
I love her more now than I ever
knew my heart to love her and want
to be with her because she had what
Sarah had, the grace to be all a
woman should be to make a man know
he is the man of the house, he
is the head of the house.
In spite of his failures, he is to
be the priest I'll tell you something staggering,
ladies, if my children follow Christ, it will
be 90% through what Jenny was, not
the 10% they saw the Father.
I wish I could stand here as a
man and say the other way round, you
know, they needed me.
Oh, the influence of a mother, of a
wife, and oh, the shame of a father
that isn't what he should be when he
could have been when he could have loved
his wife till his old age more than
he loved her from the day he met
her.
If he had been all God wanted him
to be and walked with God and had
the heart of God, he could have had
love that that woman felt respect to him.
Do you want to know something?
Your wife feels as much dignity as you
love her.
How much have you given her dignity?
How much does he know you love her?
Can a person stay in love all your
life in marriage?
Oh, yes, if you allow God.
And you're not too proud to change if
you're wrong and love isn't there anymore.
To all of you, to all of you
who need to ask God to heal the
wounds that have caused love to not be
what it should be in marriage, I'm going
to repeat that.
To all of you here who need to
ask God to heal the wounds that have
caused love to not be what it should
be, to all who need to say to
God, give me a new start in marriage,
another chance to spend life, what's left of
it, in love.
Renew my love by a work of grace
through the blood of Christ and the work
of the Holy Spirit through my submissing to
thee again.
Renew love in my life, Lord.
I want to love her again, heal the
wounds, the hurts caused by unkind words, by
interfering some in-laws that I allowed to
influence me to my love to my husband
or my wife.
Heal the weak moments that happened in my
life like it happened in David that my
wife may have to forgive me for.
I want those who need to dedicate their
marriage of faith to God here today who
need to ask God for forgiveness for failures,
for unkind words, for losing the tenderness, for
changing the tone, and your children have heard
it and your friends have heard it, for
losing the first love that could have grown
more and more, for unfaithfulness, for bitterness, for
despising their husbands.
Forgive me, God.
I need forgiveness for the sins of the
whole.
Ask God for cleansing for the sins of
the whole.
To those of you that need to dedicate
yourself here this morning, that what is left
of life you will apply with all your
heart and soul and might to love your
wife and not be bitter against them in
thus doing, defying God deliberately through pride, to
forgive, to love them and to wise to
willingly no matter what failures in the past
to be submissive to them in subjection that
you don't have to give account to Christ
one day for anything no matter what they
did and that your children will live what
you showed them when their husbands failed.
That your prayers be not hindered I want
every single one in this building, every single
one of you in this building that God
is speaking to that needs desperately to say
God forgive me.
Wash me in the blood of Christ.
I desperately need to be cleansed.
I desperately need thee God to heal my
marriage and I desperately require thee to do
a miracle and give me love back and
I will apply my life by thy grace
to the day I die with every faculty
of my being to fulfill God's requirements to
keep a marriage beautiful to the end for
my children's sake for my prayers sake I
want those of you that desperately need to
seek God and rededicate your marriage to God
to become holy what's left of it by
a work of his grace I want those
of you who desperately, desperately need to seek
God here this morning in marriage to heal
it for your children's sake let alone yours
I want you who are desperate enough to
not be too proud to say it's me
God I want those of you that are
honest enough and desperate enough to the little
moment left of life to grab it and
let God have his way to seek God
this morning and those of you that will
I want you to stand it's going to
cost you to stand but it's going to
cost you a million times more if you
can't through pride I want those of you
God has spoken to to stand right now
and I'm going to lead those who stand
in prayer and God is not going to
despise you in
the house of God for giving God another
chance I ask once more only once more
those of you in the battlefield right now
is it worth pride brother, sister to not
let God have his way for your children
and for his glory will you please seek
God by standing and saying it's me and
we're going to pray yes let's
make this sacred, come no one's judging you,
come move away, come down I'll let you
kneel here I want you to come and
let's make this a sacred moment come, come
make your way down everyone out there is
praying for you not judging you, they dare
not judge you come those of you that
need to seek God here and get healing
I want everyone out there to stand please
that is not coming and I want everyone
of you to pray in your hearts for
these people to pray in your hearts for
God to do such a wonderful work and
to so honour them for this humbling themselves
in the sight of the Lord that God
will lift them up to a life they
never knew that they're not even dreaming God
can do I want you in love and
compassion to pray for them even if you're
their children God please, please God make this
a healing and bring love so in their
lives above that we're dreaming that they die
every day you'll be busy out there praying
I'm going to lead you in prayer and
then I'm going to let you pray yourselves
but I want all of you on your
knees to pray aloud with me let's all
shudder eyes please and bow our heads before
our God and trust Him because we're two
or three of you agree trusting anything that's
the will of God in the name of
Jesus Christ it shall be given come,
everyone on their knees follow these words from
your heart for God does not look at
the words that proceed out of the mouth
He looks at the heart from whence they
come and I want you to pray a
prayer that many multitudes of people have prayed
and most of them, most of them by
far their marriage was totally healed so don't
despise this way you pray aloud with me
oh my God forgive me for the sins
of the whole for my sins in my
marriage for failing thee for failing my loved
ones for failing my children for failing my
testimony forgive me for my unchristlikeness my pride
my defiance of God's will and of His
commandment that He gave in love wash me
in the blood of Christ the only hope
I have of being cleansed by God and
forgiven by man is the blood of Jesus
wash me through and through and through and
through create in me a clean heart, oh
God renew a right spirit within me fill
me with the Holy Spirit, God fill me
afresh that the fruit of the Spirit will
be seen in my life spontaneously without my
struggling no matter how trying the circumstances because
thou art in control oh take control as
I lay my life at the altar of
God longing for Him to take control that
I may be like Jesus when my loved
one fails that I may be like Jesus
when I'm tired when I'm wronged when I'm
wounded or misunderstood oh
God renew love in my heart for my
loved one please undo all the damage that
has been done through my sinfulness in the
home through my pride please heal the wound
and the hurts in her heart in His
heart please let my loved one forgive me
utterly and never remember or bring up again
my past failures let my loved one give
me a new start in life, in marriage
please God give love to that loved one
of mine toward me heal the love in
both of our hearts by the blood of
Jesus by a work of grace of the
Holy Spirit heal bring love back tenderness in
my words respect help me to honor my
loved one to be all God says I
should be that my loved one can honor
me and love me help my children to
forgive me help them to give me another
chance to show them it's possible to be
happy in a Christian life in the home
if you live as God says you should
and by His grace and draw strength daily
from Him primarily to live Christ in the
home because I know Lord that my children
know if it doesn't work in the home
it doesn't work anywhere please God let my
children give us another chance that my prayers
will be not hindered when I pray for
them one day in their marriage and even
now in their love for God in
Jesus Christ's name in Jesus the Christ's name
I ask this of thee Amen Lord I
pray for everyone in this congregation everyone I
pray for the children standing here because this
message is more for them than for their
parents in a world that doesn't want to
get married because it doesn't work because so
many land up divorced I want these children
God please to never forget this sermon to
the day they die that they will never
ever ever ever consider living unwed with women
or men like the rest of the world
does with their argument marriage doesn't work but
that they will never ever go near someone
of the opposite sex and until God confirms
it and gives peace to everyone required but
that they will marry in the will of
God with the smile of God and the
sanction of God upon their marriage that they
will live what they heard today that they'll
never forget it and that they will know
that it will work and can work by
what they heard here today and what they
see in their parents lives from today Oh
God let these children remember till their dying
day that the earth is honorable the beds
undefiled that whoremongers and adulterers God will judge
don't let them ever forget it and don't
let them ever forget what God says to
do to do, to be godly in the
home that your prayers be not hindered Oh
God let them never forget burn it in
their heart write it upon their heart that
these children will have the fruit of this
message in the years to come and through
their lives do it to every single child
and to every single home represented here Oh
God honor and bless the home God honor
and bless marriage make it holy make it
the most sacred thing Lord in the testimony
in Jesus Christ's name now while I head
about I'm going to let everyone of you
just pray in your own words not loud
but softly I'm going to give you time
and everyone's going to wait patiently longing for
you to have your own now you have
dealings with God look just for things you
need to say to him and I'm going
to give you a few minutes while we
stand and we're all going to go to
live what we've heard today now you pray
come now pray every one of you speak
to God from your heart as individuals and
we're waiting we're not listening we're just waiting
and praying and trusting with you I
want to guarantee you from my heart if
you pray from your heart God is going
to honor you above everyone in this building
from now onwards God honors them that humble
themselves in the sight of the Lord and
you did that today now this God and
holy obligation is going to honor you above
that you're dreaming in the things you pray
don't doubt that don't you doubt that now
what they have prayed and what we pray
with them not even knowing ultimately their words
we ask in Jesus Christ's name for his
sake God with faith and hope and resting
now in God not in ourselves in God
giving us the grace we've asked for and
doing the work we ask him to do
can those kneeling please stand just stand just
where you are stand I want to say
something for one minute here I want to
say from my heart to you husbands I
don't know if you have the courage to
do these sacred things they're not done publicly
but I want you to remember this you
husbands as fast as you can after this
I want you to get along with your
wife and I want you to put your
arms around her and look her in the
eyes and I want you to say from
your heart I love you I don't know
why but a woman needs to know that
she needs to hear it so many times
somehow it gives her dignity and reassurance so
give it to her let's start today I
love you reassure her daily no matter what
happens in that home now you don't fail
to do that I want you ladies to
look him in the eyes today and say
I forgive you utterly