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Well, greetings in the precious name of the
Lord Jesus Christ.
Welcome to the meetings on the home.
But you know, it's really not about the
home, is it?
It's Him.
It's all about Him.
Let's stand before Him for prayer.
God, our Father, we do love You this
evening.
Lord, blessed be Your holy name.
Thank You, Father, for loving us.
Thank You for sending Your Son for us.
Thank You for washing us in the blood.
Thank You for putting such a heart in
us, O God.
Yes, that we want to know You.
We want to serve You, O Father, all
of our days.
Lord, because You are who You are, we
want to raise our children for You also,
God.
O Father, I pray, open the eyes of
our understanding through these weeks, dear God, these
days that we're together.
Open the eyes of our understanding and let
us see, Lord, the way You see our
children.
God, I pray, take charge of this session.
Lord, I commit it into Your care.
And I pray in Jesus Christ's name, amen.
You may be seated.
Well, God bless all you courageous parents who
have come for these ten days.
You're in for a rigorous ten days.
It shows your hunger that You would come,
that You would set aside ten days, yea,
more than that for some who had to
travel, ten days to seek God about your
family.
God bless you.
I tried to make it sound tough so
that I could scare some of you away,
but you came anyway.
And I'm grateful for that.
I'm excited about what God will do with
us and for us during these days.
We are all here by faith, you and
me.
I don't know where we're going, what we'll
do, but God will lead us, that I'm
very sure about.
Why are we doing the home meetings again?
I believe it's eleven years since they were
done.
There are several reasons for that I'd like
to give as we just give a little
introduction here before we get into the holy
art of training children, which is the title
of the first session.
Why are we doing this again?
Well, there are several reasons.
I have been writing a book on the
home.
It's called The Pursuit of Godly Seed.
But while I was writing, I began to
see that there were some flat spots in
the home series.
Some need for balance.
I also, number two, began to realize that
the sessions weren't really in a proper order
like they should be.
And therefore, for that reason, I felt it
needs to be done again and done in
a more orderly way.
Number three, we're eleven years older and we've
made a lot more mistakes and learned a
lot more lessons.
And I think it would be good to
be able to share all those things that
we've learned.
And lastly, I'm in a strategic place in
my life that I won't be in again.
That being, I'm almost 54 years old.
Three of my children are grown, they're married,
they're gone.
Yet at the same time, we still have
little boys at our house and we're very
busy about training them.
So I feel I have a perspective that
I won't have again.
In ten years, I won't have any little
boys.
Now I do.
So for those reasons, I felt the need
to give the series again.
And obviously, it will be broadened quite a
bit from the original one.
In Malachi chapter 2 and verse 15, you'll
find a portion of that scripture up here
on the board.
It says that God is seeking a godly
seed.
That is what these meetings are about.
Because God is seeking a godly seed.
Not because you want your children to be
right.
Not because I would want them to be
right.
But because God, the God of heaven, is
seeking a godly seed.
That is the reason why we've gathered together
here for ten days.
And brothers and sisters, nobody seeks like God
does.
Nobody seeks like God does.
And He is seeking a godly seed.
We have come to join in with the
mysterious working of God's Spirit in the last
days.
That's why we're here.
According to Malachi chapter 4 and verse 5,
the Spirit of God is working in the
hearts of fathers and turning their hearts to
their children.
And He's working in the hearts of the
children to turn their hearts toward their fathers.
And we have come to join in with
that mysterious work.
I don't know if you realize it, but
God will be doing that in your heart
while you sit here for the next ten
days.
I promise you that.
If your heart will be open to the
Spirit of God, you will get a radical
turning of your heart.
I promise you that.
Because the Spirit of God is brooding over
our homes.
God is causing men everywhere to repent of
their unscriptural focuses.
We'll say more about it later.
But God is doing this.
This is not the work of a man.
This is not the work of some tapes.
This is not the work of any seminar.
This is the work of the living God.
Because nobody seeks like God does.
We live in perilous times.
The Bible speaks about that.
We are in them, I believe.
Perilous times.
According to Isaiah 59 and verse 19, God
says, When the enemy shall come in like
a flood, and he has, the Spirit of
the Lord shall lift up a standard against
him, against the enemy.
Now, there are many ways that the Spirit
of God can do that.
But I believe that one of those ways
is He lifts up the standard of a
godly family against the enemy.
I believe nothing will turn or affect this
nation that we live in more than Spirit
-anointed, godly families.
Nothing.
God is desiring to lift up that standard
against the enemy.
Just a little bit of our testimony.
Jackie and I have come a long way.
May I say it that way?
We've come a long way.
We have learned much out of failure.
We have sought God for answers through the
years.
We have stuttered and stumbled around quite a
bit.
You can ask our children.
They'll tell you.
But all the while we were stumbling around,
there was something inside of our heart that
said, We want to go the right way.
We want to do the right things.
And because of that, we sought God when
we didn't have answers.
We sought God when we saw failure.
And through study and meditation in His Word,
God gave answers.
God gave us answers.
He'll do the same for you.
He'll do that for you this week.
I'm sure many of you came looking for
answers.
You came to the right place.
God gives answers when we meditate upon them.
We didn't have a good start.
We had no clear patterns.
We didn't know how to be Christian husband,
Christian wife.
We didn't have a clue.
We didn't know how to raise our children.
We didn't have a clue when we started.
There's hope for you.
We've come a long way.
We still have needs.
I want to say that in the beginning
here.
Because I want to preach the beautiful realities
of the Word of God all week.
But I want to let you know here
in the beginning.
We have lots of needs in our family.
We're not a perfect home.
We're not the godly home.
We're not.
We're just like you are.
We're learning.
We're growing.
We're endeavoring to raise our family for God.
We make mistakes.
We get up off of our faces and
go again and learn what we need to
learn.
We're no different than you are.
But one thing I do know for sure.
We are pressing on.
That is our desire.
We tremble a bit entering into these ten
days of meetings.
You know, eleven years ago when we did
this.
We did not know how the enemy would
attack us for doing such a thing as
telling everybody about how they can have a
godly home.
We had no idea.
But now we know.
Now we know.
But we're still here.
Amen?
We're still here.
Let me share with you an experience that
God gave me that has stuck with me
for these many years now.
About six years ago, I had an experience
in an African village that I'll never forget.
And I wish that I could take every
one of you to an African village just
one time.
You would never be the same.
I know that.
But I know I can't take you to
that village, so I'll try to take you
there with a few words.
It's about six years ago that I was
in an African village.
We were there with some others doing an
exploratory trip to see if possibly God would
have us plant a church in this village.
It was a large village.
In an African village, they're run very much
like they were a hundred years ago.
The chief is the boss.
The authority in the village is the chief.
And he became the chief by the family
lineages, and they have all that worked out.
But we were in this African village, and
we had made an appeal at the chief's
palace to talk to the chief about starting
a church in his village.
So there we were, sitting in the shade,
waiting for the chief to come out of
his mud palace with a grass roof.
Eventually he came through his door, he had
his robes on, and everybody started bowing down
to the ground as he walked out of
his mud palace.
And he came and took his seat on
a little throne underneath a shaded area.
And as he was sitting there, it was
my lot to approach him and explain why
we were there.
Now, I wasn't feeling very excited about that,
because I didn't know what this man was
going to do with me.
But I was the oldest there, so I
approached the chief's throne and knelt down on
one knee and began to speak to him
and tell him why we were there.
And I told him, we've come, we want
to plant a church here.
Oh, he was happy about that.
He was excited.
He said, oh, you are welcome.
You are welcome.
We will even give you a piece of
land when you are ready to go.
And so we got his blessing on that.
Then I started introducing the people that were
there.
There happened to be three of my children
there with me in that village.
In fact, it's the three that are not
here right now.
They were there with me and I introduced
them.
I turned over to my children and I
told them these are my children, these three.
And I gave the names and I said,
I have five more at home.
And he looked a little funny at me
and said, with one wife?
And I said, yes, with one wife.
Well, that's surprising to him.
You see, he had 15 wives and about
60 children.
Many times he didn't even know who his
children were in the village.
But I noticed him watching my children.
And then he said these words and I'll
never forget them.
He looked at me and he said, your
children, they follow your ways.
Then he looked back at me and he
looked at them and he looked back at
me.
And then he said these words.
My children are rebellious.
They will not do what I say.
You know, as I knelt there looking into
that chief's face, his eyes were saying something
to me.
His eyes were saying, as he looked over
at them again, his eyes were saying, how
do you get them to do this?
And I knew what he was saying.
I knew very well what he was saying.
How do you get them to leave comfortable
America?
How do you get them to come over
here in the heat, in the sweat, in
the sickness, in the malaria, in the filth,
where there are no roads and everything is
miserable?
How do you get them to leave America?
And he knew what America was like and
come over here to Africa.
Your children, they follow your ways.
How do you get them to do that?
Well, the Bible says, train up a child
in the way that he should go.
And when he is old, he will not
depart from it.
Proverbs 22, 6.
Praise the Lord for those words.
God has given us ways and means by
which we can get our children to follow
our ways, which, by the way, are God's
ways.
Not ours at all.
These words of wisdom are hidden in God's
word, and they are there for us to
dig them out whenever we need them.
In this series, for these next ten days,
I plan to answer the chief's question.
How do you get them to do this?
Maybe some of you have the same kind
of questions in your own heart.
Well, let's look at the title of the
message this evening, The Holy Art of Training
Children.
The prophet David cried out to God in
Psalm 144.
He cried to God for mature plants and
polished cornerstones.
This was the cry on David's heart.
Both of these take an art, don't they?
You know, you can learn how to have
a green thumb and make something grow.
And you can learn how to take a
stone and polish that stone and shape that
stone into a beautiful stone.
It's an art.
It is an art.
Child training is an art, brothers and sisters.
It's an art.
Watch the artist with his paintbrush as he
begins to paint a picture on a piece
of canvas.
Every stroke of his brush adds some more
beauty to the painting that he's painting.
Every stroke adds some more meaning to the
heart of what he's putting on that canvas.
As you stand and watch him, you marvel
how easily he does that.
Moving his brush this way and that.
Mixing this color with this one and another
one.
And marking it and painting his beautiful picture.
And as we stand there and watch this
artist paint his picture, maybe these thoughts would
come into our own hearts and minds.
And we would say to him, how did
you learn to do that?
That's amazing how you can paint that picture,
we might say.
What do you think he would answer if
we asked him such a question as that?
He would probably give this answer.
He would say, it is a gift that
God gave to me.
But it is also a gift that I
had to learn and develop over many, many
years.
Well, that's a little bit how I look
at child training also.
It is a gift that God deposits in
each and every one of us.
But it is also a gift that we
must learn and develop by observation and study
and practice.
And we can do that, brothers and sisters.
We can learn how to train our children
in such a way that we feel comfortable
in what we're doing.
And no longer fearful if we're going to
do the right thing.
We can do that.
His answer was twofold.
It's the same with child training.
It's a holy art.
I call it a holy art because there
is in the Bible a revelation of sanctified
principles that all work together, if followed, to
form a beautiful soul that is filled with
Christlike character.
Those principles are in this book, brothers and
sisters.
If we follow them, they work because these
principles are disciplines.
Not for the children.
Disciplines for the parents.
You see, when you're going to be an
artist, you're the one who gets disciplined.
You're the one who disciplines yourself when you're
going to be an artist in whatever you
learn.
Yes, a holy art because these principles are
disciplines for the parents, not for the children.
They are rigorous at times, but if you
will follow them, you will find yourself becoming
proficient in them.
Just like the artist does, you will also
become proficient.
Do you believe that this evening, brothers and
sisters?
God has deposited that in you.
God wants to develop that in you.
And if you will allow Him, He will
make you an artist.
An holy art?
Yes.
Because the subject of child training is a
subject that must be studied, learned, practiced and
mastered.
Oh, the joyful results that come as we
learn the nuts and bolts of everyday child
training.
Brothers and sisters, are you ready to become
a student of training children?
And I don't mean a student because you're
here this week, although that will qualify you.
But you will not develop this art that
I'm speaking about if you are only going
to be a student while you are here
in this place for these ten days.
It won't work.
It's not enough for the artist to go
sit in a classroom and hear a few
things.
He must go back to his own middle
room and get out his paintbrush and put
up the easel and begin to paint and
learn and observe.
And that is what I mean.
We need to become students of raising our
children, where we walk through the days of
our lives and our homes, pondering everything that
is happening.
What should I do in this situation?
How should I handle this one?
What does the Bible say about the situation
that my son is in right now?
And on and on it goes.
Students of raising children.
A holy art?
Yes, because many go about it in a
very haphazard way.
Here a little, there a little.
Off again, on again.
Kind of a haphazard way.
Get a little frustrated.
Get a little spanking.
Etc.
etc.
It is a sort of hit and miss
thing with them.
And, of course, they get the same kind
of results.
Well, my desire is that we would not
see it that way after these ten days.
Not a little haphazard thing you just flip
into here and there.
No, not at all.
But instead, something to be done.
Purposely, daily, consistently.
And you will get beautiful results.
And lastly, a holy art.
Because we need to lift these principles up
out of the common place where they have
been laid.
And make them holy again.
They are holy.
God revealed them.
God showed us his heart in his word
concerning our children.
They are holy.
If we will lift them out of the
common place and begin to realize the glorious
treasures that are hidden in every precept that
we're going to look at, God will change
our hearts.
Let's look at a definition of the word
art.
That will help us to understand the title.
This definition gives us great encouragement.
Art.
A skill that is obtained by study, practice,
and observation.
There it is.
A system of principles and methods employed in
the creation of something beautiful.
Glory.
There it is.
That's it.
Let me read it again.
A system of principles and methods employed in
the creation of making something beautiful.
What a lovely definition of child training.
That's what we're about.
Making something beautiful for God.
Not for us.
It's for God.
Well, God has given the ability to you.
We need to rise up in faith and
develop it.
You say, Brother Denny, I don't have what
it takes.
I know you're up there and you're talking
all these things, but you're who you are.
But I don't have what it takes.
May I carefully warn you of the danger
of unbelief?
You know that you can sit through all
these meetings in a state of unbelief, and
you will get relatively little out of all
that is given.
But if instead you will settle it in
your heart even this first evening, I'm going
to believe the word of God.
I'm going to believe what God says.
God said that settles it.
Amen?
That's what we need to do.
I want to warn you not to give
in to those thoughts of unbelief.
Oh, if you knew, especially some of you
men, if you knew what God wants to
make of you as you give yourself to
the responsibilities of raising your children, if you
only knew what God would do with you.
How dare you sit there in unbelief and
say, I just don't have what it takes.
Come, let us reason together.
Would God give children and not give the
ability to train them?
Would He?
Would God give children and not tell you
how to raise them?
Of course not.
Would God give you children and then let
you fail at training them?
We know the answer to these questions.
Of course He wouldn't.
If God gave you children, God has provided
the ways and means by which you can
train them and raise them.
And you say, but it's not in me.
I don't know how to talk.
I don't know how to speak.
I'm not a teacher.
I'm not.
Listen, God can make you something that you're
not.
He's in that business.
That's the kind of God He is.
So if you're not, praise God.
He delights in taking the are nots and
using them to confound everybody else.
That's what it says in 1 Corinthians chapter
1.
He delights in doing that.
And besides that, remember, all this week we
are looking at all of this subject through
the eyes of a so great salvation.
Amen?
God has not left us alone.
We are not left here all by ourselves.
He has not done it.
God is in the salvage business.
Amen?
He salvaged me.
He salvaged you.
And guess what?
He'll salvage your home too.
You say, well, Brother Denny, my home needs
to be salvaged.
Well, praise God.
You've come to the right place.
God's in the salvage business.
He delights in taking something that is chaos
and bringing beautiful order to it.
He delights in taking the broken, undone ones
and setting them among the princes of the
land.
God delights in doing that.
So if your home needs a salvage job,
God is in the salvage business.
But you must believe that in your heart.
Your heart must rise up and say, yes,
Lord, I believe.
Help thou mine unbelief.
But I believe you can do it for
me, even for me.
God has given you an ability.
And I think you got the hint already.
I aim to convince you of this fact
before these meetings are out.
If you are blood washed, you have the
ability to raise your children in the nurture
and the admonition of the Lord.
You have it.
It's in you.
But guess what?
Just like the painter, if he sits there
before a blank piece of canvas with his
paint in this hand and his brush in
this hand, and he sits there looking at
it and saying, I can't do it.
Guess what?
He won't have any painting when he's done.
And that's exactly how it is with you
and I, brothers and sisters.
God is able.
He is able to do exceedingly abundantly above
what we could even ask or think.
Amen.
I think we could put our families under
there somewhere, couldn't we?
Exceedingly abundantly above.
How high do you want to reach?
Above all that you could even ask or
even dream of.
He's able to do it.
Hallelujah.
Allow me to be the voice of your
father this week, saying it's there.
It's there.
I see it.
I see the ability in you.
It only needs to be stimulated.
It only needs to be stirred.
You only need to rise up and pick
up that paintbrush and say, Lord, help me.
I'm ready to go.
And God will help you.
I assure you.
Let us turn the focus of our hearts
onto our precious children.
Study, learn, observe, so we can train them
for the glory of God.
All of heaven is for you, brothers and
sisters.
Remember Malachi 2.15?
The father is seeking a godly seed.
He is longing with all of his holy
heart to have godly seed upon the earth.
One of the major themes of revelation in
the word of God is God seeking children
for himself.
All through the Bible you will see it.
He is intensely interested in your children.
He will help you raise your family.
He will help you.
He's the God who parted the Red Sea.
He's the God who's done all the miracles
that we find in the Bible.
Surely he can help you with your children.
You cannot go wrong if you focus on
the thing that is nearest to God's heart.
You can't go wrong.
I tell you, God will come alongside of
you.
He will help you.
He will strengthen you.
He will give you wisdom.
He will enlighten your heart.
He will give you what you need.
Why?
Because he is the one who is seeking
your children.
He wants your children to be godly.
He will help you.
What an exciting prospect that is.
Think about it.
Co-laboring with the glorious, omnipotent, all-wise
God to raise my children.
What more could you ask for than that?
Are you listening?
Tonight, brother, sister, you have a gift.
God has put within you what is needed.
You just need to step into the water
and watch the River Jordan part.
Amen?
That's how it is.
You know that?
What do you think would have happened if
those priests, when they walked up to the
River Jordan, if they walked up to the
edge and just stood there and said, Okay,
God said we're going to go over on
dry ground.
Amen?
The river won't part, will it?
No.
You know why?
Because God said, I want you to step
into the water.
I want you to step into the water
believing that that water is going to part.
And when you step into that water, the
water will part.
That's exactly how it is with our family.
Step into the water.
And the water will part.
I know it will.
You know, I thought also, we could have
a revival this week.
Do you know that?
I don't mean just some good meetings.
I mean, we could have revival this week.
This subject is so near to God's heart.
If we get serious about Him and our
children, we could have a revival.
The more that I study it, the more
I realize revival is tucked away in this
subject right here.
It is.
We'll see that as we go.
You could be in for a radical change
in your life.
It may be you will never be the
same.
In fact, that's what we've been praying for
you.
That's what I've been praying for myself.
That through these 10 days, when it's all
said and done, I will never be the
same.
In closing, there are two powerful beings that
are after your children.
Which one will get them?
The God of heaven, the God of glory,
the omnipotent one, the ruler of the universe
is after your children.
He's seeking a godly seed.
But Satan is also a powerful being and
he is after your children.
And guess what?
It seems like he gets more than God
does.
He's after your children.
Don't doubt that one.
Just because you've protected them, just because you're
homeschooling them, just because you put them in
the right kind of church, it does not
guarantee you anything.
God is after your children and Satan is
after your children.
We are the instruments that either one of
them will use to possess our children and
use them for their kingdom.
We are the instruments that either one will
use.
Who will we yield to?
The choice is ours.
It's ours tonight and through these weeks.
Let's bow our heads for prayer.
God our Father, we wait on thee.
Lord, here we are at the beginning of
a very full ten days.
Father, we open our hearts to you.
You know where we are, all of us
in this room.
You know where we are.
Thank you, Father.
You are an all-seeing God and you
know the depths of every one of our
hearts.
You know the situation in every one of
our homes, God.
You see it all.
You're weeping over some of them.
You have been weeping over them.
Now here we are, Father, beginning to sit
with a heart to learn.
Oh, grant us open hearts, Father.
Oh, Father, would you help us to see
the family the way that you see it?
Lord, even if it's painful, would you do
that through these sessions?
Father, help us to see the way you
see.
We choose to open our hearts to you.
We choose to yield to you.
Lord, take us on from here.
Don't let us be the same.
This is our prayer.
We pray before you in Jesus Christ's name,
amen.