1 00:00:00,840 --> 00:00:03,080 Hello, this is Brother Denny. 2 00:00:03,660 --> 00:00:05,580 Welcome to Charity Ministries. 3 00:00:06,600 --> 00:00:09,460 Our desire is that your life would be 4 00:00:09,460 --> 00:00:11,820 blessed and changed by this message. 5 00:00:12,720 --> 00:00:15,940 This message is not copyrighted and is not 6 00:00:15,940 --> 00:00:16,920 to be bought or sold. 7 00:00:17,660 --> 00:00:19,900 You are welcome to make copies for your 8 00:00:19,900 --> 00:00:20,780 friends and neighbors. 9 00:00:21,860 --> 00:00:25,060 If you would like additional messages, please go 10 00:00:25,060 --> 00:00:28,480 to our website for a complete listing at 11 00:00:28,480 --> 00:00:32,040 www.charityministries.org. 12 00:00:32,520 --> 00:00:34,740 If you would like a catalog of other 13 00:00:34,740 --> 00:00:41,300 sermons, please call 1-800-227-7902 or 14 00:00:41,300 --> 00:00:45,760 write to Charity Ministries, 400 West Main Street, 15 00:00:46,160 --> 00:00:49,860 Suite 1, AFPA, 17522. 16 00:00:50,860 --> 00:00:54,280 These messages are offered to all without charge 17 00:00:54,280 --> 00:00:56,560 by the free will offerings of God's people. 18 00:00:57,360 --> 00:00:59,620 A special thank you to all who support 19 00:00:59,620 --> 00:01:00,420 this ministry. 20 00:01:02,900 --> 00:01:06,640 Okay, we're going to continue on with the 21 00:01:06,640 --> 00:01:08,540 subject of discipline. 22 00:01:09,280 --> 00:01:12,760 I am going to get very practical in 23 00:01:12,760 --> 00:01:13,680 this next session. 24 00:01:13,680 --> 00:01:16,800 Again, the title of this message is A 25 00:01:16,800 --> 00:01:18,940 Sacred Exercise. 26 00:01:19,640 --> 00:01:22,340 A Sacred Exercise. 27 00:01:22,700 --> 00:01:26,060 I don't know if you've ever looked at 28 00:01:26,060 --> 00:01:30,860 spanking that way, but I hope to convince 29 00:01:30,860 --> 00:01:34,760 you this evening that it is indeed one 30 00:01:34,760 --> 00:01:37,920 of the most sacred exercises that you can 31 00:01:37,920 --> 00:01:38,260 do. 32 00:01:38,260 --> 00:01:40,300 So I want to get practical in this 33 00:01:40,300 --> 00:01:43,140 session as we continue to look at the 34 00:01:43,140 --> 00:01:46,580 principle of chastisement in the Bible. 35 00:01:47,200 --> 00:01:53,300 I'm very burdened about how parents spank their 36 00:01:53,300 --> 00:01:53,840 children. 37 00:01:54,860 --> 00:02:00,000 Many have carried the principles of discipline to 38 00:02:00,000 --> 00:02:04,240 extremes, and I hurt over it. 39 00:02:04,900 --> 00:02:08,259 This is one of the major areas that 40 00:02:08,259 --> 00:02:12,300 motivated me to preach the series on the 41 00:02:12,300 --> 00:02:14,360 home over again. 42 00:02:15,100 --> 00:02:18,620 I have heard some stories that make me 43 00:02:18,620 --> 00:02:23,400 weep, and I realize that somehow some people 44 00:02:23,400 --> 00:02:28,600 are grabbing one tape on disciplining children and 45 00:02:28,600 --> 00:02:32,060 thinking this is the answer to every woe 46 00:02:32,060 --> 00:02:32,920 in my home. 47 00:02:32,920 --> 00:02:34,400 And it's not. 48 00:02:34,780 --> 00:02:36,460 I tell you it's not. 49 00:02:37,140 --> 00:02:41,060 And so I'm very burdened that we understand 50 00:02:41,060 --> 00:02:42,540 this subject properly. 51 00:02:43,540 --> 00:02:47,000 I fear that some will lose their children, 52 00:02:47,720 --> 00:02:51,300 having them taken away from them, because they're 53 00:02:51,300 --> 00:02:54,160 carrying this principle to extremes. 54 00:02:54,400 --> 00:02:55,540 That's my burden. 55 00:02:56,440 --> 00:02:58,960 I desire to give a balanced view of 56 00:02:58,960 --> 00:03:03,560 loving discipline and call parents to face some 57 00:03:03,560 --> 00:03:07,140 of their own needs rather than always turn 58 00:03:07,140 --> 00:03:09,660 to the rod to change the child. 59 00:03:10,440 --> 00:03:14,320 If you are a parent who lives in 60 00:03:14,320 --> 00:03:18,060 the flesh and not in the spirit most 61 00:03:18,060 --> 00:03:21,020 of the time, this is not good. 62 00:03:21,020 --> 00:03:24,620 If you are a parent who is plagued 63 00:03:24,620 --> 00:03:28,740 with discouragement as the hours go by in 64 00:03:28,740 --> 00:03:31,560 your day, this is not good. 65 00:03:32,200 --> 00:03:34,760 If you are a parent who is full 66 00:03:34,760 --> 00:03:38,860 of bitterness and anger, and you live your 67 00:03:38,860 --> 00:03:42,360 days with all of that seething inside of 68 00:03:42,360 --> 00:03:44,600 you, this is not good. 69 00:03:44,600 --> 00:03:48,800 If you are a parent who hates yourself 70 00:03:48,800 --> 00:03:52,640 and you think you're trash and you're good 71 00:03:52,640 --> 00:03:56,180 for nothing, this is not good. 72 00:03:56,980 --> 00:04:02,020 These are major needs in your life, and 73 00:04:02,020 --> 00:04:03,420 you need help. 74 00:04:03,740 --> 00:04:05,200 You need help. 75 00:04:06,200 --> 00:04:08,980 Spanking is a sacred exercise. 76 00:04:09,700 --> 00:04:12,860 It is one of the most spiritual aspects 77 00:04:12,860 --> 00:04:14,460 of child training. 78 00:04:14,940 --> 00:04:18,320 It is one of the most spiritual aspects 79 00:04:18,320 --> 00:04:19,800 of child training. 80 00:04:20,640 --> 00:04:24,560 If you are in such a state as 81 00:04:24,560 --> 00:04:28,580 I described just a moment ago, your child 82 00:04:28,580 --> 00:04:33,000 is affected by your state of being. 83 00:04:33,760 --> 00:04:37,120 To try and correct it out of them 84 00:04:37,120 --> 00:04:40,420 with a rod in the condition that you 85 00:04:40,420 --> 00:04:44,580 are in is an utter tragedy and a 86 00:04:44,580 --> 00:04:46,500 gross perversion of the truth. 87 00:04:47,220 --> 00:04:48,680 This happens all the time. 88 00:04:49,300 --> 00:04:50,980 Just imagine how it is. 89 00:04:51,640 --> 00:04:54,280 Here we have somebody with many deep needs 90 00:04:54,280 --> 00:04:55,120 in their life. 91 00:04:55,760 --> 00:04:58,080 They're trying to be spiritual, but they're not 92 00:04:58,080 --> 00:04:59,160 walking with God. 93 00:04:59,160 --> 00:05:01,300 They want to do what's right, but things 94 00:05:01,300 --> 00:05:02,580 aren't going well with them. 95 00:05:03,200 --> 00:05:05,220 They struggle with bitterness and anger. 96 00:05:06,220 --> 00:05:07,980 How do you think that shakes out when 97 00:05:07,980 --> 00:05:09,560 they relate with their children? 98 00:05:10,300 --> 00:05:12,140 They begin to see their children through the 99 00:05:12,140 --> 00:05:14,200 eyes of their bitterness and their anger. 100 00:05:14,560 --> 00:05:16,680 They begin to spank them that way, and 101 00:05:16,680 --> 00:05:19,480 all kinds of confusion sets in, and it 102 00:05:19,480 --> 00:05:21,440 does not come out right. 103 00:05:23,040 --> 00:05:25,540 I am not saying don't spank your children. 104 00:05:25,540 --> 00:05:29,300 I am saying out of sincere love, get 105 00:05:29,300 --> 00:05:30,760 help for yourself. 106 00:05:31,560 --> 00:05:34,060 Then rise up in the free flow of 107 00:05:34,060 --> 00:05:36,420 the grace of God and lovingly spank your 108 00:05:36,420 --> 00:05:36,820 children. 109 00:05:36,980 --> 00:05:37,800 That's what I'm saying. 110 00:05:38,580 --> 00:05:40,580 I'm not saying this to scare you away 111 00:05:40,580 --> 00:05:41,880 so you won't spank your children. 112 00:05:42,060 --> 00:05:43,980 I'm saying it so that you out of 113 00:05:43,980 --> 00:05:47,780 love will say, I must do something with 114 00:05:47,780 --> 00:05:49,260 my own heart. 115 00:05:50,260 --> 00:05:53,820 It is not right to whip it all 116 00:05:53,820 --> 00:05:57,000 out of your children when you are a 117 00:05:57,000 --> 00:05:58,680 mess on the inside. 118 00:05:59,360 --> 00:06:01,540 It's not right. 119 00:06:02,200 --> 00:06:05,980 I am going to attempt to explain how 120 00:06:05,980 --> 00:06:08,460 we spank our children in this session. 121 00:06:09,060 --> 00:06:12,700 This is a tender subject to me, and 122 00:06:12,700 --> 00:06:15,060 I have many sweet memories to draw from. 123 00:06:15,060 --> 00:06:19,260 That's why I call it sacred, because it 124 00:06:19,260 --> 00:06:22,260 is holy, and it ought to be sanctified 125 00:06:22,260 --> 00:06:26,220 with the presence of the living God every 126 00:06:26,220 --> 00:06:27,400 time you do it. 127 00:06:27,840 --> 00:06:32,880 Remember how I described God and I building 128 00:06:32,880 --> 00:06:35,400 a house a couple sessions back there? 129 00:06:36,020 --> 00:06:38,420 You know, His hand on my hand? 130 00:06:38,420 --> 00:06:41,360 Well, this is one of those sacred times 131 00:06:41,360 --> 00:06:44,200 when God puts His hand on my hand 132 00:06:44,200 --> 00:06:50,640 and we both spank our children, our children, 133 00:06:51,080 --> 00:06:52,660 His and mine. 134 00:06:53,720 --> 00:06:56,880 It is not easy thing to spank a 135 00:06:56,880 --> 00:06:57,400 child. 136 00:06:57,760 --> 00:06:59,040 It's not fun. 137 00:06:59,520 --> 00:07:00,660 I admit that. 138 00:07:01,180 --> 00:07:04,300 I get no kick out of it whatsoever. 139 00:07:05,200 --> 00:07:08,800 In fact, because there is a tender love 140 00:07:08,800 --> 00:07:12,120 between us, that makes it even harder to 141 00:07:12,120 --> 00:07:12,400 do. 142 00:07:13,200 --> 00:07:17,120 But for true love, we do what is 143 00:07:17,120 --> 00:07:17,560 right. 144 00:07:18,200 --> 00:07:20,520 Spanking is given in the context of a 145 00:07:20,520 --> 00:07:23,540 sweet flow of love between parent and child. 146 00:07:24,220 --> 00:07:26,780 This alone will take care of most of 147 00:07:26,780 --> 00:07:29,440 these perversions that I've mentioned already. 148 00:07:29,920 --> 00:07:31,600 Just that flow of love. 149 00:07:31,600 --> 00:07:33,500 You know, people come to me and say, 150 00:07:33,880 --> 00:07:35,500 Brother Denny, what about this? 151 00:07:35,580 --> 00:07:36,480 And what about this? 152 00:07:36,540 --> 00:07:37,600 And how do you know this? 153 00:07:37,640 --> 00:07:38,620 And how do you know that? 154 00:07:38,700 --> 00:07:39,040 You know? 155 00:07:39,180 --> 00:07:40,420 You know what the answer to that is? 156 00:07:40,920 --> 00:07:43,400 You need to be clear with God and 157 00:07:43,400 --> 00:07:44,880 full of love for your child. 158 00:07:45,480 --> 00:07:46,680 You'll know what to do. 159 00:07:46,880 --> 00:07:48,140 God will give you the wisdom. 160 00:07:49,000 --> 00:07:52,600 I searched my heart for a verse that 161 00:07:52,600 --> 00:07:55,680 best expresses how I feel when I think 162 00:07:55,680 --> 00:07:58,240 about this whole subject of spanking my children, 163 00:07:58,360 --> 00:07:59,360 my own children. 164 00:07:59,360 --> 00:08:01,620 And this is the verse that God gave 165 00:08:01,620 --> 00:08:04,280 me in Hebrews chapter 12 and verse 11. 166 00:08:05,200 --> 00:08:06,200 Listen to this verse. 167 00:08:07,220 --> 00:08:10,540 Now, no chastening for the present seemeth to 168 00:08:10,540 --> 00:08:11,360 be joyous. 169 00:08:11,780 --> 00:08:16,240 It's not joyous, but grievous, grievous to the 170 00:08:16,240 --> 00:08:18,520 child and grievous to the parent. 171 00:08:18,740 --> 00:08:19,940 It's grievous. 172 00:08:20,880 --> 00:08:27,900 Nevertheless, afterward it yieldeth the peaceable fruit of 173 00:08:27,900 --> 00:08:31,659 righteousness unto them which are exercised thereby. 174 00:08:32,320 --> 00:08:35,940 That takes this sad joy and explains it 175 00:08:35,940 --> 00:08:38,200 so clearly from my own heart. 176 00:08:38,559 --> 00:08:39,620 It is sad. 177 00:08:39,919 --> 00:08:41,260 It's a grievous thing. 178 00:08:41,260 --> 00:08:44,560 But yet it brings forth beautiful, peaceable fruit. 179 00:08:44,700 --> 00:08:48,020 And therefore, we find some joy in doing 180 00:08:48,020 --> 00:08:50,120 what is right in the sight of God. 181 00:08:51,420 --> 00:08:54,080 We take 15 to 20 minutes to spank 182 00:08:54,080 --> 00:08:55,180 one of our children. 183 00:08:55,820 --> 00:08:58,120 That may seem like a long time to 184 00:08:58,120 --> 00:08:58,340 you. 185 00:08:58,440 --> 00:09:01,020 You may say, well, brother, I don't have 186 00:09:01,020 --> 00:09:02,780 that much time to spank my child. 187 00:09:02,780 --> 00:09:04,580 Well, I want to encourage you. 188 00:09:04,840 --> 00:09:07,680 If you will practice this holy task and 189 00:09:07,680 --> 00:09:09,120 do it the way that I'm going to 190 00:09:09,120 --> 00:09:11,980 describe to you, you will not have to 191 00:09:11,980 --> 00:09:13,300 do it as often. 192 00:09:13,540 --> 00:09:17,080 I promise you, you will not have to 193 00:09:17,080 --> 00:09:18,440 do it as often. 194 00:09:19,440 --> 00:09:20,460 Step into the water. 195 00:09:21,120 --> 00:09:21,660 Try it. 196 00:09:21,760 --> 00:09:22,360 You'll see. 197 00:09:23,140 --> 00:09:25,500 There are times when a short discipline is 198 00:09:25,500 --> 00:09:25,920 in order. 199 00:09:26,060 --> 00:09:27,160 I agree with that. 200 00:09:27,160 --> 00:09:30,560 But if a parent consistently just grabs the 201 00:09:30,560 --> 00:09:33,360 child and gives them a few frustrated swats, 202 00:09:33,560 --> 00:09:36,920 you will be giving them swats many, many 203 00:09:36,920 --> 00:09:39,100 times a day and every day. 204 00:09:39,660 --> 00:09:41,600 There is a better way. 205 00:09:41,800 --> 00:09:43,700 And God has it. 206 00:09:44,380 --> 00:09:45,020 The next point. 207 00:09:45,800 --> 00:09:49,640 Never spank the children in anger. 208 00:09:50,120 --> 00:09:50,680 Never. 209 00:09:51,380 --> 00:09:52,260 I mean that. 210 00:09:52,800 --> 00:09:55,000 We do not spank the children in anger. 211 00:09:55,000 --> 00:09:58,100 This is a grave mistake, brothers and sisters. 212 00:09:58,920 --> 00:10:00,340 It is not allowed. 213 00:10:01,160 --> 00:10:03,200 It is not allowed. 214 00:10:03,260 --> 00:10:05,700 Just like drinking whiskey is not allowed. 215 00:10:06,080 --> 00:10:08,720 Just like smoking cigarettes is not allowed. 216 00:10:08,900 --> 00:10:10,560 It is not allowed. 217 00:10:12,160 --> 00:10:15,140 I pray that God will put a holy 218 00:10:15,140 --> 00:10:18,240 conscience in us that will never allow us 219 00:10:18,240 --> 00:10:20,820 to spank our children in anger again. 220 00:10:21,780 --> 00:10:24,700 Many times parents come to me at meetings 221 00:10:24,700 --> 00:10:26,820 and open their hearts up to me. 222 00:10:26,940 --> 00:10:28,820 You know, in innocence, they come and they 223 00:10:28,820 --> 00:10:31,260 say, Brother Denny, pray for me. 224 00:10:31,900 --> 00:10:34,220 I listen to your tape and, you know, 225 00:10:34,660 --> 00:10:36,260 I still have a problem with anger. 226 00:10:36,460 --> 00:10:38,540 I'm still spanking the children with anger. 227 00:10:38,940 --> 00:10:40,440 But we're working on it. 228 00:10:40,780 --> 00:10:42,240 You know, pray for me. 229 00:10:42,840 --> 00:10:44,800 You know, and I tell the dear person 230 00:10:44,800 --> 00:10:47,540 when they come, I tell them, oh, oh, 231 00:10:47,840 --> 00:10:50,220 my dear person, you can't do that. 232 00:10:50,220 --> 00:10:52,220 You can't ever do that again. 233 00:10:52,780 --> 00:10:54,380 I mean, the way I look at it, 234 00:10:54,540 --> 00:10:55,880 that person may as well come up and 235 00:10:55,880 --> 00:10:58,440 say, Brother Denny, I just want to let 236 00:10:58,440 --> 00:11:00,280 you know I'm kind of having a problem 237 00:11:00,280 --> 00:11:01,000 with adultery. 238 00:11:01,340 --> 00:11:02,540 I'm working on it. 239 00:11:02,820 --> 00:11:03,860 Please pray for me. 240 00:11:04,260 --> 00:11:05,380 But I'm still doing it. 241 00:11:05,440 --> 00:11:06,380 But we're trying. 242 00:11:07,160 --> 00:11:09,000 I mean, what would you say to somebody 243 00:11:09,000 --> 00:11:10,360 who said those words to you? 244 00:11:10,700 --> 00:11:12,380 You tell them, get on your knees and 245 00:11:12,380 --> 00:11:13,400 repent right now. 246 00:11:13,640 --> 00:11:15,440 Don't get off your knees until you know 247 00:11:15,440 --> 00:11:17,300 that God has dealt with the adultery in 248 00:11:17,300 --> 00:11:17,760 your heart. 249 00:11:17,760 --> 00:11:19,680 And that's how I believe we need to 250 00:11:19,680 --> 00:11:21,660 look at this whole matter of spanking our 251 00:11:21,660 --> 00:11:22,840 children in anger. 252 00:11:23,580 --> 00:11:25,980 Don't spank your children in anger. 253 00:11:26,720 --> 00:11:29,260 You need help if you're doing that. 254 00:11:29,760 --> 00:11:31,940 You desperately need help. 255 00:11:32,720 --> 00:11:34,640 I pray that God would draw a line 256 00:11:34,640 --> 00:11:37,540 in your conscience, just like your conscience says, 257 00:11:37,820 --> 00:11:38,540 I will not steal. 258 00:11:39,140 --> 00:11:40,260 And we don't, do we? 259 00:11:40,700 --> 00:11:42,840 My conscience says, I don't drink whiskey. 260 00:11:43,520 --> 00:11:44,460 And I don't. 261 00:11:45,080 --> 00:11:45,940 No questions. 262 00:11:45,940 --> 00:11:47,540 No problem. 263 00:11:48,600 --> 00:11:50,740 I will not spank my children in anger. 264 00:11:51,720 --> 00:11:53,260 That's the bottom line. 265 00:11:54,040 --> 00:11:55,080 Strong words. 266 00:11:55,760 --> 00:11:57,280 I know they're strong words. 267 00:11:57,420 --> 00:11:59,220 But just think with me. 268 00:11:59,760 --> 00:12:02,840 What is happening to your children while you're 269 00:12:02,840 --> 00:12:05,140 playing around with it and trying to do 270 00:12:05,140 --> 00:12:05,420 better? 271 00:12:05,560 --> 00:12:06,960 What is happening to your children? 272 00:12:07,940 --> 00:12:09,980 Do whatever you have to do to get 273 00:12:09,980 --> 00:12:12,400 free of this devastating plague. 274 00:12:12,400 --> 00:12:15,080 You know, the laws of our land are 275 00:12:15,080 --> 00:12:15,680 changing. 276 00:12:16,460 --> 00:12:18,060 And some of us are going to be 277 00:12:18,060 --> 00:12:20,740 forced to deal with our anger or we 278 00:12:20,740 --> 00:12:21,980 will lose our children. 279 00:12:22,860 --> 00:12:26,560 Many of the child abuse cases are child 280 00:12:26,560 --> 00:12:30,160 abuse cases because parents spank their children in 281 00:12:30,160 --> 00:12:30,960 a rage. 282 00:12:31,540 --> 00:12:33,440 And hit them where they shouldn't have. 283 00:12:33,640 --> 00:12:35,620 And hit them harder than they should have. 284 00:12:36,540 --> 00:12:38,760 You must deal with your anger. 285 00:12:39,520 --> 00:12:42,380 For the sake of God, who is being 286 00:12:42,380 --> 00:12:44,160 terribly misrepresented. 287 00:12:44,700 --> 00:12:47,460 And for the sake of your children, who 288 00:12:47,460 --> 00:12:50,360 are being warped by your spanking them in 289 00:12:50,360 --> 00:12:50,820 anger. 290 00:12:51,380 --> 00:12:54,480 Please get some help for your anger. 291 00:12:55,080 --> 00:12:56,740 You don't have to be angry. 292 00:12:57,160 --> 00:12:58,700 God can deliver you. 293 00:12:59,240 --> 00:13:01,960 Jesus is a deliverer, my dear friends. 294 00:13:02,360 --> 00:13:04,220 You can be delivered from that. 295 00:13:04,320 --> 00:13:06,320 You never have to get angry again. 296 00:13:07,340 --> 00:13:09,240 Where's the power of God? 297 00:13:09,620 --> 00:13:11,800 You can be delivered, I'm telling you. 298 00:13:12,480 --> 00:13:15,060 And look back and say, I never get 299 00:13:15,060 --> 00:13:15,400 angry. 300 00:13:15,520 --> 00:13:16,060 Hallelujah! 301 00:13:16,820 --> 00:13:17,580 That's right. 302 00:13:17,920 --> 00:13:19,380 That's how it really is. 303 00:13:19,920 --> 00:13:20,680 Praise God. 304 00:13:21,560 --> 00:13:24,300 Until you get free from this spirit of 305 00:13:24,300 --> 00:13:24,820 anger. 306 00:13:25,380 --> 00:13:27,020 And I'm telling you, with some of you, 307 00:13:27,120 --> 00:13:29,940 it is a spirit of anger. 308 00:13:30,740 --> 00:13:32,100 Not just anger problem. 309 00:13:32,100 --> 00:13:35,840 Until you get that thing taken care of. 310 00:13:36,060 --> 00:13:37,560 Whatever it is. 311 00:13:38,080 --> 00:13:40,320 Send the child away to a room to 312 00:13:40,320 --> 00:13:40,680 wait. 313 00:13:41,400 --> 00:13:44,080 Let yourself calm down a bit. 314 00:13:44,720 --> 00:13:47,820 Don't go into that room until your heart 315 00:13:47,820 --> 00:13:48,700 is calm. 316 00:13:49,080 --> 00:13:50,800 And then you go in there and you 317 00:13:50,800 --> 00:13:52,560 lovingly spank your child. 318 00:13:52,800 --> 00:13:53,780 I plead with you. 319 00:13:54,160 --> 00:13:55,100 In Jesus name. 320 00:13:56,440 --> 00:13:58,500 What is our view on chastisement? 321 00:13:58,640 --> 00:14:00,440 Let's consider that just a little bit here. 322 00:14:01,200 --> 00:14:04,300 Many parents are missing the whole concept of 323 00:14:04,300 --> 00:14:04,960 chastisement. 324 00:14:05,720 --> 00:14:08,700 It is not judgment meted out for doing 325 00:14:08,700 --> 00:14:09,200 wrong. 326 00:14:09,660 --> 00:14:13,660 It is correction for wrong with the hope 327 00:14:13,660 --> 00:14:14,940 of future good. 328 00:14:15,500 --> 00:14:17,180 There's a big difference between the two of 329 00:14:17,180 --> 00:14:17,540 those. 330 00:14:17,940 --> 00:14:18,720 A big difference. 331 00:14:19,600 --> 00:14:22,460 Judgment being meted out for wrongdoing. 332 00:14:22,820 --> 00:14:27,040 Or correction with hope for future good. 333 00:14:27,380 --> 00:14:29,580 Conduct and godly character. 334 00:14:29,580 --> 00:14:31,720 You look at it and see why God 335 00:14:31,720 --> 00:14:32,380 spanks us. 336 00:14:32,520 --> 00:14:32,760 Why? 337 00:14:33,000 --> 00:14:36,340 He wants to produce peaceable fruit of righteousness 338 00:14:36,340 --> 00:14:37,280 in our lives. 339 00:14:37,400 --> 00:14:39,140 That's why God is spanking us. 340 00:14:39,700 --> 00:14:42,020 He's not meting out punishment on us. 341 00:14:42,900 --> 00:14:44,040 He's our father. 342 00:14:45,320 --> 00:14:46,880 Some of us have a wrong view of 343 00:14:46,880 --> 00:14:47,580 chastisement. 344 00:14:48,560 --> 00:14:50,860 If we are meting out judgment and punishment, 345 00:14:51,400 --> 00:14:53,860 we feel more justified to be angry. 346 00:14:54,020 --> 00:14:54,260 You know? 347 00:14:54,660 --> 00:14:56,620 You've been wrong and you're going to get 348 00:14:56,620 --> 00:14:57,000 it now. 349 00:14:57,000 --> 00:14:59,260 I'm the one that's supposed to bring judgment 350 00:14:59,260 --> 00:15:00,560 upon you for what you've done. 351 00:15:00,640 --> 00:15:01,640 And you're going to get it. 352 00:15:02,220 --> 00:15:05,740 Oh, put those words far away from your 353 00:15:05,740 --> 00:15:07,440 heart and your vocabulary. 354 00:15:08,660 --> 00:15:10,960 But we feel more justified that way if 355 00:15:10,960 --> 00:15:12,880 we have this punishment mentality. 356 00:15:13,260 --> 00:15:14,920 I've got to met out judgment. 357 00:15:15,060 --> 00:15:16,360 My child was wrong. 358 00:15:17,060 --> 00:15:19,660 We feel more justified to be angry. 359 00:15:20,400 --> 00:15:20,880 Right? 360 00:15:21,560 --> 00:15:22,820 God hates sin. 361 00:15:22,980 --> 00:15:23,380 Right? 362 00:15:24,100 --> 00:15:26,600 Yeah, well, aren't you glad that God doesn't 363 00:15:26,600 --> 00:15:28,560 deal with you that way when you sit? 364 00:15:29,060 --> 00:15:30,220 Think about it. 365 00:15:30,360 --> 00:15:31,180 Think about it. 366 00:15:32,500 --> 00:15:34,680 I'm glad God doesn't deal with me like 367 00:15:34,680 --> 00:15:35,080 that. 368 00:15:36,320 --> 00:15:39,400 Many parents have this false concept that it's 369 00:15:39,400 --> 00:15:42,400 alright to walk into the room with fire 370 00:15:42,400 --> 00:15:44,280 in their eyes, a paddle in their hand, 371 00:15:44,600 --> 00:15:47,760 a loud voice speaking words of condemnation and 372 00:15:47,760 --> 00:15:48,240 judgment. 373 00:15:48,420 --> 00:15:50,780 And I feel that is wrong. 374 00:15:50,780 --> 00:15:53,280 That is not how you spank a child. 375 00:15:54,200 --> 00:15:56,220 But many think that's right. 376 00:15:56,440 --> 00:15:59,420 I've heard teachers say those kind of things. 377 00:15:59,560 --> 00:16:01,680 I've heard teachers say, Don't give them any 378 00:16:01,680 --> 00:16:02,020 comfort. 379 00:16:02,660 --> 00:16:03,580 They've been bad. 380 00:16:04,120 --> 00:16:04,920 Let them have it. 381 00:16:05,860 --> 00:16:08,480 Well, you may be saying by now, Brother, 382 00:16:09,100 --> 00:16:10,040 I can't do it. 383 00:16:10,740 --> 00:16:11,660 I can't do it. 384 00:16:11,820 --> 00:16:13,360 I just can't. 385 00:16:13,420 --> 00:16:14,060 Well, you're right. 386 00:16:14,260 --> 00:16:14,880 You can't. 387 00:16:14,880 --> 00:16:17,720 That's why you need to be so yielded 388 00:16:17,720 --> 00:16:20,880 to God that God can put his hand 389 00:16:20,880 --> 00:16:24,220 upon your hand and you'll be able to 390 00:16:24,220 --> 00:16:25,020 do it right. 391 00:16:25,540 --> 00:16:28,360 We can't do this except we'd be filled 392 00:16:28,360 --> 00:16:29,220 with God. 393 00:16:30,440 --> 00:16:32,260 Your children are sinners. 394 00:16:33,180 --> 00:16:34,180 I want to make this point. 395 00:16:35,060 --> 00:16:36,420 Your children are going to fail. 396 00:16:37,000 --> 00:16:37,820 Plan on it. 397 00:16:38,360 --> 00:16:41,580 Expect it to happen so you don't lose 398 00:16:41,580 --> 00:16:43,500 it when they do something wrong. 399 00:16:43,500 --> 00:16:46,360 You know how parents can be sometimes. 400 00:16:47,020 --> 00:16:47,700 Plan on it. 401 00:16:48,320 --> 00:16:49,200 They're going to fail. 402 00:16:50,020 --> 00:16:52,440 God has placed them under our care because 403 00:16:52,440 --> 00:16:53,500 they need help. 404 00:16:53,620 --> 00:16:53,840 Amen. 405 00:16:54,760 --> 00:16:56,760 That's why he has them in our homes. 406 00:16:57,160 --> 00:16:58,540 Because they need help. 407 00:16:59,320 --> 00:17:01,280 Sometimes I think we think they're supposed to 408 00:17:01,280 --> 00:17:01,800 be saints. 409 00:17:02,660 --> 00:17:02,960 No. 410 00:17:03,420 --> 00:17:05,579 God has placed them in our care so 411 00:17:05,579 --> 00:17:07,200 that they can be nurtured, so they can 412 00:17:07,200 --> 00:17:09,300 be trained, so they can be guided, so 413 00:17:09,300 --> 00:17:11,119 they can be disciplined, so they can be 414 00:17:11,119 --> 00:17:13,260 led someday to the Lord Jesus Christ. 415 00:17:13,260 --> 00:17:14,980 And get a new heart. 416 00:17:15,079 --> 00:17:15,319 Amen. 417 00:17:16,400 --> 00:17:18,119 That's why God has put them in our 418 00:17:18,119 --> 00:17:18,579 care. 419 00:17:19,560 --> 00:17:21,040 Somehow I think we got the thing mixed 420 00:17:21,040 --> 00:17:21,220 up. 421 00:17:21,300 --> 00:17:22,560 We get upset at them when they do 422 00:17:22,560 --> 00:17:23,220 something wrong. 423 00:17:23,400 --> 00:17:24,700 Grab them by the scruff of the neck. 424 00:17:24,780 --> 00:17:26,040 You know, why did you do that? 425 00:17:26,260 --> 00:17:26,960 Don't you know? 426 00:17:27,800 --> 00:17:30,220 We don't understand what's going on. 427 00:17:31,180 --> 00:17:32,880 That's not how we should be looking at 428 00:17:32,880 --> 00:17:33,060 it. 429 00:17:33,740 --> 00:17:35,960 When the children fail, I see it as 430 00:17:35,960 --> 00:17:38,400 an opportunity to train them in character. 431 00:17:39,120 --> 00:17:40,840 It is time to have a lesson. 432 00:17:40,840 --> 00:17:43,420 Only this one has some pain in it. 433 00:17:44,180 --> 00:17:47,260 It's just another one of the lessons of 434 00:17:47,260 --> 00:17:48,080 training children. 435 00:17:49,220 --> 00:17:52,120 Many times we parents get frustrated with our 436 00:17:52,120 --> 00:17:55,140 children because of our own pride of what 437 00:17:55,140 --> 00:17:57,600 other people will think when our children do 438 00:17:57,600 --> 00:17:58,540 something wrong. 439 00:17:59,440 --> 00:18:01,880 I'm afraid that the children get the brunt 440 00:18:01,880 --> 00:18:04,220 of that more than what we would like 441 00:18:04,220 --> 00:18:04,780 to admit. 442 00:18:05,620 --> 00:18:08,820 We have had to resist this temptation as 443 00:18:08,820 --> 00:18:11,100 I became known as the man who preaches 444 00:18:11,100 --> 00:18:12,300 on the godly home. 445 00:18:13,080 --> 00:18:16,120 The expectations of the people can be difficult 446 00:18:16,120 --> 00:18:17,280 to live with. 447 00:18:18,060 --> 00:18:19,780 But my children are just like yours. 448 00:18:20,480 --> 00:18:21,720 They make mistakes. 449 00:18:22,480 --> 00:18:23,880 They do things wrong. 450 00:18:24,620 --> 00:18:26,520 They do dumb things sometimes. 451 00:18:27,260 --> 00:18:28,240 No big deal. 452 00:18:28,940 --> 00:18:30,480 That's why they're in my home. 453 00:18:30,640 --> 00:18:33,140 So that I can train all those things 454 00:18:33,140 --> 00:18:33,680 out of them. 455 00:18:35,120 --> 00:18:36,660 Let's look at how I spank the children. 456 00:18:37,280 --> 00:18:39,360 I try to spank the children in the 457 00:18:39,360 --> 00:18:41,600 same manner that God spanks me. 458 00:18:42,160 --> 00:18:43,840 That seems right, doesn't it? 459 00:18:44,460 --> 00:18:46,560 How does God spank me? 460 00:18:47,260 --> 00:18:48,700 How does God spank you? 461 00:18:49,560 --> 00:18:51,340 Does He grab you by the scruff of 462 00:18:51,340 --> 00:18:53,080 the neck and yell at you when you've 463 00:18:53,080 --> 00:18:54,120 done something wrong? 464 00:18:54,720 --> 00:18:56,580 Does He spank you in anger with a 465 00:18:56,580 --> 00:18:57,680 scowl on His face? 466 00:18:57,900 --> 00:18:59,940 We all know the answer to these questions. 467 00:19:00,060 --> 00:19:02,040 That's not how God deals with us. 468 00:19:02,040 --> 00:19:03,060 No. 469 00:19:03,420 --> 00:19:07,140 When the Father spanks us, it's mercy and 470 00:19:07,140 --> 00:19:09,100 peace are met together. 471 00:19:09,680 --> 00:19:12,600 Righteousness and peace have kissed each other. 472 00:19:12,960 --> 00:19:15,700 That is the nature of our God. 473 00:19:16,000 --> 00:19:18,060 And that's how God deals with us when 474 00:19:18,060 --> 00:19:18,980 He spanks us. 475 00:19:19,900 --> 00:19:22,640 Righteousness and peace have kissed each other. 476 00:19:23,560 --> 00:19:26,060 Truth and mercy have come together in the 477 00:19:26,060 --> 00:19:28,580 Father to chastise me when I've done something 478 00:19:28,580 --> 00:19:28,960 wrong. 479 00:19:28,960 --> 00:19:31,100 And He wants to direct my life in 480 00:19:31,100 --> 00:19:31,840 a better way. 481 00:19:32,760 --> 00:19:35,100 It's mercy and it's truth, brothers and sisters. 482 00:19:36,500 --> 00:19:38,720 He calmly reveals a need in our life 483 00:19:38,720 --> 00:19:40,600 and He picks us up in the comfort 484 00:19:40,600 --> 00:19:42,840 of His almighty hands and arms and gives 485 00:19:42,840 --> 00:19:43,520 us a spanking. 486 00:19:44,220 --> 00:19:45,960 It's painful, for sure. 487 00:19:46,680 --> 00:19:49,240 But we do not doubt His love and 488 00:19:49,240 --> 00:19:50,460 concern for us. 489 00:19:51,180 --> 00:19:54,160 During this time, He is instructing us on 490 00:19:54,160 --> 00:19:56,220 the way that we should go and how 491 00:19:56,220 --> 00:19:57,360 we have grieved Him. 492 00:19:57,360 --> 00:20:00,380 And during this time, He affirms us in 493 00:20:00,380 --> 00:20:03,300 His love and we are grateful to Him 494 00:20:03,300 --> 00:20:05,060 when He gets done, aren't we? 495 00:20:05,680 --> 00:20:08,320 And the reason why we're grateful is because 496 00:20:08,320 --> 00:20:09,940 that's how He deals with us. 497 00:20:10,280 --> 00:20:12,620 It is love all the way, brothers and 498 00:20:12,620 --> 00:20:12,880 sisters. 499 00:20:13,320 --> 00:20:15,660 Think about the times when God put you 500 00:20:15,660 --> 00:20:16,800 on His knees. 501 00:20:17,460 --> 00:20:21,060 He was overflowing love all over you while 502 00:20:21,060 --> 00:20:22,620 you were getting a spanking. 503 00:20:23,480 --> 00:20:24,740 Sure, it hurts. 504 00:20:24,740 --> 00:20:28,080 Sure, you may even have cried, but you 505 00:20:28,080 --> 00:20:30,800 never doubted His love one moment. 506 00:20:31,180 --> 00:20:34,320 And when God got done with you, the 507 00:20:34,320 --> 00:20:36,940 clearing in your heart, the freedom that you 508 00:20:36,940 --> 00:20:40,140 received, the beautiful fruit of righteousness that you 509 00:20:40,140 --> 00:20:43,160 got out of it, you reached up and 510 00:20:43,160 --> 00:20:45,000 kissed His hand, didn't you? 511 00:20:46,240 --> 00:20:49,180 My dear brothers and sisters, God wants us 512 00:20:49,180 --> 00:20:51,500 to learn to spank like that, that our 513 00:20:51,500 --> 00:20:54,520 children, not by our promptings, but by the 514 00:20:54,520 --> 00:20:56,680 joy and the blessing that they got out 515 00:20:56,680 --> 00:20:58,880 of it for themselves, they will reach up 516 00:20:58,880 --> 00:21:01,240 and kiss our hands also. 517 00:21:02,100 --> 00:21:04,360 I do believe that's where God wants us 518 00:21:04,360 --> 00:21:04,700 to go. 519 00:21:05,660 --> 00:21:08,700 Let us seek to be like God in 520 00:21:08,700 --> 00:21:09,240 this area. 521 00:21:10,160 --> 00:21:13,000 When one of our children transgresses our law, 522 00:21:13,680 --> 00:21:17,440 we calmly inform them that they have done 523 00:21:17,440 --> 00:21:21,340 wrong and that they are going to get 524 00:21:21,340 --> 00:21:21,760 a spanking. 525 00:21:22,480 --> 00:21:24,420 We do not raise our voice. 526 00:21:25,340 --> 00:21:26,900 We do not raise our voice. 527 00:21:27,560 --> 00:21:30,600 Raising your voice does not gain you any 528 00:21:30,600 --> 00:21:31,980 authority at all. 529 00:21:32,120 --> 00:21:35,060 In fact, you lose authority every time you 530 00:21:35,060 --> 00:21:36,780 raise your voice in your house. 531 00:21:37,420 --> 00:21:39,360 Every time you think you're going to be 532 00:21:39,360 --> 00:21:41,520 heard and things are going to go right, 533 00:21:41,600 --> 00:21:43,140 if you let them have it with your 534 00:21:43,140 --> 00:21:46,360 words, you are losing authority every time. 535 00:21:46,800 --> 00:21:48,940 We do not raise our voice. 536 00:21:49,800 --> 00:21:53,260 Oh, how well you would establish your authority 537 00:21:53,260 --> 00:21:56,480 if you would give one verbal correction and 538 00:21:56,480 --> 00:21:59,500 then gently give a spanking if that correction 539 00:21:59,500 --> 00:22:00,620 is not heeded. 540 00:22:01,140 --> 00:22:03,780 You would establish your authority in your home 541 00:22:03,780 --> 00:22:06,720 like some of you probably have never known. 542 00:22:07,380 --> 00:22:08,540 And it's easy. 543 00:22:09,620 --> 00:22:12,460 A simple, calm word. 544 00:22:13,400 --> 00:22:16,940 My son, my daughter, you have done wrong. 545 00:22:16,940 --> 00:22:18,340 Go to your room. 546 00:22:18,760 --> 00:22:19,880 You're going to have a spanking. 547 00:22:21,040 --> 00:22:21,940 No fuss. 548 00:22:22,540 --> 00:22:23,060 No muss. 549 00:22:23,640 --> 00:22:24,520 No carrying on. 550 00:22:24,880 --> 00:22:25,660 No screaming. 551 00:22:26,260 --> 00:22:27,920 No grabbing by the scruff of the neck. 552 00:22:28,460 --> 00:22:29,200 No scolding. 553 00:22:29,560 --> 00:22:30,680 Just a very calm. 554 00:22:31,280 --> 00:22:32,060 You have done wrong. 555 00:22:32,620 --> 00:22:33,400 Go to your room. 556 00:22:33,960 --> 00:22:34,740 You're going to have a spanking. 557 00:22:35,400 --> 00:22:37,640 As the child goes to their room, I 558 00:22:37,640 --> 00:22:39,560 reach for the Bible and the rod. 559 00:22:40,080 --> 00:22:41,740 That's a good combination, by the way. 560 00:22:42,440 --> 00:22:43,960 The Bible and the rod. 561 00:22:43,960 --> 00:22:45,740 We need both in order to give a 562 00:22:45,740 --> 00:22:46,440 proper spanking. 563 00:22:47,200 --> 00:22:50,100 The Bible to instruct them with and the 564 00:22:50,100 --> 00:22:51,440 rod to spank them with. 565 00:22:52,020 --> 00:22:53,980 Having a Bible in your hand will sanctify 566 00:22:53,980 --> 00:22:55,960 what you are about to do. 567 00:22:56,200 --> 00:22:56,920 Know this. 568 00:22:57,000 --> 00:22:57,580 It will. 569 00:22:58,620 --> 00:23:01,180 That picture in your child's mind is a 570 00:23:01,180 --> 00:23:01,920 good picture. 571 00:23:02,460 --> 00:23:04,500 For them to see Dad or Mom walk 572 00:23:04,500 --> 00:23:06,260 through the door with a Bible in their 573 00:23:06,260 --> 00:23:09,760 hand is telling them a silent message. 574 00:23:09,960 --> 00:23:12,220 God is in this. 575 00:23:13,320 --> 00:23:16,220 As I am walking to the room, I 576 00:23:16,220 --> 00:23:17,020 pray for wisdom. 577 00:23:17,840 --> 00:23:19,980 I cry out to God, just like I 578 00:23:19,980 --> 00:23:22,280 do when I'm entering into a counseling session 579 00:23:22,280 --> 00:23:23,120 as a pastor. 580 00:23:23,420 --> 00:23:25,420 I bow my heart and cry out to 581 00:23:25,420 --> 00:23:27,700 God and say, God, I don't know how 582 00:23:27,700 --> 00:23:29,100 to counsel this person. 583 00:23:29,680 --> 00:23:30,880 Please give me wisdom. 584 00:23:31,180 --> 00:23:32,820 That's what I do on the way to 585 00:23:32,820 --> 00:23:33,280 the room. 586 00:23:33,740 --> 00:23:36,080 As I get to the room, I find 587 00:23:36,080 --> 00:23:36,960 the child crying. 588 00:23:37,580 --> 00:23:37,940 Right? 589 00:23:38,640 --> 00:23:40,120 How many find the child crying? 590 00:23:40,120 --> 00:23:42,080 I find the child crying. 591 00:23:42,660 --> 00:23:43,780 They don't want to spank him. 592 00:23:44,400 --> 00:23:44,980 It hurts. 593 00:23:46,220 --> 00:23:48,940 I usually start to cry myself when I 594 00:23:48,940 --> 00:23:49,620 walk into the room. 595 00:23:50,880 --> 00:23:52,780 You can do that, you know, Dads. 596 00:23:53,260 --> 00:23:54,260 You can do that. 597 00:23:55,100 --> 00:23:56,700 It's alright to cry when you walk into 598 00:23:56,700 --> 00:23:57,100 the room. 599 00:23:57,720 --> 00:23:59,160 In fact, it's scriptural. 600 00:23:59,640 --> 00:24:00,280 Did you know that? 601 00:24:00,740 --> 00:24:04,260 The Bible says, Weep with them that weep. 602 00:24:05,020 --> 00:24:08,360 Bless God, surely we can weep with our 603 00:24:08,360 --> 00:24:11,260 children when they're weeping because they're going to 604 00:24:11,260 --> 00:24:11,960 get a spanking. 605 00:24:12,940 --> 00:24:15,420 Weep with them that weep. 606 00:24:16,780 --> 00:24:20,220 This will sanctify your session tremendously. 607 00:24:20,780 --> 00:24:23,460 As your heart goes out in compassion for 608 00:24:23,460 --> 00:24:28,060 that child, this will sanctify your session tremendously. 609 00:24:28,760 --> 00:24:31,240 It's okay if you cry with them. 610 00:24:31,640 --> 00:24:34,700 You do not have to maintain this austere 611 00:24:34,700 --> 00:24:36,400 posture of a judge. 612 00:24:36,940 --> 00:24:40,500 You are a loving father or a loving 613 00:24:40,500 --> 00:24:41,140 mother. 614 00:24:41,980 --> 00:24:43,120 You don't have to come in there like 615 00:24:43,120 --> 00:24:43,480 this. 616 00:24:45,960 --> 00:24:47,860 I reach out my hands and welcome the 617 00:24:47,860 --> 00:24:49,660 child to come close to me when I 618 00:24:49,660 --> 00:24:51,700 get into the room and I hold them. 619 00:24:52,140 --> 00:24:53,880 And by the way, you walk into that 620 00:24:53,880 --> 00:24:55,520 room and you get down on your knee 621 00:24:55,520 --> 00:24:57,200 and you put your hands out like this. 622 00:24:57,560 --> 00:24:59,520 When that child's crying and they know they're 623 00:24:59,520 --> 00:25:00,740 going to get a spanking and they know 624 00:25:00,740 --> 00:25:03,780 they've done wrong, they'll run into your hands. 625 00:25:04,080 --> 00:25:05,200 They'll run there. 626 00:25:06,360 --> 00:25:07,860 I hold them a minute and I let 627 00:25:07,860 --> 00:25:08,660 them talk to me. 628 00:25:09,340 --> 00:25:10,440 I just let them talk. 629 00:25:10,780 --> 00:25:13,040 They usually say, I'm sorry for what I 630 00:25:13,040 --> 00:25:13,320 did. 631 00:25:13,740 --> 00:25:15,820 They usually say, I love you, Papa. 632 00:25:16,480 --> 00:25:17,760 I know I shouldn't have done what I 633 00:25:17,760 --> 00:25:18,020 did. 634 00:25:18,640 --> 00:25:20,040 And I tell them the same thing. 635 00:25:20,500 --> 00:25:22,160 I tell them, I love you too. 636 00:25:23,280 --> 00:25:25,280 Some people say, don't comfort them when you 637 00:25:25,280 --> 00:25:25,960 go into the room. 638 00:25:26,520 --> 00:25:28,000 Don't say anything nice to them. 639 00:25:28,400 --> 00:25:30,340 That's absolutely wrong. 640 00:25:30,460 --> 00:25:32,360 That's that punishment mentality. 641 00:25:32,840 --> 00:25:33,920 I don't believe in that. 642 00:25:34,500 --> 00:25:36,440 I open up my heart and my arms 643 00:25:36,440 --> 00:25:37,900 to them and I take them into my 644 00:25:37,900 --> 00:25:38,360 arms. 645 00:25:38,880 --> 00:25:40,060 And I hold them a couple of minutes 646 00:25:40,060 --> 00:25:42,080 and while I'm holding them, I tell them, 647 00:25:42,360 --> 00:25:42,920 I love you. 648 00:25:43,620 --> 00:25:45,620 You know, Papa's not upset at you. 649 00:25:46,600 --> 00:25:47,340 Papa's not upset. 650 00:25:48,020 --> 00:25:50,140 You are a very dear child to me 651 00:25:50,140 --> 00:25:52,300 and you bring joy to my life most 652 00:25:52,300 --> 00:25:52,900 of the time. 653 00:25:53,040 --> 00:25:54,320 I want you to know I'm not upset 654 00:25:54,320 --> 00:25:56,560 at you, but you've done something wrong and 655 00:25:56,560 --> 00:25:57,240 you need a spanking. 656 00:25:57,860 --> 00:25:59,420 And because I love you, I'm going to 657 00:25:59,420 --> 00:25:59,900 spank you. 658 00:26:00,360 --> 00:26:01,780 Then we have a time of instruction. 659 00:26:02,100 --> 00:26:03,020 That comes next. 660 00:26:03,140 --> 00:26:04,660 We talk about what they have done. 661 00:26:05,400 --> 00:26:07,800 We discuss the root issues of why this 662 00:26:07,800 --> 00:26:08,260 happened. 663 00:26:08,920 --> 00:26:10,880 You know, it may be that foolishness was 664 00:26:10,880 --> 00:26:12,440 in their heart for the last two or 665 00:26:12,440 --> 00:26:15,140 three days and you saw it, but nothing 666 00:26:15,140 --> 00:26:16,980 really happened that they could be corrected. 667 00:26:17,140 --> 00:26:19,480 So, you don't just correct them because they 668 00:26:19,480 --> 00:26:21,300 made this little thing wrong over here. 669 00:26:21,540 --> 00:26:22,780 You want to go back to the heart 670 00:26:22,780 --> 00:26:23,740 issue, the thing insane. 671 00:26:23,880 --> 00:26:25,760 Now, you remember how foolish you have been 672 00:26:25,760 --> 00:26:27,220 for the last two or three days? 673 00:26:27,860 --> 00:26:28,300 Yeah? 674 00:26:28,700 --> 00:26:30,640 Well, that's the reason why you did what 675 00:26:30,640 --> 00:26:32,260 you did today and that's why you're here 676 00:26:32,260 --> 00:26:33,600 to get a spanking right now. 677 00:26:33,600 --> 00:26:37,180 We have a time of instruction that's very 678 00:26:37,180 --> 00:26:37,740 important. 679 00:26:38,260 --> 00:26:39,840 God does it with us, doesn't He? 680 00:26:40,400 --> 00:26:42,620 I ask them if they know why they're 681 00:26:42,620 --> 00:26:43,300 getting a spanking. 682 00:26:44,100 --> 00:26:45,920 And I wait on their answer and if 683 00:26:45,920 --> 00:26:48,060 they just say, I've been bad. 684 00:26:48,540 --> 00:26:49,500 That's not good enough. 685 00:26:49,740 --> 00:26:51,020 We've got to talk about it some more. 686 00:26:51,360 --> 00:26:53,260 They're not getting a spanking just because they've 687 00:26:53,260 --> 00:26:53,820 been bad. 688 00:26:54,140 --> 00:26:55,640 There's an issue here, remember? 689 00:26:55,880 --> 00:26:59,080 We are giving a correction for future conduct 690 00:26:59,080 --> 00:27:01,720 so they must understand what went wrong. 691 00:27:01,720 --> 00:27:03,400 So we talk about that. 692 00:27:04,060 --> 00:27:06,960 Instruction time is the key to biblical chastisement. 693 00:27:07,400 --> 00:27:10,140 We will discuss the principle of chastisement so 694 00:27:10,140 --> 00:27:13,580 they clearly understand that God says to do 695 00:27:13,580 --> 00:27:14,020 this. 696 00:27:14,880 --> 00:27:16,800 I instruct them on how they can get 697 00:27:16,800 --> 00:27:19,020 the most benefit out of the spanking if 698 00:27:19,020 --> 00:27:22,140 they will yield to it instead of fight 699 00:27:22,140 --> 00:27:23,000 against it. 700 00:27:23,520 --> 00:27:25,540 They can get more benefit out of it. 701 00:27:25,720 --> 00:27:28,020 Then I encourage them to pray and ask 702 00:27:28,020 --> 00:27:31,600 God to help them get the most out 703 00:27:31,600 --> 00:27:32,600 of this spanking. 704 00:27:33,300 --> 00:27:35,220 You should hear some of the prayers they 705 00:27:35,220 --> 00:27:35,580 pray. 706 00:27:36,540 --> 00:27:38,560 And by the way, they're smart prayers. 707 00:27:38,980 --> 00:27:40,900 If you get more out of your spankings, 708 00:27:41,000 --> 00:27:42,660 you'll get less spankings. 709 00:27:43,200 --> 00:27:44,720 Pray on, little fellow! 710 00:27:44,960 --> 00:27:45,840 Pray on! 711 00:27:47,580 --> 00:27:51,140 God, help me to yield my heart to 712 00:27:51,140 --> 00:27:52,000 this spanking! 713 00:27:52,760 --> 00:27:56,360 Do everything inside of me that you're supposed 714 00:27:56,360 --> 00:27:59,080 to do through this chastisement that I'm going 715 00:27:59,080 --> 00:27:59,560 to get. 716 00:28:00,420 --> 00:28:02,120 Good prayer, little one! 717 00:28:02,580 --> 00:28:03,120 Good prayer! 718 00:28:03,980 --> 00:28:05,640 The child can learn to work with you 719 00:28:05,640 --> 00:28:07,780 on the spanking, and you won't need to 720 00:28:07,780 --> 00:28:09,020 spank them as much. 721 00:28:09,640 --> 00:28:11,240 This is also how you get the child 722 00:28:11,240 --> 00:28:13,080 to come back later and thank you because 723 00:28:13,080 --> 00:28:16,300 they begin to understand what this is all 724 00:28:16,300 --> 00:28:16,800 about. 725 00:28:18,240 --> 00:28:20,860 They become educated and learn the blessing of 726 00:28:20,860 --> 00:28:21,220 discipline. 727 00:28:22,100 --> 00:28:23,800 Next, we have a time of spanking. 728 00:28:25,360 --> 00:28:27,980 Instruct your child on how to receive a 729 00:28:27,980 --> 00:28:28,380 spanking. 730 00:28:29,040 --> 00:28:31,520 They can learn to hold still and keep 731 00:28:31,520 --> 00:28:33,080 their hands out of the way. 732 00:28:33,720 --> 00:28:36,120 It is not good if the child is 733 00:28:36,120 --> 00:28:37,700 jumping all over the place. 734 00:28:38,120 --> 00:28:40,000 They get hit in the wrong place. 735 00:28:40,120 --> 00:28:41,440 They get hit on the hand. 736 00:28:41,600 --> 00:28:43,500 It's absolutely crazy. 737 00:28:43,980 --> 00:28:45,040 You do not want that. 738 00:28:45,300 --> 00:28:48,320 The child must learn to hold still while 739 00:28:48,320 --> 00:28:50,900 they receive a spanking, and they can. 740 00:28:51,660 --> 00:28:54,060 I have much more instruction on this in 741 00:28:54,060 --> 00:28:56,880 my book, The Pursuit of Godly Seed, but 742 00:28:56,880 --> 00:28:58,580 I can't go through all of it here 743 00:28:58,580 --> 00:28:59,100 this evening. 744 00:28:59,240 --> 00:29:00,020 I just can't. 745 00:29:01,520 --> 00:29:04,140 With the child holding still, I give them 746 00:29:04,140 --> 00:29:05,360 a thorough spanking. 747 00:29:06,160 --> 00:29:08,240 Chastisement is supposed to hurt. 748 00:29:09,100 --> 00:29:10,480 This is God's design. 749 00:29:11,060 --> 00:29:14,180 Just like chastisement hurts when God gives us 750 00:29:14,180 --> 00:29:17,520 a spanking, chastisement should hurt when we give 751 00:29:17,520 --> 00:29:18,740 our children a spanking. 752 00:29:18,740 --> 00:29:21,320 There are things inside of the heart of 753 00:29:21,320 --> 00:29:23,540 that child that will not happen if they 754 00:29:23,540 --> 00:29:26,280 don't get a right kind of a spanking. 755 00:29:26,940 --> 00:29:29,160 Many questions arise at this point. 756 00:29:29,960 --> 00:29:30,620 How hard? 757 00:29:30,860 --> 00:29:31,660 How long? 758 00:29:31,820 --> 00:29:32,880 How many swaps? 759 00:29:33,080 --> 00:29:34,300 How do you know when you're done? 760 00:29:34,620 --> 00:29:35,720 And more questions. 761 00:29:36,180 --> 00:29:38,340 I cannot answer all of those here this 762 00:29:38,340 --> 00:29:38,620 evening. 763 00:29:39,380 --> 00:29:41,440 God must lead you in these things. 764 00:29:41,820 --> 00:29:43,140 Every child is different. 765 00:29:43,680 --> 00:29:46,700 Like I said again, you must have discernment. 766 00:29:46,700 --> 00:29:48,620 You must be filled with a spirit. 767 00:29:49,380 --> 00:29:51,420 You must be filled with a compassion for 768 00:29:51,420 --> 00:29:52,060 your child. 769 00:29:52,500 --> 00:29:54,640 And I believe with the combination of those, 770 00:29:55,020 --> 00:29:57,960 most of the time, parents will know what 771 00:29:57,960 --> 00:29:58,480 to do. 772 00:29:59,000 --> 00:30:01,460 How hard to spank, how many times to 773 00:30:01,460 --> 00:30:04,180 swap, etc., etc., etc. 774 00:30:04,460 --> 00:30:05,520 Children are different. 775 00:30:06,240 --> 00:30:07,960 There are some children, you can give them 776 00:30:07,960 --> 00:30:09,900 three or four swaps, and I mean they 777 00:30:09,900 --> 00:30:11,480 are absolutely undone. 778 00:30:12,240 --> 00:30:13,840 There are others, they may need more swaps 779 00:30:13,840 --> 00:30:14,240 than that. 780 00:30:14,240 --> 00:30:17,780 We usually spank our children ten times, something 781 00:30:17,780 --> 00:30:18,340 like that. 782 00:30:18,640 --> 00:30:19,920 That's not the issue anyway. 783 00:30:20,120 --> 00:30:22,040 But everybody always asks that question, give me 784 00:30:22,040 --> 00:30:24,040 the number, I'll follow exactly what you do. 785 00:30:24,460 --> 00:30:25,460 No, no, no, no. 786 00:30:25,580 --> 00:30:27,200 Walk with God once, will you? 787 00:30:27,660 --> 00:30:28,700 Just walk with God. 788 00:30:28,780 --> 00:30:30,200 He will tell you how many times to 789 00:30:30,200 --> 00:30:30,640 swap them. 790 00:30:31,580 --> 00:30:33,800 Okay, after the spanking, we have a time 791 00:30:33,800 --> 00:30:34,700 of affirming. 792 00:30:35,540 --> 00:30:38,100 When I have finished the spanking, I fall 793 00:30:38,100 --> 00:30:41,020 on my knees next to the child and 794 00:30:41,020 --> 00:30:42,100 weep with them. 795 00:30:42,100 --> 00:30:45,580 There are times when I am so overwhelmed, 796 00:30:45,800 --> 00:30:48,880 I just break down and weep like a 797 00:30:48,880 --> 00:30:49,280 baby. 798 00:30:50,320 --> 00:30:53,040 I've had the children put their hand on 799 00:30:53,040 --> 00:30:54,960 me to comfort me. 800 00:30:55,440 --> 00:30:56,220 Papa's hurting. 801 00:30:56,840 --> 00:30:58,960 You know, run to his side, you know. 802 00:31:00,080 --> 00:31:01,600 But you know, that's the way it is. 803 00:31:02,120 --> 00:31:04,240 It's not fun to spank a child. 804 00:31:04,800 --> 00:31:05,560 It hurts. 805 00:31:05,980 --> 00:31:08,060 It hurts inside to spank a child. 806 00:31:09,220 --> 00:31:12,020 Sometimes I just break down and bawl like 807 00:31:12,020 --> 00:31:12,580 a baby. 808 00:31:13,380 --> 00:31:15,320 By the way, you should see what it 809 00:31:15,320 --> 00:31:16,940 does to the children when they see you 810 00:31:16,940 --> 00:31:17,420 be had. 811 00:31:17,800 --> 00:31:21,080 That does more to cleanse things out of 812 00:31:21,080 --> 00:31:22,840 them than the pain on the bottom did. 813 00:31:24,000 --> 00:31:26,620 My father's heart is broken over what I've 814 00:31:26,620 --> 00:31:27,220 done wrong. 815 00:31:28,140 --> 00:31:29,540 I will not do it again. 816 00:31:30,440 --> 00:31:31,680 See that relationship again? 817 00:31:32,060 --> 00:31:34,740 I don't want to break my father's heart. 818 00:31:35,040 --> 00:31:36,440 I will not do it again. 819 00:31:37,240 --> 00:31:38,800 That's much better than I don't want to 820 00:31:38,800 --> 00:31:39,280 get a spanking. 821 00:31:39,460 --> 00:31:39,600 Amen? 822 00:31:41,080 --> 00:31:43,000 Then, we have a prayer. 823 00:31:43,560 --> 00:31:44,640 I have the child pray. 824 00:31:45,220 --> 00:31:46,720 It's usually a very sweet prayer. 825 00:31:47,480 --> 00:31:49,460 They cry their heart out to God over 826 00:31:49,460 --> 00:31:50,960 their need, that which they've done. 827 00:31:51,440 --> 00:31:52,640 And then I pray for them. 828 00:31:53,080 --> 00:31:55,240 It's usually a fervent prayer. 829 00:31:55,700 --> 00:31:57,480 It's usually an intercessory prayer. 830 00:31:58,060 --> 00:31:59,380 My heart is broken. 831 00:32:00,060 --> 00:32:02,220 My heart cries out to God for the 832 00:32:02,220 --> 00:32:02,640 child. 833 00:32:03,000 --> 00:32:05,400 And the child hears his father pouring out 834 00:32:05,400 --> 00:32:08,000 his heart to God for his needs. 835 00:32:08,660 --> 00:32:10,160 This is beautiful. 836 00:32:10,960 --> 00:32:13,180 Then we get up off our knees and 837 00:32:13,180 --> 00:32:14,280 we blow our nose together. 838 00:32:15,520 --> 00:32:16,680 We blow our nose. 839 00:32:17,280 --> 00:32:18,380 Here, my child, come. 840 00:32:18,960 --> 00:32:19,840 Have some Kleenex. 841 00:32:20,440 --> 00:32:21,240 Blow your nose. 842 00:32:21,840 --> 00:32:22,740 I'll blow my nose. 843 00:32:23,260 --> 00:32:24,620 Get all that taken care of. 844 00:32:25,000 --> 00:32:26,300 Then we sit down and we talk again. 845 00:32:27,140 --> 00:32:29,520 Do you understand why Papa did what he 846 00:32:29,520 --> 00:32:29,740 did? 847 00:32:31,240 --> 00:32:32,980 Tell me again, why did you get a 848 00:32:32,980 --> 00:32:33,300 spanking? 849 00:32:34,040 --> 00:32:36,420 Do you see that we don't have to 850 00:32:36,420 --> 00:32:37,020 come here? 851 00:32:37,820 --> 00:32:40,440 When you see yourself going off this way, 852 00:32:40,580 --> 00:32:42,320 if you'll stop yourself, we don't have to 853 00:32:42,320 --> 00:32:42,720 come here. 854 00:32:42,780 --> 00:32:43,300 Do you see that? 855 00:32:43,640 --> 00:32:44,820 Yeah, they understand that. 856 00:32:45,300 --> 00:32:47,480 After we talk a little bit more, then 857 00:32:47,480 --> 00:32:49,260 I just take them in my arms and 858 00:32:49,260 --> 00:32:51,020 I love them and I bless them and 859 00:32:51,020 --> 00:32:53,060 I tell them what a good child they 860 00:32:53,060 --> 00:32:54,440 are and how much I love them. 861 00:32:54,560 --> 00:32:57,740 And I tell them, you know, you're a 862 00:32:57,740 --> 00:32:58,980 very dear child to me. 863 00:32:59,500 --> 00:33:00,960 I'm not mad at you today. 864 00:33:00,960 --> 00:33:04,380 You fill my heart with joy so many 865 00:33:04,380 --> 00:33:07,040 times, but you did something wrong, so I 866 00:33:07,040 --> 00:33:07,900 needed to spank you. 867 00:33:07,980 --> 00:33:09,820 Do you understand that's why I spanked you? 868 00:33:10,060 --> 00:33:12,580 Yeah, yeah, they understand. 869 00:33:13,320 --> 00:33:16,200 It's a time of affirming, a beautiful time 870 00:33:16,200 --> 00:33:17,300 of affirming. 871 00:33:18,660 --> 00:33:21,840 Dear parents, this is the kind of spanking 872 00:33:21,840 --> 00:33:23,240 that children need. 873 00:33:24,140 --> 00:33:26,640 Sometimes we sing a song, but the whole 874 00:33:26,640 --> 00:33:28,840 goal at this point is to knit the 875 00:33:28,840 --> 00:33:32,640 heart together in love and make sure that 876 00:33:32,640 --> 00:33:36,120 we are buddies before we leave that room, 877 00:33:36,660 --> 00:33:39,720 to knit the heart together in love. 878 00:33:40,540 --> 00:33:41,720 That is the purpose. 879 00:33:43,400 --> 00:33:45,020 This is usually when you get the thank 880 00:33:45,020 --> 00:33:47,280 you, either then or at the end of 881 00:33:47,280 --> 00:33:49,040 the day when you put them to bed, 882 00:33:49,140 --> 00:33:50,080 you know, you tuck them in. 883 00:33:50,920 --> 00:33:53,460 How many times I've heard a child say, 884 00:33:53,640 --> 00:33:55,400 when I was tucking them in bed at 885 00:33:55,400 --> 00:33:58,660 night, last few words, you know, they look 886 00:33:58,660 --> 00:34:01,140 at me and say, Papa, thank you for 887 00:34:01,140 --> 00:34:02,060 spanking me today. 888 00:34:02,700 --> 00:34:05,540 I just felt so good inside all day 889 00:34:05,540 --> 00:34:05,980 long. 890 00:34:06,480 --> 00:34:08,139 I've known that I needed it for a 891 00:34:08,139 --> 00:34:09,000 couple of days. 892 00:34:09,500 --> 00:34:11,000 Thank you for spanking me today. 893 00:34:12,120 --> 00:34:16,880 Oh, sweet words, sweet words, precious sweet words. 894 00:34:17,659 --> 00:34:22,480 Yea, he that spanketh his child, loveth his 895 00:34:22,480 --> 00:34:23,139 child. 896 00:34:23,139 --> 00:34:25,659 And when we begin to look at it 897 00:34:25,659 --> 00:34:28,280 in the way that I've described, yes, we 898 00:34:28,280 --> 00:34:30,620 can look at it and say, I can 899 00:34:30,620 --> 00:34:34,239 see how that would build a closer relationship, 900 00:34:34,620 --> 00:34:37,440 not build a wall between my child and 901 00:34:37,440 --> 00:34:40,520 I, but rather even draw us closer together. 902 00:34:41,120 --> 00:34:42,239 Think about it again. 903 00:34:42,520 --> 00:34:46,520 When God spanks you, do you run away 904 00:34:46,520 --> 00:34:47,960 from Him when He is done? 905 00:34:48,320 --> 00:34:50,280 Or do you want to be closer to 906 00:34:50,280 --> 00:34:51,420 Him than you were before? 907 00:34:52,179 --> 00:34:54,560 We all know the answer, every one of 908 00:34:54,560 --> 00:34:54,880 us. 909 00:34:55,500 --> 00:34:57,100 I don't run away from God. 910 00:34:57,220 --> 00:34:58,480 I want to be with Him. 911 00:34:59,160 --> 00:35:00,240 He's my Papa. 912 00:35:01,020 --> 00:35:03,720 He loved me so much, He corrected me. 913 00:35:04,440 --> 00:35:06,760 And the freedom and the joy and the 914 00:35:06,760 --> 00:35:09,200 peace and the clearing in my heart, I 915 00:35:09,200 --> 00:35:10,500 want to be close to Him. 916 00:35:11,140 --> 00:35:12,460 And that's the way it is with a 917 00:35:12,460 --> 00:35:12,760 child. 918 00:35:13,200 --> 00:35:14,820 They just want to hang tight, you know, 919 00:35:14,880 --> 00:35:15,620 all day long. 920 00:35:15,860 --> 00:35:16,820 Are you going to the store? 921 00:35:17,100 --> 00:35:17,880 Can I go with you? 922 00:35:18,200 --> 00:35:18,900 Can I go along? 923 00:35:19,400 --> 00:35:19,560 Hmm? 924 00:35:19,760 --> 00:35:19,860 Hmm? 925 00:35:20,100 --> 00:35:20,240 Hmm? 926 00:35:20,240 --> 00:35:22,460 Doesn't sound like a wall to me. 927 00:35:22,940 --> 00:35:23,320 Why? 928 00:35:23,920 --> 00:35:28,980 Because we spank the child with love and 929 00:35:28,980 --> 00:35:29,800 compassion. 930 00:35:30,460 --> 00:35:33,620 And because we spank the child out of 931 00:35:33,620 --> 00:35:36,120 the context of a loving relationship. 932 00:35:36,740 --> 00:35:39,240 This is how we need to spank our 933 00:35:39,240 --> 00:35:39,620 children. 934 00:35:40,140 --> 00:35:42,900 I tell you, I don't think any judge 935 00:35:42,900 --> 00:35:44,980 would shake a stick at that. 936 00:35:45,580 --> 00:35:49,120 They're not shaking a stick at that! 937 00:35:49,120 --> 00:35:52,360 They're getting upset about the other. 938 00:35:53,520 --> 00:35:57,780 We must sanctify our own hearts in this 939 00:35:57,780 --> 00:36:00,280 whole thing of spanking our children. 940 00:36:01,040 --> 00:36:02,600 We must get a hold of this. 941 00:36:03,700 --> 00:36:06,660 Spanking children like this is a life-changing 942 00:36:06,660 --> 00:36:10,740 experience for both us and the child. 943 00:36:11,460 --> 00:36:14,120 And that is what it's supposed to be. 944 00:36:14,440 --> 00:36:17,120 A life-changing experience. 945 00:36:18,200 --> 00:36:21,900 Especially when all the other aspects of training 946 00:36:21,900 --> 00:36:23,240 are in their place. 947 00:36:23,840 --> 00:36:24,240 You know? 948 00:36:25,000 --> 00:36:26,440 When they're all in their place. 949 00:36:27,240 --> 00:36:32,160 The instruction, the care, the directing, the time, 950 00:36:32,640 --> 00:36:36,160 the love, the relationship, all those things are 951 00:36:36,160 --> 00:36:36,920 in their place. 952 00:36:37,440 --> 00:36:41,820 That child is basking under the sun-shining 953 00:36:41,820 --> 00:36:44,640 face of their father and mother and in 954 00:36:44,640 --> 00:36:47,460 the midst of that kind of a relationship, 955 00:36:47,860 --> 00:36:51,680 yeah, sometimes they do what is wrong. 956 00:36:52,540 --> 00:36:55,200 In that kind of a relationship, if you 957 00:36:55,200 --> 00:36:58,280 could just calmly speak to that child and 958 00:36:58,280 --> 00:37:00,880 get them into their room and give them 959 00:37:00,880 --> 00:37:04,920 a spanking like this, miracles would happen. 960 00:37:05,980 --> 00:37:09,140 I'm telling you, miracles would happen. 961 00:37:10,140 --> 00:37:11,440 And it's what God wants. 962 00:37:11,440 --> 00:37:13,940 I pray that you will take this example 963 00:37:13,940 --> 00:37:15,760 as a pattern to follow. 964 00:37:16,560 --> 00:37:17,420 That's my prayer. 965 00:37:17,960 --> 00:37:20,160 That you will take this as an example 966 00:37:20,160 --> 00:37:23,860 to follow and ponder it enough that it 967 00:37:23,860 --> 00:37:24,740 gets in your heart. 968 00:37:25,200 --> 00:37:28,180 And sit down with Hebrews chapter 12 and 969 00:37:28,180 --> 00:37:31,180 read over those verses and ponder how God 970 00:37:31,180 --> 00:37:34,120 has spanked you and draw it all together 971 00:37:34,120 --> 00:37:37,060 as a revelation in your own heart and 972 00:37:37,060 --> 00:37:39,740 then implement it into your own home. 973 00:37:39,740 --> 00:37:43,660 I guarantee you, you will get good results. 974 00:37:44,240 --> 00:37:45,860 You will not have to call me on 975 00:37:45,860 --> 00:37:48,660 the telephone and say, Brother Denny, what you 976 00:37:48,660 --> 00:37:50,980 said about spanking doesn't work. 977 00:37:51,340 --> 00:37:53,100 My child is not my friend. 978 00:37:53,480 --> 00:37:55,560 They run as far away from me as 979 00:37:55,560 --> 00:37:56,360 they can get. 980 00:37:56,920 --> 00:37:59,660 I guarantee you, if you will do what 981 00:37:59,660 --> 00:38:02,480 I'm saying, what I said last night and 982 00:38:02,480 --> 00:38:04,600 what I've said this evening in the way 983 00:38:04,600 --> 00:38:06,440 that I have said it, you will not 984 00:38:06,440 --> 00:38:08,040 have to say those words. 985 00:38:08,800 --> 00:38:12,260 God will draw your children close to your 986 00:38:12,260 --> 00:38:16,780 heart and you will have a child with 987 00:38:16,780 --> 00:38:21,860 a clear countenance, bright and happy and enjoying 988 00:38:22,560 --> 00:38:25,220 obeying their father and their mother. 989 00:38:25,780 --> 00:38:29,300 I promise you, in Jesus' name, that's what 990 00:38:29,300 --> 00:38:29,820 you have. 991 00:38:30,240 --> 00:38:31,380 Let's stand for prayer. 992 00:38:37,270 --> 00:38:39,670 Oh God, this evening we come to you 993 00:38:39,670 --> 00:38:41,290 again in Jesus Christ's name. 994 00:38:41,910 --> 00:38:43,850 Father, we thank you that you love us 995 00:38:44,550 --> 00:38:47,470 and there's no question in our hearts whether 996 00:38:47,470 --> 00:38:48,190 you love us. 997 00:38:49,270 --> 00:38:50,810 You have proven it, Lord. 998 00:38:51,410 --> 00:38:55,230 We thank you that you spank us and 999 00:38:55,230 --> 00:38:57,970 we've never doubted your love while you were 1000 00:38:57,970 --> 00:38:58,710 spanking us. 1001 00:38:59,290 --> 00:39:02,290 Oh God, we want that for our children, 1002 00:39:02,550 --> 00:39:02,730 Lord. 1003 00:39:03,990 --> 00:39:06,430 Oh God, some of this is new to 1004 00:39:06,430 --> 00:39:07,110 some of us. 1005 00:39:07,870 --> 00:39:09,290 Open up our eyes, Lord. 1006 00:39:09,790 --> 00:39:12,090 Some of us are in bondage, Lord. 1007 00:39:13,390 --> 00:39:15,410 Desperate needs inside of our own hearts. 1008 00:39:15,590 --> 00:39:18,390 Oh God, I pray, deliver us, Lord, that 1009 00:39:18,390 --> 00:39:19,310 are in bondage. 1010 00:39:20,030 --> 00:39:22,430 For the sake of our children, God, would 1011 00:39:22,430 --> 00:39:24,470 you deliver those that are in bondage? 1012 00:39:24,810 --> 00:39:26,790 Would you speak faith to their hearts this 1013 00:39:26,790 --> 00:39:27,630 evening, Father? 1014 00:39:27,890 --> 00:39:29,690 Would you tell them there's a way out? 1015 00:39:29,810 --> 00:39:31,470 Would you tell them there's hope for them? 1016 00:39:31,530 --> 00:39:33,750 Would you tell them, dear God, would you 1017 00:39:33,750 --> 00:39:36,310 reach down in your loving kindness, wrap your 1018 00:39:36,310 --> 00:39:39,390 arms around that struggling soul right now, and 1019 00:39:39,390 --> 00:39:42,150 speak those sweet words of love into their 1020 00:39:42,150 --> 00:39:42,650 ear? 1021 00:39:42,810 --> 00:39:43,630 I love you. 1022 00:39:44,030 --> 00:39:45,230 You are my child. 1023 00:39:45,550 --> 00:39:46,650 I want to help you. 1024 00:39:46,950 --> 00:39:48,730 I want to see fruit in your life. 1025 00:39:49,010 --> 00:39:50,490 I want to help you with your children. 1026 00:39:50,690 --> 00:39:52,550 God, would you speak those words in the 1027 00:39:52,550 --> 00:39:54,370 hearts of those that are struggling tonight? 1028 00:39:54,770 --> 00:39:56,750 Don't let them despair, dear God. 1029 00:39:57,070 --> 00:39:59,190 Come alongside of them and love them in 1030 00:39:59,190 --> 00:40:01,110 just the way that I've told them that 1031 00:40:01,110 --> 00:40:01,730 you love them. 1032 00:40:01,810 --> 00:40:03,050 Do it tonight, God. 1033 00:40:04,090 --> 00:40:06,570 I commit them into your care, each and 1034 00:40:06,570 --> 00:40:07,050 every one. 1035 00:40:07,050 --> 00:40:09,530 And Lord, we pray, would you open our 1036 00:40:09,530 --> 00:40:11,370 eyes, God, and let us see this. 1037 00:40:11,470 --> 00:40:12,310 It's beautiful. 1038 00:40:12,470 --> 00:40:13,590 It's so beautiful. 1039 00:40:14,170 --> 00:40:14,650 Hallelujah! 1040 00:40:15,010 --> 00:40:17,330 Your precepts are beautiful, Lord. 1041 00:40:17,710 --> 00:40:19,010 Would you open our eyes? 1042 00:40:19,070 --> 00:40:20,690 We want to do it this way, Lord. 1043 00:40:21,010 --> 00:40:22,950 We want to lovingly spank our children. 1044 00:40:23,190 --> 00:40:25,270 Please have mercy upon us and open our 1045 00:40:25,270 --> 00:40:27,010 eyes and help us to see, God. 1046 00:40:27,470 --> 00:40:29,530 I just commit all of this into your 1047 00:40:29,530 --> 00:40:31,050 care, Lord, every one. 1048 00:40:31,130 --> 00:40:33,170 And Lord, we look to you for a 1049 00:40:33,170 --> 00:40:35,850 blessing tomorrow night as we come together again 1050 00:40:35,850 --> 00:40:38,130 to learn how to love our children. 1051 00:40:38,690 --> 00:40:41,870 God, we ask this in Jesus Christ's name. 1052 00:40:42,550 --> 00:40:42,850 Amen.